Dating: Do you like them enough?
If you are devoting all your free time to someone but you aren’t crazy about them, you are wasting time -theirs and yours. Single people do this all the time. To stave off boredom or loneliness, they selfishly bide their time until something better comes along.
The reality is that it doesn’t take a really long time to determine if you like someone enough to start a relationship with them. Men are especially adept at figuring this kind of thing out fairly quickly. Once they know, it’s only a matter of when they are ready to tell (and show) the woman that she is the “chosen one”.
How long does it take you to figure out if you like them enough to keep things going?
How can you avoid being someone’s “placeholder”? How can you tell when they like you enough?
HAPPY MONDAY!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:23 pm
Well, without knowing too much on the story, if buddy is making his rounds and trying to raise them all….kudos. Shame on him though for not stopping at a couple. I’m just saying.
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:25 pm
I guess the part that gets me is that there are only a few days per month that a woman can get pregnant. So he must have hit it with them XXXXX #’s of times to seed them…dayum. As far as the baby mamas…what can you say? 30 kids with a dumbazz set of parents…i don’t know. I feel for them, kids need parents they can learn from. Any lessons (or at least any examples) these parents teach is going to be the wrong one.
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
I just don’t have words….at all
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 21st, 2012
3:28 pm
Cel…there is only one way to raise that many kids….On a farm where you grow your own food and make your own clothes, othere than that….impossible.
kimmie
May 21st, 2012
3:28 pm
It was a dude like that that wrote in to the stawberry letter, though he didn’t have THAT many kids. Wasn’t it one that had like 10 at 19?
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:31 pm
Jake – I agree with you there. Even on a farm raising food and sewing clothes, that’s gotta be tough. He’s gonna get pulled thin for a loooong time. Whew, I DO NOT envy him not his babies’ mamas.
disco
May 21st, 2012
3:31 pm
I don’t know Tennessee dude but I believe it. heck, I’ve got a cousin who has I don’t know how many kids ranging in age from about 3 years up to around 30 years. what’s even more amazing is that a great number of these kids are named after my cousin. hypothetically we’ll call him “shawn”. there are dozens of shawntel, shawnique, marshawn, quashawn etc. out there. don’t know what he’s doing but the ladies LOVE LOVE LOVE him.
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:32 pm
I think the dude should get full custody of all 30. Talk about a wake up call. Better yet, relax the polygamy laws and make him marry all 11 women and have them move in together. He’d take a second/third/fourth job to afford a vasectomy.
Elijah
May 21st, 2012
3:33 pm
Hello Lady! How are you and the little one doing? Celisea YOU KNOW I will wait for your sexy,intelligent self….Yes I will
Leggs
May 21st, 2012
3:33 pm
When he had 21 kids and had to go to court for CS, he said he was done having children. He since had 9 more. At what point do these women not realize he has children, let alone, 12, 14, 22, 30???The women are as dumb as he is, if not more!
At what point did his representative stop showing up? Good Grief.
Brownsugarvixen
May 21st, 2012
3:34 pm
Wow this topic sounds like dejavu. I have a couple of girl friends kicking the dating rock right now because they refuse to take off the rose colored glasses and refuse to give up the lumber jack. Being 2nd, 3rd or even 4th in line gets old when you know you want/need so much more. Never really understood why its cool to hold on to people for superficial reasons. I’m just glad I move at my pace, it elminates thirsty vultures off the rip! Moving slow is just my speed, be honest or keep it real no time for games.
30 Kids – SMH. $1.49 made feed kids in a third world country for a month but not here in the States!!
kimmie
May 21st, 2012
3:38 pm
disco – Nobody’s stuff is THAT good, at least I’ve never come across it!LOL!!
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:38 pm
Elijah – Well I’m tired of waiting, need for that….COME AND GET ME
I don’t like a dude that’s all talk and no action. Celisea is waiting 
Okay, I’m kidding…lol
Randyt – LOL….that’s the best plan…give him custody of all the kids and let him work it out. Give the mamas visitation and tie their tubes.
kimmie
May 21st, 2012
3:40 pm
Unless he hits the lotto, those kids will never get much more than that $1.49 a month!
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:41 pm
I wonder if he just lays in the bed and they just form a line to climb on? i wonder how many HAVEN’T YET gotten pregnant that he is hitting? How many fertile women are left in Knox County. Dayum, I wonder if I should have a paternity check on my three kids (since all three were born in Knox County) since he hit every other woman. Dude single handedly increased the population of metro Knox County.
disco
May 21st, 2012
3:42 pm
kimmie – well if they all know each other they can run whatever little Tennessee town they live in. just imagine one of them threatening to get their brothers/sisters to help them fight. they ought to be able to whoop everybody. lol.
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:42 pm
Elijah – I don’t have a little one anymore…we’re heading toward 18 years of age. Anywhere you’d like to take Celisea on a getaway…since she’s positioned to step away from the kid now?
