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Post-date surveys? It’s a thing, apparently

I could not stop myself from giggling at this hilarious idea of a guy handing a woman a survey at the conclusion of their date. A survey in which she was asked specific questions that would offer insight, feedback, and critique.

Brilliant idea or some form of social masochism? YOU decide!

The young man, Mike Stolar, admits that he has some difficulty on the dating scene. He believed the survey could better his chances of improving his, um technique to woo women. Or something!

I can not imagine how I would react if a man handed me a paper and asked me to fill out a survey on him and our date experience. Perhaps I would be into it and give total honesty and hope that the next woman would benefit from my opinions. Who knows? My ego is way to big to make my own survey.

I am curious to know your thoughts, though? Would you complete a post date survey? What about a post first time in bed survey?

If you were bold enough, what would you put on a post-date survey that someone would fill out on you and your dating etiquette, behavior, etc.?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

165 comments Add your comment

Lilu

May 24th, 2012
7:03 am

I’m personally not going around handing out surveys but I may oblige if asked.

Lily

May 24th, 2012
7:04 am

Ooops fixing my name. Had to clear my cookies which removed my name.

Exiled!

May 24th, 2012
7:46 am

Post date survey is not so bad.

Post first time in bed survey is always a confidence killer more so if your package ain’t so Stella. And if you are a chic but kinda frigid in bed,you like to put ur legs up in the sir and dig them in the guy’s azz but ur feet are cracked,ur nana don’t heat up quick or ur belly button test prompted a hermie,death/sickness in the family and a mad dash to dress up and head for the door…then you won’t fancy the survey idea…

Funny,it’s just me and Lily in here…not much choice ha?

Since it’s a first time,gotta ask Lily..

Doggie or missionary All the way?

Early morning folks…

Exiled!

May 24th, 2012
7:47 am

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
7:48 am

Morning MIA~

Oh my with the topic………I can see the pros and cons with this concept but overall I am not subscribing to it……… ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 24th, 2012
8:21 am

I’ll leave the surveys to the young at heart, my take it’s like making a list something I don’t do. If it aint verbal or mental I wont bother with it. If folks want to engage that way I can’t stop or judge them.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 24th, 2012
8:31 am

Hey Lady, I leave when you leave and show up when you show up. What’s up…..LOL

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
8:34 am

Hi there BF I see honey!!!! we be spot on with timing!!!! ;)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
8:35 am

I am a very consistent person almost rigid….lol I have an ESTJ personality and it explains why. I believe in order of service and having an agenda! lol such as life sir!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 24th, 2012
8:40 am

Great attribute, I’m not into the rat race either I see no reason to sweat or raise your blood pressure for small stuff.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
8:43 am

disco

May 24th, 2012
9:22 am

good morning. I actually kind of like the idea of the post-date survey. perhaps those that would be put off by an actual, physical paper survey wouldn’t mind just answering a few follow up questions. I do admit that it sounds kind of odd but I’d be more than willing to give feedback. I also wouldn’t mind being on the receiving end of the criticism. I’ve always said a lot of folks are walking around doing the same foolishness and tell themselves it’s all good because “I’ve had no complaints”.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:23 am

Okay I wanna read Mike P’s and Robert’s assessment on this topic……..where y’all at…..lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:25 am

you have a point disco but its a few from my past that I could care less what they think even if they view as valuable info. Its some arrogant and ignorant mofo’s out here that love to throw out advice but can’t take criticism and advice. I can’t with them.

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
9:26 am

Morning folks,

Never heard of post date survey. I would probably answer though if asked. Don’t ask though if you don’t really want the feedback…of course that’s slightly off topic…lol I will piggyback disco and say yeah, there are a ton of folks (I’m speaking men because I only date men) that REAAAAALLY believe it’s all good and their thought process around dating and courting is jacked up. Foolishness I tell ya.

Anyway I wonder how long this topic will last. I’m good for a topic change right about now :)

Hey Lady :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:27 am

Waving @ C!!!!! What’s good sis?!?

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
9:28 am

Everything…..it’s all good. I hooked up with William Levy last night :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:29 am

Get it C!!!!!! By any means necessary!!!! ;)

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
9:31 am

disco

May 24th, 2012
9:31 am

there will always be the needy types who are always whining about “what’s wrong with me? why don’t you like me?” etc. guess surveys wouldn’t really be good for those types.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:34 am

& at the end of the day those folks are fine and the other person just wasn’t feeling them. Can’t get caught up in there is something wrong with me as to why it didn’t work out. too much power!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

May 24th, 2012
9:38 am

As long as it ain’t “what did I do wrong?” as opposed to ‘what could I do better’, it would work.

And for the career minded people and those that appreciate the desire for self improvement, it would be a plus.

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
9:38 am

Hey Mmeelloo….if you’re still here

single and happy

May 24th, 2012
9:40 am

There will be short survey at the end of this date. Press 1) if you would like particpate. 2) if you would not! 22222222222

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:47 am

See said the blind man~ #funny lol

Single and Happy

May 24th, 2012
9:47 am

A survey is just a personal opinion, what didn’t work for this date may work for the next. Any first encounters are going to be a little awkward because you are going off what you like, and what you think they might like. As time goes on and you get to know each other dates should get better, if they don’t, are you really in tune with each other?

