Dating dilemma: Age gap
When you date much older or much younger people, you have probably had to navigate the age gap. Whenever it becomes painfully obvious that you two are from totally different generations, or have polar opposite outlooks on life. How do you hand the difference in age?
A lot of it has to do with maturity and communication. You find a way to work out the differences by acknowledging them first. It’s not helpful to overlook the pink elephant in the room.
A friend of mine is dating someone a lot younger than he is. Still, he is somewhat surprised how she handles certain situations. I feel as if he should understand that it comes with the territory of dating younger. I encourage him to cut her some slack and remind him how he was clueless at her age too.
Do you ever wonder if dating someone who is much older or much younger is worth all the adjustments that you have to make?
They way I see it, every relationship will have it’s own unique set of challenges. If dealing with the difference in age is the toughest part of the relationship, then that’s not all that bad. Then again, I haven’t dated (many?) 20 year olds in a while either.
What age ranges do you think are most compatible to you? Do you think age matters at all?
How young would you date? How old?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:12 pm
I had steak a few weeks back in Nashville and it was so good that I’m going to try my darnedest to get back to that restaurant when I go back next week.
leggs – glad to hear you’ve got old clothes too. I remember hearing older folks say “I’ve got shoes/suits/hats older than you”. now I’m one of those people.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
I’m starting to crave a nice steak now! Thanks a lot everyone!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
Leggs – I did a “cleansing” if you will, about a year or so ago. I bagged up so many shoes and took them to the rummage sale they were having at church. I had them stacked and under my bed. I know I cut my shoe selection in half but that was fine with me. I got rid of all those I wasn’t wearing and made room for new ones
Alright Jake and Dreams….besides “gaps” what else y’all wanna talk about? I don’t have a gap so I can’t get in on that one.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:14 pm
Dreams – You did NOT pull out Barry White did you? Alright now
Celisea What?!? Don’t make me pull out his verse from Secret Garden…
I’ll take good caaaare of you,
That’s what a man’s…supposed to do.
And I’ll be there for you all the tiiiime
Let your hair down, let me get you in the mooooood.
Come on, come on, come on, come on
You ain’t ready nah lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m waiting on single and happy to come back and tell me what he meant but he shuts it down when he’s pushed in……
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:16 pm
Dreams – LOL….nooo, I guess I’m not (ready). Alright now, I can’t keep up.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:17 pm
First thing I thought about too, Jake, but knew it wouldn’t be cool for me to talk about anyone’s “gap.”
Yes, I do, disco. I wore my red wrangler shorts from 1973 into my late 30’s. No holes, zipper still working (lolol).
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:18 pm
So I couldn’t help but to sneek a peek at the Mac website. I’m not cheap by any means, but they are definitely pricey. Sounds like I need to have some stock in Mac! I guess it’s just a matter of preferenc, everybody has something they splurge on.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2012
3:20 pm
Alright Jake and Dreams….besides “gaps” what else y’all wanna talk about? I don’t have a gap so I can’t get in on that one.
Celisea biting my tongue…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:20 pm
Exactly, Celisea. They will be replaced at some point. One lady asked me not to give them to the church but to give to her so she can sell them in her garage sale….crickets cuz I knew she wasn’t going to give me the $$ she collected. Guess she thought I was related to Boo Foo the Clown. Nope, I ain’t going there…..
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:27 pm
I am hungry. All I had for lunch was baked fish and brocolli. I need something, but know what to fill me up???
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:31 pm
@Leggs you welcome to have some chips or chocolate, as thats all we have in the snack pile over here.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:33 pm
Thanks, Brown…found an orange in the fridge w/my name on it.
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2012
3:34 pm
This “lash” thing is so out of control.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:35 pm
We were talking about fighting earlier…WOW!
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/neighbors-settle-dispute-samurai-sword-shovel-article-1.1083237
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:36 pm
SCool – You should see “Mabeline” as I call her. Betty Boop is WAY cuter!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:36 pm
You ain’t lied there…I see soooo many snuffleupagus(es)…just dang
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:37 pm
@SexyC ~ lil leggs wanted to wear false eyelashes to prom last week. She comes into my bathroom with glue and lashes and hands them to me. I look at her like she’s grown 2 more eyes and hand her some mascara. She thought it cute to put the eyelases on her bathroom door with a hint of glue to secure to door…they’re still there!!
