Dating dilemma: Age gap
When you date much older or much younger people, you have probably had to navigate the age gap. Whenever it becomes painfully obvious that you two are from totally different generations, or have polar opposite outlooks on life. How do you hand the difference in age?
A lot of it has to do with maturity and communication. You find a way to work out the differences by acknowledging them first. It’s not helpful to overlook the pink elephant in the room.
A friend of mine is dating someone a lot younger than he is. Still, he is somewhat surprised how she handles certain situations. I feel as if he should understand that it comes with the territory of dating younger. I encourage him to cut her some slack and remind him how he was clueless at her age too.
Do you ever wonder if dating someone who is much older or much younger is worth all the adjustments that you have to make?
They way I see it, every relationship will have it’s own unique set of challenges. If dealing with the difference in age is the toughest part of the relationship, then that’s not all that bad. Then again, I haven’t dated (many?) 20 year olds in a while either.
What age ranges do you think are most compatible to you? Do you think age matters at all?
How young would you date? How old?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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247 comments Add your comment
Lily
May 23rd, 2012
6:56 am
Diva, I.haven’t really dated with much age difference. Let’s hear what others have to say on topic.
Good day!
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
7:25 am
I’m 50 and my on again off again girlfriend is 28, and lives in another country, so we have not only the age gap, but the cultural difference. The way I handle the age gap is the same way I would if we were the same age, we talk about things. You have to remember they are not your child so don’t treat them like one! I have a friend who’s in the same situation, but to hear him talk to his wife, you would think he was talking to one of his children. It doesn’t matter if there is an age difference are not, you are going to have to make adjustments in a relationship.
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
7:46 am
I’ve never chased hardbodies, nor have I “dated” women much older women (well, “dated” wouldn’t be the proper term for an involvement I may or may not have had).
My only comment is that when I got back in to the dating pool in my 40’s, the number of available, beautiful, intelligent, and just plain wonderful women in that age group were astounding because so many guys getting a divorce wanted to chase the younger women. Hey, it works for me, knock youself out dudes, I’m delighted to entertain your throwaways, while you chase the hardbodies. Call me weird, but I actually enjoy intelligent conversation with an educated woman before and after the…
n
May 23rd, 2012
7:52 am
I see having an age gap between boy and girl is more to do with geographic area. The south when I drive down there around the back roads I see a middle age man with old jeans, raggedy shirt, unshaved come into the diner with a purty girl straight out of one of those old classic tales about the rural areas.
It has a lot to do with the long hot summer and steamy nights.
I read a little while ago that the widow of a confederate soldier just passed away. Now, you know, there had to be quite an age difference.
It really is a southern thing. You just have to like those plain unassuming plain spoken folks.
Lily
May 23rd, 2012
7:54 am
Randyt, I’ve been following you and I love you way of thinking. Okay I have to put this away and work.
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
8:15 am
@ Lily
…just spent a lifetime watching people, and have noted some things along the way. LOL
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
8:44 am
@randy T you can’t have an intelligent conversation with an older/younger woman. I’ve dated all three, (younger, same, older) and don’t see too much difference in any of them.
Dumb Dude Hater
May 23rd, 2012
8:47 am
@Single and Happy – I c u don’t think 2 highly of women. Just good 4 a romp?
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
8:53 am
hilarity~
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
8:56 am
@ dumb dude hater, what gives you that idea? oh I see, what I meant was why can’t you have an intellegent conversation with and older/younger woman? I’ve dated all there (younger, same age, and older) and have had intellegent conversations with all three.
Dumb Dude Hater
May 23rd, 2012
9:08 am
@Single and Happy, thanks for explaining.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
9:32 am
ahhh… the spring chickens, the oldheads, the cougars, the young bucks. it all makes the world go round. I have actually spent quite a bit of time with a man 20 years my senior (the most recent ex). interestingly enough, the biggest issue between us had nothing to do with our ages. my friends think it’s straight up comical and crack jokes about worms and what have you. it’s all good though.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
9:32 am
sorry. forgot my manners. good morning.
abc
May 23rd, 2012
9:42 am
I’ve dated women 10 years younger, I don’t think I’d like younger than that. Partners are best suited if they experience life together from pretty much the same perspective. I’ve dated women 8 years older, the age difference wasn’t noticeable.
benita wheeler
May 23rd, 2012
9:44 am
online dating…whrere i find love is love…marriage, you have to be more logical….so it depends on the maturitylevel of each party…how much they really have in common.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:03 am
Morning,
Dating and age differences is the topic I see. I have to be honest, most of the men I’ve dated has been about 3 – 5 years…..YOUNGER! Sorry but it’s true. That’s the group that approaches and for where I am in life, it’s all good. I’ve found the experience, perspectives, outlook are all pretty much mirrored and not far removed. I’ve had a couple of men 10 years my junior that were interested. In all honesty I cannot do that big of an age gap. Nothing wrong with the men but for that big of a gap perspectives and outlook differs vastly and outweighs…for me…the ability to mesh. For where I am now, I’m not impressed with that age group because a bunch of big words, the school you attended or just how logical you are and the effort behind your moves and steps in life ain’t my thing. I’m past that now. Don’t get me wrong smarts, intellect, insight are always needed but there’s a certain stretch on this highway where they’ve all become automatic and second nature. Nothing intentional for me about the steps and strides of life at this point. It’s sort of like being well on your way whereas for someone younger you’re just started out and there’s a level of caution and intention in setting the path in the right direction….I’M PAST THAT POINT….is where I’m going. So in essence, my age a couple of years younger or older. I’m not going to veer to far beyond my age in either direction.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:03 am
have not has
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:09 am
disco – You’re gonna get worms from 65 and 70 year old men….LOLOL I’M KIDDING. I’ve always heard that though. Not sure if it’s a rumor and I’m not tryng to find out either…lol I’m gonna close shop by that age
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
10:16 am
I’ve always been attracted to older men. I cannot stand men my age or younger. I’ve always had older friends also and many people tell me I have an old soul. My recent ex was 13 years older than me and my ex before that was 21 years older than me. I’m now 32 and don’t want to date anyone too much older…I’m thinking about 40 is my limit now!
The only age gap issues we had were when they would talk about things that were before my time. LOL! Other than that, it wasn’t that much of an issue.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
10:19 am
Morning.
I used to be attracted to older men, but not that I’m older I would prefer to date a younger man…the guys a few years older than myself walk old, talk old, look old and smell old (and too many rely on that blue pill and penis pumps).
disco
May 23rd, 2012
10:28 am
leggs – now that’s funny. walk/talk/look/smell old. hilarious.
C – we’re not up that high yet. lol.
a couple of weekends ago a friend and I were at a play. this OLD cat – probably 70s easy came up and started talking to me during intermission. I humored him. my friend thought it was hilarious and teased me about setting up a harem of old dudes.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:39 am
I’ve done 22 years my junior and wasn’t pressed. Really want to stick between 15 to 5 years my junior. I have never dated younger but maybe I should add that to my bucket list…….#shrugs
Morning.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:39 am
impressed that is……….