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
9:51 am

Self reflection is key~ Taking criticism and advice that hold value in your life is what continues to define me. Extremely close friends, VERY close family members, and even my ex husband have all played apart with my over all self improvement. Most any one’s else opinion is null but I can rock and roll with their surface assessments~ ;)

disco

May 24th, 2012
9:54 am

single/happy – most folks give a little leeway for first date jitters. even with that though, some folks can truly mess up a first date. we’ve all heard the disaster stories. and I don’t just mean the no chemistry bad date. I mean the “check please” bad date where you roll up out the spot. my point is, there may not always be a “do-over” so folks need to go in strong.

kimmie

May 24th, 2012
9:56 am

Morning All!!

Hey Exiled, been wondering where you are! Hope all is well with you.

Topic – :shock: Really??? I mean REALLY???

And Wise, what the H should I care if the “next” woman benefits from my opinion???

Really?????

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
9:59 am

Is the survey on the person and their overall dating skills with everybody in their dating pool or how impressed I am and feedback on whether or not I want to do it again. I agree what works for one may not work for others. So am I scoring you on how good a job at being a dater….or dating me?? That’s gonna make a difference…for me Heck not picking up the tab nowadays works for plenty of women so if you don’t you’ll get an “A” according to what works for them but by my standards you get an “F” if that’s something you’re not accustom to doing.

Please, don’t take that to mean that I can’t ever pay….that’s just an example.

Single and Happy

May 24th, 2012
10:02 am

Disco, I’m a little selfish I always do my first dates so I will have a good time, even if it is a bad date. May not want a do over

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:02 am

Orrrr, folks that give it up on the first day…lol You’ll get “extra” marks if it goes down. But for someone that thinks something is wrong with giving up on the first day, well buddy you’re gonna score pretty low if you put the moves on her.

Wow, this is fun…we can go many directions on this topic

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:03 am

lol Kimmie!!!!!

C good post!!!! what are we really measuring?!? smh lol

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:05 am

Lady – LOL…just showing how dumb I think this topic is. I will say though, it can’t be easy coming up with something to talk about…in the world of dating…EVERYDAY

kimmie

May 24th, 2012
10:11 am

It might have been talked about before, but have any of you seen that show on TV One called Love Addiction? They had like 3 episodes back to back last night. It was pretty interesting.

kimmie

May 24th, 2012
10:12 am

Celisea – I agree, I know it’s hard coming up with topics, that’s why the only thing I could come up with is “really”!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:13 am

Kimmie I watched it a few times…..yep its interesting. I am glad folks are open to counseling more these days…….

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:14 am

Kimmie – I’m by no means beating on Diva…at all. But really?? LOL Yeah buddy needs to reassess his thought process. What if he was a really good dater and SHE was a witch and just didn’t know how to enjoy his company? I’m mean really just do the best you can, be yourself and roll with it. Everybody won’t like you but somebody will :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:15 am

Everybody won’t like you but somebody will <<<<<<<<<WORD IS BOND! ;)

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:17 am

Lady – It stings a bit and is a blow to the ego (man or woman) when we’re rejected but getting down and out and beating yourself up and passing out surveys….nuh uh

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:19 am

hotmess.com you are so right rejection is healthy and dealing with it shows character but to become distress about it and hung up on “why not me” is more internal flaws going on. Sheer self esteem is a guiding balance with moving on gracefully with a smile~

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:22 am

block blessings are blessings in disguise~ we have all celebrated a blocked blessing that just didn’t go the way we thought it would~ What’s for me will be and I celebrate others with their accomplishments be it with love, career, family, etc!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 24th, 2012
10:25 am

Lay/Cely/Kimmie this is like the bumper sticker asking “How Is My Driving” dial this number. I suspect there will be people calling if they have nothing else to besides complain.

Lady this sums it up: “Sheer self esteem is a guiding balance with moving on gracefully with a smile~”

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

May 24th, 2012
10:40 am

@Kimmie

Don’t think about it as helping the ‘next’ person but ‘putting positive energy out in the world’

I tend to think about ‘the end’ conversations; you could run the person down/over or take the high road (and the hit when need be)

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:49 am

Blackfoote – Agreed

I feel restless today. Maybe a bit of music will do me good. Sigh…I’m ready to go already

disco

May 24th, 2012
10:53 am

BF – while I have never called one of those “how is my driving numbers” I am good for advising managers or calling customer service. typically it’s got to be for something really good or really bad. I even take the time (sometimes) to fill out those little survey cards when I attend certain events. for instance, I attended a play recently at a venue I’d never attended. they had an “overpriced” concession stand but you weren’t allowed to eat in the theatre. I was like really – you want me to pay $5+ for a snack/beverage (or whatever) and then scarf it down while standing up in the hallway at intermission. not going to happen. I put that on my comment card and when I got home I went on the website and left another comment. As far as I’m concerned they should just have a strict no food/beverage policy across the board.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 24th, 2012
10:53 am

me too C glad this is the last day. Summer school will be a laid back atmosphere. we still on for next wednesday for lunch?!?

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:55 am

I was ran off the road by an eighteen wheeler about a month or so ago and talk about livid. I mean buddy was just getting in the lane with me and I know he saw me. I literally had to pull on the shoulder to keep from getting hit. I called that how’s my driving number only to learn his trailer number could not be trace. Yeah go figure. That’s what I feel about surveys. What are you going to do with the feedback? If nothing why do it?

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:56 am

Lady – Yep…lunch is on :)

Celisea

May 24th, 2012
10:57 am