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Dating: Projecting the right image?

We can never truly be sure of what people see when they look at us. Single people often make all sorts of assumptions about each other based on appearance and the image people project. What kind of image are you projecting, though?

Interesting enough, I think a lot of times, people are projecting the wrong image and end up attracting the wrong types. If you were to see yourself, would you approach you? Do you appear welcoming and approachable?

Have you ever wondered how other people see you? Do you think the image you are projecting is getting you the results you really want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lily

May 7th, 2012
7:00 am

Diva shouldn’t we always be ourselves? IMO trying too hard to get it right will spill over into representing someone other than who we really are. Its just not on us to get it right every time. Sometimes it sticks and sometimes not.

Shaunie

May 7th, 2012
8:12 am

The only time we see our outer selves is when looking in the mirror and the onlytime we see our inner selves is when we look at the people we love and value. Great self reflection Post Diva!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
8:20 am

Good Morning MIA!!!! I agree great self reflection blog today~ ;)

SlimNu

May 7th, 2012
8:22 am

Good morning,

As far as what I project, I often here that folks first impression of me is that I’m quiet, reserved, deep thinker with a hint of mysteriousness. I’ve even got the “stuck up’ descriptive before but after they spoke to me, saw that I was far from that. I’m cool with whatever vibes I project because it isn’t anything really questionable. I could see if I was walking around with my ass hanging out of my shorts, talking loud, yelling all sorts of improper profanities etc. So ‘I’m good’

didn’t sleep well at all last night so let’s keep this thang going today

Lily

May 7th, 2012
8:26 am

With so many relationships flawed, unhappiness, cheating I would hope looking at others sometimes is NOT a reflection of who I am. I disagree :)

good day!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
8:28 am

lol Lily! good one!

Single and Happy

May 7th, 2012
8:39 am

I have to remind myself and others that if all your relationship seem to be failed relationships, maybe you need to look at the common denominator in all those relationships, (YOU/ME) What image are we projecting to attract these people. You know, the life long members of the “He man woman haters club” and the “all men are dogs club” Maybe if you change your image you want keep attracting the same type of people.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
8:47 am

Indeed Single and Happy~

Row 125, Seat 11B

May 7th, 2012
8:52 am

Good Morning ladies!!! Hope everyone had a great weekend…… O/T….I and and always hae been unconcerned with how i am viewed by others. I am comfortable with who I am and what I project….. Now with the exception of my mom and grandmom, I do not care what anyone else sees, but I am always mindful of how my actions and my presentation reflects on the two of them…..

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
8:57 am

I am a reflection of what I am, not my spouse or mate. I can only project what I am. If a person is not willing to get to know me or take it from the surface in forming opinions, it’s not that hard…THAT PERSON IS NOT FOR ME. Plain and simple. We will not attract every person we encounter we won’t always have a love connection but that’s not to say you’re doing something wrong. We attract the people we are intended to be with. I’m sure someone has said I’m not freaky enough or sexy enough or glamed enough or talk too much or even not enough. In all of that, that has nothing to do with not projecting the right image. It just mean as I said, that person is not for me. I think it’s a greater disservice to morph into what you think you SHOULD be in order to get a person, rather than just being the person you are…flaws and all. And for alllllll of those things you aren’t to one person, you’re just perfect for the RIGHT person :)

Who said anything about being in the whoa is me, I can’t find a man/woman club? LOL

Just be yaself….

Oh, lovely lovely weekend :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
9:00 am

Have you ever wondered how other people see you? Sometimes I do and most times I don’t……….first impressions are sticking yet if you are truly interested in engaging me woman or man friend or potential mate you will take the time to get to know me and decide accordingly. But initially I often wonder what are some thoughts but never stress over them………………perception and projection are interesting components……..#shrugs lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
9:01 am

I think it’s a greater disservice to morph into what you think you SHOULD be in order to get a person, rather than just being the person you are…flaws and all. And for alllllll of those things you aren’t to one person, you’re just perfect for the RIGHT person <<<<<<<<<<Love that C!!!!!

yes this past week was simply lovely! I adore the small things~ ;)

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
9:01 am

And no, I don’t wonder how people see me. Maybe that’s wrong to others but really it’s neither here nor there with me. You won’t make everybody happy so why worry. As in relationships, with life and those you interact with, you either going to be too much of this that and the other for some and not enough for others. Be who you are, sync with God and K.I.M. Whatever flaws he reveals that should be changed are the ones I work on. I’ll be forever changing, updating and worrying if it’s in the eyes of people that I live.

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
9:02 am

Hey Lady, how are you this lovely Monday morning?

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
9:05 am

I am just wonderful sis~ Hope all is well with you too!

