Post-date surveys? It’s a thing, apparently
I could not stop myself from giggling at this hilarious idea of a guy handing a woman a survey at the conclusion of their date. A survey in which she was asked specific questions that would offer insight, feedback, and critique.
Brilliant idea or some form of social masochism? YOU decide!
The young man, Mike Stolar, admits that he has some difficulty on the dating scene. He believed the survey could better his chances of improving his, um technique to woo women. Or something!
I can not imagine how I would react if a man handed me a paper and asked me to fill out a survey on him and our date experience. Perhaps I would be into it and give total honesty and hope that the next woman would benefit from my opinions. Who knows? My ego is way to big to make my own survey.
I am curious to know your thoughts, though? Would you complete a post date survey? What about a post first time in bed survey?
If you were bold enough, what would you put on a post-date survey that someone would fill out on you and your dating etiquette, behavior, etc.?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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165 comments Add your comment
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
10:58 am
Dern, I have a meeting in 2 minutes…ugh
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
10:59 am
BF I haven’t forgotten you! I shall meet you @ Red Lobster before this summer ends! hahahah we have to keep that perfect timing!!!! LOL #havingfun lol
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:08 am
okay it seems folk started their holiday weekend today……
what is everyone doing for the weekend?!? I feel a study weekend coming on……do not disturb type weekend. lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:09 am
disco:
surveys are indeed a good thing, like I mentioned a few days ago I wrote notes in the second grade asking little girls if they like me check the yes or no box. If I was at home staring at my ceiling and walls I wouldn’t give half a thought to write down in a survey and ask a grown woman if she liked me on our date. It may come up in conversation but I wouldn’t hand her a piece of paper and a give her a time frame to complete it in.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:17 am
Took this lady out on Saturday night
Asked her if the date was serving her right
Seemed that she agreed with me til I saw her kicking dirt in my eyes
She’s big enough be my baby it don’t matter is she’s black or white
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:19 am
LOL…..@Lady Red it is.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:20 am
kimmie
May 24th, 2012
11:20 am
Yeah Dan, okay. But how about he take the high road and not hand me some psycho survey?? Get the heck out of here!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:21 am
whoa “if” she’s black or white
kimmie
May 24th, 2012
11:22 am
Blackfoote – Thank you, a grown A man giving a grown A woman a paper survey. Are you kidding me?? I would back away slowly…….
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
May 24th, 2012
11:26 am
Blog monster ate my earlier post,
A written survey is that step, but asking someone – honestly, earnestly – about things you can do to improve yourself and your interactions with others….I wouldn’t call that psycho.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
May 24th, 2012
11:29 am
Speaking of which,
Let me wish Swiss and Mrs. Swiss congrats on the little Iced Coffee!
Brownsugarvixen
May 24th, 2012
11:29 am
I can see the pros and cons of a dating survery. It would be awkward if I received a survey but I’d give some tactful feedback. Guess some need the feedback to make adjustments, and improve their chances with you or the next person. I can understand, think we all need that constructive critism from time to time to help keep things in perspective and keep a fresh outlook.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:30 am
Kimmie I feel ya……..LOL, I would expect a grown woman to do just that back away from me.
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
11:32 am
I agree that we all stand to hear and utilize constructive criticism but in that area you have to be careful. Unless a person is ABLE to view from an unbiased unskewed outlook, then is the opinion of others really beneficial? There are some folks that feel other folks are doing everything wrong but those same folks live under the scope of what others thinks. IMO, that’s about as unhealthy as being unable to digest something constructive.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:37 am
BSV:
I don’t know about you, but I has communicated to me time after time where I fell short and how I can rectify a situation. Did they need to give me a survey, no I made the adjustments by listening and checking myself (looking in the mirror) to make sure I don’t cross that bridge again. As I said surveys are good, I don’t know this either but maybe they’re good for computer dating I have no idea.
disco
May 24th, 2012
11:38 am
BF – re that 11:09 piece of paper. I say folks are sleeping on that piece of paper. not the survey but the old notes and the scraps of paper with phone numbers on them from back before folks just put numbers in their phone. putting a number into the contact list just doesn’t carry that same magic.
kimmie
May 24th, 2012
11:41 am
asking someone – honestly, earnestly – about things you can do to improve yourself and your interactions with others…
Dan – Sure, if a friend or family member asked, of course that would be fine. If it’s someone I went out on a date with, I’m sorry, that’s just sad. I would have more pride and expect him to. If we’re already in a relationship and he asks if there is anything he can improve on fine. If we went out a few times and it didn’t work out – hey, I just wouldn’t. Just because we were not a match doesn’t mean he won’t be with someone else. He should ask his friends or family members or a professional if he needs to go there. That’s why I never took stock in anything a past boyfriend might critique me on. You didn’t want me, but someone else liked me just the way I am. You can call that arrogant or prideful or whatever. I’m just not receptive to that and make no apologies for it. You can take the high road there.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:42 am
C your 11:32 rocks!
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
11:43 am
IMO, most time folks handing out criticism are judgemental themselves and looking from the window of their perception, their reality. Whose to say what you see is really what should be fixed or changed? I’m not trying to be the contrarian here because we (as people) live, learn, grow and thrive through one another. For me…and me only…the Good Book is my source of direction. Not saying another can’t tell me but people are people are people and we’re all subject to getting things wrong. And as someone say the other day, the Holy Spirit will definitely tap you on the shoulder when you’re out of line, out of the right line of thinking, mistreating others…all of it.
