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Archive for May, 2012

Why do women cheat in relationships?

Author Tucker Max appeared on The Dr. Drew show and the topi was why do women cheat in relationships. The author said there were basically two reasons women cheated in relationships: they had deep emotional issues to work out or they have relationship unhappiness.

I should say that I a not a fan of this particular author because he usually says something wildly offensive about women. In this particular instance, I admit that I agree with him here. Often times, women are compelled to cheat on their partners for emotional reasons in an effort to get their needs met.

This doe not excuse the behavior, mind you. It is still an incredibly selfish and wrong thing to do to your partner. However, I would argue that men have their own reasons for cheating as well. Does it matter what drove them to it?

Why do you think a woman cheats in her relationships? How do their reasons differ from a man’s possible reasons?

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Vintage dating tips still applicable?

Not long after I spotted this quote on Facebook: Chivalry isn’t dead. It just left and followed wherever “being lady like” went. – I found a vintage article from 1938, sweetly entitled Tips for Single Women.

I think my favorite gem from 1938: Don’t drink too much as a man expects you to keep your dignity. Drinking may make some women more clever, but most get silly.

Obviously, a lot has changed for single women and men since 1938. I think the idea of how a woman should behave has changed so much, you would be hard pressed to find traditional views like these.

I don’t know if this is a good thing or a bad thing, though. Are vintage dating tips that talk about the expectations of “lady like behavior” still applicable today? Does it explain the lack of chivalry today?

Are men slow to be more chivalrous because they don’t really see that much ladylike behavior that deserves it?

What kind of dating tips do you think our parents and grandparents were given when they were …

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Dating: No regrets?

Do you ever look back on past relationships and wished you worked a little harder for someone? I am not just talking about the one that got away, though. I am referring to the one that got pushed away, faded to black, or put on the back burner.

When we figure out that there was more we could have done or shouldn’t have done, do we ever look back in regret?

Is there someone in your past who deserved better than how you treated them?

Do you think that someone regrets they way the treated you? Have they ever told you about their regret?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Dating: About that magic number…

If you can’t handle the answer to something, you should not ask the question. That is a life lesson that people refuse to learn. Asking the question without being prepared for the response doesn’t stop some people from asking their partner the “magic number”.

One reader asked her man what his magic number was and the answer literally made her gasp..out loud. Should she tell him that his magic number really bothers her? There is not much he can do about it, what’s done is done. Repeatedly.

What would you do if someone’s magic number made you uneasy? Should you let them know? Do you find out how or why the number is what it is?

Should it matter to us what our partners did before they met us?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Post-date surveys? It’s a thing, apparently

I could not stop myself from giggling at this hilarious idea of a guy handing a woman a survey at the conclusion of their date. A survey in which she was asked specific questions that would offer insight, feedback, and critique.

Brilliant idea or some form of social masochism? YOU decide!

The young man, Mike Stolar, admits that he has some difficulty on the dating scene. He believed the survey could better his chances of improving his, um technique to woo women. Or something!

I can not imagine how I would react if a man handed me a paper and asked me to fill out a survey on him and our date experience. Perhaps I would be into it and give total honesty and hope that the next woman would benefit from my opinions. Who knows? My ego is way to big to make my own survey.

I am curious to know your thoughts, though? Would you complete a post date survey? What about a post first time in bed survey?

If you were bold enough, what would you put on a post-date survey that someone …

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Dating dilemma: Age gap

When you date much older or much younger people, you have probably had to navigate the age gap. Whenever it becomes painfully obvious that you two are from totally different generations, or have polar opposite outlooks on life. How do you hand the difference in age?

A lot of it has to do with maturity and communication. You find a way to work out the differences by acknowledging them first. It’s not helpful to overlook the pink elephant in the room.

A friend of mine is dating someone a lot younger than he is. Still, he is somewhat surprised how she handles certain situations. I feel as if he should understand that it comes with the territory of dating younger. I encourage him to cut her some slack and remind him how he was clueless at her age too.

Do you ever wonder if dating someone who is much older or much younger is worth all the adjustments that you have to make?

They way I see it, every relationship will have it’s own unique set of challenges. If dealing with the …

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Exes and friendship?

When a relationship ends, you usually don’t just stop caring about the person. There are lingering emotions and sometimes attraction. So does this mean forming a friendship is a bad idea or the best idea?

When you go from friends to lovers then back to friends again, how should the dynamic change?

A lot of us have a particular ex who we prefer to pretend does not exist anymore, but what about the former loves who you really want to stay connected to? Those great people who turned out not to be a great match for you but you want in your life. Is it naive to expect a friendship or can it be done with good expectations and communication?

How many of your exes are you still friends with and have kept communication?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Dating: Do you like them enough?

If you are devoting all your free time to someone but you aren’t crazy about them, you are wasting time -theirs and yours. Single people do this all the time. To stave off boredom or loneliness, they selfishly bide their time until something better comes along.

The reality is that it doesn’t take a really long time to determine if you like someone enough to start a relationship with them. Men are especially adept at figuring this kind of thing out fairly quickly. Once they know, it’s only a matter of when they are ready to tell (and show) the woman that she is the “chosen one”.

How long does it take you to figure out if you like them enough to keep things going?

How can you avoid being someone’s “placeholder”? How can you tell when they like you enough?

HAPPY MONDAY!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Relationships: Should you police your mate?

I was listening to Q100’s The Bert Show and they were discussing a couple’s argument: The man is not allowed to watch porn or go to strip clubs, but his wife is all into the racy novel Shades of Gray. (Apparently this book is explicit and sexy and full of naughty naughty things)

The man felt as if there was some kind of double standard at play. If he can’t enjoy adult movies or go to a strip club, why should she get a pass to read explicit content like Shades of Gray? What do you think? Is it the same thing?

I wondered how any woman can forbid or limit her partner’s access to adult movies. Isn’t that a little controlling in the context of a relationship?

Does your partner have a right to control or police your freedom to do what tickles your fancy?

Guys, what would you do if your woman asked/told/ordered you to stay away from certain explicit things? Would you comply? (For the sake of discussion, let’s assume there are no addiction issues involved.)

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Do you believe in destiny?

Destiny. Fate. Do you think that your life is influenced by your destiny, fate, or your actions. A lot of people believe that their lives have a certain trajectory because of the choices they have made. If this is true, what does this mean for your love life?

I have met couples who are so perfectly suited for one another, it seems as if they are actually meant to be together. That could be fate or destiny, or it could be their own choices and/or actions that lead them to find one another.

What do you think? Do you believe in fate or destiny? Do you think that you have made choices that have set you on the right course to meet the person who is meant for you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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