Why do women cheat in relationships?
Author Tucker Max appeared on The Dr. Drew show and the topi was why do women cheat in relationships. The author said there were basically two reasons women cheated in relationships: they had deep emotional issues to work out or they have relationship unhappiness.
I should say that I a not a fan of this particular author because he usually says something wildly offensive about women. In this particular instance, I admit that I agree with him here. Often times, women are compelled to cheat on their partners for emotional reasons in an effort to get their needs met.
This doe not excuse the behavior, mind you. It is still an incredibly selfish and wrong thing to do to your partner. However, I would argue that men have their own reasons for cheating as well. Does it matter what drove them to it?
Why do you think a woman cheats in her relationships? How do their reasons differ from a man’s possible reasons?
Have you ever been cheated on? Do you think you know what led them to do it?
Does the reason someone cheated make a difference your forgiveness?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:35 pm
disco – You know I’m slightly (don’t get offended), from your world. Maybe not as hardly but I can relate…to many things you say. Favorites are one. I know it goes on but it ain’t right…lol I use to buy for all four greatgrands, trying to be fair and balanced but that got expensive as heck. When it comes to clothes and outfits I see so much for my greatniece but her mama is looking at me funny when I drop a bag off with stuff just for her and not her brother. So, I have to keep it fair. But I stopped doing a huge gift bag for all four. Plus I coming around but I couldn’t stand the greatniece’s mama…lol Spending my dang money and I can’t stand her?? Okay, I took the high road but I was NOT feeling her.
To sum it up disco…it ain’t right…lol Keep it fair.
disco
May 31st, 2012
2:35 pm
swiss – you got jokes. I let people know my rule on babysitting. if I can’t hit your kids, I can’t watch your kids. that rule pretty much limits my babysitting to close friends and family members.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:36 pm
WillieD – Okay…so far it’s you and me. I tried to get Lady to come but she’s got class tonight. Boooo
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:37 pm
That’s another thing I think has happened with me over time. Younger, I was all for smacking bad kids. Now, I’m such a softie, I grimace at kids getting a spanking. I know it’s the age thing going on. Don’t get me wrong, tare that butt up if they’re out of line but sometimes, let’s find other means…LOL My kid would look at me like I’ve grown two heads if she knew on the inside I was getting mushy.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:38 pm
maybe not as “hard”…not “hardly”
i'm swiss
May 31st, 2012
2:39 pm
C / Willie D — Sorry, I can’t make it tonight. I’ll try for next time. If anything good happens, make sure you get it on video, Willie D.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:40 pm
Swiss – Awwww man, I was gonna give a table dance. Oh well, maybe next time
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:41 pm
WillieD – I’m not pressed….we can wait if you/y’all like. I’m sporting a nappy do anyway…lol
Willie Dynamite
May 31st, 2012
2:42 pm
Cel – ok cool I’ll be there round 6:30.
Someone anyone please join us. Cel can be a handful. Hahaha
disco
May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm
C – at least you recognize that you have gotten soft. some of my aunts have gone soft and I’m like I remember when y’all used to fight us like y’all were jumping us into a gang. that’s a true story. my mother and 2 of her sisters literally fought me and beat me down while the others instigated in the background. now they are talking about “leave those babies alone. they are just little kids”. GTFOH.
O/T – coworkers are discussing 50 shades of grey book (again). why do I feel like a “book snob”?
SlimNu
May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm
Luckily, I’ve already got Mrs. Swiss to teach me that particular lesson. She don’t forget sh!!!!!!!!!!!
swiss – I messed around and told her I’d take her to the zoo one day and every time she talked to me she would ask me about it. I told her the animals were sleeping so we couldn’t go that day. She said, “Auntie, the aminals (yes aminals lol) are not sleeping. It’s not even dark outside and the sun is not sleeping either.” Too damn smart for me. So I bribed her into settling for the park instead
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm
WillieD – 6:30 it is You know you need to stop….lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 31st, 2012
2:47 pm
I had a lady friend that gave me the go ahead to smack her son around. Uhn uhn call his daddy, I would help with discipline but I’m not smacking nobody’s child around unless it’s mine. Made me think when I was coming up the neighbor moms would whip all the kids butt no matter who you belonged to. Followed with a phone call to your mom so you can get another one when you get home. Those were the days.
i'm swiss
May 31st, 2012
2:48 pm
Willie D — You have an iPhone? If C gets up on the table, FaceTime me, bro.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:50 pm
disco – Literally a beat down? From mama and auntie? Whatever for?
My greatniece was spending the night with my brother (granddad) and his wife was telling her it’s time for bed and she said “no, it’s not dark outside yet” Oh, when her baby brother was constipated, she asked if she should get the suppositories and I think she was like two then. She’s four now. Even now when she’s talking to my kid, she’s got all these dramatics going on….eye rolling and neck snapping.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
2:53 pm
Blackfoote – Now THAT’S how it was where we grew up too. You did or said something naughty? Heck yeah, you got it from “Ms. Jones”…she was busy saying “Imma tell ya mama too” Boy oh boy by the time you got home, the news made it ahead of you. You was turned around to go find switches. Oh yeah, I remember all too well.
Swiss – Stoooop. If you want to see the action, you must be present
No table dances…lol Never do anything that will come back and bite you in the butt.
SlimNu
May 31st, 2012
2:56 pm
Speaking of kids, why little boyz gotta be some damn musty!!! I was in FL over the weekend and my little cousin brought along a friend of his…the boy smelled like mustard and onions under those pits. The whole weekend I’d ask if everyone showered, WITH SOAP, washed under their arms and put on deo.