Mike P
May 23rd, 2012
10:40 am
My Dating Range: Females, Age 21 through – Age 28
My Fuggn Range: Females, Age 18 through – Age 40
Good Morning Folks!
i'm swiss
May 23rd, 2012
10:44 am
“The Age Gap” — Isn’t that what Ashton Kuchar called Demi Moore’s CT?
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
10:45 am
Dayum leggs, that hurts, LOL. I may not be as good as I once was, but I’m as good once as I ever was!!!
(well maybe twice…plus my once or twice lasts longer than my many did once, LOL)
One thing I have begun to notice a lot on Match is how many women put their own age as the top age they are interested in and the bottom ( too young) limit is set maybe 15 years below their age. My immediate thought is okay they want a “boy toy”. I respect heir wishes…another train will be pulling in soon
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:45 am
Lady – Alright nah! Get it, get it
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:46 am
well damn Mike P!!! lol
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
10:47 am
Mike P you are too limiting. I think age 8 to 88 and not more than 8 days dead is appropriate
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:47 am
lol C!!!! worms are scary!!!! lol a generation gap indeed. I couldn’t go off on a mid 50s man…..lol I have manners lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:49 am
Imma be honest here, I’m not doing or looking for a boy toy. I’m not in to getting “used.” I don’t like sex enough “for the experience” or just to ride it out for a while….lol As I’ve said a million times on here, I’m from that breed that catches feelings. I can’t be hanging on or turned out by some young dude. That’s not a good look.
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
10:50 am
Besides Leggs, I may not be young, but I am terribly immature…that should even things out and make up the difference shouldn’t it?
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:50 am
Lady – Going off on a mid 50 dude? Feels like you’re yelling at your pops huh? LOL
disco
May 23rd, 2012
10:50 am
randy – I’m a woman and always amazed at the number of women that want the boy toys. even for playing I need a grown man. heck, I almost didn’t want the young cats when I was young. lol. by the way, I always heard “8-80, blind, crippled or crazy”.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:51 am
yep *shameful* I am sure my daddy is 57 now lol smh totally dead…..
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
10:51 am
Randyt ~ in terms of your moniker, the best thing to ask after doing the do (if they’re staying cuz that’s the key) is to ask what would they like to eat (from the kitchen)!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:51 am
I’m keeping with reality. Like I said earlier I’m closing shop while things are still good. I’m not gonna be “forced” to close….lolololol That too ain’t a good look.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:51 am
C love your 10:49. you summed up my dry humor! as always! lol
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
10:52 am
One of the biggest issues when I dated the man that was 21 years older than me is his lack of sex drive! I was 23-26 when we were together, so you know I was in a prime!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:53 am
Bluz that 22 year older guy played more games than a 35 year old. his new founded freedom from a 25 year divorce. its to be expected but not with me……do you humbly Mister~ lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:54 am
Bluzgirl – Chile they’re tired by then…lol Natually they can’t keep up with a twenty something year old
Why do I get the feeling Fion is watching me? He said I swear I’m 29 or 30…
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:54 am
I thought about Fion too sis!!!! I need a good laugh~
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
10:56 am
Lady – I also thought about him with the comment earlier about enduring 12″ for an hour or two. I thought to myself, heck that ain’t nothing. Fion is the reigning King Dong up in this piece…lol He’s hitting the waters effortlessly
I’m just cutting up.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
10:57 am
yup!!!!!!!!
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
11:01 am
Hey Leggs, I just realized my moniker was not conveying what I was trying to say. What I added to my screen name meant, “if you have a vast age difference, what do you talk about…”
My mistake, sorry….and yes when it doubt, hit the kitchen (if you aren’t too old, smelly, talk and act too old that is. LOL)
Mike P
May 23rd, 2012
11:03 am
@lady: what can I say? lol
those were the ages of the women I’ve dealt with so far.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:04 am
you got it Mike P~
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
11:06 am
Morning All!!
I’ve only dated guys around my age, about 4 years younger/older is my limit. I dated one 10 years older and could not take it. Like Leggs said, everything about him was old and he was only late 40s at the time. Whatever age I am, I have a young spirit but at times an old soul, if that makes sense. Either way, I like being with someone with the same perspective/life experiences. When I was in high school/college, alot of my friends liked older dudes. I didn’t. I figured a mature dude wanted “mature” things and I was happy being a kid! I recognized I was not ready for a “mature” relationship.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:13 am
I do need to back up a bit, when I was 28 I dated a dude 38. I’ve talked about him on here too, a great guy but set in his ways. He was so dang grouchy all the time. I COULD NOT deal with that. We weren’t ever exclusive or a couple because of that. We dated a lot off and on and I NEVER had anything intimate with him because of that and because I knew I wasn’t the only one. He said I needed to “show” I was serious by taking that step and I said in order to take that step, he needed to show me something I didn’t already know. And that’s where it stood. This was the dude that lead with his wallet and became somewhat of a stalker after realizing he was out a lot of money.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
11:13 am
Randyt ~ I doubt you are immature. Like Celisea stated, I’m not interested in a “boy toy” just to get by. Main reason why your friend didn’t stand a chance. Some just wants the experience of an older woman and then move onto another. I’m not looking for sex…hell, that’s easy to get, a dime a dozen.
Like Gwen Guthrie said “nothing going on but the rent…no finance, no romance” meaning, no relationship no sex just for the hell of having sex. The body can do without (lolol). Hell, even that made me laugh.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
11:14 am
leggs – do folks still do that? feed folks after? not me. it’s bad enough I have to wash sheets and remake the bed and you expect me to cook and have to wash dishes too. naw bruh. j/k but serious too.
kimmie – I like the settled-ness (did I make up a word) that comes with the old dude (if you get one that stays in his lane and not one out there trying to front like he’s still got it). the financial perks. in my experience, the old ones are quicker to come up off the money. those young boys still acting like they don’t have to pay for anything. old guys are quicker on the “do you need, do you want, what can I do for you”. it may sound gold digger-ish (did I make up another word) but it is what it is. some of my friends that clowned me about my old dude were in awe when he presented me with a credit card for personal use.
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
11:16 am
The real reason older dates younger: When men get older things tend to shrink, when women get older things tend to get spread. it’s like driving a smart car through a tunnel!
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
11:19 am
disco ~ i have no idea!
I remember one time while in college and after doing the do, the guy asked me to get up and fix him a cheeseburger, 4:00 in the morn. Thank goodness it was the weekend cuz my arse was in that kitchen (lol).
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
11:20 am
@ leggs…I tend to be playful and avoid being serious…in fact (and this drives some women crazy) ,when things or conversations start getting too deep, I will make a joke just to lighten things up. What I have noticed (especially working with engineers) is that you are as old or as young as you project by your demeanor. Some people for some reason seem old no matter what their age…some seem younger just because they act younger. Some people seem full of life, some seem devoid of life. I never understood that.
