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Dating: Should you switch your style?

Everyone likes the idea of meeting someone great, liking them, and them liking you back. The thought of having to make compromises, concessions, or God forbid actual changes does not bode well for single people.

We all believe we are wonderful creatures and anyone who dates us should accept us as we are! Why would you change to please someone else, right?

Realistically speaking, how many people in a long lasting relationship can actually say they made it work by staying the exact same person? A friend of mine has a woman who is trying to give him a makeover. Simple stuff, really, nothing particular major. Personally, I think she has made his image a lot more polished. I noticed the changes almost immediately and I remarked how nice his new look was.

His boys are giving him a hard time, however, for switching up his style to appease his woman. Although, he tells them that he really likes her “suggestions”, they still believe that she just took the first step toward domination and think it is a warning sign.

Do men worry about their women making too many changes to things like their appearance/image, etc? Are they open to hearing some suggestions or does it come across as controlling?

Have you ever switched your style after dating someone? Have you ever suggested a change for someone else? How did they respond?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

220 comments Add your comment

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
12:31 pm

why would you think its bragging C?!? sheesh far from it and you applaud others on their journey! I am glad you know someone trustworthy and won’t be on channel 2 with clark howard crying about being scammed lol

kimmie

May 4th, 2012
12:31 pm

You’re not bragging at all. I totally get your excitement. That’s how I was with my house when I would have work done. Every now & then I get in my HGTV mode and go crazy!! I get it, believe me!! You see things you want/need done and it’s actually going to happen, not just a dream!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
12:31 pm

you work too hard to lose your money to foolishness

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
12:33 pm

Kimmie – Run from the chick licking her fingers. That’s nasty. Most folks will at least fake it if they know all eyes are on them. Not knowing you shouldn’t lick your fingers dealing with other’s food outright and not knowing you shouldn’t lick your fingers IN FRONT of others while handling their food says she’s nasty. Point blank

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
12:35 pm

Thanks Kimmie and Lady…y’all get me :) I appreciate it.

Lady – I had to laugh at the Clark Howard comment…lol You know if folks tryna scam you but it on blast.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
12:37 pm

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
12:43 pm

girl the game is fierce! its a new scam story daily! ;)

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
12:44 pm

Yes it is…you have to be oh so careful.

Alright I gotta eat and get back to work…at least for a minute

cba

May 4th, 2012
12:44 pm

Cel~ home improvements should make you float on cloud nine; your home is your oasis. Now if your were bragging about buying another pair of 500.00 shoes and you already have 25 pair…..then we need to talk :lol:

My chest is stuck off alittle bit today……baby girl is receiving her MBA tonight :-) :-)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
12:45 pm

go cba daughter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) proud daddy!

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
12:49 pm

I feel a little headache coming on

cba

May 4th, 2012
12:50 pm

You know it Ms Lady :-)

i'm swiss

May 4th, 2012
12:51 pm

Slim — Did my dance moves make your brain hurt?

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
1:01 pm

swiss – No but it did make me laugh…maybe it’s a laughing headache. I’d hate to see how you dance after a few brewskies lol

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:05 pm

cba – Thank you and thank you! And a woo hoo for your daughter…that is fantab!!! Gon’ and hold your chest out. You deserve it :)

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
1:18 pm

cba – congrats.

All – Any suggestions for Cinco de Mayo. I’m looking for somewhere festive with great drinks, atmosphere and preferably Tapas.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:19 pm

alrighty 90 minutes and give me free! ;)

Sassy Me...all SMILES :-)

May 4th, 2012
1:24 pm

Any suggestions for Cinco de Mayo

Loca Luna perhaps?….

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
1:28 pm

@Celisea ~ I heard the little boy on The Bert Show. When I first saw the video a while back I thought it cute that the little boy paused when asked he wanted to say something to other little kids who couldn’t ride their bikes, then come with such a cute, inspiring response.

