Today’s post is courtesy of a fellow dating blogger, Brittany Manson who writes Alone in Atlanta column:
Guys work hard for everything they feel is worth having: the best car, the best job, the nicest house, the cleanest image, etc. However there’s one aspect that it appears they’re not working as hard for anymore: The right woman.
Sure, they feel one (and in some guy’s cases more than one) is worth having, but how much effort is put in on the job of finding a good woman?
Phone calls turn into text messages, date nights out turn into late nights in…To the unsuspecting eye, it seems that guys are getting lazy when it comes to working for women. But are guys getting lazier or are we as women getting easier and so much work isn’t required for us anymore?
It’s no secret that the ratios aren’t necessarily in our favor. Meaning available guys are scarce. So to make our chances better, we make the job easier: we don’t stress “dating” as much, we continue to text even though we prefer verbal conversation, and whatever else is necessary to keep a guy on the job.
But in the long run, who benefits from this? We’ve gotten a guy to do minimal work for us but are we happy with the performance? Guys don’t have to work as hard but will they ever be aware of their full potential?
Values of houses and cars will depreciate. Jobs will let you go without a warning. But relationships with a good man or woman have the ability to stand the test of time and that’s the one thing most of us put the least amount of time and work into.
So now the question is: When it comes to dating and relationships, who’s working hard and who’s hardly working? We work hard at ensuring we have the best of everything to bring to the table, but we hardly work at the pursuit of a suitable mate that’s going to appreciate our hard work in the long run.
Instead we take “temp jobs” where we know a lot of work isn’t required because it’s not going to go anywhere. What will it take to make us all start working hard to find that someone that will make it so we never have to work again?
Guest post by Brittany Mason for Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog