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Is their fantasy your nightmare?

When you are in a committed relationship, making your partner happy should be important to you. Most people want to please their mate and make sure their needs are being met. What happens when what they want freaks you out? Or is beyond your personal boundaries?

How do you make someone’s fantasy come true if what they really want is your own version of hell?

When you are in a relationship, how much are you willing to compromise?

Do you think a good partner should push you beyond your limits and encourage you to explore new things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

242 comments Add your comment

Lily

May 10th, 2012
6:48 am

I’m going to sit this one out. I can only imagine……. lol

Good day!

single and happy

May 10th, 2012
7:33 am

When someone really loves you, the will never push you to do something that you are uncomfortable with! And if they do, you need to move on too someone else! There’s nothing wrong with exploring new things, when both parties agree, but there’s a difference when you are pushing me do something that I’m really not comfortable with!

Row 125, Seat 11B

May 10th, 2012
7:57 am

Simple……sit down and have a conversation….Talk about it..involve your partner in your thoughts and who knows…they mights just have a couple of things up their sleeve that might freak YOU out!!! Good morning all :)

Lady~interesting.........

May 10th, 2012
8:46 am

Good Morning!!! ;)

I agree conversing is a start……………hmmmmm

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
8:46 am

Good morning,

Can’t say i’ve really had too much experience with this other than a guy I briefly dated that was REALLY into feet. I could not even sit and watch tv next to him without him playing with my foot. I would start out with sneakers and socks on and slowly some kind of way he’d massage them off. It made me feel weird…not to mention I’m super ticklish. I’m not a fan of foot in mouth :shock:

woke up with a headache :-(

single and happy

May 10th, 2012
8:55 am

Having a conversation is different than pushing to someone to do something that they’re uncomfortable with because it’s what you want. If we’ve talked about it and I’ve told you it’s not something I want to do, then the conversation is over with. And if you can’t except that then you need to move on to someone that will do it.

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
8:56 am

Good morning, good morning!

What happens when what they want freaks you out? – Umm, after much consideration and I deem the request “doable” and not an affront to my sensibilities, I’d be down.

Or is beyond your personal boundaries? – I don’t mind stretching my boundaries, however, I will not do anything that will make me feel bad, or less than a person just to please another (even my husband). I do not feel anyone who loves me would put pressure on me to do something I don’t want to do. If he refuses to see my reasoning toward his request, I must say, I’m finding a new layer in his character.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
9:33 am

I wonder if there is a difference of a guy trying to convince his lady to get down with the freaky deaky versus a woman coming to her man with something a bit edgy…would it be well received due to the double-standard we’re so privy to be held to.

WWAAAAAAAKKKKKKEEEEEE UPPPPPPPP!

kimmie

May 10th, 2012
9:34 am

Morning All!!

I’ll cosign Leggs on this. That’s really all I have to say!

Row 125, Seat 11B

May 10th, 2012
9:46 am

SlimNu…I have been presented with things that have……”pushed my imagination” by my current friend. She is the most comfortable woman I have ever been with when it comes to her sexuality and has no issues with telling me what makes her feel good and encouraging me to do teh same. Now as I said, there have been a couple of things that made me think “What the Hell!!!) But I put aside my doubts and rolled with it and I have to say, There are a couple of new things in my bag that were not there before!!!

disco

May 10th, 2012
9:47 am

morning folks. every time I read “love” in the posts I think of the pre-nup debate. “if you love me, you’d sign it” vs. “if you loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to sign it”.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
9:47 am

That’s really all I have to say

kimmie – I think we set a blog record of topic change time :lol: I feel like we’ve reached an awkward silence in here this morning.

Sooooo, have you all heard about John Travolta stuff with the inappropriate touching of various male massagers??

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
9:51 am

@SlimNu ~ men might be a little more eager for their woman to bring something extra freaky deaky. They would relish the fact that she intiated something new. But, it appears a lot of men have an aversion to toys in their sexual acts.

DreamsMaterialize

May 10th, 2012
9:53 am

Morning
I’m not doing anything I don’t want to do, and I’m too old/grown to be trying to convince another grown person to do something they don’t want to do.

Lady~interesting.........

May 10th, 2012
9:54 am

good post DM~

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
9:56 am

And no, I’m not saying anything new has to involve toys. It was just a thought.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
9:59 am

Leggs – Well I only asked because plenty of dudes on here have said, if their woman suggested something crazy, it would automatically make them wonder who she had done that with in the past…maybe it was some less secure men but you know how they hold us to a different standard at times. However, I can’t see who wouldn’t want to try to keep the bedroom spicy in a monogamous relationship. It’s good to have a healthy sexual lifestyle….at least somebody is getting some lol

Row – New tricks huh?…care to share?? :mrgreen:

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 10th, 2012
10:14 am

Slim-I got a spicy piece of sausage right here to keep the bedroom exciting.

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
10:18 am

Looka there, Jake feels his spicy sausage is enough. Same line of thinking for most women, her honey pot is equally enuf without 3rd parties, toys, role playing, etc. (lol).