Nice on your home repairs…to see something that’s been in your mind’s eye come to fruition is something to be celebrated and happy about.

Congratulations, cba. That’s definitely an honor.

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
1:31 pm

Sassy – I was just about to suggest Loca Luna but I checked the website to see if they had anything listed for May 5th, but I didn’t see anything. I called but no one answered…

WD – They do have tapas though

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:31 pm

Eclipse di Luna Restaurant and Tapas Bar

taqueria del sol <<<downtown decatur

No Mas

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:33 pm

Bone Garden Cantina

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:34 pm

Slim every sunday Jimmy Jones has a day party with live music and a dj there with drink and food specials (loca luna)

That is where I am pondering brunch for sunday

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:35 pm

Eclipse’s mojitos are simply delish freshly made! very authentic~

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:37 pm

Leggs – Thanks on the congrats. On the kid on the radio he was just sooo cute. Yes I caught the pause before his recommendation to others

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:38 pm

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:39 pm

Lady – Bone Garden Cantina, is that on Ellsworth? I passed a sign this morning and I declare that’s what I read.

Willie Dynamite

May 4th, 2012
1:39 pm

Thanks Ladies,

We’ve done Loca Luna and Eclipse along with Noche (my fave). I may check out the taquiera del sol spot in the Dec.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:40 pm

yep c!

WD I wanna do taquiera del sol too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) I get there meus weekly and it seems very authentic too!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:41 pm

then I wanna try Bone read great things about Bone!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:42 pm

i have a $35 groupon for loca luna and their inexpensive prices will make that a good outing worth my drive! lolololol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:42 pm

meant menus~

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
1:42 pm

WD – I know for a fact that La Parilla in Fayetteville does a whole shibang but not sure how far you’re willing to drive. They actually close off part of the parking lot and have a huge canopy with a dj out there, sell shots, beer, etc. I always have fun out there

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
1:43 pm

but not tapas though, sorry

Leggs

May 4th, 2012
1:44 pm

@SlimNu ~ I have a friend that goes to La Parilla and speaks very highly of the place. Of course she gets plastered, but she’s having a ball doing it.

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:45 pm

Wow Lady, Imma have to stop there…maybe we can swing through there this weekend. I go through there every morning on my way to work.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:46 pm

yeah Bone sounds like a date night with a Boo~ sounds very nice!

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:46 pm

Not we as in you and I….lol

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:47 pm

Lady – That’s what I meant…lol Imma stop there on my way home though and peek inside

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:48 pm

personally I am invited to 3 events sat.

I have a secret supper ticket, a fight party, and a club event. not doing the club at all. pondering how I will split my time between the supper and fight party

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:48 pm

LOLOLOL okay C!

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
1:51 pm

Lady – Ummm, just pulled it up online and hmmm, I dunno…lol “Dine with the dead” That ain’t exactly my cup of tea. Really I’m going by the photo shots online.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:51 pm

lolololol C be open

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:52 pm

cinco de mayo is celebrating the dead last year secret supper was in the memorial grave yard it was so much fun

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
1:57 pm

C!!!!! lol where you @?!?

but really last year walking through the graveyard gardens wasn’t spooky @ all and the patron made me forget it quickly lol

SlimNu..wobble wobble, shake it shake it

May 4th, 2012
2:01 pm

Leggs – Every time I’ve gone to La Parilla for Cinco de Mayo, there is always some one drunk there. lol

Bartender – I’ll have a vodka and cranberry…hold the cemetary & tombstones please

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:03 pm

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:08 pm

meant Oakland Cemetery

Celisea

May 4th, 2012
2:12 pm

Lady – Be open eh? Uh uh…lol I can’t do morbid stuff or surroundings. I see you in the pics from you link. That seemed okay

Lady~Love will win the fight~

May 4th, 2012
2:14 pm

C it was fun this year the fight is taking my joy I am not pressed for the supper if I go I am leaving early…………i tried selling my ticket came close 2 times but we shall see