Relationships: Should you police your mate?
I was listening to Q100’s The Bert Show and they were discussing a couple’s argument: The man is not allowed to watch porn or go to strip clubs, but his wife is all into the racy novel Shades of Gray. (Apparently this book is explicit and sexy and full of naughty naughty things)
The man felt as if there was some kind of double standard at play. If he can’t enjoy adult movies or go to a strip club, why should she get a pass to read explicit content like Shades of Gray? What do you think? Is it the same thing?
I wondered how any woman can forbid or limit her partner’s access to adult movies. Isn’t that a little controlling in the context of a relationship?
Does your partner have a right to control or police your freedom to do what tickles your fancy?
Guys, what would you do if your woman asked/told/ordered you to stay away from certain explicit things? Would you comply? (For the sake of discussion, let’s assume there are no addiction issues involved.)
Happy Friday!
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229 comments Add your comment
Lily
May 18th, 2012
7:01 am
I’ll go ahead and answer…..NO! Anything you have a problem with, you can only ask. You cannot demand. He or she is an adult. If there are things you are displeased with or cannot tolerate, whether or not to stay may be in order but mandating adults? Not likely.
single and happy
May 18th, 2012
7:11 am
My answer is, I’m a GAM (Grow A** Man) and if you bring it up again, you can get to stepping!! Just the mere thought that you’re able to tell a grown person what they should and shouldn’t not do because you don’t like it, is crazy!
Long Legs of the Law
May 18th, 2012
7:48 am
No, I don’t “police” my man, but we do enjoy using handcuffs on one another.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
8:24 am
Enter your comments here
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
9:06 am
Oops, meant to say Good morning. I’m feeling much better today after being on the sick and shut in list the last few days…
On topic: I would not try to police a SO’s desire to watch adult movies or go to a strip club unless it was something done excessively that interfered or caused issues in the relationship…i.e…spending excessive amounts of money in the strip club or having the need to go several times a week as opposed to every now and then….I don’t have an issue with the dude watching movies, unless he’s actually having cyber sex, chatting or whatever with other folks. To me, everything just needs to be done in moderation.
lolalee
May 18th, 2012
9:07 am
Same answer as always: relationship require understanding and compromise. You have to find the balance that works for both people. Neither can “order” the other to do anything, but both should be self motivated to want to find middle ground that they can both live with. It doesn’t matter whether it’s cleaning the house or watching port, the same principals apply.
lolalee
May 18th, 2012
9:09 am
*porn, not port… unless one had an excessive love of boats
Buford T. Justice
May 18th, 2012
9:22 am
I got news for you. Women will always, ALWAYS turn from French Poodle to Pit Bull once they feel they are secure (i.e. engaged or married). Old friends are out (They are a bad influence), familiar haunts are out (we are a couple and should do couple things only), guys night out are off the list (you will get into trouble/I’ll call you every hour or call me when you leave to go somewhere else), when you get through working out/playing sports, come straight home (no dilly dallying). My first marriage was like that and, admittedly, I fell into the trap and “obeyed” (hell, I just wanted peace and quiet around the house). But once I developed a backbone (coincidentally it was about the same time I also decided I didn’t give a rat’s behind about her), she kept flying off the handle until I gave her the walking papers. From now on, any relationship that I feel that sort of thing developing, I’ll just head out that much more. I respect you and you respect me. I trust you to go out with the girls, go on weekend trips with the girls and watch whatever movie, media, etc. you want and you do the same for me. It’s called respect, trust and consideration for each other. You are my girlfriend, fiance or wife. Not my warden, law enforcement office or Mom. End of discussion.
Celisea
May 18th, 2012
9:29 am
Buford T. Justice – Thanks for the laugh this morning. I am ca-racking up…lol
(you will get into trouble/I’ll call you every hour or call me when you leave to go somewhere else
Not the “you will get into trouble…..” I needed that with my morning coffee
Elijah
May 18th, 2012
9:32 am
Good Morning All! Hope all is well everyone….. Please by all means continue with the clown jokes and skits.
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
9:43 am
Morning All!!
Nobody can “forbid” or “police” a grown a– anyone to do or not do anything!! If you have a problem with your partner doing something, you can discuss your feelings about it, try to deal with it and if you can’t, get to stepping. Those are your legitimate options. But, I think you are setting yourself and the relationship up for failure if you stress things that have not reached the point of destruction and/or addiction. I think the old “forbidden fruit” syndrome will set in and the whole thing might blow up bigger than it would have if you’d just chilled about the whole thing. A racy book, movie, strip club – I mean really, why give things like that more power than they deserve. You might find if you shrug such stuff off, all the while making sure you’re holding up your own end at home by keeping the fires burning, that other stuff may lose it’s appeal.
It’s all how you handle things. I never lose my cool.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
9:47 am
Grown men/women shouldn’t be controlled, ordered, or policed unless they are in prison.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
9:50 am
Daaaamn Buford, that bad huh? I’ve never been that kind of girl.
disco
May 18th, 2012
9:53 am
kimmie – I don’t know if I admire or resent those of you that manage to keep your cool. I’ve gone off because a guy ordered pizza from the wrong place. in general I don’t think you should attempt to forbid a grown person from doing anything (not to say you can’t strongly suggest that they don’t – lol.) I don’t think I’d be able to easily take the phrase “you bet not” out of my vocabulary though. I find I say that a lot.
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
10:05 am
disco – Sometimes it’s a passive-aggressive move. It drives folks that are more reactionary crazy too. I got to be a master at it when dating. There is no greater satisfaction that to see someone THINK they are playing you for a fool and THINK they have you off balance and about to go off find you just sitting back, chilling! They don’t know if it’s the calm before the storm, if you really just don’t give a da– or what!! I’m really not a lot of dudes cup of tea and I know it. I’m not predictable.
My hubs is super cool. In fact, he has me beat. Even with the kids, when they are complaining about something he’ll say “Sure hate that for ya”, “It’s nice to want things” or “It’s not open for discussion”. Never even raises his voice. They sit down and shut up!
Sometimes I think all that “cool” in one house might be a bit much. The one that just might break may be me!LOL!!
czBrat
May 18th, 2012
10:12 am
Should you police your mate?
just huh?
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
10:16 am
Good morning.
