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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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Why do women cheat in relationships?

Author Tucker Max appeared on The Dr. Drew show and the topi was why do women cheat in relationships. The author said there were basically two reasons women cheated in relationships: they had deep emotional issues to work out or they have relationship unhappiness.

I should say that I a not a fan of this particular author because he usually says something wildly offensive about women. In this particular instance, I admit that I agree with him here. Often times, women are compelled to cheat on their partners for emotional reasons in an effort to get their needs met.

This doe not excuse the behavior, mind you. It is still an incredibly selfish and wrong thing to do to your partner. However, I would argue that men have their own reasons for cheating as well. Does it matter what drove them to it?

Why do you think a woman cheats in her relationships? How do their reasons differ from a man’s possible reasons?

Have you ever been cheated on? Do you think you know what led them to do it?

Does the reason someone cheated make a difference your forgiveness?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

191 comments Add your comment

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:42 pm

celisea – please don’t get us started on busted babies. lol. re kids being a blessing. one year my son took all of his little Christmas spending money and bought gifts for everybody (including himself) but not me (he was around 5 or 6 doing that shopping thing at school). I asked why and he responded with first – he ran out of money and second – he’s my child and he’s my gift from God. I was looking at him thinking you cheap so and so.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:44 pm

I was in the good looking white guy along with the lily white guy (y’all pardon me but this is how I distinguish the two) and I was standing over/next to the good looking white guy and I said, oh pardon me for standing over you. So the lily white guy says oh he’s fine with it, that won’t bother him. And he piggybacks and says yeah, especially women.

I’m constantly catching little phrases like that from him. Just said something yesterday. I politely pass on by them. When he calls me from his cell (to discuss work), he’s always slow and hesitate to get it said….what we need to talk about. Too, he’s experiencing problems at home (per the the nosey dude that has access to his calendar…he can see the scheduled marriage counseling sessions)…I can tell too. Another thing he said to me, I was scheduling an event with the CEO of a company and RSVPing for my team he so slightly said his wife don’t like those type events and he told her, “cool, I’ll just take one of my girlfriends” That’s why I mean by having stuff to brush up against me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:45 pm

disco don’t forget the family follies that go on when too many kin folk get together things can get close to becoming a riot……..LOL

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:46 pm

disco – Aww c’mon you know all babies are a blessing :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:48 pm

Those aren’t the only comments there are many more, along with the looks and what not. I know how to stay in the company of them all the while moving right on pass the comments and looks.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:50 pm

I went to breakfast Monday morning and saw the CUUUUUUUTEST baby :) His mommie said he’s just turned a year old. He was sporting a cast on his left arm. Babies like that make me wish for a hot second what it would be like…again…to smell them and hold them close :) But then the thought of all that other stuff (losing sleep, the expense) sets in and I come back quickly.

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:52 pm

BF – this is true but I’m not expecting enough folks for too much to go wrong. well… I will have to keep an eye on my mother. she’s already got a few ideas in her head re dealing with “ms. there goes the neighborhood” and taking care of a few roaming pooches I’ve had issues with. I told my mother she couldn’t come down here messing with people’s pets. lol.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:54 pm

Cely = Strenght! And a lot of you here, I think it is outstanding when a lady can hold her own in most circumstances.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

Celisa ~ it definitely is an art to bob and weave pass the comments and looks of co-workers. Some of us have it down to a science, while others get caught in their web of deceit.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

Blackfoote – You have to have it. You can’t go running with your tail tucked everytime someone makes a comment. I always wait for the right moment to get it said and get it said once. The right time ain’t happened yet because his remarks tetter on the other side of the coin. I don’t need personnel either. I’ll get him….at the right time :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

“Strength” I got it right after I saw how bad it was mispelled, y’all know I’m good for that at least twice or more a day……LOL

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:01 pm

Leggs – Exactly. You have to let them know, don’t even try it. I’m not all flattered and giggly because you’re right there’s no doubt a ton of others. I heard about him too before he got here. He’s well know for being a hottie and for being good at what he does….and being ethical and a great standup guy…yeah he is. He’s great at what he does, I have to give him that but not THAT great…lol He’s like a Sean Connery type to me. The older he gets the better. Still, I keep things straight.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:02 pm

Blackfoote – We understood what you meant :)

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:11 pm

Celisea ~ I had a coworker, who is now retired, call me to tell he has been contemplating leaving his wife for me. I told he was a fool and his mind is warped. I have come to work with drunk voicemails from him professing his love for me. I have gotten to the point where I had no choice but to cuss his dumb behind OUT! He still doesn’t quick. When he used to come to my desk I had to stop looking at him because he seemed to always undress me with his eyes. He would stop by for the dumbest reasons. Had to tell him one time, we have a mail room and it’s not located at my desk. Finally with a call to HR, he seemed to have gotten the msg. This was one retirement I was looking forward to.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:14 pm

Hey, C, I’ll make you a deal. When you get the urge to hold/smell a little baby, you can come babysit SwissMocha.