I can choose to be young, I can choose to be old. Short of the tombstone, it is mostly my (or your) choice.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:22 am
single and happy – You don’t say? I’m going to disagree with you
disco
May 23rd, 2012
11:23 am
leggs – now that’s funny. dude must have handled business for a sister to be getting grease popped on her in the middle of the night. the whole thing now seems to me like a “love thang” or a “back before you got cynical and were trying to show a brother what you could do/be for him” type of thing. those days are long behind me unless a ba-a-a-a-d man shows up. lol.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:24 am
sips tea!
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
11:25 am
@ Leggs disco, etc., This may get me kicked out of the MB society but I do as much of the cooking in most of my relationships, as do my partners. I will have to say that if I wanted a cheeseburger at 4:00 AM, then that is what Waffle House is for. I am dayum sure not going to ask someone to cook for my azz.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:27 am
I’ve cooked in the middle of the night for a s/o its romantic a bit #js but waffle house works too! lol
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
11:27 am
I’m like that too, Randyt! I like being playful and silly. I get deep when need be.
O/T – it was only a matter of time!!! Just logged into my online account and guess who sends me a msg. Yep, 21 days Dude! He says “Hey Beautiful Lady, you know I miss you….”
Crickets…..that’s all I got for him!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:28 am
Well I like doing a little extra for a man…say cooking. That ain’t my thing to do naturally but I enjoy doing it for a cause. I do though like it when the scale tips to his favor in the kitchen. That’s sexy.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:29 am
yep C it is!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:30 am
Leggs – You’re doing well with giving him silence. I think the longest a dude held out on me was for about 9 days….I was livid. Needless to say we were done before even getting started. I didn’t say so during the 9 day hold out but when he came back, I gave it to him. Sorry, I did. I tried but I was hot.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:31 am
Lady – sho nuff
Okay, Imma have to work today.
Randyt (what do you talk about after sex...or do you talk??)
May 23rd, 2012
11:31 am
Actually, I think men miss a lot of “intimacy” by not be willing or able to cook. Women I have known seem very impressed when a man is right there in the kitchen with them. As I have said before, one of the things I do well is the help with the cooking, slow dancing with a glass of wine in the kitchen as dinner simmers…and yes, for the record a lot of memorable events have occurred right there in the kitchen floor, table, etc. because my azz wasn’t parked on the couch snoozing or playing PS3.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
11:31 am
disco – What you said in your post is what my friends that liked older dudes used to say. I was just not ready to put out, or at least not like the way they wanted and expected. An older guy I worked with one summer in college said he didn’t have time to teach and I was certain I needed teaching at the time. I’ve always been more comfortable with someone I could grow with and was raised the way I was – he’s the gentleman, I’m the lady. Not so settled that they are “tired” before their time and have some spunk. Like looking for a needle in a haystack, I know, but I got what I wanted! Oh, and more old dudes smoked too, which I hate and now more and more have health issues earlier. I’ll deal with health issues that come up after marriage(in sickness & in health) but I’m not dealing coming out of the gate.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
11:34 am
Leggs – That’s another thing, I’ve always been downright silly and crazy! Work and school are for seriousness and deepness – I love to clown and be free after hours!!LOL!!!
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
11:35 am
And disco, a cheesburger from scratch…no pre-made patties in my kitchen (lol).
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:38 am
Off topic: There’s a lady that transitioned to our group a few months back and really I’ve not had a good start with her. I don’t know the group she came from but obviously she was spoiled. I had to school her on how things work here. You do your own work around here. Well, because I’ve had to “set her straight” a ocuple of times, she ain’t feeling me. Cool, cause I’m not feeling her either. Anyway, she’s the chairperson for some culteral event their having in the building today and came by all nice (any other time she’s a stank heffa) and asked me to attend. All I have for her is bite me. There’s more than one way to skin a cat. I don’t play those kind of games. You want to be a heffa, then let the games begin. I don’t get into exchange of words with folks because most times you’re gonna trip your own self doing that. Calm, cool, unrattled and collected is my policy and motto in the workplace. I can show you better than I can tell you. When you “need” something, don’t look for Celisea cause she don’t patronize folks that’s got a problem with her. The event today is all sorts of food from her culture…she’s from another country. All I can say is I’m taking my debit card to the cafe and buying my lunch. Don’t look for me at your event. And it ain’t just me. Another one of my teammates reported her to my manager so she called and asked me about my experience with her. She’s lazy and thinks because of the money she’s making we’re enslaved to her….I DON’T THINK SO. Not me anyway.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
11:38 am
Leggs – If I’m doing burgers at home, I hate the premade ones! Then I can’t add my own seasonings!
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
11:39 am
A man in the kitchen is indeed Sexy. You have a great tool, Randyt. Ummm, I mean the fact that you can cook. I had to clarify just in case swiss pops in.
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
11:40 am
I have always been attracted to men that were a little older than me, since i found most to be more mature, settled and their thinking leveled with mine. My soul is old, spirit is humbled and I’m well rounded so I want the same in return. I personally say if you got and old soul, young spirit, and fit body then I can work with that. Now with that said I can’t do the viagra popping, or wheelchair bound that just too for me, neither am I down for teaching some new-new how to hit the bullseye! No for the foolishness that can tip the scale both ways when it comes to age it’s not a primary factor. Too many other things to consider than age alone anyway.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:40 am
chuckle c!!!!!! i certainly got that eff ‘em lol!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:44 am
Lady – Exactly. It took me years to learn how to play the game, especially in corporate. It gets ruthless. Snapping on folks is the quickest way out the door. Calm cool and collected…and standing your ground…in the right way
I see old cats are winning today…hands down. Y’all can have the 20 and older (than 40). I’m taking a pass. I’ll do without and I’m serious about that. Like I said, my age, a couple of years older or younger. When I get to “that” age, I’m done.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:44 am
I have cheddar bacon potato soup today and chips……soothing oh and tea!
Mike P
May 23rd, 2012
11:45 am
Where’s everyone today? I was hoping to read peoples dating stories on the subject.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:45 am
Lady – I had potato soup Monday. I’m headed down to grab a bite to eat and then I need to get some work done. I’ll be back later.
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
11:46 am
@ Randyt nothing is better than a man putting love on a meal for his woman or boothang. I love a man that can cook main course then have me for dessert!!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
May 23rd, 2012
11:47 am
guess I will skip to my lou too C~ bbl!
Robert
May 23rd, 2012
11:48 am
“Do you think age matters at all?”