I sure thought more comments would be made by this time. Of course no grown a person needs to be policed. If so, you’re with the wrong person and someone hasn’t grown up yet.
I think his double standard stance is valid. She will not allow any form of porn from the old Forum semi-smut magazine to Playboy. 50 Shades is an explicit book on sex that appears to get one hot and bothered. She’s sitting in her corner getting moist and bothered and starts to fantasize. If she’s not taking that sexual angst out with her husband, then yeah he needs to ban her as well.
Tag
May 18th, 2012
10:28 am
It will never work. Double standards do exist. Men try and police women and they’ll have 6,836 ladies viewpoints as to how he is a total jerk and shouldn’t have the honor of being with you. Women police men and she is standing up for herself and taking a stand against any percieved boorish behavior that apparantly all men have. Surely SHE wouldn’t have any bad habits or tendancies! It just depends whether either have the backbone to draw a line in the sand and stick to your guns (also withstand the verbal onslaught) or if you just want to keep some peace in the house. Come to think of it, why is the stereotype for women to do all of the rule stating? I’m sure there are men that try to do it, but they usually wind up on Oprah for a tongue lashing. Oh well, it is what it is….
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
10:29 am
I’d go to the strip club with him!
My ex seemed to think I was trying to control him. I wasn’t…I was setting bounderies for what I would and would not put with. I never forbid him from doing things, but I would get angry when he went out and ended up drinking so much that he had to sleep in his car or under a tree! He tried to say that I forbid him from doing things and I called him out and said that I NEVER said he couldn’t do things. He just couldn’t keep his drinking under control when he went out so I really didn’t want him to go without me. When he would tell people that I was trying to control his drinking and “making” him get a job, they all sided with me because they knew how he was with the drinking and he wasn’t working and I was supporting him! Anyway…it’s a moot point now because I kicked him to the curb! I can see how he thought I was trying to control him, but in reality, I was trying to get him to see the consequences to his actions.
O/T…I’m a little bummed today. My British Doctor (guess I’ll call him Dr. Brit from now on) can’t make it to Charleston next weekend. The flights are OUTRAGEOUS!!! Even flying into Atlanta is about $600! Oh well…he promised he’ll come to Atlanta soon. We can always do Charleston on a non-holiday weekend also.
czBrat
May 18th, 2012
10:29 am
knee jerk reaction was that this is ridikulous, but i have to admit i actually did this. some of you may recall i’ve told how s/o’s “best” female friend was incredibly disrespectful to me the first time she and i met. i had a feeling there was some history there that no one was fessing up to.
well, after about a year together (and her behavior getting no better), i finally had to give him the “you need to stop f*cking with that chick until she learns to respect me, or you both can get the hell outta my line of sight!” routine. he opted to drop the so-called friendship.
i prayed/slept on it and told him he really is free to maintain friendships with anyone he pleases. my expectation is that if either of them is interested in something more, you voluntarily end the friendship or the relationship.
so yeah, i guess there was some momentary policing going on there, but i didn’t stick to it.
i’ve raised my kids. i’m not into making folks’ life choices for them anymore.
HiYas!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
10:32 am
“The flights are OUTRAGEOUS!!!” Ummmm, ummmm, WOW.
abc
May 18th, 2012
10:33 am
Policing shouldn’t be necessary. They should want to voluntarily comply with each others wishes out of respect for each other and their marriage.
As far as explicit Adult materials go, they should be avoided anyway. They don’t bring positive value to anything, including trash such as that book.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
10:36 am
I wouldn’t consider that “policing” czB. You have to protect the balance in your relationship, and if another is upsetting the equilibrium, only natural to speak on it. You gave him the facts. He had free will to form a viable solution that suited both his and your needs (lol).
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
10:42 am
I also had a situation with my ex where his best female friend disrespected me. I didn’t forbid him to be friends with her, but I sure made it difficult. She hurt me pretty bad and took 6 months to give me an “apology.” It was definitely a forced apology, laced with back handed compliments. He got to where he didn’t talk to her anymore. Once we broke up, they became close friends again. Fine with me.
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
10:46 am
Morning All,
Moderation, Respect and consideration when in a relationship. When you attempt to ban something then I think all 3 go out the window only to be replaced by excessiveness, distrust and control.
With that being said I can’t recall anything that I’m banned from doing. However, I have banned weave for the Wifey and hair beads for my girls. Hahaha
Sal
May 18th, 2012
10:47 am
Ummm…I just got in trouble last night for calling my wife a “fuddy duddy” (in a playful tone). She was telling me that I needed to be more direct with my ex as to when she was coming to town this weekend to drop off the kids. I told her that she didn’t know because she had some stuff to tend to and didn;t know when she would be able to make it to town. She called me a “push over” and said that I should be more assertive. She admits she has “controlling” tendancies (she’s VP at her company). When she gets that way with me about what I’m doing and where i’m going, I always say “Hey, you don’t see the name “insert her company name” written on my shirt!” She is a strong woman and that’s great, but needs to learn people won’t just drop their pants and stand at attention when she makes a declaration. You take the good with the bad…… By the way, I didn’t know I was in trouble until this morning when she wouldn’t speak to me…lol
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
10:48 am
@Bluz ~ please believe they never stopped being friends.
disco
May 18th, 2012
10:51 am
that’s interesting bluz. me, myself, personally – if a friend kicked me to the curb for a s/o and it didn’t work with the s/o would I welcome the return of the friendship? casual acquaintance type friend – heck no. later for them. real friend with background – it’s actually happened. I told them about themselves and we picked up right where we left off. I can’t deny though that it makes you realize what’s really up. a lot of folks have friends as placeholders until they finally get their mate.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
10:51 am
Bluz sorry to hear Dr. Brit unable to see you.
Leggs I’ve heard of that book, it’s suppose to make a person hot and bothered?
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
10:53 am
Leggs…I’m sure they didn’t stop being friends. It just wasn’t in my face anymore. I look back and it says a lot about him for remaining friends with someone who disrespected me like she did and he didn’t stick up for me. I wouldn’t have had that if the shoe was on the other foot. Then again, I don’t have friends who would have been so disrespectful to my S/O. It’s one thing to share concerns, but to call bad names…heck no!!!