Leggs

May 7th, 2012
9:07 am

Good morning!

If you were to see yourself, would you approach you? – Yes, I would. I would say “she’s cute with such a nice, inviting smile that first got me interested.

Do you appear welcoming and approachable? – Yes, I feel that I am. My body language is not one of coldness or mean mugging. By the same token, I’ve been told that I give off the air of being “prissy.” I’m good with that because it’s a part of me. I embrace all that encompasses me as a woman, the good, the bad, and the ugly. The ugly has helped in that the lessons I’ve experienced warranted me taking off the color coated glasses and truly look at what’s in front of me.

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
9:30 am

Oh, I saw Think Like A Man…I was not blown away…lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
9:31 am

see C I am not pressed either I have yet to see it……………..I love the soundtrack though I did get that!

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
9:40 am

Lady – I have my thoughts but I won’t post just yet. We are still on topic…lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
9:46 am

its a slow cloudy morning bring it on we sway with topics I am sure we will get back to topic soon~

czBrat

May 7th, 2012
9:57 am

¡hola chicas!

hmmm. great topic. being completely honest, i believe i still give off the same unapproachable vibe that i’ve carried most of my life. i’m reserved. i’m an introvert. and i don’t like attention. i’m most comfortable as an observer rather than a participant. yet i have the self-confidence that comes from really liking myself and being kinda oblivious to others’ opinions of me.
these things have often pegged me as stuck-up, but it never really bothered me. i know it’s inaccurate, but i also know it’s a simple matter of perception. i don’t give off the “arms wide open” vibe (until i really get to know you).
i wouldn’t have it any other way.

‘avengers’ beat out ‘think like a man’ for our movie night this weekend. it was soooo good we sat through it twice.
sorry, stevie. maybe next week.

Leggs

May 7th, 2012
10:01 am

Avengers is the all time selling movie of all time!

Leggs

May 7th, 2012
10:02 am

all time (lol), beating out Harry Potter and Titantic.

n

May 7th, 2012
10:16 am

That is a great question. I really like it. No, they would not approach me. Although, when I was visiting Alpharetta, I had a really painful back, I could barely walk and a young girl came up to me and asked if I was alright.
Now let us say a girl wants some attention, appearing somewhat vulnerable will do it. Guys really do not like the ones that are elegantly dressed or business like and a fast walker. They like the more languid type that can be comforted or soothed.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 7th, 2012
10:34 am

Just read this: ~Always be fearless when it comes to life, and careless when it comes to what people say and think about you~

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
10:43 am

“If you were to see yourself, would you approach you?”

No, ‘cos I’m not into dudes.

Morning, everybody!

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
11:12 am

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:12 am

Dontcha just hate Monday meetings.

I’m stoked, I just downloaded Kindle to my phone. I almost bought Fifty Shades of Grey this weekend. Just heard much about it. I might purchase via Kindle. It’s a couple bucks cheaper on Kindle :)

Hey Swiss

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:12 am

Oops, didn’t see your Marco

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
11:19 am

What’s up, C? Gonna read some chick p0rn, eh? ;-) I ain’t mad atcha.. :lol:

Glad to see you had a good weekend. I kicked some azz this weekend, myself — 2 ALTA playoff wins for my team & 2 straight-set wins for me at line 1 (including a 6-0 6-1 azz-whooping yesterday). Moving on to the semifinals next week. :D

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:22 am

LOL…chick porn? When I mentioned to my brother he said, awww you don’t need to read that…lol

I did (great weekend). I see you’re still knocking ‘em dead :) Good for you!! How’s the mama-to-be?

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:23 am

mommie-to-be sounds better…lol

Bluzgirl

May 7th, 2012
11:24 am

I feel like I give off an approachable, easy going vibe. I am who I am and anyone who doesn’t like it is not the one for me. Heck…on Saturday, I was dressed in khakis and a t-shirt, no makeup and my hair wasn’t all fixed up and ended up with a hot army dude talking to me all night. I had gone out to a Mexican restaurant with one of my best friends, so I didn’t really care what I looked like. I thought it was great that he was into me when I was so very casual. He was in his fatigues, so he was yummy! :-)

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:25 am

Go witcho bad self Bluzgirl That’s what I’m talking about :)

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
11:26 am

C — She’s doing well, she’s just not used to being so tired all the time. But so far, all’s well.

kimmie

May 7th, 2012
11:28 am

Morning All!!

Dang Brat, you sure we’re not sisters? Cause you sound just like me!

