Vintage dating tips still applicable?
Not long after I spotted this quote on Facebook: Chivalry isn’t dead. It just left and followed wherever “being lady like” went. – I found a vintage article from 1938, sweetly entitled Tips for Single Women.
I think my favorite gem from 1938: Don’t drink too much as a man expects you to keep your dignity. Drinking may make some women more clever, but most get silly.
Obviously, a lot has changed for single women and men since 1938. I think the idea of how a woman should behave has changed so much, you would be hard pressed to find traditional views like these.
I don’t know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, though. Are vintage dating tips that talk about the expectations of “lady like behavior” still applicable today? Does it explain the lack of chivalry today?
Are men slow to be more chivalrous because they don’t really see that much ladylike behavior that deserves it?
What kind of dating tips do you think our parents and grandparents were given when they were single? Did they ever pass any on to you that are still relevant?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures In Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
May 30th, 2012
3:39 pm
Good for you, disco. She stereotyped the new neighbors based upon her slanted views of how she view them. A few weeks living there and she already knows they’re bad parents simply from watching from across the street. WOW.
kimmie
May 30th, 2012
3:44 pm
That kind of bigotry blows my mind!
disco
May 30th, 2012
3:49 pm
leggs – she wasn’t calling the new neighbors bad parents. she was calling the group as a whole bad parents.
kimmie – and that’s it, just plain bigotry. I gave her every opportunity to give me one good reason (I would have accepted one bad reason). she even admitted that she didn’t know any personally but insisted that she still just didn’t like them. I laughed and told her happy house hunting.
Leggs
May 30th, 2012
3:50 pm
O/T ~ here’s an update to 21 days dude. He contacted me yesterday online saying “if he offended me in anyway, he’s so very sorry and wonder if I would give him a second chance.” He said he was going through a lot of emotional stuff when he lashed out at me. Said his mother passed away 3 weeks ago and that he has never stopped thinking about me.
I somewhat understand yet, his response and his actions were immature and could have been handled a helluva lot better without the element of disrespect. Grant it, I was the recipient of “displaced anger,” but his emotional outburst showed me a facet of his character I didn’t like. I did send a msg that I am sorry to hear about the passing of his mother. He asked that I call him, but I haven’t.
Leggs
May 30th, 2012
3:51 pm
Oh, gotcha, disco…even worse and myopic in her thought process.
kimmie
May 30th, 2012
3:52 pm
Leggs – I remember the ajc doing a story a few years ago on a young lady that had maybe 2 kids as a teen that went on to finish medical school.
Leggs
May 30th, 2012
3:54 pm
Wow, she didn’t know any personally, just didn’t like them. She has let the opinions of others sway her thinking toward a particular group of people. Much like the KKK with their little offspring sitting at their breakfast/dinner tables brainwashing innocent youngins who grow up with hatred inflicted upon them bt closed minded individuals without being able to form their opinions, likes and dislikes.
kimmie
May 30th, 2012
3:55 pm
Leggs – He showed a side of himself that might take months, maybe years to come to surface.
Leggs
May 30th, 2012
4:01 pm
He did, kimmie. Besides showing he’s a spoiled brat who lashes out when things aren’t going his way, there are other underlying issues that I don’t need to be one of Pavlov’s experiments.
disco
May 30th, 2012
4:04 pm
leggs – this conversation is five days in the past and I’m still replaying it in my mind.
O/T – I just had a bout of “did I say that out loud?” lol. here’s to keeping my thoughts to myself for the rest of the day.
Bluzgirl
May 30th, 2012
4:06 pm
Leggs…I don’t know the whole story, but one phrase my friend taught me comes to mind…that’s a whole bucket of crazy you don’t want to turn over!
Leggs
May 30th, 2012
4:11 pm
Ok, that MIA is closed. Just wanted you guys to know the reason I was given for the chain of events….NEXT!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 30th, 2012
4:17 pm
Hey Ladies-hope you all had on your comfortable skin showing clothing this weekend…we love it!!
As for the topic, this phrase from the intro says it all, “Chivalry isn’t dead. It just left and followed wherever “being lady like” went.
i'm swiss
May 30th, 2012
4:30 pm
disco — Well, since your neighbor puts so much stock in stereotypes, here’s a few stereotypes about her (and I bet these are pretty accurate): She watches Fox News & thinks all other media outlets on planet Earth are part of the “liberal, lame-stream media.” She gets
mostof her political opinions/talking points from either Rush Limbaugh or Sean Hannity. She’s a tea-bagger. She thinks the word “moderate” is negative, and that “liberal / progressive” is a synonym to “communist.” She’s a big fan of Herman Cain and Allen West, because they say all the racist sh!t she believes, but they’re black, so that proves she’s not racist.Over/under on how many of those I’m right about?
disco
May 30th, 2012
4:41 pm
swiss – I’d love to indulge in your stereotypes but I can’t say that I’m all up in her mix well enough to know her news watching habits and her political information sources. I will say that over the years she’s shared plenty of her business with me and she’s the stereotypical “dumb blonde” squared. she thinks because she dates black men that gives her an “I’m not racist” pass. I never thought much of her before but I think even less of her now and I told her as much. told her I’m going to start calling her “ms. there goes the neighborhood”.
kimmie
May 30th, 2012
4:46 pm
disco – she met the right one when she came across you! I’m glad she met up with someone that will give it to her straight!!!
swiss – they can be so transparent, so I would bet my last dollar you are dead on!
With that I’m out, gang! Be easy!!
Celisea
May 30th, 2012
4:56 pm
Alright WillieD, if tomorrow is still on…let me know. I can probably make it. Mom is now home, feet up and chilling