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
10:54 am
Leggs – I was thinking the same that they never stopped being friends!
Bluz – Hate to be negative, but watch that “flights are too expensive” excuse too. Just sayin.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
10:55 am
disco…If a friend kicked me to the curb because of an s/o, I really don’t think I would welcome him/her back after they break up. Even if it’s an old friend. I don’t let people disrespect me.
czBrat
May 18th, 2012
10:56 am
disco, your 10:51 is exactly why leggs’ 10:48 makes perfect sense.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
10:56 am
Leggs I’m not interested in reading it, just heard all the hype. Can’t remember the last time I held a book much less read one.
disco
May 18th, 2012
10:56 am
kimmie – since you went there I’ll piggy back it. I don’t buy the flights excuse/reason for the simple fact that he already gassed her up on the weekend. he should have already checked flights before he said he’d meet her there. sounds like some fraggle naggle bull to me.
Dr. Ruth
May 18th, 2012
10:57 am
50 Shades if Gray is really a great series of books, if it’s your cup of tea. Right now, all three books in the series occupy #1, 2 and 3 on the NY Best Sellers List. I’ve heard funny commentary on radio stations where women say it “saved their marriage” and all sorts of other funny stuff. It is designed for the woman’s poitn of view (hence the label “mommy porn”), but I’ve heard a lot of men are getting into the act. It’s a fantasy world where women can live out some other fantasy that they would never be able to in the real world. I have to say it’s one hot book! Check out the SNL skit on youtube. It’s a hoot!
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
10:57 am
kimmie…I looked up the flights and they really are expensive. It’s too much money to spend for just a 3 day weekend. $600 to fly into Atlanta and over $1000 to fly into Charleston from Connecticut. He did just get back from England on Sunday (was there on business, then his mom died, so he stayed a couple of extra weeks). I really don’t expect him to spend that much to come see me at this point.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
10:58 am
@BF ~ supposedly the book is causing many to be more than hot and bothered. Sex lives are improving across America (lol).
ok, kimmie, get out of my head!!
Yeah, I think it’s an excuse as well.
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
11:00 am
Bluz – Okay. I thought he had the trip booked already.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
11:02 am
Appreciate the insight Leggs and Dr. Ruth.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:03 am
No…he thought about coming while he was still in England, so he waited until he got home to look up flights. It’s too bad, but it’s all good. I’m disappointed, but this way, I can relax with my best friend and not have to be “on” all weekend.
disco
May 18th, 2012
11:03 am
bluz – I really don’t play it with the chicks who have a new man every other month. they aren’t serious about their relationships and I’m not either. then, on the flip side, I’ve had a couple of friends get married and fall off. I just had to understand it and accept it. same friends got separated/divorced and things went right back as they were before the marriage.
leggs/kimmie – see that’s the problem with us. we’re just too cynical.
DreamsMaterialize
May 18th, 2012
11:10 am
Morning
I don’t have time to “police” other grown folks, and they damn sure won’t be doing it to me. If there’s something you just love to do, please don’t let me get in the way. Just be honest, so I can decide what my next move is.
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
11:15 am
disco – I guess you’re right about being cynical.
Carry on Bluz! Yeah, nothing like chilling with your friends! I’m meeting my 2 main buddies from college tomorrow & can’t wait. We always have a blast, never stopped after all these years.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:15 am
disco…I know that I’ve been guilty of not being around my friends for the first 6 months of a relationship or so, but after the “newness” wears off, you have to rebuild those friendships. Guys may come and go, but friends can be forever. I do have a “friend” who has been in a relationship for over 2 years with this control freak and has dropped me and a few of her close, long time friends. I stuck around for a while, but then gave up. I saw her recently and we talked and I told her that I was hurt that she just dropped me when I didn’t do anything wrong and she apologized and we talked about going to dinner or drinks to try to catch up and rekindle the friendship and I haven’t heard a peep from her. I’m not chasing after her…
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
11:15 am
Ladies I don’t think you all are being cynical. Just plain spoken. Honestly without trying to be rude or mean I can see Bluz being a candidate for someone’s team.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:16 am
Trying to talk my mom into going to Charleston with me also. She’s had a lot of health issues lately and she really is my best friend. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that she’ll go. I think she was more willing when we thought Dr. Brit was going! She wanted to check him out! LOL
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
11:26 am
I don’t know, thinking back as me & my friends got older we didn’t “hang out” as much as we did in and right after college anyway. A few moved away and everyone just got into their lives, whether you had a man or not. We talked pretty regular on the phone, and even that was not an every day or even every week thing. How ever often we did talk or see each other, we always picked right up where we left off. Marriages, divorces, kids, death, careers – life just happens and you work around and within that. Don’t know what I’d have done all these years without any of them.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
11:28 am
I wouldn’t have expected him to come to see me at all just returning from England and his mother recently passing.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:31 am
Leggs…I didn’t really expect it. He wanted a nice getaway and this was a good opportunity for it. I just hoped I’d get to see him. If it’s meant to be, we will see each other soon. I’m not putting all of my eggs into his basket, though!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
11:34 am
Leggs your 11:28 seem to be a logical way to think rather than believe the man is pulling rabbits out of his hat.
disco
May 18th, 2012
11:41 am
BF – yeah yeah yeah. but the man had a part in discussing all of these tentative plans. getting bluz’ hopes all up. heck, getting my hopes all I up. I was about to have a vicarious weekend in Charleston with a doctor. lol.
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
11:47 am
Does anyone have anything cool planned this weekend? Atl will be open with a lot going on.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:49 am
disco…I know, right?!?! It will happen one day!!!
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
11:50 am
The doubt is a benefit you don’t get until you’ve proven you’re on the up and up. Unless there’s a death, something up with your kid if you have any, or you’re in the hospital, I stopped cutting guys any slack in the beginning. I just found myself making too many excuses for them and my mom and aunt and dear friends would point it out to me. Once I took a good hard look at it, I realized they were right. Those dudes had me right where they wanted me. I was making all kinds of excuses that in the end were not anywhere near what was really going on. So yeah, I got what some might call a little more cynical and less trusting in the beginning. Dudes had to earn my trust and the benefit of the doubt.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
11:50 am
LOL…..disco I can see it Bluz go to the restroom come back, Dr. Brit is gone.