I’ve always had to kind of make the effort to be approachable if I’m not actively smiling because I’ve been told I look serious or even a bit mean. I don’t mean to, usually I’m just thinking about whatever it is I’m doing. Been told I’m stuck up too. None of those descriptions are how anyone would describe me or how I’d describe myself. I can be a bit boughie though. For the most part I’m chill. I own all of who I am and I like me. Folks can like it or lump it. I know I’m not everyones cup of tea, and that’s okay. I’m the best friend you’ll ever have though, so your loss! :)

Funtabulous weekend!!

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:29 am

Swiss – That’s great. I hope she has a pretty easy next 7 or 8 months. Gonna be hot this summer. Pregnancy and hot weather is NOT a good combination…lol We’re gonna definitely want pics of the little one :) Maybe just one or two.

Leggs

May 7th, 2012
11:37 am

@swiss ~ surround her with her favorite music. Summer pregnancies can be brutal.

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
11:47 am

Yeah, this will be a true test of her Island Chica-ness. (So far, she’s still snuggled up in her blanket while I’m sweating like a pig, so we’ll see) So, how far along does it usually start to get really uncomfortable w/ the heat? Maybe the worst of the summer will be over before she gets to that point — since it’s already May & she’s only about 5-6 weeks.

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
11:53 am

Sounds like she’s going to have to endure the summer months being only a bit past one month. Whew. I’d say keep smoothies/icees and cold drinks coming, a cool house and comfortable clothing/shoes. Aside from getting nekkid and changing the weather not too much more.

czBrat

May 7th, 2012
11:59 am

How’s the mama-to-be?
uh. uh. what!?!

bluz, i’ve had my best first meetings in jeans or sweats, sneaks, ponytails, clean face. i think that’s just lovely. it speaks more to who i truly am.

kimmie, i’m a true believer that when you’re the “ride or die” type friend/boo, you gotta be REAL selective who you let into your circle. so i’ll be as standoffish as i need to be until i know we’re really, REALLY cool! and that takes time.
doesn’t mean i wish you ill; i’m not jealous; i’m no hater. just means i’m gonna move at my own pace and for my own reasons.

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
12:01 pm

Did anybody hear the dude on the Bert Show this morning saying he does nothing for his wife on mother’s day because she’s not his mom. What an idiot. I was trying to get through but the phone lines were busy. A dude called in and said he hoped she ends up checking out Ashley Madison (think that’s the name) site…lol He kept saying it’s Mother’s Day…a celebration for his mom. I wanted to say it doesn’t say “Your Mother’s Day” it say’s Mother’s Day. Your mom, your kid’s mom, your neice/nephew’s mom….what a true idiot. He was getting folks’ heated…lol He’s going to be on tomorrow with his wife because he was matter of factly was saying she was cool with that decision but Bert said he bet otherwise.

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
12:03 pm

Brat – Swiss is having a little SwissMocha

czBrat

May 7th, 2012
12:22 pm

awwww, swiss! that’s the sweetness! dude, you’ve had a HUGE year. congrats to the twos of yous! :grin:

celisea, did they mention how old is/are their kid(s)?
i recall my ex not doing anything for my first mother’s day because according to him i wasn’t a mom yet. mind you, i was eight months preggers. our child was born june 15 :mad:
but it’s alright. everyone else regaled me with love, cards and attention. it was truly a beautiful thing.

Leggs

May 7th, 2012
12:24 pm

@Swiss ~ from this point until birth!

They say more women log into Ashley Madison’s site because they feel so unappreciated. Some men are plain stupid. If you have children with this woman, you should acknowledge her on Mother’s day, plain and simple. She’s now a mother.

Bluzgirl

May 7th, 2012
12:26 pm

Cel…I did hear that this morning and I was getting mad at that boy! He was so adament about how his wife isn’t HIS mother so he shouldn’t have to do anything for her. I don’t have kids, but if I did and had a man like that, he would get slapped silly!!!

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
12:30 pm

Brat – The have 3 kids…I believe he said (cause he was ignorantly talking in the background over the caller), 3,5,7…I know I heard 3 and 7…. Whatever their ages, being it 1 day old, he should should know Mother’s Day should be celebrated for her as well, given the fact that she’s now a mommie. He was a true idiot….truly And just making his argument all stupid like and on the air for the whole world (or listeners) to hear his crass behind.

Just kept saying, she’s not my mother…dummy

Celisea

May 7th, 2012
12:30 pm

be it 1 day old

Bluzgirl

May 7th, 2012
12:41 pm

He definitely made himself sound like a fool! I hope I can catch what the wife says tomorrow…

i'm swiss

May 7th, 2012
12:51 pm

Oh wow… I haven’t had to think about mother’s day for so long, I forgot all about it. I need to do something for Mrs. Swiss for mother’s day this year…