Morning Mia!!!! Happy Fantastic Friday!!!!

I am a passionate lover who loves a to debate and spirited conversations ranging from sports, politics, current events, Venus vs Mars convos, etc………..Last night as the NFL draft was going on of course I spearheaded lively chatter and sarcastic jabs about the upcoming season. I am a people’s person and social butterfly and a chatter box. When I see an argument coming to head I let my opponent win and let them have it. I make my point and just discontinue talks. Most time they are trying to show me up I guess to shut me up with going tic for tac with trivial points. I find women and men do this tact but what gets me is why they try to make their points and go toe to toe with me when in all actually they don’t care for me (which is fine) but it happens. lol I am not everyone’s cup of tea which is great but I refuse to dim my light for the sake of others that just want me to shut up and be mute. Yeah, I always have an opinion and respect others accordingly.

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Slim I was told recently by my guy that he hates arguing. He can agree to disagree, communicate calmly about the issue nip and move on (without bringing it back up), etc. My point is one night we got into it and he was one foot out the door saying he just can sit and argue back and forth. He said he’s been there done that and not trying to argue no more. Now in reality arguments will occur in relationships I guess its one’s delivery and presentation. To become combative and verbally abusive I guess is his point that he ain’t partaking in it. Hope that makes sense. This kind of helps me because I can become irate when angry with a mate and lose focus on main points. Growth for me!

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guess its just respecting your mate and men want to be respected too~!

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Lady – The beau doesn’t argue either. He’ll be quick to get up and leave to take a drive to give me time to cool down….or he’ll just sit there while I rant and calmly look at me and say,” Are you finished”…boy oh boy does that take the wind out of my sails. I guess he takes the approach they tell you to take when your child throws a temper tantrum lol

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Lady – The first time he said that ish to me, I think I pictured jumping over the couch and putting him in a headlock. lol

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It is significantly in the mans best interest to keep an argument from getting out of hand. If she goes ape-sh1t and It escalates, guess who is the bad guy.

A smart guy will keep discussions from movin to that point. Even if it means leaving the house.

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Lady – Once you blow your steam, you can think more rationally and calmly

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Disco you funny chic!!!!!!!!!!!! lol don’t start none won’t be none! lol

Indeed Slim! and the best part of an argument is making up @ the end!!!!!!!!!!!!

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HiYas!

disco got me rolling on the floor already. way to kick of a friday!

jeff makes a great point. seems like most blogettes are dealing with men who know how NOT to let things escalate. that’s maturity and respect at work right there.

s/o said something very true just the other day. we are in complete control of how we interact with others. if you can get mad at your boss but not cuss him/her out, then why take it there when you’re angry at a loved one? if you can pick up a phone at work and speak to a stranger with the utmost respect, then why answer the phone with attitude and make a loved one feel like a real pain in your azz just cuz you’re having a bad day? point being, nothing HAS to escalate to profanity and abuse. we choose to do that in order to “win” an argument, but we can also choose not to.

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Good morning.

I love a spirited debate where both side can put forth their stance on the subject at hand. However, I am not going to sit there and argue with you, using a bunch of cuss words because then we are no longer having a conversation. I recognize we may have differing opinions, but it’s not my job to sway to you my side of thinking. I put forth my pros and cons and leave it there. No one is obligated to agree with me.

However, what I do not understand is when an argument occurs in a relationship (which is natrual), how ALL caution is thrown to the wind. I cannot separate loving my mate, arguing with him, and he calling me out my name and vice versa. When arguing, everyone should never forget the foundation of respect for one another. Some seem to have put this memo in the shredder.

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Personally, my wife and I never argue and fight. If there’s a disagreement, we discuss it, with no need to resolve the differences — just acceptance of the differences. Even political differences don’t matter to us much — she voted for McCain and me for Obama (I was really voting against Palin, though) — no biggie. In discussing it, we made our (simple) points, and just left it at that.

Lady, what are some examples of things you like to argue about?