Yes, age does matter. All my blog buddies know how I feel. I hate to see a older man “Sugar Daddy” (40-50) dating a younger woman (20-30). I hate to see a older woman “Cougar” (40-50) dating a younger man (20-30). “Older Women” will give you the worms my Daddy would always tell me when I was growing up. lol
disco
May 23rd, 2012
11:50 am
kimmie – my youth was my hoodrat days. the biggest ballers were the best catches back then. I got with older dudes back then but not oldhead dudes. my changed view re the full fledge oldhead didn’t kick in until around 30.
C – re workplace issues. I swear just this morning I was wondering if I could get away with whooping a co-worker’s A on the weekend. I don’t work weekends. It would be straight off company time and property. I wonder….
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
11:52 am
disco – LOLOLOL….thanks for that laugh. That’s was funny as heck
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
11:59 am
disco – I needed that laugh. Almost made me flash back in day the to the fights scheduled after school once you stepped off the bus. Vaseline on face…hair pulled back, and earrings off. Don’t do it people don’t fight anymore they just sue! LOL
disco
May 23rd, 2012
12:03 pm
C – I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I swear I was looking for a loophole. there’s got to be a way.
BSV – I actually commented to my boss that the workplace would run a lot smoother if work were like school. just fight it out in the cafeteria, do your 3 days suspension and get on with your life. you all can probably tell that passive-aggressive conflict resolution isn’t my strong suit.
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
12:14 pm
disco- I do believe in talking it out first… but for some people you can’t just talk to them. You have to open up a fresh can whoopa** hospitality. After that ya’ll good, problem solved.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
12:20 pm
Straight fighting right off the bus! Thank goodness I never had the privilege of riding a school bus. We fought in the bathrooms, in the stairwell, in the street, but never in the schoolyard (go figure).
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
12:23 pm
disco ~ if you’re looking for a loophole, go old school and have someone jump her (lol).
disco
May 23rd, 2012
12:28 pm
leggs – I was a walker too. I can’t imagine having to fight in the tight confines of the bus but it happened. I remember as early as elementary school knowing that if you left school and crossed the street you couldn’t get in trouble for fighting. btw – when I say in trouble, I mean with the school. in my family a kid almost never got in trouble for fighting. fighting was strictly encouraged. heck, I got one whooping for not fighting when I was in the second grade. after that I made sure to fight.
leggs again – re your loophole – child it’s so so so funny that you said that. thankfully I don’t live where I have family. lol. don’t think I haven’t had family members volunteer to drive down and take care of some things for me. I had an issue with a male neighbor where I went off and finally cursed him out. I then went home for the family reunion and told the tale. i had a gang of cousins ready to drive down and handle that.
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
12:34 pm
@celisea, maybe you keep up with your clegg exercises. thought I might need viagra, turned out I just needed a new girl
single and happy
May 23rd, 2012
12:37 pm
@Robert, not all older men are sugar daddies. A woman at any age saying I need a man to take care of me is my cue to say “on to the next one”.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
12:47 pm
oh my~ 0_o
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
12:47 pm
single and happy – Shamefully I had to google “clegg” but um, no not needed. I know you men believe woman have all sort of stuff falling out by 40 and just no elasticity down there but I know…for me…you couldn’t be “wronger”, as Lena said on Good Times. No hon, I’m nicely in tact. No kegels or none of that needed. There’s a lock and key on the honey pot. Only a few can or have figured out the code. Nuh uh, Celisea is not having NONE OF THAT. Sorry but you made me get all explicit and stuff…lol
No viagra eh? Bummer for those that need it. Maybe folks don’t “need it”, maybe it’s just time to shut it down. Hmmmmmm???
My point was, not sure where you got your theory from.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
12:48 pm
There are women nearly 60 that will put 20, 30, and 40 year olds in their place. Example (Dr. Ro)Rovenia Brock Phd. is 56 and look like she’s 32. Don’t take my word google her. I don’t talk for other guys but I would pause for her. Whom ever decide to chase the young girls can do so I’ll gravitate toward the mature woman everytime.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
12:50 pm
OAN: the Get Schooled blog is poppin! well the Dekalb County one wow where is cba @
ok brb
disco
May 23rd, 2012
12:52 pm
BF – I overheard someone say the other day that Aretha franklin must hate tina turner. I had to laugh when I heard it because it’s definitely true that some folks age better than others.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
12:56 pm
disco:
That’s exaclty the point I’m making, no matter what’s your age it’s how you age.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
12:57 pm
A co-worker of mine is 63 and she can definitely pass for 42-44!!! Thank goodness we have the pigmentation we have, cuz black don’t crack…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
12:58 pm
I can spell “exactly” when I have to……LOL
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
1:02 pm
The difference between taking care of yourself and not and what effect that has on your body can clearly be seen in the Franklin/Turner example.
And it is why I advise all of my young employees that now is the time to start taking care of their bodies. Maintenance will always be easier than repair and/or replace.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
1:02 pm
Leggs you’re absolutely right, it’s something about that dark skin.
Robert
May 23rd, 2012
1:06 pm
@Brownsugarvixen – “I have always been attracted to men that were a little older than me, since i found most to be more mature, settled and their thinking leveled with mine. My soul is old, spirit is humbled and I’m well rounded so I want the same in return.”
As a mature older man my lifestyle would ruin you. Too much of a good thing is not good for you. Any young man who might like you and want to marry you never will because he won’t be able to meet your expectations (passion, desire, money, freedom of choice, etc.). My advice is to not take things for granted. Wait for Mr. Right and not settle for Mr. Old Man. Life is to short to make serious mistakes that can detroy you forever. No man wants a woman who thought she was all grown-up by dating older men. What did you learn?
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
1:08 pm
Most people don’t get or understand “beauty.” It’s not some image of a pin-up or the mirror of some chick on a magazine. What’s put into those type women, the typical beauties? What I find and just IMO are the get up and go, those that age gracefully, those with little to no maintenance. Heck we all can be beautiful for the right price. I giggle at the folks that think beauty is on the cover of a magazine, Hawaiian Tropic gals. When you can go/do without make-up, ain’t gotta kill yourself, starve yourself to death, ain’t gotta buy add-ons and implant stuff. Having the confidence to go as you are and go okay in that department….that’s what I find beautiful. And really if it not resonating from within, then likely it won’t in the outer appearance.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
1:10 pm
“do” okay in that department not “go”
By far (and please I don’t mean to offend), black women take the lead in aging gracefully.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
1:14 pm
That’s what I see all the time Cely, black women do age different and gracefully.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
1:20 pm
Blackfoote – Right now, my mom would fool anybody over the phone. Her voice is strong as ever. She didn’t start looking “aged” until mid 70s. Even now, when she’s in the hospital, it’s hard getting folks to talk to us about her because no one believes her condition is what it is. Well, after she’s repeated herself a gazillion times they figure it out but initially they have a problem in tell us (me and sibs) what’s needed and what we need to do because they think my mom (looks/speech) is 100%. I’m proud of what and where she is now but yes, an aged black woman is a beautiful thing
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
1:21 pm
C lady=beauty!!! lol great post chica!
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
1:24 pm
@Robert — I don’t soley date older men to feel like a big girl, it’s just a preference based on my experience of dating men in my age bracket during my youth. My expectations may be a tad bit old fashioned but not unrealistic. I don’t wear the superficial mantra that boast Ms. Independent, or Ms. High Standards with unrealistic expectations. Matter of fact im anything but such. Passion, desire, money etc… never really fell short in those areas in the relationships that I have had. I’ve learned that people change, grow and find themselves and sometimes it leads to one or both parties departing ways for those reasons. As for Mr. Right our paths just haven’t crossed yet so the jury is still out on that one.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
1:25 pm
Twenty somethings are good to look at, some may be as mature as some older women. The lock, stock, and barrel are the one’s no matter age that can make a man feel manly. In return if I’m given that kind of treatment the kitchen is open for business. Translation I’ll cook my ass off for ya.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
1:32 pm
Robert is amusing……..
Robert have you been married before?!? #curious
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
1:33 pm
Cel…I agree with you. I work with a few older black women and was blown away when they told me how old they are. I’m jealous as to how good they look for being 60+…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
1:35 pm
Cely I’m glad for your mom because I have seen women in their seventies that made me think I was having eye problems. I introduced to lady at a cook out and was told she was 72 and my drink almost slipped out of my hand.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
1:35 pm
Bluz – I think someone said it earlier, it’s about taking care of yourself too. There’s room on the “looking good over 40 bench”…we’ll save you a seat when you reach this age
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
1:36 pm
I “was” introduced. I haven’t had lunch yet maybe it’s time.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
1:38 pm
Blackfoote – Sho nuff. Living hard and wild does nothing but age you just that much faster. I know quite a few woman that look good for their age. My mom grayed in her thirties but in all of her pictures her face looks oddly young.
My kid’s dad looks like a dried up prune now. He was soooo handsome younger but all that boozing and womanizing and doping has caught up with him. I told him he needs to stop living hard and fast but noooo…now look at him.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
1:48 pm
Hey SCool!!
You get my text??
LL411
May 23rd, 2012
1:53 pm
I’m 50, so 7 years older/younger is where I am right now. Current will be 55 this year, wow.
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
1:56 pm
Yes we most definitely age well, especially those of us who take good care of our bodies. I still snicker when I get carded buying scratch-offs, or alcohol (in my mind im like really)? I havent been 18 or 21 in a very long time. Guess it’s true what they say inner happiness radiates outer beauty (not talking cozmo mag type either).
@Celisea – I agree a hard life, does not do justice for the body. Having a YOLO motto is good at times, but on a daily. Looking 65 at 42 is not the move.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
1:57 pm
living for the moment does not rock long term~
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
1:59 pm
Oh..I did…
And….er…um…yeah…no…that’s not going to happen.
(lol)
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:02 pm
BSV – You are spot on with inner beauty radiates outer beauty. And no, living hard is all good and fun (to some) but you have to get off that ride or else it’s going to take it’s toll.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:04 pm
Lady – So true. There are definitely pros and cons to living in the moment and definitely a difference in living in the moment in certain instances versus an living your entire life in that way
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:07 pm
Indeed~ I don’t knock it one bit but making it a way a life is no good…….
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
2:08 pm
And to think H2O is the best free anti-aging drug on the market.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
2:08 pm
SCool – Dang!
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
2:09 pm
Yeah Cel…My mom was getting onto me about my facial regimine (sp?)! I guess now that I’m over 30, I need to make sure to use the right products. I’ve never been a girly girl and am having to learn to stock up on product! LOL
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
2:09 pm
And depending on what moment you are living in makes a helluva lot of difference as well.
Continually being in the moment enjoying sunrises on your upper deck with a cup of coffee and your favorite magazine is a lot different than always going on drinking nights out with your best party buddies.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:11 pm
eh yeah…….
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
2:13 pm
Usually, if you focus on being healthy, it will directly affect beauty. Our people age beautifully in the face, but I wish more would work on their weight and develop better health habits like a healthy diet, regular exercise, proper rest and regular health screenings.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:13 pm
Bluz my mary kay girlie keeps blowing me up…I know she needs to make sales but I don’t wear make up at all. Some days I want to bc my face can get pale and a good concealor (sp) is needed or I would love to play with some eye shadow but don’t……..I do use the Time Wise facial cleanse system for cleaning but that is it……….I buy lip gloss from her. smh lol
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:15 pm
she wants to come over and give me a free facial but I know I will feel bad if I don’t purchase something…..I keep prolonging
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:15 pm
Bluzgirl – Funny you say that, your regimen will change on many things as you get older. Don’t get nervous, just make the shift and move with time. I wish I could recommend something good for you but I don’t really use face products. Just a clean cloth and a tad hotter than warm water.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:17 pm
Clinque was my favorite facial clense! awsomeness!!!
disco
May 23rd, 2012
2:17 pm
since we’re still on aging. I had my son young and for many years got asked if he was my brother. by the time he was in high school folks started asking if he was my boyfriend. we were at a party once and all the grown folks were out by the pool and the kids were in the house. after about an hour or so a guy asked me what happened to my man. I was confused but totally tickled when I realized he meant my son. I answered that he was in the house with the rest of the kids. now anytime we are together folks assume we are a couple.
BSV – I was recently carded at my neighborhood liquor store where I just so happen to be a regular. I literally asked the guy if he was purposely trying to flatter me.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:17 pm
Lady – Just tell her it will be gloss only for your purchase…lol I went to the Mac Counter for gloss and this dude started putting foundation on my face. I was like whoa buddy, just the gloss…lol He was a “birl” and just couldn’t believe I didn’t want any make-up. He was acting as if I was commiting some huge beauty crime…well maybe to him I was…LOLOLOLOL
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:19 pm
Mac is too much for me sis no ma’am yep gloss that’s it……
I have never wore lashes either but folks love them………
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
2:20 pm
Bluz – If you don’t already know, the best thing you can do is use sunscreen every day. Not only does it protect from skin cancer, it helps keep wrinkles at bay as well.
A lot of AA think they don’t need it, and the melanin in our skin does protect, but not always. My godbrother is a nice dark chocolate and is a skin cancer survivor.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:20 pm
Honey that gloss was $18…I was NOT happy about that
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
2:20 pm
I’m an Avon lady and people laugh because I don’t wear make up and I have tattoos, so I don’t look like the typical Avon lady! LOL
I was using Proactiv, but seems that problem is going away. I bought a handmade soap set at a silent auction and there is a face soap made with mud from the dead sea and it’s wonderful!!! I just gotta figure out the right moisturizer. I don’t wanna be all wrinkly in 10 years!