(On that note, had another ultrasound today. The little one actually looks like a little one now — little arms & legs flailing around all over the place. Must have picked up some of dad’s whiteboy dance moves…)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:15 pm

Leggs – Are you kidding me? Now THAT is the extreme… Just wow. Yeah contacting HR was in order. It’s not funny but drunken voicemails? LOLOLOL OMGosh. What’s the saying a drunken mind speaks a sober heart…something like that

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 31st, 2012
1:15 pm

Speaking of the busted broads….Any dude who is going to cheat, should cheat up….cheat up=she will stay and try to outdue the mistress, cheat down =hell to pay…lol

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:16 pm

What’s poppin’ MIA?!? ;)

let me catch up……….

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:17 pm

Swiss – It’s a deal!!! I love babies…just not for long though…lol I’m quick to hand them back…lol I don’t know what it is. I’m just soooo moved when I see babies now. I’m like awwwwwww they’re shooo shweet :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:17 pm

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:18 pm

Celisea, not only that, how the hell does one contemplate leaving their wife for someone they never went out with??? Was that line supposed to warm me up. Dumb clucks everywhere…

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:19 pm

I get the biggest kick out of my grandnephew that’s two. He’s sooo cute, soooo smart to be so little/young. I hate to say it and I’d never say in front of my nephew (their dad) but the two year old is an old soul compared to their four year old. The four year old is still trying to put words/sentences together. The two year old has him licked. I know, I should be ashamed for saying so but it’s true :(

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:20 pm

That’s funny, swiss!

Also, I love babies too and they love me…you have a babysitter in me when you need one as well.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:21 pm

Leggs – Honey that sounds like buddy had some preconceived, well thought out fantasy…lol Don’t you just hate the ones that won’t go away.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:22 pm

Cool, thanks, Leggs. Y’all do know I’m taking screen shots of this, so no one tries to play dumb once Junior arrives. :lol: Any other volunteers? :D

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:23 pm

You got the phrase right, Celisea.

You may remember the “air licker” I had to cuss out on THE SPOT! Some of these men know they’ve crossed the line, but don’t care because they think eventually, something is going to click. I’m not the one.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:23 pm

Swiss – LOLOLOL @ your 1:22 I’m in :) I’m good with babies. My mommie had eight and I called her for EVERYTHING. I didn’t have any bouts with colic or too much other stuff. So, your kid would be safe with me :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:24 pm

Leggs – Air licker??? No I don’t recall that one. Do tell

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:25 pm

Leggs – Daaaaang, and any dude that’s coming off that crazy from jump street would need to keep it moving anyway.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:28 pm

What’s even weirder, Celisea, is I have a sassy mouth and have no problem telling one what I think. What I don’t want to do is continue to have smarta$$ convo at work. To keep coming back for more verbal abuse only tells me he liked the challenged and felt he had the skills to break me. Well, I broke him with the help of HR of course.

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:29 pm

Waving @ C!!!!!! y’all covered the topic!!!! lol one day I am going to get in here early and play on the playground! lol #crurrentlydoingthemost

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:33 pm

Cel – Don’t feel bad about your comparison of the two kids. My sister had her daughter only a month before my cousin had his son. I don’t know if there is a difference in the rate of learning of girls versus boys but my niece speak very well for being 3, she already knows her letters, numbers, how to write them, her name and colors. That little boy hardly puts a sentence together. He’s still just shouting one word phrases in that ‘babytalk speak’ and I feel bad. I’m not sure if the mom is working with him daily or not but I suppose that’s where the advantage my niece has since my mom watches her during the week,

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:35 pm

Lady – What’s crackalackin? How are you today?

Leggs – Probably the smarter the smartass comments the more he liked. Yeah, buddy was getting off on that. That’s funny though…”broke him with the help of HR”…that’s funny as heck. I can just see the wind getting knocked out of his sail. Sometimes these weirdos and their issues run way deep than what we see on the surface. I’m seeing that more and more.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:37 pm

The “air licker” was a guy who flirted hard with me from complimenting my outfit, my legs, my skin tone. At first you smile, say thank you and K.I.M. After repeated compliments and drop bys to the desk your antenna is up a little higher.