Just my thoughts…and again not getting into a bible discussion today nor being the contrarian
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:44 am
BF love your 11:37~
kimmie
May 24th, 2012
11:44 am
Celisea – I agree. Nothing you say would be of value to me because you carry your own bias and so do I.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:45 am
disco……LOL
Since you said that I still have my little black book. Too funny I’ll bet anything if I called one of those the numbers it would be off or they wouldn’t have a clue of who I am.
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
11:47 am
Thanks Lady. I agree with Kimmie, just because a pair is not a right match doesn’t really mean either person did anything wrong. Sure there are always areas of improvements on both parties but the end of a date just ain’t the place to talk about that.
When I’m most receptive to an outsider’s outlook in when I’m IN a relationship. I have not dated chumps or wimps and yes, I’ve gotten a needed tongue thrashing from a SO. I’m talking taking a hardline with me. Did it feel good at the time? Nope. Did I take heed? Yes. Surprised? Was it beneficial and did it help things improve? Absolutely.
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
11:48 am
Kimmie – Your 11:44 is my point exactly.
disco
May 24th, 2012
11:49 am
I told a guy once that he blew it with me with the simple act of not leaving a voicemail message. I’m all for a friend or family member expecting a response to a missed call but a new guy that just met me and is supposed to be trying to connect. he needs to leave a message saying “hi. this is so and so. I met you at such and such and so on.” I’d met this little guy and for about a week I was getting calls that I didn’t recognize and so ignored. finally ran into him again (he worked at bank in my neighborhood) and he admitted that he’d been calling me. I gave him my “lecture” and he did ultimately call and leave a message but by then I’d already checked out. don’t know if he carried that with him or thought I was tripping but I still put it out there. (of course my friends said I was too hard on the guy but I was like whatever. a grown man needs to be able to open his mouth and express himself).
BF – so you are saying all of your black book entries are what – 15/20 years old?
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:49 am
Whose to say what you see is really what should be fixed or changed? <<<<,Yep I keep asking what are we measuring and what tool?!? just sheer perception from just a date nope miss me with it~
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
11:50 am
Indeed Kimmie~
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
11:51 am
Lady – Exactly. IMO, doing the politically correct is the worse. Why can’t you be who you are…good bad or indifferent? But again, does that make me right for thinking so?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
11:58 am
Cely: 11:43 Preach dang it!
disco: Yep there were no cell phones all land lines.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:03 pm
disco:
That dude I betcha he wont finaggle around with the next lady like that. Your communication and actions made him see the light.
SlimNu
May 24th, 2012
12:07 pm
Howdy folks, been under the weather last few days. What’s crackalackin in here as of now?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:12 pm
Hey Slmi1 glad to hear you’re feeling better.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
May 24th, 2012
12:13 pm
@Kimmie
Point taken @ 11:44.
I guess I’m remembering things differently; because even in anger I heard the criticsm from ‘ex’s’ and ‘never were’s’ and took what I could from it.
Bluzgirl
May 24th, 2012
12:13 pm
I don’t think I would react well to being handed a survey at the end of the date. If I did get it, I don’t know if I could be totally honest right in front of the guy. I think I’d be creeped out!
I don’t know how much I’m worth today…my mind is on heading to the beach tomorrow!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:14 pm
Leggs mia today, or maybe she’s having a MIA……..LOL
SlimNu
May 24th, 2012
12:16 pm
BF – Thanks bud
kimmie – I think it was you that mentioned the Love Addiction show that came on yesterday..I saw a little of the one where the 29yr old black guy was dating a 51yr old married (but ‘going through a divorce) white chick/ex Vegas showgirl. His mom was not feeling her AT ALL. I missed what happened at the end. Did you see what the result of the intervention was?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:18 pm
LOL….@Bluz at being creeped out.
You didn’t have to mention the beach though.
SlimNu
May 24th, 2012
12:19 pm
Lady – I’m supposed to be going to Orlando for the weekend. Someone I know has a time share so i’m going to get in some much needed pool time, maybe catch an amusement park and go out to eat.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:22 pm
Hold up Randyt and Leggs mia, nah just my imagination……LOL
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:24 pm
Blackfoote – I wouldn’t say them but stranger things have happened on here. Even fishing from the same pond attempted
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:25 pm
Don’t mind me…I’m just cutting up
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
12:26 pm
awww shux Slim sounds like a date!!!! Enjoy!!!
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:28 pm
I’m doing something but what I haven’t concretely decided yet. I’m just ready to go…lol
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:29 pm
Yeah, where is Randyt by the way? We’re gonna have to do something about him popping in for a sec and then just disappearing for months
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 24th, 2012
12:29 pm
I have no plans and I am good with that! I would love to hit someone’s bbq though one evening but it ain’t pressing lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 24th, 2012
12:35 pm
LOL…..@Cely sounds like some boldness going on.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
May 24th, 2012
12:38 pm
Off-topic:
This is that bovine fecal matter right here:
http://www.newsmax.com/Newsfront/real-deficit-trillions-budget/2012/05/24/id/440170
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:39 pm
Blackfoote – Utter disrespect…lol
Celisea
May 24th, 2012
12:42 pm
Blackfoot – LOL So sir, what do you have planned for the holiday?