Charleston is a beautiful ocean side city. With their guns drawn I was almost attacked by the MP’s at Charleston Air Force Base for loitering.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
11:50 am
“he thought about coming while he was still in England, so he waited until he got home to look up flights.”
I may be all late with this, but him thinking about it was never a “yes” he was coming. Also, he didn’t have access to a computer while in England to book the flight while there? Just asking because location doesn’t matter where you book…just the “to” an “fro” determines the price.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:52 am
I’ve gotta help a friend with a yardsale tomorrow…yuck! Then, I have two meetings on Sunday!
disco
May 18th, 2012
11:55 am
bluz – yuck nothing. you might want to do a quick inventory at home tonight. those yard sales bring I some fast cash.
O/T – why do some folks think it’s okay to blow their noses any old place? would it kill a person to excuse themselves and, at the very least, step away from folks.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Auburn Festival this weekend!!
LeeH1
May 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Absolutely! She is a grown, controlling and demanding woman! She can get anything she wants and demand anything she wants until the guy leaves.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
11:58 am
@disco ~ I’m a stickler on the nose blowing too. I never blow my nose at a table, my desk in front of people if I can help it. Always get up and find myself an empty corner or hallway.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
11:58 am
BF…don’t be mean! LOL!!!
Leggs…he had enough to think about while in England. His mom’s funeral was last Thursday, the day he said he would come meet me. I’m sure he had a lot of loose ends to tie up before coming back to the states. I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt. Now…if he makes plans and cancels the next time, then I’ll really question it. For now, it’s cool. I’m not ready for anything too real anyways, so I’m not heartbroken that he’s not coming. Just a little bummed…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
11:59 am
I was there last Saturday, they expect to top over 300k. I’m sure it will be shoulder to shoulder again this weekend.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
12:00 pm
disco…that’s true…maybe I can find a few things to sell. This is the fiance of my friend who passed, so she’s trying to make money to get a place to live (house in foreclosure next month). I just know it’s gonna be some hard work. I’m spending the night with her tonight so we can get up early and get to work. It’s just gonna be a long day
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:05 pm
Blowing a nose at will in public is not an entittlement. I will tolerate a child but a grown ass need to go somewhere secluded when they do that.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:05 pm
Got it, Bluz!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:07 pm
“if he makes plans and cancels the next time, then I’ll really question it. ” – No need to question it, you’ll have your answer. No holes to fill….
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
12:09 pm
I cannot stand when people blow their nose in public. I can understand a little wipe if it’s urgent, but excuse yourself to the bathroom to do the full on blow!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
This gets to me when somebody do it at the dinner table. People (shouldn’t) expell gas at the table why blow your nose. They can find restroom like the rest of us.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:12 pm
No to the policing.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
12:12 pm
True dat Leggs!
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
This dude at work, has to be nearing or in his 60s, told me he had a souvenir to give me. A few days ago, he hands me this little velvet bag just big enough to fit a Delta Air Lines key chain in. (He is a Delta employee.) Tucked alongside the key chain was a note, asking me out to a Braves game and giving me his number. #LordWhyMe
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
Yeah, BF, those two things you should never do, along with pick your nose.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
Re: Weekend plans…I’m going to tackle this head, then I have a last meeting with the other ladies helping to plan my besties baby shower since we’re two weeks away. I also, got an invite to go to church with my play-mom and I may try to hit up the movies at some point. (I’m playing it all by ear based on how I feel though) I know I’m ready to get up out of this camp (work) soon.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:15 pm
SC – C’mon, you gotta give the guy props for his creativity
I just wonder how many of those little key chains & invites he gives out on a daily basis lol
disco
May 18th, 2012
12:16 pm
SCool – I don’t know what to think. should you be flattered he asked you out or annoyed that, technically, he didn’t ask you out? that’s almost like the elementary note of check the box if you like me.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
A day or so later, a different dude asked me to lunch.
Dude: You should let me take you to lunch one day.
Me: Oh, I’m flattered but I can’t even let you spend your money on me.
Dude: Why not? It would be my pleasure. You’re a very pretty lady.
Me: I’m also very engaged.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:21 pm
disco – I’m more annoyed than anything else.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:22 pm
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
“the elementary note of check the box if you like me”.
This bring back memories, around second, third grades I put a lot these notes out there and none were ever returned…….LOL
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
Leggs – hahahah, that is like a guy putting his hook in a fish someone else caught and taking the ‘big fish’ picture of himself holding it up. :lol
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
You are pretty so expect men crossing the boundary line…they love to do that.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:24 pm
Yousa fool, BF! Pretty sure your height scared many of the little girls off.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:24 pm
Two nights ago, I went to Kroger to get M some Tussin. (Him sick)
This dude started following me around the store, trying to hit on me. I told him I am engaged. he offered to give me his number anyway- “just in case thangs don’t work out wit’ ya fiancé.”
I declined. #JesusTakeTheWheel
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:25 pm
Yep, SlimNu!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:27 pm
LOL…..I could go for a sixth grader when I was in the third.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:27 pm
A buncha old a$$ dudes at that.
cba
May 18th, 2012
12:28 pm
Okay, I’ll go first and pass around the virtual collection plate to get Bluz some help. I think she’s a really good girl with a big heart but she might be alittle vunerable at the moment. Hey Bluz, it’s all in luv
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:29 pm
Many don’t care if you’re engaged or married. They want you, even briefly.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
@SexyC ~ yep yep!! Penis pumps and all…
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
Here’s my $100 donation, cba!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:34 pm
cba here’s my tithe I like helping people “if” I can. It’s all love Bluz.
disco
May 18th, 2012
12:35 pm
cba – I can offer moral support but I can’t be giving up my money (not even imaginary money). now when the blog bar opens, maybe, just maybe, I’ll buy her a drink. lol.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:35 pm
Damn Leggs a C-note, cool.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
Any dude coming at you when you’ve advised that you’re already with someone, only wants you for a brief moment. In For Real’s case, it would only be for 23.0000085 seconds
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
LOL…….@imaginary money
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
Leggs – What is the exchange rate of blog money to REAL money?
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
12:39 pm
Guess I must be a nut case to be trying to get back out in the dating world after coming off of a heartbreak. Maybe I should just crawl into a hole and not ever trust another man again?
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:39 pm
Anyone know why Tia Mowry isn’t going to be back for the next season of The Game? I missed that…
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
12:39 pm
Community garden work and if the weather is nice a crab boil on Saturday for me.
KizzyCool – get used to it. You will have Dudes hitting on you period. You are certified grade A sexy and that is all it takes.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
12:40 pm
$100 in Blogsville is 50 U.S. Dollars. We all know Blogsville is out of this world so money doesn’t have the same value!
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:40 pm
Exactly, SlimGoody…
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:42 pm
There is a new “how to get a man to marry you” book out. It’s called “The Ring Formula.”
First piece of advice – know how to cook.
(lol)
cba
May 18th, 2012
12:43 pm
come on disco, show some love for a fellow sista
Now BF you know Leggs is all about helping out….from her, C-note was expected
disco
May 18th, 2012
12:43 pm
leggs – 50 cents on the dollar? that’s the food stamp exchange rate.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
WillieD – the thing is, once I politely deflect, keep it moving.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
Bluz, no you’re not a nut case and you can’t do that crawl in a hole. Take it from me I live under a bridge, what you can do is dust yourself take a little break and get back out there. Time heals.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
12:48 pm
that’s the food stamp exchange rate
disco – Puhleaze don’t let Tammi from Basketball Wives show hear you say that. HOLLERS
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
12:50 pm
If you can’t find a man to date you like you want to, date your-damn-self. Once you get happy with you, for yourself and by yourself, the right relationship will happen for you.
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
12:51 pm
SC – even for Old playas you worth at least a couple of shots. Hahaha
disco
May 18th, 2012
12:52 pm
slim – I don’t watch the show. what’s up with her and the exchange rate?
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
1:00 pm
I’m trying to put myself back out there. It’s been over 3 months and I’m ready to move forward. I don’t want anything serious…just to go out and have fun! I don’t need a collection to get me help…
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:02 pm
Bluz…how old are you?
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
1:04 pm
32
For Real
May 18th, 2012
1:06 pm
“I don’t want anything serious…just to go out and have fun!” – Bluzgirl allow me to reintroduce myself ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:08 pm
You’re at an age where you *should* be dating dudes that are only worth wanting something serious with. I would caution against dating “just for fun” unless you are going to be celibate – especially since you seem to be in recovery from something.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
1:14 pm
I plan to be celibate while I date. I don’t want to jump right into a relationship after the last one. I do need some time for me, but I would like to go out and have fun. Dr. Brit is actually someone I see a possible future with…I’m a little relieved he can’t come next weekend because I’m afraid of that right now. I just want to live life and who knows…I could meet someone I’m just trying to have fun with and it turns out to be the “one”
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:19 pm
If you set the ground rules of a new relationship of one where “you just want to have fun”, it can be awfully difficult to transition your partner into a “serious relationship” mindset once you decide he is “the One.” So, if you really mean to just have fun, you should keep it to yourself.
And just one more thought, there are a ton of ways to have fun in life that do not involve dating.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
1:22 pm
Bottom line is that most women are manipulative, vindictive little creatures. They will take every opportunity to tell you what they expect from you, but God forbid you need something from them. I can’t hang with my boys any more, no female friends under any circumstance, keep my distance from female coworkers. I got in trouble one evening because I opened a door for a group of women who were walking into the movie theater behind us. My girl withheld sex for two weeks because of that. WTF? She has male friends who she claims are gay, so she uses that as an excuse to hang out with them. But you can bet your sweet behind if I had a female friend who was a lesbian, my girl would go nuts, she would claim I’m only hanging with her because I have a fantasy of two women together. Double standards run rampant in any relationship with a woman, she thinks she can call the shots because she controls the sex. Guess what, keep withholding and see where that lands you sweetheart, dumped is an understatement. So tired of women who act like girls, grow the hell up and have some respect. I don’t cheat, I don’t flirt, I don’t even look at most women (yes I ocassionally look, we all do)…but it’s just not enough. She has to control my every waking moment, and she wonders why we argue. Well guess what, just talked myself out of my current relationship, serving up the walking papers tonight. I’m done. I’d rather be alone than be manipulated.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:22 pm
Better yet, don’t mention the word “food stamps” around Tammi. Her anger management therapy session is working to an extent. Next, keep beer and shots away from her cuz whatever she’s learned is down the drain.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:24 pm
Eric – your person sounds controlling and insecure. I would walk away from that as well, tossing out a suggestion that she get some counseling as I slam the door.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:27 pm
Sore topic with Tammi if you look down on food stamps. She had to rely on them for a spell.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:28 pm
Legs – How is ARed doing?
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:28 pm
I don’t need a collection to get me help…
See these are the people who need it the most. Like the guy coming out the bar walking the zig zag walk to his car…I is not drunk is.
Seriously, Bluz, you are in a lot of pain!
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:29 pm
OMG! It smells like someone just heat up a 200lb Sardine in the microwave!!!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:30 pm
I plan to be celibate while I date – Really, picking up clowns and kissing then heading to waffle house is not a good start.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
1:31 pm
Did I sleep with the clown? Nope! Did I even think about it? No. Was it nice to be kissed? Yes.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:35 pm
Eric Damn, you might just hold the blog record for sharing a complaint about a current SO, then coming to your own plan of action all before anyone has time to finish reading your post.
At least let us know how the break up went on Monday.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:36 pm
SexyC ~ havent’ spoken to her in a few months. Let me check.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:37 pm
Give her my regards.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:38 pm
Leggs – WOW! That was a hard truth right there.
Blu – I don’t want to rag on you but you do seem a bit vulnerable right now in search of a pick-me-up/ego stroke a lift of esteem and we’ve all been there. (Some are right there right now) However, try to tread carefully as to not make bad decisions. Your wound hasn’t even really gotten a hard scab on it yet. You’ve got to take that band aid off that you keep trying to cover it with so the air can allow it to heal. It’s hard to heal if you keep scraping your knee in the same place. Just be careful dear and have fun
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:39 pm
No sweat, Bluz! We all know how glad you are you didn’t sleep with him. I’m glald you didn’t sleep with him too.
