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How do you handle temptation?

When you are in a relationship and you happen to hit a rough patch, it suddenly becomes easier to get distracted by other people. That harmless flirting starts to become a little more than flirting. The next thing you know, you are being tempted to get attention from someone other than you significant other.

It’s natural and normal to be attracted to other people when you are unavailable. It is how you handle it that makes or breaks a relationship. Some people use it as an excuse to get more attention they are missing. I think a lot of people are not prepared to deal with temptation because they didn’t expect to be tempted.

What do you do when you are involved with someone but you find yourself attracted to someone else? Does it mean you should break up and explore things with the new object of your desire?

When you are in a dating relationship, is it tough to stay focused on one person and build a relationship when you are tempted by other options?

P.S. Happy Mother’s Day!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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czBrat

May 11th, 2012
12:18 pm

thanx, slim. i’ll keep ya posted.

so, we took my truck to the drive-in saturday. tank was on fumes by the time we got home at 3 in the morning. next day he left and forgot about putting gas in the car. no biggie really.
yesterday, he tells me we’re switching cars so he can take mine to his mechanic. we do the switch at my job, he reminds me his tank is on the passenger side and i say “why are you telling me that? does it need gas?”. he said “not right now, but just in case you have to use it the rest of the week.” coz we didn’t know how long my car might be in the shop. still no biggie.

how bout his fuel light came on before i could make it the 10 miles from my job to yoga. i started getting a little pissy with him right then and there. the dash said it had 36 miles left, so i went to yoga then home. this morning it was at 17 miles. i seriously considered draining it all the way to work and giving it back to him just like that, but i didn’t.
plus, i am gonna have it until tomorrow so i woulda been shooting myself in the foot. :lol:

anyway …. right about now i’m feeling a serious lack of consideration. how you keep leaving your chick with an empty ride? on one hand, it’s so not like him to not ‘take care’ of me. on the other hand, he can be a bit oblivious to the seemingly obvious at times.
unlike the nationwide man, those two hands is all i got. so what now? i’m ok with telling him exactly how i feel. i’m just wondering if it’s ridikulous to even feel mistreated (for lack of a better word) over something so trivial.

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
12:18 pm

told yas it was long.

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
12:19 pm

HST…Isle of Palms is also nice, but I think it’s a little more touristy…

HST

May 11th, 2012
12:20 pm

It seems I am not the only one restless this weekend. Every decent hotel on the beach is booked. I am now looking at St. Simons…

Bluzgirl, I now have to swim in the ocean this weekend.

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:23 pm

“mistreated” is the wrong word. He’s taking your car to the shop for you, you will be driving his car a few days, why not put gas in it. He leaves you with a 1/4 tank. Ok, what’s the problem here???

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
12:23 pm

Brat…I see no reason to not bring it up. It annoyed you, so you should say something so that he knows that it annoyed you. You can always say it jokingly and then turn it into a real conversation. It seems like you don’t want to go off on him, just want to nudge him about it a little bit.

HST

May 11th, 2012
12:23 pm

czBrat, let that go. That’s a grain of salt.

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:24 pm

@HST, again, I agree with you (lol). We all posted at the same time.

HST

May 11th, 2012
12:27 pm

We sure did, three posts at the same time…hahaaa.

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
12:27 pm

HST…Tybee Island is also one of my favorite places. Only about 20 minutes from Savannah!

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:29 pm

You know, when my child leaves for college, I’m going to visit some of these places you guys always talk about.

disco

May 11th, 2012
12:30 pm

brat – don’t let them steal your angst. you can vent here all you want. how dare he!!!!

i'm swiss

May 11th, 2012
12:33 pm

Brat — You’re right, it is trivial. He clearly isn’t trying to take advantage of you or anything — he took your car to the shop for you, after all. The gas probably never crossed his mind.

My advice — if you do bring it up, make sure you do it in a very light-hearted way, otherwise you’re going to come off sounding like a spoiled brat. (No pun intended)

Just my $0.02

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:34 pm

@swiss ~ I started to respond to Bluz post about since it annoyed her she should talk about it to him lightly. I didn’t like the word “lightly,” so I deleted my comment.

Thanks, my brain wouldn’t go there, but light-hearted manner is what I was feeling.