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
2:21 pm
A “birl”…lmao…I saw one of this guy yesterday and it is still just amazing to me that you can tell a man is gay by the way he sits on a bench, with his legs crossed and that “you stank girl” expression on his face.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:23 pm
Bluz – I was going to recommend Proactiv but didn’t know if it was a cleansing regimen you were looking for or something for acne. I have a cousin whose face was horrendous looking and for the last 3 months or so he’s been using Proactiv. HUGE difference. His skin is not completely cleared but it looks 75 percent better.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:24 pm
mary kay gloss is a dollor or two cheaper…………I am not high maintance with make up………I am still using samples too
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
2:24 pm
@kimmie – You’re so right about being healthy, overall.
I get so much flack by coworkers at my job for being a vegetarian, and eating organic foods. It’s like they’ve adopted this whole may as well eat whatever cause we all gonna die attitude. My thinking is yes we will, but it’s to much life in me left to live to be cutting it short over some food. I refuse to wheeling and oxygen tank around when I reach my golden years!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:24 pm
LOLOL…a man sitting with his leggs all tight just ain’t natural or at least to me don’t look natural. I like them wide (nothing sexual intended) as it looks natural and laid back. Don’t be sitting all tight and holding ‘em close…lolol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:28 pm
I’m trying to do better (slightly) with my eating habits. I agree, I know we’re all going to die but it’s the quality of life that matters. I know vitamins don’t beat the real thing but I’ve been taking vitamins for a few months now. I’m liking the results.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
2:32 pm
lady – re overpriced mac products. I just asked a guy to go on a mac run for me and he had the nerve to say it was like buying feminine hygiene products. of course, my objective was to get the product without paying for them. don’t judge, we’ve already determined the stuff costs too much. lol. I use the powder foundation and blush. I can buy lipstick/mascara at the dollar store. no shame, I’ll still sport wet and wild lipstick.
BSV – I’m one of those chicks that say eat what you want. mostly because I come from small folks with relatively few health issues and so tripping off of those things wasn’t in my makeup. still if push comes to shove I’ll just have to become an exercise fiend because I’m not going to deny myself the food I want to eat.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:33 pm
Oh, I do put just a bit of Oil of Olay lotion on my face after washing. That’s so my skin is not dry.
The other thing I’ve changed is laying off sodas..diet coke was my thing. For the last 3 weeks I’ve bought 2 cases of water and added Crystal Light. That’s so I can drink the water…get it down easily. I can just “drink water” all day like that. Much water intake makes a difference.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:34 pm
disco you funny as heyal!!!!!!! lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:35 pm
That’s why I said “slightly” with my eating habits. For the things I know are death traps, okay I’ll ease up but for the most part, I like what I like
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
2:35 pm
Told ya Cely that word would stick birl, birly…….LOL Nope dudes can’t get away sitting with their legs closed gay or not it’s stil birly.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:36 pm
i never got into wearing foundation…..I am boring….a simple dresser too not a shopper or latest fads or fashions……..I was just thinking next school year I am going to get back to wearing suits at least 3 times a week with heels. Thinking turning 33 calls for some definition fashionably…….lol
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
2:36 pm
Hey Everyone.
I don’t really put a lot of stock in age. It’s compatibility that counts. I’ve met very mature and well put together 25 year olds, and I’ve met trifling childish should-no-better 48 year olds. Age isn’t always a good indicator of maturity, experience, or wisdom. Instead of using age as a proxy for those things, I just look for the presence of those things directly.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm
need to go shoe shopping with C so I can put on a sho show!!!! 0_0 lol
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm
shoe that is
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm
Blackfoote – LOL…it’s just so unnatural looking for a dude. About as unnatural as a woman sitting with her legs gapped open
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm
Lady – Doth thou tempt me?? Remember Leon Lonnie Love from Martin…lol
I was just thinking….yeeeees thinking about a new pair of sexy sandals but nope, NOT GONNA DO IT…LOL
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm
I’ve met trifling childish should-no-better 48 year olds<<<<<<<<<<well damn Dreams!!!!! LOL tell us how you really feel lol
disco
May 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm
lady – I just be telling “my truth”. i’m not a make up junkie. I buy one foundation and one blush from mac and they generally last me an entire year. i wear the same “face” all year. I’ve been pondering for months what my next $20 blush color was going to be.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm
LOLOLOL!!!!!! I do C!!!!! I shall tempt you!!!! reward yourself!
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm
Ok im wipping my monitor down (just lost my water over that one).Legs crossed with that bish think she bader then me face (eyes wide looking you up and down). SMh it’s so true.!!!!
@disco – Flattery only working when it’s sincere, but otherwise you just think people are toying with you!
@Celisea – As long as you are working on better habits you’re doing just fine. It’s only when people pretend healthy is important that it becomes serious. I never really done vitamins because i don’t like taking pills. But I see they have gummie viatmens for adults i might give it a try or wise it’s just incorprated in the diet as usual.
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm
isn’t important
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:41 pm
I feel ya disco I know you being straight up!!!!! LOL
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:41 pm
Lady/disco – Never worn foundation a day in my life. I bet for those women that do (esp black), they would be just beautiful without it. So what you have a couple of blemishes. Go with it and without the foundation.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:43 pm
my face concern is heridty brown specales (sp) frekles (sp) I know I effed that up but the brown spots that increase with age….
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:43 pm
i guess pigmentation (sp) but anywhoo that lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:44 pm
BSV – And for every pharmicist and doctor where I’ve asked for recommendation on vitamins, the answer first is always eat right. I was asking about fiber a while back and I COULD NOT get the pharmacist to stop chastising me about eating more fruit and veggies.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
2:44 pm
Oh, I do put just a bit of Oil of Olay lotion on my face after washing.
Used oil of olay cause my skin gets pail
and then I grabbed the file for my finger nails
I’m true to the style on my behalf
I put the bubbles in the tub so I could take a bubble bath
Clean, dry, was my, body and hair
I threw on my brand new Gucci underwear
For all the girls I might take home
I got the Johnson’s Baby Powder and the Polo Cologne
Fresh dress, like a million bucks,
put on the Bally shoes and the fly green socks.
Stepped out the house stopped short, oh no
Went back in I forgot my Kangol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:45 pm
Lady – Wear your natural face
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:46 pm
lol dreamsM imagined you @ Morehouse! sometime I scream oh I wished sometimes I went to Clark back then lol
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:46 pm
C I have always worn it….I ain’t buying it or using it lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:47 pm
Dreams – LOL…. I’m actually on my third bottle. I use it all over and I’m telling you talk about soft skin…my my my….I feel myself rubbing my own legs…LOL I’M KIDDING
I’m gonna stick with Oil of Olay lotion for a while.
Lady – Not gonna do it, no shoes.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
2:47 pm
Everything in moderation. I know folks get sick of that, but it’s true. You still can enjoy good food and your favorite vices, in moderation. My body rejects junk after awhile if I eat too much of it, so it makes it easy for me. But every now and then, fries or a good juicy steak are called for! I absolutely love fruit and salads, so that makes it easy. I’ve been around alot of sickness and I know no matter how careful, I still may come down with something bad, but if I do, I can at least have a fighting chance to survive and lessen the suffering.
