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Dating: Should you switch your style?

Everyone likes the idea of meeting someone great, liking them, and them liking you back. The thought of having to make compromises, concessions, or God forbid actual changes does not bode well for single people.

We all believe we are wonderful creatures and anyone who dates us should accept us as we are! Why would you change to please someone else, right?

Realistically speaking, how many people in a long lasting relationship can actually say they made it work by staying the exact same person? A friend of mine has a woman who is trying to give him a makeover. Simple stuff, really, nothing particular major. Personally, I think she has made his image a lot more polished. I noticed the changes almost immediately and I remarked how nice his new look was.

His boys are giving him a hard time, however, for switching up his style to appease his woman. Although, he tells them that he really likes her “suggestions”, they still believe that she just took the first step toward domination and think it is a warning sign.

Do men worry about their women making too many changes to things like their appearance/image, etc? Are they open to hearing some suggestions or does it come across as controlling?

Have you ever switched your style after dating someone? Have you ever suggested a change for someone else? How did they respond?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
2:17 pm

Slim – La Parilla sounds real cool BUT Fayetteville is hella far after a few libations.

Lady – Thanks for the suggestions but the Morbid/Ghost/Cemetary stuff is totally out. The Wifey would never ever go for it therefore i wouldn’t even consider bringing it up. hahaha

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
2:19 pm

Maybe I’ll tell her she needs to switch her style up a bit.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:19 pm

LOLOLOL WD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well taqueria del sol is a winner though its on ponce downtown decatur nothing morbid there

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:22 pm

Oakland Cemetery give great tours and lessons on famous atliens and stuff it was a learning component to it I enjoyed it

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
2:22 pm

This day is dragging on

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:23 pm

yep C it is this whole week has been an utter drag! lol

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
2:27 pm

I’ve been too a cemetery once and that was about 4 years ago. It was difficult for me to go, but she was a dear friend so I did it. Haven’t been back to one since. Definitely wouldn’t hang out in one, but I’ve people doing this.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
2:28 pm

@Lady ~ my boss has suggested that I take the our of Oakland Cemetery in the hopes it may help battle my fright.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:31 pm

Leggs it was a celebration but I feel ya if my bff was there I couldn’t either rest her soul~ I think the historical part there took away the gloomy feeling plus cinco de mayo is a festive event and the patron was great! and the tequila up cakes with lime! yummy

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
2:31 pm

Sorry, falling asleep over here…take the tour.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:31 pm

cup cakes~

Try it out leggs I took my child for a tour~ reminded me of New Orleans a bit~

DreamsMaterialize

May 4th, 2012
2:37 pm

You all talking about Noche, Eclipse di Luna, and Taqueria del Sol…that’s right up my alley. All the Tin Lizzy’s locations are doing something for Cinco de Mayo too. The one in Buckhead is even closing off the street.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:39 pm

DM ;) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am sorta getting hyped too! I am so quirky! ;)

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
2:39 pm

DM – I’m sure all the Tin Lizzy’s will be crowded…I know the Bert Show was giving away passes/reservations for there. I was just at the one across from the cemetary the weekend of the Dogwood Festival so I’m good on that for now

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:40 pm

alrighty then!!!!! Have a festive weekend folks!!!! ;) Peace!

Velonese

May 4th, 2012
2:51 pm

Take me how I am or GTFO if I wanted to marry.

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
2:52 pm

Drink responsibly yall!

Off to the dealership again…either i’ll leave with a new car or a refinanced loan on my current car ;-)

Be easy!

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
3:19 pm

Heeeey, I come back and everybody’s gone for the day??

i'm swiss

May 4th, 2012
3:22 pm

I’m still lurking, C, but I’ve been a busy beaver today…

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
3:32 pm

Swiss – Good, not just me in here alone… I had to jump off myself to get a few things done. Busy is good :)

Sassy Me...all SMILES :-)

May 4th, 2012
3:33 pm

I’ve been a busy beaver today…

Me,too…I’ve only been able to lurk half assed and haven’t had time to post..that being said, I am “ret to go”, though…

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
3:37 pm

I’m still here although fleeting…

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
3:38 pm

I’ve been a busy beaver today…

Awww nevermind…..

i'm swiss

May 4th, 2012
3:40 pm

Leggs / Sassy / C — Awwwwwwww suki, suki now! Glad to hear y’all’s beavers have been busy. Do tell — and don’t skimp on the details… :lol:

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
3:43 pm

hey good people.

according to my calculations, i “work” from about 10am to about 3-4pm with a good 30-90 minute lunch between. the rest is me time on the company dime. :oops:

having said that …. whassup in blogsville?!? :lol:

i won’t be in the cinco shenanigans, but definitely going to get out to see “the avengers” this weekend! woohoo!!!