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:35 pm

don’t let them steal your angst. Funny. No, you can’t be mad, get over it. I’ll be mad for you…that’s funny to me.

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
12:37 pm

just damnit!!!!
:lol: :lol:

honestly, i luv you ladies for keeping it real. i recognize when i’m being a brat. but we’ve said it before, continue to do the things you did to get them if you want to keep them. this is soooo not like him.

i’m definitely going to tell him cuz he would want to know if he’s done something to annoy me. as bluz so aptly put it. he’ll either tell me i’ve taken it the wrong way so get over it, or he’ll say oops! won’t happen again.

hst, we did tybee and st. simons last year but booked through vrbo. if you have no luck with hotels, try that site. as a matter of fact, we booked the st. simons house just a few days before 4th of july weekend for a great price.

exactly, disco! how dare he!! :lol:

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

May 11th, 2012
12:42 pm

cz I don’t think he did it on purpose,however, the WAY you approach this matter when you do talk with him about it will make or break the conversation. Superman doesn’t ALWAYS wear his cape…

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:48 pm

“…continue to do the things you did to get them if you want to keep them.” – I get the sentiment, czB, but isn’t he still doing it with nice deeds of swapping cars and taking yours to the shop? Is it suppoed to be 100% giving all the time, can’t they fall back to 75% sometimes (lol).

he’ll either tell me i’ve taken it the wrong way so get over it, or he’ll say oops! won’t happen again.

Exactly.

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
12:54 pm

he’ll either tell me i’ve taken it the wrong way so get over it, or he’ll say oops! won’t happen again.
come to think of it, he’ll probably do some combination of the two. something like, “i’ll try not to let that happen again. if it does, get over it.” lol

thank you, sassy/swiss! in the grand scheme of things, it’s a non-issue. he’s probably had a long week.

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
12:55 pm

The question is even after yall have said not to trip over the gas thing, will she actually blow it off or will she let it simmer and boil over at some unforeseen time?

(I’m sure there’s a skit in there somewhere but I don’t feel creative enough to come up with it right now)

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
12:56 pm

Well, peeps, I’m proud of myself. I found the document. Took me 4 hrs. but I found it! Me need food…

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
12:56 pm

ALL RIGHT, LEGGS! YOU MADE YOUR POINT AT 12:23!! roflmao

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
12:57 pm

So the next blog topic has been created from “How do you handle temptation?” to How do you handle your temper? :D

i'm swiss

May 11th, 2012
12:57 pm

“The question is even after yall have said not to trip over the gas thing, will she actually blow it off or will she let it simmer and boil over at some unforeseen time?”

Slim — Oh, that’s not even a question. I guarantee this will get thrown in dude’s face at some point in the future when Brat is pissed of about something else. That’s just how you ladies roll. ;-) :lol:

i'm swiss

May 11th, 2012
1:07 pm

And, yes, I realize that was a sweeping generalization, but that doesn’t make it untrue. :lol:

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
1:08 pm

nah, slim. the simmer is now. it’s when i’m choosing between attack or retreat. if i’m going to address it, we’ll deal with it and squash it once and for all. if i decide to just let it go, it’s gone. never to be seen again. i mean, it’s not like i actually ran out of gas and sat on the side of the road for two hours waiting for rescue. THAT he would pay for dearly.

swiss, i have much bigger things to throw when i’m pissed. that’s why he keeps me happy. :grin:

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
1:17 pm

swiss – I pictured her falling in the toilet one late night, half-way sleep because he didn’t put the seat down. Then in her rant she starts talking about how he didn’t put gas in the car, how he mistakenly put her favorite silk shirt in the dryer, left the milk in the fridge with barely a teaspoon in it….it all comes out in the wash :lol:

cz – I’m just messing with ya girlie. ;-)

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
1:18 pm

Knowing czB, don’t think she’ll let it simmer and boil over. She’ll probably speak on it immediately, or leave it completely alone.

HST

May 11th, 2012
1:19 pm

I checked St. Simmons but there’s a volleyball tournament and everything decent on the beach is booked.

I had to go get some Sushi, this search made me hungry.

Any cool ideas or specific hotels are greatly appreciated bloggers.

I’m getting in the ocean this weekend!