For Real
May 18th, 2012
1:42 pm
Why does she have to be celibate? If she is a poor decision maker taking sex off the table will do absolutely nothing for decision making skills. “So, if you really mean to just have fun, you should keep it to yourself.” – This put an image in my mind of Bluzgirl screaming at Mr. Wilson for leaving the toilet seat up.
For Real now picturing Eric talking to his sock puppet after reading his post.
Slim that’s not Sardine you smell it’s chicken drizzled with Sardine juice.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:43 pm
I will SexyC.
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
1:44 pm
Bluz seems like she would be unable to separate the emotion from the act. Once emotions get involved, it’s not “just for fun” anymore.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:46 pm
ForReal ~ she has to be celibate simply because she said she was going to be…we didn’t tell her to.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:49 pm
For Real – I don’t care what it is but it’s making everyone gag! Someone sprayed air freshner now it smells like sweet, funky, rotten tuna doused in Kim Khardasian puddy juice
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:50 pm
smells like vagina under a Captain D’s heating lamp
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
Slim1……..LOL sardines were not made to be heated or cooked, call ServPro so they can fix it like it never even happened.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
1:54 pm
Dang, SlimNu ~ why you put that aroma in the universe..feel like Iike I’m in a scratch and sniff magazine. UGGGH
For Real
May 18th, 2012
1:57 pm
“Bluz seems like she would be unable to separate the emotion from the act.” – If she can’t separate the emotion of sex how can she separate the emotions from her breakup period but we know she can separate her emotions because she does it everyday at work. So, if she can do it there she can do it anywhere. Bluz you can DO ITTTTT!!!!!!! How’s 8pm tonight?
“vagina under a Captain D’s heating lamp” – Too freakin funny!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
1:58 pm
Khardashian juice. y’all need to evacuate the building.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
1:58 pm
Sorry yall but I have to sit here and be tortured by it for a whole nother hour
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:04 pm
That was funny, ForReal. Very clever. So was Khardashian’s juice. Her father would put all her sheninigans to a halt!!! I think…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
When everyone is out the demolition team need to go to work and destroy the building. The NRC can come and check for radiation, while y’all relocate to a new facility.
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
SCool – Hey sister!! Looks like your ring radar is working!! Folks love to come out of the wordworks from every where when you’re spoken for! If you were actually open to meeting someone and going out, you couldn’t buy a date! Life is crazy like that. That was kinda cute what the Delta dude did – lame but cute!LOL!!!
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
2:06 pm
BF – lol funny…But for real though, there was a brief message from theEmergency broadcasting system warning of the potential danger if one was to come in contact with the fumes lol
disco
May 18th, 2012
2:08 pm
people who re-heat seafood at work are just plain disrespectful.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
2:11 pm
A one mile radius is warranted when Khardashian juice make contact with the ground. Nothing will grow in that area from now on, no birds flying over in the air space. Y’all can rename it Dead City, GA.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:14 pm
For Real…you crazy! LOL
I think right now I can keep the emotions separate, but I don’t even want to attempt it. I know that I’m still healing and have more work to do on myself. I just want to get back out there and date…not get in a relationship right away. My previous relationships started out as immediate relationships. I never have really dated around.
I had decided already that if Dr. Brit did meet me next weekend, I wasn’t going to give it up yet. I do like him and want to do this right. Since he’s long distance, I have time to see where it will go. In the meantime, I’m keeping my options open.
I can honestly say after a previous breakup when I was younger, I went buck wild…which is why I decide to stay celibate for a while. I’m not counting the one nighter with the hot army guy, though! That was just for fun and I don’t care that I haven’t heard from him. It was what it was. A girl does have some needs!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:16 pm
That a good one, BF. Dead City GA.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:17 pm
That’s a…
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
2:21 pm
BF – We have a live Contagion situation going on lol Maybe this will be the new Area 151
Blu – A girls does have needs which is why there is a store there for you to take care of those needs…that is unless you’re an old fashion girl who likes to take matters into her own hands.
And question…you said you had decided you weren’t going to give it up yet if yall did meet in SC…um…so that was an actual possibility??? Already to where you had to physically DECIDE that??? Have you ever seen that movie “Something about Mary”? Maybe you need to knock a few out before any dates you have in the near future…that’ll help keep your mind clear lol
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:22 pm
I just want to get back out there and date…not get in a relationship right away. – I don’t understand this line of thinking. If that’s the case, then date yourself. If you don’t want to date, then ask someone to be your companion for the evening when you want to go someplace. Dating involves emotions.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:24 pm
Slim…it was a thought because we’d be staying in the same place and probably having drinks. He’s so good looking and I may have given in, but I told myself that I wouldn’t do that with him. I know myself too well! LOL!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:26 pm
@SlimNu ~ girl, girl, from the window to the wall….
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:27 pm
Maybe I should say that I want to find interesting men to hang out with? I am open to it turning into more with the right person, but I keep settling too quickly for the wrong person. I’d like to date around to see if there is a good fit at some point in the future. If I find a great guy in the process, then good! It will happen when it’s right and when I’m ready.
disco
May 18th, 2012
2:28 pm
slim and leggs – all I’m going to say is “y’all stop”. lol.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
2:29 pm
Blu – Um, I don’t know this Mr. Brit but if yall were going to end up hooking up for a weekend trip, then you’d probably turn into the ‘in-town cut buddy’ for him…whenever he needs to getaway, he hits you up for a little rest, relaxation, adult spirits and then a nightly exorc-ism of his wang conducted by you. lol I’d hate to see how his ‘throwup’ would spew from his possessed weenie lmao
Ok to the corner I go
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
2:31 pm
Mean or not, forgive me but we have a Team Player right here. Wolves don’t care and they don’t stop.