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
3:47 pm

Me too, czB, won’t be in the cinco shenanigans. That’s a crazy night for so much to go wrong.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
3:58 pm

I won’t be doing the cinco shenanigans either. I’ll be doing something though…just not that :)

My busy as a beaver ain’t fun…I’m in a debate (well not really) between the lily white guy and our the Anti-Money Laudering Team. This is not fun and I’m stuck in the middle. He ain’t agreeing with some of their definitions

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:00 pm

Swiss – Those were my details. Kinda not what you wanted or needed to know huh? LOL Now I’m jumping on a call…if y’all scadaddle while I’m gone have a good weekend all!!

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:01 pm

leggs, just reminds me of st. patty’s day. seems the primary focus is getting sh!t faced. not my idea of a good time. especially not amongst mass quantities of people.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:01 pm

Nevermind, call starts at 4:30…I got 30 minutes. Whatchall got??

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
4:02 pm

Yeah, what Swiss said.
Swiss -Just offering my help if you feel overwhelmed discussing such a delicate topic with the Ladies.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:03 pm

mass quantities of people who have to drive…too many wrong way drivers.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:04 pm

Never cared for the song Brass Monkey by the Beastie Boys. They’re playing a little tribute to the group.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:05 pm

I don’t EVER like doing too much where there’s a mass of folks. In the back of my mind there’s always a crazy somehwere in the crowd. It would be my luck if I’m standing next to trigger happy Tommy…nuh uh. I like to keep it to mininum folks.

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:08 pm

leggs, i really couldn’t name a single beastie boys tune. sad nonetheless.

i hear ya, celisea. i think that’s why we put together that nye thingy. not much luv for wild crowds. couldn’t even tell ya the last time i was in a night club. i think it’s been over 20yrs, :shock:

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 4th, 2012
4:09 pm

Happy Friday Folks…whats the deal

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:10 pm

“In the back of my mind there’s always a crazy somehwere in the crowd. It would be my luck if I’m standing next to trigger happy Tommy” – This brings me back to my thinking when I started riding Marta. New to the South, and I felt so strange. So many smiles while they cursed you under their breath.

Sorry, whole new different topic.

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
4:10 pm

Leggs/Cel – I feel yall on the Safety tip. That’s why we very rarely get out for Vday, Nye celebrations etc. I’m taking one for the team (whoa is me, I know).

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:11 pm

czBrat – And the NYE’s was nice, I had a nice time :) The last time I was in a club was Leggs’ birthday but I can’t really count that. That was a specific event. The last time I went clubbing? Well heck I can’t remember. I don’t miss it though.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:13 pm

WillieD – Exactly on not getting out. That don’t excuse getting something done though…lol

Jake – What’s up

Leggs – I use to park my car and ride Marta. My kid is rolling (she says I’m scary and paranoid), when I tell her stories of getting off if someone boarded looking half out of their minds…lol I know I jumped off at least once a week. Better safe and late than sorry and dead…lol

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:17 pm

I remember being in class one day when I called this girl a “toy cop” and we had a heated, somewhat healthy debate. Who I’m kidding, nothing healthy about it since we were both held back by other students (lol). Anyway, another person in another class came across as being “trigger happy.” I sensed he was dangerous so I didn’t mess around with him, but I watched him. We have Zimmerman today, well back then he was Zimmerman.

czBrat

May 4th, 2012
4:19 pm

leggs, what you do to have folks cussin you in the subway?
willie, where you go to find unruly crowds on Vday?
:lol:

it was real cool, celisea. definitely doing it again. and ms. leggs must be there next time!

i think i may be the only star wars nerd on this blog, but May the 4th be with you all just the same!

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:19 pm

I never got off, Celisea, but I was anxious many times with the person sitting behind me. Always felt someone was going to take a gun out all willy nilly and shoot me in the back of the head. Thank goodness it didn’t cripple me.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:22 pm

czBrat – A “next time” is a must :) Oh, my sister don’t blog but she’s a SW’s fan. At least there’s someone else in the universe that shares your passion…lol

Leggs – Honey I felt the same way…always wondered if someone was gonna break out shooting…seriously. I’m laughing to myself now because if they got on looking deranged and I spotted before the doors closed, I hopped off…lol

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:23 pm

Yes, I’m a chicken when it comes to other folks’ crazy. Nowadays people have no problem taking themselves out after the damage is done. So it’s neither here nor there to them. Folks use to be afraid of jail time. Now they skip jail and take the train heading south

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:24 pm

I don’t recall anyone cussing me in the subway, well not here in Atlanta. In the Bronx, Queen, Manhattan, Brooklyn, that’s a whole different story!

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:28 pm

I’m somewhat tone deaf and wasn’t able to pick up on the dialect/twang when I first arrived.

I had to ask people to repeat themselves so many times figured only a matter of time before some tire of me saying, “huh, what are you say,” or me repeating something back that they did say and pull out a pistol and blow me away. Seriously, I’ve conjured up many scenario while sitting on the bus.

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
4:28 pm

that they DIDN’T SAY…

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 4th, 2012
4:29 pm

What ya’ll scared of, them people just people…..hey Cel

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
4:32 pm

Seriously, I’ve conjured up many scenario while sitting on the bus.

This is NOT crazy…this is how you think to keep out of the path of crazy.

Jake – We are afraid of the crazies. There out there. We see it on new daily.