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Archive for April, 2012

Dating: High maintenance, much?

A friend of mine was talking to a guy who freely admitted that he “required a lot of attention” and was aware of this fact. He believed that he constantly needed to be stimulated.

In my experience, it’s rare that a man own up to being demanding, high maintenance men. Often times, it is the women that get called needy and requiring a lot of work.

Everyone has their own perception of high maintenance, be it positive or negative. I wonder, is it good or bad to be high maintenance?

What if you are the one dating someone who requires a lot of attention, affection, stimulation, etc. Are there limits to this? How much are we willing to cater to this type of high maintenance person?

If you believe the person is worth all that effort, do you make it work? What if they don’t reciprocate?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Worst relationship ever?

A friend ran into his former girlfriend recently and the conversation quickly became intense. While he believed the relationship from years ago ended amicably, she saw things differently. She explicitly stated he was her “worst relationship experience” and thanked him for showing his “true colors” to her.

Ouch! You know that saying that there is your side, their side, and somewhere in the middle, is what actually happened, right? In this case, from his perspective, his slight case of commitment phobia was a minor inconvenience to their budding romance. The way she saw things, he strung her along with false hope and mixed signals.

Just goes to show you that we never know when we were someone’s misadventure! What do you consider your worst relationship? What did you learn from the experience?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Dating: Does sex get in the way?

If you enter a relationship with a desire to make it actually last, you may need to consider when, how, and why you decide to handle sex and intimacy. Some people believe sex has little to no real impact on a new relationship. Others have experienced the complete opposite, in which sex changed everything.

Do you believe that sex/no sex is an important part of a dating relationship? In your past experiences, did you figure out what role, if any, sex played on the future of your relationship?

I have heard men say that once the relationship got physical, things changed – the women changed, or the dynamics of the relationship did.

Do men change their behavior after they become sexually involved?

Do you think there is a way to avoid sex getting in the way?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Women more sexually empowered?

There is an interesting debate that started over at Huffington Post and I heard about on Q100’s The Bert Show. It is centered around the questions: Do women now have a sexual advantage? Are women more sexually empowered than men?

Since women are earning more, staying single longer, and are generally living on their own terms, our sex lives are drastically different. Somehow this translates to a sexual advantage.

There is something about sexual empowerment being connected to economics that bothers me, but I understand the point that is being made. The idea is that there is some type of advantage in being a female today with more money, power, and freedom to make choices.

What I wonder though is how can one truly qualify or quantify sexual empowerment? Perhaps I am over thinking this, what are your thoughts?

Is sexual empowerment in men and women something that can truly be compared? Especially considering all of the different/double standards society hold for men and …

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Being frugal sexy?

I was listening to the Frank and Wanda radio show on the way to work yesterday. They were talking about dating frugal people and someone said that using a coupon on a date was not sexy. Seriously! Being smart about money is a turn off?

How does using a coupon kill the romance on a date, though? If a guy whipped out a coupon, groupon, or even foursquare check-in discount, do you know how impressed I would be?

It’s like some women have this fantasy of being wooed by wealthy men, and a coupon kind of jolts them back to “practical reality” or something.

Have you ever used a coupon or discount deal on a date? If not, would you be opposed to it?

Would it bother you to date someone who is frugal?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Family disliked your date?

This past weekend held a lot of promise for new couples introducing family members to their date. If you were brave enough to face the family at church or Easter dinner, you probably are hoping to hear good things. Meeting the family can be nerve wracking, especially when you really like your date.

So what do you do when things don’t go very well? A reader met her boyfriend’s family for the first time and she could tell they were not impressed by her. She sort of sensed their disdain because of the looks she received. Although her guy did not come out and say anything, she could tell he was disappointed in how things went.

What do you do when your date’s family and friends don’t really warm up to you? Have you ever been faced with a hostile family who was less than enthused to meet you?

Is it possible to win a family over after your first impression was a bad one? Would you break up with someone if you did not like their family?

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Are you dating a jerk?

I never understood why so many single people put up with bad behavior or rudeness when it came to dating. If these things rear their heads in dating, imagine what being in a relationship with the person will be like?

It happens a lot, sadly, and I wonder if there is some reason for it. If you notice such things as quick tempers, rude to servers, tardiness, and other jerk behavior, why give the person second and third dates?

Why are we so drawn to jerks? I know that no one is perfect, but it seems that many of us endure certain things longer then we should and then wonder why we end up dating a jerk.

How do you know when you are dating a jerk or if someone just has a few bad days? Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Should you juggle dates?

One of the perks of being single and unattached is having the freedom to mix and mingle, meet new potential marches. When you are lucky enough to find not one but two really cool people, should you juggle them?

Is it bad dating ethics to see more than one person until you are sure about how you feel about each of them?

A guy friends has a problem when he is seeing one woman while she is still juggling a couple of suitors. He feels as if she is obligated to let him know if he is not the only one in the picture. He admits that it would change his efforts – and it could result in him losing interest.

When do you juggle dates and when do you decide it’s time to let one go? Do you think it is good to tell when they are one of many people jockeying for your time?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Double standards, much?

There are times when men and women view things differently. It is one of those that has become a fact of life. The fact that men believe that women should not engage in the very same behavior as they do is an example of double standards that makes it harder to relate to one another.

What is hilarious (and annoying) is that double standard benefit men more than women? Why is that? What good are double standards?

What are some double standards that bug you? Which ones are good and you hope won’t ever go away?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Would you still be interested?

I was told by a guy friend that if women ever wanted to figure out when to take a guy seriously, ask themselves one question: If there was no sex involved, would they still be interested in you?

When a guy decides to pursue someone, he often has more than one reason to continue the pursuit. Sex is not always the top reason he is staying interested. Some women believe that that is the only reason some men stick around but I am not sure if that is the case.

If you are seeing someone now, would you still be interested if you were just friends?

What keeps you interested in someone? When do you lose interest?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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