LL411
May 18th, 2012
2:31 pm
I’ll let you go should I ever feel like I need to police you…
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:32 pm
Slim…I’m just starting to get to know Dr. Brit and I don’t think he’s that way, but who knows?!?! We seem to have a connection and we haven’t seen each other in person since we met in Feb. I hope to get to see him soon so that we can really see if there is a spark in person. Who knows…if he was coming next weekend, we may find out that we are not compatible at all! I’m interested to see how it will go when we do finally see each other again.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:35 pm
@disco ~ I’m not doing anything. I asked a legitimate question. Not just directed at Bluz to anyone who doesn’t want to date.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
2:37 pm
Blu – Well, it’s good that you have a positive outlook on the situation. Just keep your goals, needs, wants or whatever in focus. We’re only speaking out of concern because we know the toll your recent break up had on you. Have FUN! (and do know that you can have fun without a dude too lol)
disco
May 18th, 2012
2:37 pm
leggs – I’m going deeper than that. I’m telling y’all to stop with y’all’s thoughts. if we were in the same room you would have recognized that look in my eye that was saying “leave it alone. just let it go.” I may have even thrown in and mmm mmmmph mmmmph.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:42 pm
One last question…how can you say in one post “he may be the one,” then in another say “you may not be compatible.” You should never say “he may be the one” with someone you haven’t spent quality time with.
Wait hold up one freaking minute Leggs!! “Quality” is relative…slow your roll.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:43 pm
Oh yeah…I’ve been having fun without men also. Keeping myself busy and finally starting to enjoy life. It just would be nice to have a nice, good guy to go out with! Thanks Slim…I know ya’ll are speaking out of concern. This is why I’m here…I do sometimes need to be told certain things (even if I don’t like it)! I may get mad at first, but then look back and realize that ya’ll are pretty right on. I think back to when I started on here and the things everyone said about my relationship and how I defended it over and over again and look what happened!
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:45 pm
Leggs…I really don’t know if he is the “one”…I just think there’s a possibility of something with him down the road. I’m hopeful about him, but I’m not going to make any final decisions until we spend good quality time together. Just gotta wait and see.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:47 pm
disco ~ I’ve been telling myself to do just that the past 30 mins (lol).
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
2:48 pm
If not longer…
Cool, Bluz. I’m now hanging up my hat, disco!
disco
May 18th, 2012
2:49 pm
bluz – you alright with me. but since we are putting our opinions out there I just don’t see that you have a BS filter. earlier I called some of us blog chicks cynical. what I really meant is we’ve developed a method of seeing through the bull. you still have that happy go lucky Pollyanna type attitude where you hope for the best and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. not necessarily a bad way to be but certain types prey on it. as we’ve said countless times – just be careful.
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
2:51 pm
Okay..not going to beat you up too bad but we are all sometimes stuck in our normal ‘hold patterns’..
You said My previous relationships started out as immediate relationships. I never have really dated around
You have not spent any real deal of time with Mr. Brit yet you say later on down the line he could be a potential candidate for more…if you REALLY want to just have fun, then your mind frame does not need to be on assessing if he’s going to be a long term type guy. You think you’re tricking your mind but it’s not really happening. Hang out without that “Next Relationship Flight” flying in your mind….does that make sense?? You stated it yourself in black and white how it always turns to immediate relationship and now your mind is following the flight plan that you’ve always used. Okay, i’m done with the diagnosis lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
2:53 pm
Bluz you can do things that require no one but you or a friend. This weekend alone there’s the Sweet Auburn Fest., Marietta Greek Fest., Decatur Ghost Tour, Concert in Oakland City Cemetary, Cans Film Fest., live music at Atlantic Station,
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:54 pm
You’re right Slim. I need to pull back on Dr. Brit just a little bit. It might be part fantasy with him…gorgeous, intelligent man who’s interested in me. I do want to break my previous patterns, so I’ll work on that. Maybe that’s why I want to date around some…so I don’t get all hung up on him…
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
2:56 pm
BF…I forgot about the Oakland Cemetary show…is that tonight or tomorrow?
DreamsMaterialize
May 18th, 2012
2:57 pm
I wasn’t going to give it up yet. I do like him and want to do this right.
Bluz This makes absolutely no sense to me. That’s like my boss saying he’s NOT giving me a promotion because I’m the best employee he has.
For Real
May 18th, 2012
2:58 pm
um, you do know having a BS filter and being cynical are not the same thing?
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 18th, 2012
3:00 pm
what up blog folks…as for the topic: I wish a mofo would try to tell I can’t go to the Shoe Show, or look at any form of Adult Entertainment….so what else is happenin?
Celisea
May 18th, 2012
3:00 pm
I am caracking up reading. I popped in about 20 minutes ago to “catch up” and I see again Bluz has the floor. Chile I told you, don’t go blabbing everything about yourself on a public forum…lol I’ll say it again, this convo is still going left…whew Lordy. Female
pimpingbaiting is worse than male pimping. Okay that’s a bit strong but umm, yeah.Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
3:01 pm
Tomorrow, with all kinds of bands and entertainers. Funny as it may be I kinda like to hear the bluegrass music sometimes and country. There will be jazz, R&B, as well and hip hop.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:01 pm
I wasn’t going to give it up yet. I do like him and want to do this right. – It’s imperative you ask him if he has a 21 day rule.
Don’t worry bluz, he won’t know what that means.
Celisea
May 18th, 2012
3:02 pm
Oh, Eric talking to the sock on his hand (or something like that)….lol
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
3:03 pm
Celisea – I shut up a long time ago!
Celisea
May 18th, 2012
3:04 pm
Kimmie – LOL…all I can do is SMH and hope for things to move upward
SlimNu - Put me back in coach
May 18th, 2012
3:04 pm
Already folks…have a good weekend, I’m outta here
For Real
May 18th, 2012
3:07 pm
Look Bluz ain’t hurting like she’s protraying herself to be….. She knew her last relationship was doomed 6 months after she met him. She is a poor decision maker that likes to make poor decision because she feeds off of the drama. She will be here in 2 weeks talking about how she doesn’t know how she ended up having sex in Okland Cemetary with Opie Cunningham. In other words, I’m calling BS!
For Real now dancing like Chris Tucker at the end of Money Talks.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
3:10 pm
No one else was taking the floor…figured I could give you some entertainment for the day again.