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:45 pm
That dude is going to wake up one morning and find out that he is his own father!!!
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
3:46 pm
I think the daddy should work about three jobs, get out of the system an drop if nothing else a couple hundred bucks to each mom….a month. That would fall right in line with making a way out of no way
i'm swiss
May 21st, 2012
3:48 pm
At this pace, it’s only a matter of time before this dude knocks up one of his own daughters.
disco
May 21st, 2012
3:52 pm
swiss – re one of his own daughters. we joke that my cousin is now hitting on the daughters/granddaughters of women he hit in years past. he is a grade A man whore and considering he’s not even 50 yet I’m guessing he’s got a lot of ho left in him.
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:53 pm
@ Im swiss…I know all of my children came with some work and an operation or two, not easy, all planned…I know you had issues also. Sure seems unfair that this dude can apparently walk through the city and women behind each door start swelling. Just seems unfair.
Brownsugarvixen
May 21st, 2012
3:54 pm
@SWISS – That would be the most horribe thing this guy could do.
Can’t even imagine siblings running into on another not knowing that they are related then hooking up! Unreal I don’t even want to think about it. Seeing this guy on the Maury show would take at least 6 to 7 episodes to just view all the results.
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
3:59 pm
Speaking of the Maury show (and wondering which one of the nine guys it “could have been” that that show displays sometimes), I wonder if he is just a chump and the baby mamas just pointing at him when others have been hitting and he is just getting the blame? Although I guess if I was a baby mama with multiple possibilities I guess I would choose one who has a real job.
disco
May 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
brownsugar – I doubt that his children don’t know they are related. seems like his business is wide open and seems like the type women that would have multiple children with him aren’t the type to be trying to pass said kids off on someone else. heck, you see they are cashing those $1 checks. I think the regular, run of the mill so-called upstanding gent is more likely to have an outside kid that his inside kids don’t know about.
i'm swiss
May 21st, 2012
4:01 pm
Randy — What’s really unfair is that stupid, irresponsible people like this dude AND each and every one of his baby mamas can continue sh!tting out kids that all of us end up having to pay for.
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
4:02 pm
I just bet those 11 baby mamas know each other as well. I would find it hard to believe that they don’t know each other. That’s just something wrong though getting babies in between one another…just wrong
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
4:10 pm
Yeah I know Im swiss, believe me I know.
And Celisea and disco, Knox County is not all that big…the odds of the offspring running in to each other is higher than you think. I’m sorry but I suspect that somewhere down the line, as I’m swiss suggested, the family tree may not have a fork in it. (Remember, I grew up in East Tennessee and have heard the “family tree doesn’t fork” jokes all my life.
Brownsugarvixen
May 21st, 2012
4:13 pm
@ Randyt – I wouldn’t be surprised if at least 5 or 6 of those kids are not his!!
@Disco – i most definitely agree with you. Even if this guy was the next Wesly Pipes or Mr. Marcus, there is no way I’d be lining up for $1 a month child support checks. I know baby mama #1 has to be floored that this man had all those kids. If I was her I’d have to write a book, do a reality tv show, a play something! LOL
Randyt (what can one say)
May 21st, 2012
4:13 pm
Oh well, I’m going to work out (and not the same way that dude does). Night y’all.
Celisea....life is good :)
May 21st, 2012
4:13 pm
Randyt – I’m a believer. Heck I wouldn’t doubt if they’re all getting together. Something ain’t right in taking you turn for getting babies….WITH THE SAME DUDE Yes, they know one another
SlimNu
May 21st, 2012
4:14 pm
That’s just plain crazy!!!!!! Just because a man can spit out seeds without any thought doesn’t mean he has to plant them in every pair of legs he comes into contact wtih. He may need to look into donating them seeds at a sperm bank to supplement his income. Take what he does best and make some $$$. Obviously he’s fertile as hell
disco
May 21st, 2012
4:14 pm
randy – and that’s exactly why I’m not as concerned that the kids don’t know each other. if anything I’m leaning toward the fact that they do know each other and like C said, the momma’s know each other. they are all one big happy family.
DreamsMaterialize
May 21st, 2012
4:15 pm
That dude needs to move to the Mormon compound with all his kids and the mothers. Put all their asses to work.
SlimNu
May 21st, 2012
4:18 pm
He could use a week spent with the Duggar family to see how it all should work…
i'm swiss
May 21st, 2012
4:21 pm
The Duggars… Ughhh… I’d like to b!tch slap them and the Octomom, too. I really think it’s a form of psychosis to want that d@mn many kids.
Leggs
May 21st, 2012
4:39 pm
If you have to b!tch slap anyone, Octomom should get first dibs. At least the Duggars sew their own clothes, plant their own food, have jobs and other things to sustain themselves. Oh, and having a reality show definitely helps with the expenses.
kimmie
May 21st, 2012
4:41 pm
I’m with you Swiss about the Duggars & Octomom. They are all weird and sick.