Relationships: Should you police your mate?
I was listening to Q100’s The Bert Show and they were discussing a couple’s argument: The man is not allowed to watch porn or go to strip clubs, but his wife is all into the racy novel Shades of Gray. (Apparently this book is explicit and sexy and full of naughty naughty things)
The man felt as if there was some kind of double standard at play. If he can’t enjoy adult movies or go to a strip club, why should she get a pass to read explicit content like Shades of Gray? What do you think? Is it the same thing?
I wondered how any woman can forbid or limit her partner’s access to adult movies. Isn’t that a little controlling in the context of a relationship?
Does your partner have a right to control or police your freedom to do what tickles your fancy?
Guys, what would you do if your woman asked/told/ordered you to stay away from certain explicit things? Would you comply? (For the sake of discussion, let’s assume there are no addiction issues involved.)
Happy Friday!
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229 comments Add your comment
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:44 pm
are…
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:46 pm
Awwwwweeee….Leggs don’t get all bent out of shape. I’ve got mad love for you….LOL…
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:47 pm
Leggs…after reading your posts, I would have figured you for a better sport than that.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:48 pm
Besides, my new best friend is a freakin’ sock puppet…apparently I haven’t seen a pair of spread Leggs in a while…LOL
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
3:50 pm
I am a better sport. I don’t always have to turn the other cheek like I do most times. Sometimes you have to stand and let someone know how you truly feel. I’m not your punching bag.
Eric
May 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
Wow…someone didn’t have their Wheaties this morning. Don’t know how I can be treating you like a punching bag when I get on this blog about once a month, and have only once made a comment about your posts. Jeez…you might be one of those crazy psycho chicks if you interpretted that as being a punching bag. I can see it now…Leggs all bent out of shape and walking up on her mate with a freakin’ knife cause he joked with her once…
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
3:58 pm
Ut oh, popcone on me. Bluz here have this beer, its nice and cold.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:02 pm
This is the second time you made a derogatory comment about ME not what I post. If you don’t care for me, my style, my wording, my silliness, anything. COOL. However, I am not going to allow you to come on this site and blast me anyway you care to. All you have to do is skip over my post.
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:04 pm
sheesh Eric…take a chill pill. You made a rude comment about Leggs and you expect her to not strike back? By the way…if you’re so miserable with your girlfriend, why are you still with her?
WD…mmmmmmmm….beer….
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:04 pm
And since you seem to play particular attention to all my posts, remember my sister is the knife thrower, I’m the one the blade under my tongue…will fugg you up before you even realize you’re bleeding!
Eric
May 18th, 2012
4:07 pm
Like I said…women are manipulative, vindictive little creatures.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:07 pm
@Bluz ~ I’m laughing because WilliD is using that cold beer as your kryptonite….
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:08 pm
I know…I can laugh with ya’ll on that after what happened last weekend! I think tonight, I’ll stay at my friend’s house and we’ll drink some beer and there will be no clowns in sight!!!
Willie Dynamite
May 18th, 2012
4:10 pm
Yeah tell her Eric. Who does she think she is? Hahahaha
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:23 pm
Thank, Bluz!
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:24 pm
Anytime…even though you give me isht sometimes! LOL! I’ll admit it that I do deserve it sometimes.
Eric's sock puppet but u can call me ms. mary mack
May 18th, 2012
4:25 pm
women are manipulative, vindictive little creatures.
is that y u have a boyfriend?
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:26 pm
Meant to say thanks for the backup, Bluz!
That last post sounds like I have a tongue piercing.
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
4:26 pm
Yep Bluz (lol).
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
4:39 pm
I guess everyone cut out early. I’m trying to make my last 20 minutes go by fast!!! So far, it’s just CRAWLING by!!!
DreamsMaterialize
May 18th, 2012
4:42 pm
Trying to make mine go by too, Bluz
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)
May 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Wow all I hear are crickets in here..and on a Friday at that.
I’ve been working like a Hebrew slave and next week is going to be even worse. I can’t complain,though cause a gurl coulda been drawing unemployment somewhere looking real crazy.
Just wanted to tell the blog to have a great weekend.
Row 125, Seat 11B
May 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Damn…..I finnaly get a chance to check in and find that Ms. Leggs is ’bout to cut somebody!!! Hope ole’ boy does not bleed out like my man on “Scandal” last night……
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2012
4:54 pm
Hmmm… Sassy’s been working “like a Hebrew slave” and the very next post is from Row, whose cougar mistress had him working “like a Hebrew slave” a while back, if I remember correctly. Coincidence? Or is there some blog fuggin going on?
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)
May 18th, 2012
4:57 pm
Or is there some blog fuggin going on?
Oh there’ll be some of that but not on the blog…
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
5:01 pm
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
i'm swiss
May 18th, 2012
5:02 pm
Get it, Sassy! I ain’t mad atcha…
Bluzgirl
May 18th, 2012
5:03 pm
Wow…got really busy and the last 20 minutes flew by. I’m out! Have a great weekend everyone!
Leggs
May 18th, 2012
5:08 pm
Scandal was very good and all over the place…glad I recorded it so I can watch again.