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
10:26 am

Leggs – I know this will sound so off the wall but I immediately visualized the evolution of hot dog eating when I read your post. As a child you may start off just eating a plain hot dog cut up into little pieces. As you get older you may graduate up to the hot dog in the bun. Time passes and you start to experiment with ketchup, maybe even a little mustard. When you get older, next thing you know you’re wanting that weenie grilled, on a toasted bun, onions, chilli, mustard, ketchup, pickles, tomatoes sauerkraut or whatever your flavor. :lol:

Nayla

May 10th, 2012
10:30 am

Evolution of hot dog eating? My IQ is plummeting just from reading.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 10th, 2012
10:30 am

Leggs, don’t get me wrong…I don’t mind some oils, some porn, been in the room with a bullet, rabbit…but a woman should never ever show a man a dildo, it would be offensive….plus, until they give you a toy that can grab you, flip you, smack that bottom, pull your hair, spread you, grab your hands when you squirming trying to run and keep puttin it on you….its no contest.

czBrat

May 10th, 2012
10:36 am

How do you make someone’s fantasy come true if what they really want is your own version of hell?
prayer

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
10:40 am

You are one sick puppy, SlimNu. But the post made sense.

@Jake ~ had to laugh at you allowing oils. That’s much better (lol). I agree on the dildo statement.

Row 125, Seat 11B

May 10th, 2012
10:44 am

SlimNu….Prior to the last few weeks, I never tossed a salad…. always said I thought that was kinda nasty….. We were in the shower and I started biting her shoulders liking her back… she arched and asked me to keep in moving… When I go to her waist, I figured I would take “285″ and go all the way around…. She insisted I-20 strait to the city was the best way to go..I hesitated but said what teh hell…. and wouldn’t you know it, I got halg way there and hit a POT HOLE right in the middle!!!!

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 10th, 2012
10:49 am

Mr. Toss Salad man…be careful with that new friend, don’t get turnt out…if you don’t mind, how old are you bruh?

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
10:50 am

My IQ is plummeting just from reading

Nayla – I guess even with your high IQ, you must still be a little directionally challenged. I believe you passed the Mensa Misadventures in Dating Blog 3 clicks back. :roll:

Row – :lol: :lol: :lol: That was even better than my hotdog analogy…Just don’t come back trying to sue the city for any pot hole damage to your unit. hehehehehe

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 10th, 2012
11:01 am

Leggs 8:56 Sums up the topic.
DM 9:53 I feel the same way.
Slim1 10:26 That’s a good analogy as it relates to maturity.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
11:06 am

BF – Thanks…how are you today?

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 10th, 2012
11:18 am

Lurksville must be crowded today, meet you there.

Lady~interesting.........

May 10th, 2012
11:19 am

Lady~interesting.........

May 10th, 2012
11:19 am

can yall feel the eyeballs sometimes lol yeah I’ve been staring 0_o lol

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 10th, 2012
11:24 am

As many regulars that are on here, its way too quiet, maybe Obama’s announcement got everybody shook up.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
11:26 am

Jake – Don’t leave…throw some of that spicy sausage around to get things popping in here once again.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 10th, 2012
11:26 am

Good Slim1 trying to work and stay up to pace with y’all.

For Real

May 10th, 2012
11:28 am

What up Blog Fam!

I think the problem stems from most people do not know difference between compromise and sacrifice. The two are not interchangeable.

For Real now standing in front of Slim bucket nekked with an eight pack of hot dog buns, ketchup, spicy mustard and some red kool aid.

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
11:30 am

“…throw some of that spicy sausage around to get things popping in here once again.”

All I visualized were minature saugage nut sacks thrown around and popping people in the head.

Lady~interesting.........

May 10th, 2012
11:30 am

maybe Jake! LOL I am rolling with him though Obama2012! ;)

Purple Reign ( I prefer syrup!)

May 10th, 2012
11:31 am

Hot dogs and tossed salad? Why wasn’t I invited to the picnic?

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
11:31 am

Good one, ForReal.

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
11:31 am

For Real – You must’ve grabbed Flava Aid instead! Now take yo ass back to the stow but leave the buns & ketchup here though

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
11:32 am

Hey there, PR! How you doing?

Leggs

May 10th, 2012
11:32 am

In handball, SlimNu, that would be consideredf an “ACE”…good comeback.

Purple Reign ( I prefer syrup!)

May 10th, 2012
11:33 am

Hi Leggs, I am well. And the answer is “Yes”! :)

SlimNu

May 10th, 2012
11:35 am

Purp – Just in time for our pigs-n-a-blanket fight… :lol:

Purple Reign ( I prefer syrup!)

May 10th, 2012
11:38 am

Slim, to funny! How are ya?

Sassy Me...all SMILES :-)

May 10th, 2012
11:39 am

throw some of that spicy sausage around to get things popping in here once again.

For some reason…I just heard “Throw that D” in my head whilst reading that :lol:

On topic: I’ve yet to be asked to do something that makes me uncomfortable…usually it’s ME who’s wanting to do some things that may be considered risque but I’ve NEVER been turned down or heard the word no. I think it’s all about boundaries and what makes us comfortable.

For Real

May 10th, 2012
11:40 am

Slim: You must’ve grabbed Flava Aid instead! Now take yo ass back to the stow but leave the buns & ketchup here though.

For Real: Ain’t! Everybody knows you gots to use two packs of Flava Aid to make it taste like Kool Aid. Now gon and eat your hotdog like a good girl.

Slim: Okayyyy.

For Real: I added some wasabi nuts too!

Slim now dancing like that dude that found out that he was not the baby daddy.

Celisea

May 10th, 2012
11:41 am

Well dang let me try it…..I WANT A MILLION?!?!? Dern…..nothing. I just thought all we need to do is call it and it shows up.

I WANT A MILLION

Sassy Me...all SMILES :-)

May 10th, 2012
11:42 am

All I visualized were minature saugage nut sacks thrown around and popping people in the head.

:shock:

:lol: