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Dating: Should you switch your style?

Everyone likes the idea of meeting someone great, liking them, and them liking you back. The thought of having to make compromises, concessions, or God forbid actual changes does not bode well for single people.

We all believe we are wonderful creatures and anyone who dates us should accept us as we are! Why would you change to please someone else, right?

Realistically speaking, how many people in a long lasting relationship can actually say they made it work by staying the exact same person? A friend of mine has a woman who is trying to give him a makeover. Simple stuff, really, nothing particular major. Personally, I think she has made his image a lot more polished. I noticed the changes almost immediately and I remarked how nice his new look was.

His boys are giving him a hard time, however, for switching up his style to appease his woman. Although, he tells them that he really likes her “suggestions”, they still believe that she just took the first step toward domination and think it is a warning sign.

Do men worry about their women making too many changes to things like their appearance/image, etc? Are they open to hearing some suggestions or does it come across as controlling?

Have you ever switched your style after dating someone? Have you ever suggested a change for someone else? How did they respond?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:34 pm

THEY’RE out there. We see it on the newS daily…

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:36 pm

Yep just people with guns and shanks in their coats.

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:38 pm

now i’m truly rolling! i had oodles of troubles understanding southern speak when i got here, but i never imagined they’d get all vile on me. denial can be a very peaceful place. i recall riding the No.3 train to the last stop in ENY many a night around 2-3am (coming home from work). i’d see all kinds of unsavory characters but i REFUSED to change cars or get off. i was gonna show them they couldn’t rattle my chains.
clearly sweet jesus worked the same shift and musta been riding with me all those years.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 4th, 2012
4:40 pm

Oh yeah, they are out there, but they are also at work with you, at church with you, in the park, at the game, at meet and greets (lol) any and everywhere….Always be aware, never be afraid….

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:44 pm

I agree, Jake. Always aware and they are everywhere. Just the closed confines of the bus had me thinking even more. No matter the unsavory characters on the trains and buses of NY, the hidden animosity simmering on the surface is what frightened me. Sometimes it was palpalable.

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:45 pm

my brother has a saying: “only three kinds of people are out in the middle of the night; perps, victims and cops. if you ain’t a perp or a cop, guess what?”
i still get mad at him when he tells me that. reminding me how foolish i was.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:50 pm

the hidden animosity simmering on the surface is what frightened me. Sometimes it was palpalable here in Georgia….wasn’t sure if that sentiment was conveyed properly.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:52 pm

Jake – So true, but I’m with Leggs sometimes sitting around the CRAZY LOOKING PEOPLE is a beast in and of itself. Sometimes the most insane looking is who you should beware

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:53 pm

Alright folks…have a good weekend!!!

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
4:54 pm

Crazies are everywhere. But what really scares me is folks that eat ice cream with a fork. IJS

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:54 pm

You too, Celisea

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:54 pm

at meet and greets (lol)

I just caught this…stoooooop

Bye folks!

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:55 pm

LOLOLOL….shet it up Willie. That’s what they put on my dish :)

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:55 pm

It ain’t like you didn’t hear me say “I need a spoon” Mmm hmm you heard me…lol

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:56 pm

have a great and safe weekend.

ciaocito, good people!

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:56 pm

Here’s a tidbit for the upcoming hot weather. Not sure if you guys know this, but Jason’s icecream cones in the back by the salad bar are free even if you don’t eat there that day. I’m not kidding. Park, get a small icecream cone, walk out and back to your car. I promise, no one will stop you. It’s free to the public.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:57 pm

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
5:06 pm

Went from unsavory characters to savory ice cream..

shaadi

May 5th, 2012
9:44 am

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guy

May 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

lets face it… a dude will do a lot for a beej