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2012
3:10 pm
“it was a thought because we’d be staying in the same place and probably having drinks. He’s so good looking and I may have given in, but I told myself that I wouldn’t do that with him”
See now, Bluz, I can’t even clown on you for this. The only way to overcome one’s weaknesses is to acknowledge them, so I commend you on this one. Plus, those romantic beach settings can be awfully tempting: long walk on the beach in the moonlight, wind in your hair, sand in your toes, the gentle lapping of the waves against
giant clown shoesthe shore…Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
3:11 pm
Black – we knocking you 2 demerits for trying to take food outta wolves mouths. Stop it I say and let the Ladies continue on with there waiting to exhale meeting. Hahaha
kimmie
May 18th, 2012
3:13 pm
4 Real – She’s not hurting at all, she sounds happy to me. A little bummed cause Doc couldn’t make it to the party, but she’s accepted his explaination and is moving on. She enjoyed kissing the clown and she’ll enjoy meeting her friends in Charleston. All is well on her end. I guess I opened the can of worms cause my radar goes up on dudes cancelling early on. If she likes it, I love it!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
May 18th, 2012
3:15 pm
LOL……@WillieD trying to give a little solace, You know she’d be gobbled up in no time flat. Allright let me take this sheep skin off……LOL
For Real
May 18th, 2012
3:22 pm
Whose drinking after work today?
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
May 18th, 2012
3:23 pm
I was just poppin in, got to do a training class….Bluz-give that thang to whoever you feel like givin it to, Blog ladies, quit throwing all that salt, she grown..
WillieD-keep everyone in check
Here is my donation, $100
Swiss-you are crazy
Good People-enjoy your weekend, and since it isn’t quit summer yet, I will say it again.
ITS SPRING, GET SPRUNG!!!!
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:29 pm
Nope not talking to a sock puppet on my hand, I have my blog mates for that. But with my girl, my hand has gotten plenty of action. All she does is bitch about what I don’t do, while keeping me from doing anything I want. Hell, maybe a little cutie sock puppet would be a better companion, guaranteed to get some action from her…LOL.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:30 pm
The word for the day is LEGGS…let’s spread the word.
Celisea
May 18th, 2012
3:34 pm
Eric – I love you man….I wasn’t making light. I was just saying what tickled my funny bone. That last comment was classic…lol
SexyCool
May 18th, 2012
3:36 pm
Dating around ain’t all it’s cracked up to be…at least for me it wasn’t.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:41 pm
The other words for the day is FUGG U, ERIC!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:43 pm
Eric, I see you don’t come on bytching when others monopolize this blog and IM. You don’ care for me, cool. You’re not the only one!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:44 pm
are…
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:46 pm
Awwwwweeee….Leggs don’t get all bent out of shape. I’ve got mad love for you….LOL…
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:47 pm
Leggs…after reading your posts, I would have figured you for a better sport than that.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:48 pm
Besides, my new best friend is a freakin’ sock puppet…apparently I haven’t seen a pair of spread Leggs in a while…LOL
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:50 pm
I am a better sport. I don’t always have to turn the other cheek like I do most times. Sometimes you have to stand and let someone know how you truly feel. I’m not your punching bag.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
Wow…someone didn’t have their Wheaties this morning. Don’t know how I can be treating you like a punching bag when I get on this blog about once a month, and have only once made a comment about your posts. Jeez…you might be one of those crazy psycho chicks if you interpretted that as being a punching bag. I can see it now…Leggs all bent out of shape and walking up on her mate with a freakin’ knife cause he joked with her once…
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
3:58 pm
Ut oh, popcone on me. Bluz here have this beer, its nice and cold.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:02 pm
This is the second time you made a derogatory comment about ME not what I post. If you don’t care for me, my style, my wording, my silliness, anything. COOL. However, I am not going to allow you to come on this site and blast me anyway you care to. All you have to do is skip over my post.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:04 pm
sheesh Eric…take a chill pill. You made a rude comment about Leggs and you expect her to not strike back? By the way…if you’re so miserable with your girlfriend, why are you still with her?
WD…mmmmmmmm….beer….
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:04 pm
And since you seem to play particular attention to all my posts, remember my sister is the knife thrower, I’m the one the blade under my tongue…will fugg you up before you even realize you’re bleeding!
Eric
May 18th, 2012
4:07 pm
Like I said…women are manipulative, vindictive little creatures.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:07 pm
@Bluz ~ I’m laughing because WilliD is using that cold beer as your kryptonite….
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:08 pm
I know…I can laugh with ya’ll on that after what happened last weekend! I think tonight, I’ll stay at my friend’s house and we’ll drink some beer and there will be no clowns in sight!!!
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
4:10 pm
Yeah tell her Eric. Who does she think she is? Hahahaha
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:23 pm
Thank, Bluz!
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:24 pm
Anytime…even though you give me isht sometimes! LOL! I’ll admit it that I do deserve it sometimes.
Eric's sock puppet but u can call me ms. mary mack
May 18th, 2012
4:25 pm
women are manipulative, vindictive little creatures.
is that y u have a boyfriend?
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:26 pm
Meant to say thanks for the backup, Bluz!
That last post sounds like I have a tongue piercing.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:26 pm
Yep Bluz (lol).
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:39 pm
I guess everyone cut out early. I’m trying to make my last 20 minutes go by fast!!! So far, it’s just CRAWLING by!!!
DreamsMaterialize
May 18th, 2012
4:42 pm
Trying to make mine go by too, Bluz
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)
May 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Wow all I hear are crickets in here..and on a Friday at that.
I’ve been working like a Hebrew slave and next week is going to be even worse. I can’t complain,though cause a gurl coulda been drawing unemployment somewhere looking real crazy.
Just wanted to tell the blog to have a great weekend.
Row 125, Seat 11B
May 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Damn…..I finnaly get a chance to check in and find that Ms. Leggs is ’bout to cut somebody!!! Hope ole’ boy does not bleed out like my man on “Scandal” last night……
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2012
4:54 pm
Hmmm… Sassy’s been working “like a Hebrew slave” and the very next post is from Row, whose cougar mistress had him working “like a Hebrew slave” a while back, if I remember correctly. Coincidence? Or is there some blog fuggin going on?
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)
May 18th, 2012
4:57 pm
Or is there some blog fuggin going on?
Oh there’ll be some of that but not on the blog…
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
5:01 pm
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2012
5:02 pm
Get it, Sassy! I ain’t mad atcha…
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
5:03 pm
Wow…got really busy and the last 20 minutes flew by. I’m out! Have a great weekend everyone!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
5:08 pm
Scandal was very good and all over the place…glad I recorded it so I can watch again.