SlimNu
May 31st, 2012
2:59 pm
BF – The only time someone other than family gave me a spanking was when I went to Catholic school. I got swapped with the ruler a few times. lol
Willie Dynamite
May 31st, 2012
3:00 pm
Swiss – I got you man. Hit Jake up for me. I may have lost his/your email addy.
disco
May 31st, 2012
3:01 pm
C – literally a beat down though I suppose I exaggerate some about the severity. I was a kid. it seemed severe at the time. here’s the abbreviated story. I was in the second grade. yep. second grade. one of my cousins who was in 1st grade got into a fight with a 4th grade girl and I didn’t help her. (to this day I can still call that girl’s name and I did end up fighting her). when we got home my cousin told and I got a whooping. later that same day I beat up my cousin because she caused me to get a whooping. my mother and aunts then got on me for fighting the wrong person and they started poking, shoving, taunting me trying to get me riled up. when I did act like I was going to do something that’s when they “beat me up”. after that I knew to get my “jump” on though.
i'm swiss
May 31st, 2012
3:06 pm
“Never do anything that will come back and bite you in the butt.”
C — See now, that stripper asked me to bite her butt, I swear!
Willie D — I don’t think I have Jake’s email, either. May just have to put up the Bat Signal on here.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:07 pm
disco – You are kidding me right? I am ca-racking up at your story. I believe it though. I’ve seen it all too often. We were encourage to help one another since there were so many of us, if ever in a pinch…for lack of a better word…but no butt whipping if it didn’t pop off.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:08 pm
Swiss – Butt biting eh? Licking I’ve
hadheard of but no bitting yet…loldisco
May 31st, 2012
3:12 pm
C – I kid you not. if you could hang out with us you’d hear all kinds of “remember that time” stories. here’s one where we (two cousins and i) played ourselves. us 3 cousins are all daughters of 3 sisters. anyway, we went to visit our grandmother and one of us (no one recalls who) told my grandmother that our mothers were at the house getting high. my grandmother wrote a note for us to take home. we were young enough that we couldn’t read cursive handwriting yet and so we gladly took the note home. don’t know what the note said but we promptly got 3 butt whoopings. that was our introduction to what happens in my house, stays in my house.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:15 pm
disco – That is wild. Now I have to agree with the what stays in my house rule. I use to teach kids and boy they will volunteer all their mamas and daddies business. I started the moment my kid could look around and see…..”we don’t tell mommie’s business, k?” If not, they’re gonna tell it all…lol From humping to bugs, to utilities getting shut off…I’ve heard it all.
i'm swiss
May 31st, 2012
3:20 pm
Awwwww, suki suki, now, C. I knew somewhere in there was some freaky-deaky just waiting to be unleashed.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:27 pm
Swiss – That’s Calandra…my alter ego speaking to butt licking. I know nothing about that. I have to take meds for keeping her under the surface…..
Willie Dynamite
May 31st, 2012
3:28 pm
Swiss – per your 3:20 forget the bat signal I think I’ll be alright handling Cel solo. Polishing my halo as we speak. Hahaha
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:34 pm
WillieD – Look atcha…talking smack now I see…lol Halo it is then. I thought Dreams said might come. Dreams you reading?
Exiled!
May 31st, 2012
3:54 pm
Butt licking Cel?
U done changed since I logged in.
Congrats Swiss and Willie for making that transformation happen.
Cel is a bigger girl now.
So Swiss,how big is her butt buddy?
Will check in later for the response…off to another meeting.
Hey y’all!
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
3:57 pm
Heeey MMeello – Stop it man. I’m the same me. I’m cutting up but ut uh NONE OF THAT….not with blog folks anyway
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
4:00 pm
Daaaag, did butt licking bring things to a halt??
disco
May 31st, 2012
4:02 pm
celisea – stop teasing the menfolk. you give just enough to get their attention and then you pull back. that ain’t right. goodness knows we don’t need a virtual sex crime on our hands. lol. you know some folks on here like to congregate under the stairs. ain’t no telling what goes on under those stairs.
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
4:07 pm
disco – LOL…stop I only asked about the plans already set in motion. Honestly I wasn’t teasing. I think Swiss set the wheels in motion. It would be wrong to not oblige a fellow blogger…lol That was pretty mild compared to the blog freakfest that we’re all too familiar with.
On a different note, I’ve gone to Atlantic Station mostly in the evenings and have been sooo turned off by the crowd or I should say, younger than me crowd. But I spent some time down there Saturday shopping and I LOVE it! I’ve gone to Dillards several times to pick something up for my kid but never explored all out shopping. I found shoes at DSW…for the low low. My sister bought five pairs
Celisea
May 31st, 2012
4:09 pm
disco – BTW, I’ve never been under the blog stairs. I thought only Blackfoote was familiar with that place…lol
Manny
May 31st, 2012
4:34 pm
I suppose there are many reasons women cheat. It is more prevalent now than ever. Every person in a commited relationship should closely inspect any breakdown or barriers at all cost to avoid. I would not want to endure such an outcome so I would be willing to do what I needed to do to avoid. If it is a person that just want to cheat, there is nothing I can do to help that situation.
Exiled!
May 31st, 2012
4:40 pm
Talking of women emotions,lacking etc and In topic
My wide called me this week and said,’baby I’m h0rny’
I told her to hang in there!
Just as well I will be home tmrw evening..
Exiled!
May 31st, 2012
4:41 pm
Wife
SlimNu
May 31st, 2012
4:55 pm
Exiled – Where are you? Are you out of town?
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 31st, 2012
4:55 pm
redclayent@hotmail.com
LeeH1
May 31st, 2012
8:57 pm
Often women cheat for the same reason they try to commit unsucessful suicide- they want attention, or at least something out of other people. Even if it is bad reactions, they still want to pleasure of stirring up activity around them, and becomeing, even if only for a short time, the center of attention.