Plus, I just feel so good and light when I’m in good shape!
I don’t care about the price, I love some MAC and other high end cosmetics. I don’t even use alot of it, I just love the packaging and the glamour of it all! I can only use MAC or Clinique lipstick and powders. Anything with fragrance in it on my face will break me out. I can get by with cheaper eye products though. Won’t ever use false eyelashes though, can’t get with the glue on my eyes!
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
2:48 pm
I did have some problems with acne and have been using Proactiv for a little over a year, but it seems like that problem is getting better as I get older. We’ll see what happens when I don’t use it for a while!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:48 pm
Lady – Go girl.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm
yeah Clinique frangrances rock too simply bliss!! works well with my body chemistry especially in the winter
disco
May 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm
C – I just started wearing makeup maybe 2-3 years ago. I needed something to make me feel “grown” at the time. here’s my commercial pitch… over the years none of the drug store stuff tickled my fancy but when I finally bought the mac something clicked. plus having the natural hair and the plain face might be a little much. I’m single, remember? lol.
Single and Happy
May 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm
@Celisea, that’s just one of my jokee jokes I give when I’m asked why my girl is so young. Also, I’ll shut it down when they push me in
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:51 pm
okay good people!!!! peace out!!!!!
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
2:52 pm
well damn Dreams!!!!! LOL tell us how you really feel lol
Hey Lady. I’m just saying that I’ve met all types of women, and age hasn’t always been the best litmus test. Come on, you know you’ve seen (and laughed at) the old dude in the club. lol How are you, btw?
disco
May 23rd, 2012
2:55 pm
kimmie – with my first foray into mac I had a gift card and went wild. found I wasn’t overly impressed with the lipstick or the liner. I haven’t even learned how to work eye makeup yet (other than mascara). like I said, I’ll run down through dollar tree and get some lipstick/lipgloss.
kimmie – you put steak in the bad category? that ain’t right.
Lady~
May 23rd, 2012
2:55 pm
just fine sir!!!!! I am learning methods too!!!! thx for asking!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:55 pm
disco – lol…I hear ya. Commercial eh? Yeah, go on and get that Mac make-up. Really, I don’t see anything wrong with paying a bit much for that one thing you do special for yourself…be it make-up, shoes, eating out…as long as it’s not with EVERYTHING. That’s wasting money. My weakness is shoes. Make-up? Not so much. I left Mac and have a nice brown CG…lol 4.99 and I like it
I didn’t like any of the Mac colors. I was in there a loooong time with buddy. I was getting on his nerves…LOL
single and happy – Don’t start nothing nah…lol Wait, explain your last statement. You made my tummy flip flop
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
2:56 pm
Lady I’m always on your heels, neva mind me I’m a few steps away from the stairwell.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
2:57 pm
disco – It’s taxing on the body to digest, so I wouldn’t eat one every day, but they are oh so good, especially grilled!! Like my grandmother says, nothing like a good “steak dinner”!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:58 pm
Blackfoote – For loving the “older ladies”, just that along reprieve…come from under the stairs and move on up
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
2:58 pm
lol dreamsM imagined you @ Morehouse! sometime I scream oh I wished sometimes I went to Clark back then lol
Lady You been imagining things about me?
I feel myself rubbing my own legs…
Celisea Oh I see you actin’ up. You better cut that out. Nothing like smooth chocolate.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:58 pm
The last steak I had was for my birthday back in Dec. I can’t/don’t do steak often. Too harsh on the tummy…all that red meat…ugh
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
2:59 pm
Dreams – I was just kidding…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 23rd, 2012
3:00 pm
LOL……thanks Cely I’ll make sure to give it a go.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 23rd, 2012
3:01 pm
The age Gap ain’t the Gap that I’m paying attention to.
So we’re having a mac-up convention in here today
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:02 pm
Dreams – I was just kidding…lol
Celisea (in my best Barry White voice) Sho you riiiiight…
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:03 pm
Celisea – Yes they advised you right. I’ve always been on the healthy path. I stray with certain sweets from time to time. My body will always let me know what it’s lakcing kinda keeps me in check. Now if only i could get a full 6-7 hours sleep daily then everything else will fall in place. Guess I’ll sleep more when the little man gets older ( I hope).
I hear everyone raving about mac. I have yet to try any as I’ve kept it quite basic. Guess I’ll be checking out those eyes shadow sooner than later!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:03 pm
Dreams – You did NOT pull out Barry White did you? Alright now
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:04 pm
So we’re having a mac-up convention in here today
Jake I’m trying to change the tides bruh.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:05 pm
BSV – Everything we need for this body is in the earth (i.e. vegetation, fruit, trees, etc) and it’s just that abandon. I’m a sugar/sweet-aholic. I’m getting better.
I didn’t see the rave over Mac and charging me dang $18 for gloss. I’d rather put that towards something else…lol
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:06 pm
@Celisea ~ shoes are my weakness too. All the shelves in my closet fell down forcing me to clean out my closet. I gave a good 40+ pair of shoes to the local church’s shoe drive. Good shoes in good condition, but I knew I wouldn’t be wearing them anymore. Heck a few I even forgot I had. Still have over 60+ in my tub, my bathroom, my room. Purged some of my clothes as well. But, my closet is now neat and clean!
@2C ~ I kept my two blouses from 1979 because they still fit and nothing wrong with them.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:07 pm
I only wear makeup when I dress up, which isn’t often. I wear concealer every day and that’s it. I’ve been blessed with long eyelashes and nice colored lips!
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:07 pm
I know a chick that used fake eyelashes so much they made her real lashes fall out and now they won’t grow back. So she HAS to get fake ones or she will just look weird with no eyelashes!
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:08 pm
I’ve been waiting to see who would be the first to talk about the “gap.”
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:11 pm
Love makeup, nice shoes, beautiful clothes and hot hair!! Love all the girly rituals. I don’t overdo any of it. Just love being a GIRL!!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 23rd, 2012
3:11 pm
Leggs, first thing I thought about.
Dreams, I know bruh, but we are gonna lose today, they talking about shoes and make-up, we don’t have a snowball’s chance in H.E. hockeysticks
disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:12 pm
I had steak a few weeks back in Nashville and it was so good that I’m going to try my darnedest to get back to that restaurant when I go back next week.
leggs – glad to hear you’ve got old clothes too. I remember hearing older folks say “I’ve got shoes/suits/hats older than you”. now I’m one of those people.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
I’m starting to crave a nice steak now! Thanks a lot everyone!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
Leggs – I did a “cleansing” if you will, about a year or so ago. I bagged up so many shoes and took them to the rummage sale they were having at church. I had them stacked and under my bed. I know I cut my shoe selection in half but that was fine with me. I got rid of all those I wasn’t wearing and made room for new ones
Alright Jake and Dreams….besides “gaps” what else y’all wanna talk about? I don’t have a gap so I can’t get in on that one.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:14 pm
Dreams – You did NOT pull out Barry White did you? Alright now
Celisea What?!? Don’t make me pull out his verse from Secret Garden…
I’ll take good caaaare of you,
That’s what a man’s…supposed to do.