One day walking down the hall, he’s coming in the opposite direction and when he got closer to me he stuck his tongue out and started licking the air. I stopped and had many choice words with him to ensure he never does it again to me and hopefully not to another! And yes, he was married too!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:40 pm

Slim – I know it ain’t right but I ca-racked up at this….He’s still just shouting one word phrases in that ‘babytalk speak’ and I feel bad. I’ve always heard (not sure how true) that girls learn faster than boys at that stage. It doesn’t help that the four year old’s voice is raspy. So not only is he behind but he struggles physically to talk. I don’t know if that’s something that needs medical attention or he just inherited. My nephew’s mom voice is the same way. I try to show love equally to both of them and make no difference in the two but I’m admit I’m a bit more smitten with the two year old.

Slim – You said your mom watches him….that is the advantage. The four year old went to daycare (napped, watched t.v., etc), whereas because of their financial stuggles, the two year old goes to work with the mom everyday. So, he’s in an office full of woman (family owned company) and he’s having adult like intelligent interaction. As a result he’s more apt and ahead. I know being there with adults everyday all day and that interaction has placed him slightly ahead of the older one.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:43 pm

Leggs – OMG…that is way crazy…lololol Not licking the air. Now that would have me nervous and on edge. He would have been another HR story.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:48 pm

I handled him, Celisea. Didn’t need HR this time because I was certain he wouldn’t be saying another damn thing to me. He no longer works for the company.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:48 pm

“I know being there with adults everyday all day and that interaction has placed him slightly ahead of the older one.”

C — I’m so glad to hear someone else say this. I hate baby talk. Not only does it make the adult look ridicu-lous, but I’ve never understood how it helps the baby at all, either. I’ll be talking to my kid like I would talk to a normal human, because that’s what I want him/her to be.

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:49 pm

all over the place but calming down slowly. …..May has been a beast but I survived Thank God~ ;)

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:49 pm

hope all is well with your mom! she is the true fighter and you are so cool with it! Love it!

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:55 pm

Cel – We were all wondering if the little boy may be a little autistic…something just doesn’t seem right be we aren’t sure how to bring it up to her.

swiss-Cel – There is a way to talk to a child so that they understand without all the babble babble gubble wubble stuff. My niece is around my mother and step dad as well as other adults. So i’m sure that helps with her communication/comprehension level. And please don’t make the mistake of telling her you’re going to do something because she WILL remember it. lol (lesson learned by auntie Slim)

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

That’s the key, swiss. I wasn’t into the baby talk either. Didn’t give body parts cutesy names, and didn’t even care for the word “tee tee” for pee pee! Call it what it is.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

“And please don’t make the mistake of telling her you’re going to do something because she WILL remember it”

Slim — Luckily, I’ve already got Mrs. Swiss to teach me that particular lesson. She don’t forget sh!!!!!!!!!!!t :lol:

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
2:01 pm

Enjoy the rest of your day.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
2:08 pm

disco – I so get your earlier post! It’s nice sometimes to just be with your peeps and let your hair down!! Plus your baby graduating – yeah have a blast!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:10 pm

Swiss/Slim – I’m so all over that. NO BABY TALK PLEASE. They are humans…just little ones. I talked normal talk to my kid from day one.

Lady – Thanks girlie. She’s at home now…sooooo happy about that. Tonight would have been my night to say with her. I stopped by this morning and she looked so much better than she did the weekend.

I was trying to ask if today’s after work meet up was still on but I never heard from WillieD

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:12 pm

Slight shift here….anyone every tried Crystal Light Appletini or Mojito flavors? I saw for the first time last night in Publix.

disco

May 31st, 2012
2:30 pm

swiss – I think your little dance move line was funny too but don’t put my name on the list of babysitters.

celisea – it’s okay to have favorites and since their not your kids it’s even okay to play favorites. I have a lot of cousins who have multiple children and I have a favorite child in each house. in some houses there’s even a child that I can’t stand. now I know it’s wrong to say you can’t stand a child but there’s some out there that I just plain don’t like.

kimmie – and my countdown has begun. in my mind I’ll be like “peace out beeeyotches”.

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
2:33 pm

Cel – my bad I thought you couldn’t make it. Its short notice now but I’m game if anyone wants to give it a go.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
2:33 pm

disco — What’s that you say? Put you down to babysit? You got it! ;-)