Bluzgirl, does Folly have nice roads (gotta figure what vehicle to bring)? That beach looks so quaint – I just wish I could find a 4-5 star on the beach. There’s some nice hotels/bed&breakfasts right off the beach, but I want to have coffee on my balcony over-looking the ocean.

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
1:20 pm

Can this day go by any slower?!?! Ready for margaritas after work!!! If any of ya’ll are in Norcross/Duluth area, you are welcome to join!

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
1:21 pm

Ummm, nevamind, you guys already answered it. SHE already answered it (lol).

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
1:22 pm

As far as I know, Folly has pretty decent roads. You do park in some gravel/sand if you are not staying right on the beach. Wish I could recommend hotels…I’ve always stayed at my friend’s house. To me, though, you only get a hotel to sleep in when you go to the beach! It doesn’t have to be too fancy!

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
1:23 pm

Have you checked out Tybee?

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
1:27 pm

The sh!t Slim says is for entertainment purposes only. Do not try this at home

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
1:28 pm

slim, i have actual tears from laughing so hard.

hst, you can also try brunswick and jekyll island if you don’t mind driving just a bit further down 95.

bluz, i’m so down, chica!!

Bluzgirl

May 11th, 2012
1:29 pm

Brat…me and a couple of friends are meeting at El Porton off of Buford Hwy and Old P’tree in Duluth. If you’re really up for it, send me an email to bluzgirl79@gmail.com

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
1:31 pm

Lady~interesting.........

May 11th, 2012
1:35 pm

Enter your comments here

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
1:39 pm

‘I feel I am ready to give marriage a go and maybe go to bed with a man. You are never too old for anything. – The problem is she may be ready, but is there a man out there ready to tackle this mountain???

She said she still has bundles of energy and suspects it is the single life that has kept her young. – Not necessarily the single life, perhaps the “non-stressed” single life.

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
1:40 pm

I’m wondering if she even has a viable opening down there after all this time. :shock:

i'm swiss

May 11th, 2012
1:42 pm

Where’s Me.lo when you need a good “cobwebs” reference?

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
1:46 pm

swiss – are you going to get the Mrs anything for the holiday? A mother-to-be card or something?

I ordered an edible arrangement for mom’s & sis

czBrat

May 11th, 2012
1:47 pm

any thoughts on the hoopla over the time magazine breast-feeding cover?

i'm swiss

May 11th, 2012
1:54 pm

Slim — Yeah, planning on doing something for my little M(to be)ILF. Not sure what, exactly, but I’ll come up with something.

kimmie

May 11th, 2012
2:00 pm

Slim – I saw that 70 year virgin mess. Even if she hasn’t done it with a man, I find it hard to believe she hasn’t used other “artificial” means.

Nothing surprises me anymore though, so I wouldn’t doubt it. Not much more unbelievable than those couples that are married and have not done the do for 10 or 20 years straight.

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
2:03 pm

kimmie – I’m wondering how many bj’s she’s given in those 70 years lol

SlimNu

May 11th, 2012
2:07 pm

cz – I didn’t put too much thought into the cover. I believe the Bert show had that topic on one of the shows some time ago….that kid i’m sure has teeth and he looks every bit of 5 to 6. I would not want to still be breastfeeding then but what do I know….Plus when you think about it, boyz never seem to grow out of the boob sucking phase, even into adulthood

HST

May 11th, 2012
2:08 pm

Bluzgirl, single ladies meeting for margaritas?

Finding a hotel is becoming harder than I thought…

Leggs

May 11th, 2012
2:10 pm

@czB ~ I think a 4-yr old still breastfeeding is crazy. The main purpose of breastfeeding is to give your baby the necessary pure nutrients to help in its growth. “Colostrum” has many healing agents in that it helps protect the baby build it’s own immune system can do it on its own. At age 4 your immune system is no longer that fragile. You shouldn’t be sucking on mommy’s tit tas at age 4. Although I know someone who has breastfed until age 7.

To all you Bert show fans, any of you remember the young woman who was getting married and when stressed or needs relaxing, she goes to her mother and sucks on her breast. True story, according to the call-in. She was in in her mid 20’s I believe.

HST

May 11th, 2012
2:10 pm

I either have to settle on a hotel or wait. I dislike both of those verbs right now.