And I’ll be there for you all the tiiiime
Let your hair down, let me get you in the mooooood.
Come on, come on, come on, come on
You ain’t ready nah lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m waiting on single and happy to come back and tell me what he meant but he shuts it down when he’s pushed in……
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:16 pm
Dreams – LOL….nooo, I guess I’m not (ready). Alright now, I can’t keep up.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:17 pm
First thing I thought about too, Jake, but knew it wouldn’t be cool for me to talk about anyone’s “gap.”
Yes, I do, disco. I wore my red wrangler shorts from 1973 into my late 30’s. No holes, zipper still working (lolol).
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:18 pm
So I couldn’t help but to sneek a peek at the Mac website. I’m not cheap by any means, but they are definitely pricey. Sounds like I need to have some stock in Mac! I guess it’s just a matter of preferenc, everybody has something they splurge on.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:20 pm
Alright Jake and Dreams….besides “gaps” what else y’all wanna talk about? I don’t have a gap so I can’t get in on that one.
Celisea biting my tongue…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:20 pm
Exactly, Celisea. They will be replaced at some point. One lady asked me not to give them to the church but to give to her so she can sell them in her garage sale….crickets cuz I knew she wasn’t going to give me the $$ she collected. Guess she thought I was related to Boo Foo the Clown. Nope, I ain’t going there…..
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:27 pm
I am hungry. All I had for lunch was baked fish and brocolli. I need something, but know what to fill me up???
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:31 pm
@Leggs you welcome to have some chips or chocolate, as thats all we have in the snack pile over here.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:33 pm
Thanks, Brown…found an orange in the fridge w/my name on it.
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
3:34 pm
This “lash” thing is so out of control.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:35 pm
We were talking about fighting earlier…WOW!
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/neighbors-settle-dispute-samurai-sword-shovel-article-1.1083237
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:36 pm
SCool – You should see “Mabeline” as I call her. Betty Boop is WAY cuter!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:36 pm
You ain’t lied there…I see soooo many snuffleupagus(es)…just dang
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:37 pm
@SexyC ~ lil leggs wanted to wear false eyelashes to prom last week. She comes into my bathroom with glue and lashes and hands them to me. I look at her like she’s grown 2 more eyes and hand her some mascara. She thought it cute to put the eyelases on her bathroom door with a hint of glue to secure to door…they’re still there!!
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:41 pm
Leggs – That’s funny, they’re still there! I wanted to wear some wild ones for Halloween. I thought I could find some you just stick on your eyelid, but all had that glue. No can do!
disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:45 pm
amen on the not doing fake lashes. I wear glasses and refuse to get contacts. I’m a little bit vain but I’m not that vain. I have never even put eye drops in my eyes. btw – have you all seen the eyelashes that you put on the headlights of your car? I’d never heard of them until a co-worker showed them to me yesterday. apparently they were on groupon and she was going to buy them.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
disco – I’ve seen those car eyelashes!! I wonder if Mabeline is going to get some! I’m going to ask her!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
have you all seen the eyelashes that you put on the headlights of your car?
I saw a thugged out car with a pair yesterday….
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
That has got to look fuggly, disco (fugged up and ugly).
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
Anyone on here try Plenty of Fish for dating?
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:48 pm
Lashes for the headlights are quite cute my boss has them on her Escalade. Too cute very much a reflection of her personality.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:50 pm
leggs – re article – as if a person who got cut with a sword would say “ouch”. lol.
I’ve never seen the carlashes on a car. she says they are really cute on girlie cars like beetles and minis.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:50 pm
@Bluz ~ I have re POF. Whatcha want to know?
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:52 pm
Just curious if you’ve had any luck on it…I just downloaded the app to my phone and am setting up a profile. Kind of nerve wracking to really be trying to get back in the dating world…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:54 pm
“Ouch” wouldn’t be one of the words coming out of my mouth. Not at all.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
I know the check in my salon is probably curious why I’m always starring at her…lol Okay I’m a bit fixated. She’s sort of “thick” but she can pull it off. Tight jeans, see-thru shirts (everytime I’m there I can see it all), very very very short cut and lashes from her work station to the wall. I don’t think she’s the cutest thing in there nor the thinnest but for some reason she pulls it off. She’s a bit hoochie but I her style over some of the others. She’s is NOT ashamed or afraid to go for it. She pushes the envelope in every way. Maybe that’s why she can pull it off.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
Ummmm, here’s my take on POF…it’ seems to be mainly geared for white people. Sure there are black men on there as well. Went to two gatherings and everyone there was white. There are a lot of scary folk on POF because it’s free. That’s what made me go and pay for a subscription. Still jerks there too, but POF is swarming with them. Lots of talk, no follow up and many of those pics look like hillbillies or mug shots….
Remember, you get what you pay for!!!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
chck
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:59 pm
again…chick
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:00 pm
Not “fixated” like that…my gate swings one way for anyone misunderstanding my post…lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:01 pm
I ain’t gonna lie…I thought Plenty of Fish was a restaurant…I did…lol
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:03 pm
I think you’re thinking Supreme Fish, Celisea (lol).
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:05 pm
Leggs – I’ve never heard of that so I did….I thought Bluz was referring to a restaurant.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:08 pm
I believed you Celisea…it was cute since I knew it wasn’t a restaurant. I was kidding with Supreme Fish remark…Plenty of Fish, Supreme Fish.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:08 pm
LOL! That’s funny!
I’m not at all ready to pay for the online stuff. Would rather meet people in person…
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:09 pm
Leggs –
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:13 pm
@Bluz ~ they’re always having gatherings at the 57th Fighter’s Club (this is a restaurant). Next time one hit’s my email, I’ll let you know. I’ve never seen so many spastic dancing people in one place in a long time.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:15 pm
Please do…I’ve been to 57th once to eat and didn’t know they did any kind of social gatherings…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:23 pm
Let me check my personal email and see if anything is there.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:34 pm
Ooops, just remembered I emptied out my inbox yesterday so now have to wait for the next invite. I will forward to you when it comes.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:41 pm
Cool…thanks for checking
mitchell
May 23rd, 2012
11:42 pm
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Pat
May 24th, 2012
6:27 am
There is 10 years age difference and me and my spouse. We met when I was 20 and he 30 yrs. I’m happy to say we have been married for 28 yrs. Two things I can share that helped our relationship was my maturity and our love for Jesus Christ. It hasn’t been easy but, its worked for us and im still happily married and in love with him more now than before.