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:41 pm
Leggs – That’s funny, they’re still there! I wanted to wear some wild ones for Halloween. I thought I could find some you just stick on your eyelid, but all had that glue. No can do!
disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:45 pm
amen on the not doing fake lashes. I wear glasses and refuse to get contacts. I’m a little bit vain but I’m not that vain. I have never even put eye drops in my eyes. btw – have you all seen the eyelashes that you put on the headlights of your car? I’d never heard of them until a co-worker showed them to me yesterday. apparently they were on groupon and she was going to buy them.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
disco – I’ve seen those car eyelashes!! I wonder if Mabeline is going to get some! I’m going to ask her!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
have you all seen the eyelashes that you put on the headlights of your car?
I saw a thugged out car with a pair yesterday….
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
That has got to look fuggly, disco (fugged up and ugly).
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
Anyone on here try Plenty of Fish for dating?
Brownsugarvixen
May 23rd, 2012
3:48 pm
Lashes for the headlights are quite cute my boss has them on her Escalade. Too cute very much a reflection of her personality.
disco
May 23rd, 2012
3:50 pm
leggs – re article – as if a person who got cut with a sword would say “ouch”. lol.
I’ve never seen the carlashes on a car. she says they are really cute on girlie cars like beetles and minis.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:50 pm
@Bluz ~ I have re POF. Whatcha want to know?
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
3:52 pm
Just curious if you’ve had any luck on it…I just downloaded the app to my phone and am setting up a profile. Kind of nerve wracking to really be trying to get back in the dating world…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:54 pm
“Ouch” wouldn’t be one of the words coming out of my mouth. Not at all.
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
I know the check in my salon is probably curious why I’m always starring at her…lol Okay I’m a bit fixated. She’s sort of “thick” but she can pull it off. Tight jeans, see-thru shirts (everytime I’m there I can see it all), very very very short cut and lashes from her work station to the wall. I don’t think she’s the cutest thing in there nor the thinnest but for some reason she pulls it off. She’s a bit hoochie but I her style over some of the others. She’s is NOT ashamed or afraid to go for it. She pushes the envelope in every way. Maybe that’s why she can pull it off.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
Ummmm, here’s my take on POF…it’ seems to be mainly geared for white people. Sure there are black men on there as well. Went to two gatherings and everyone there was white. There are a lot of scary folk on POF because it’s free. That’s what made me go and pay for a subscription. Still jerks there too, but POF is swarming with them. Lots of talk, no follow up and many of those pics look like hillbillies or mug shots….
Remember, you get what you pay for!!!!
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
chck
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
3:59 pm
again…chick
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:00 pm
Not “fixated” like that…my gate swings one way for anyone misunderstanding my post…lol
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:01 pm
I ain’t gonna lie…I thought Plenty of Fish was a restaurant…I did…lol
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:03 pm
I think you’re thinking Supreme Fish, Celisea (lol).
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:05 pm
Leggs – I’ve never heard of that so I did….I thought Bluz was referring to a restaurant.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:08 pm
I believed you Celisea…it was cute since I knew it wasn’t a restaurant. I was kidding with Supreme Fish remark…Plenty of Fish, Supreme Fish.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:08 pm
LOL! That’s funny!
I’m not at all ready to pay for the online stuff. Would rather meet people in person…
Celisea....still digging William Levy, my "crossover"
May 23rd, 2012
4:09 pm
Leggs –
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:13 pm
@Bluz ~ they’re always having gatherings at the 57th Fighter’s Club (this is a restaurant). Next time one hit’s my email, I’ll let you know. I’ve never seen so many spastic dancing people in one place in a long time.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:15 pm
Please do…I’ve been to 57th once to eat and didn’t know they did any kind of social gatherings…
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:23 pm
Let me check my personal email and see if anything is there.
Leggs
May 23rd, 2012
4:34 pm
Ooops, just remembered I emptied out my inbox yesterday so now have to wait for the next invite. I will forward to you when it comes.
Bluzgirl
May 23rd, 2012
4:41 pm
Cool…thanks for checking
mitchell
May 23rd, 2012
11:42 pm
want to read some humorous takes on dating? check out http://www.howchristiansdate.com
Pat
May 24th, 2012
6:27 am
There is 10 years age difference and me and my spouse. We met when I was 20 and he 30 yrs. I’m happy to say we have been married for 28 yrs. Two things I can share that helped our relationship was my maturity and our love for Jesus Christ. It hasn’t been easy but, its worked for us and im still happily married and in love with him more now than before.