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abc I don’t LIKE to argue about anything but when there is a disagreement I state my point I am sure like you and defend it accordingly.

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So I am the only one who has used profanity when arguing wow! I will take that though

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The beau is known for saying it isn’t his job to convince me or get me to believe him about something, it is what it is.

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A man understands women come at us with emotions exacting their point of view.<<<<<<<<Love that BF!!!! Howdy to you too!

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How about some example topics though, Lady?

I find that once someone develops an emotional commitment to their perspective on any given thing, that’s when debate escalates into hostile confrontations. Entire cultures develop this kind of mindset — I consider that to be the major difference between Middle Eastern and Western culture. I try to steer conversations away from such emotional commitment to opinion.

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I’ll tell you what I don’t get is folks who think it’s okay to argue all willy nilly out in public causing a scene. I’m the kind of chick that if the SO and I had a disagreement/agrument at the house but we have somewhere to go, once we get there, it’s squashed and we act cordial as to not draw attention to us. I’m not going to act all crazy so folks will smell the blood in the water and begin to ask all kind of questions.

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abc back off me sir its Friday! you’ve lived long enough and know many examples of why mates argue my examples are neither here or there sir! peace sir!

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SlimNu ~ I have never had an argument in public. I don’t see the need to involve strangers in my discord.

disco ~ “so I try not to argue because in my opinion we might as well fight so it’s easier to declare the winner.” – All I saw was Evelyn from BBwives saying these words (lolol).

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Just because I’m a woman, don’t assume I’m all “emotional” all the time, though

kimmie – That’s probably one of the main reasons folks say we aren’t ready for a female president

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slim – and now I am bowing down to you. as often as I have wanted to go off on a co-worker, as often as I have fantasized about slinging chicks against walls and hitting folks in the mouth with staplers – I have never actually done it. you are my hero for the day!!!

leggs / lady – me too. an argument without cursing? such a thing exists? heck, I can’t always have a fun, we are having a good time conversation without using some prime words.

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thanx, lady

leggs, your post is why i no longer buy into the “love after war” thing. my ex was a big beleiver in that, and since he was my first i kinda “grew up” thinking it was normal. it’s not. i find it hard to surrender myself to someone i’ve gone toe-to-toe with. much healthier (for me) to have the less-heated, more responsible discussions abc and bf described, and keep the love between us untainted.

disco, i left a job for those same reasons. my aggravation was coming out at home because my position (customer service rep) made it IMPOSSIBLE to lash back directly at those who where dumping on me. uh-uh. i ain’t doing my fam like that for a paycheck.

kimmie, ex-hubs used to go buck wild in a fight, and i’d surely rise to the occasion. then he’d want to apologize and take it all back afterward. but i wouldn’t apologize or take back sh!t. he’d ask “why won’t you take back those things you said/did?”
“cuz it was genuine at that time. no need for me to deny that. if you don’t like it, stop bringing that sh!t outta me and you’ll never have to hear/see it.” just ugh! we were sooooo young.

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Slim no’am arguing in public or at an event is for the birds. It happens though and it can be ugly bc some adults don’t care they are going to make their point disregarding respect.

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You ever be driving down or are stopped at a red light and can tell the folks in the car in front of you are getting it in with an argument? You always see finger pointing, arms flailing around in the air etc…lol

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while I agree with y’all that grown folks shouldn’t be acting a fool in public I can’t help but to think of how my mother always said “where you show your A is where I’m going to whoop you’re A”. needless to say, I’ve had a few public whippings in my day.

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Brat – Yep, I’m assuming if it came out of you, mad or not, you meant it, is was in you! A slip of the lip can sink a ship!

Sassy – I was just about to go there – a lot of couples seem to get off on the drama. In fact, neither would do well with someone that was calm. To each his/her own, but I’m not the one. Thinking back, I know I had some to try to push me to get a rise out of me. The chicks they dealt with in the past were crazy like that and that’s what they were used to. Go somewhere else with that.

Slim – Some think that public mess is cute. Keep that ish at home.

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Happy Friday!!

Let’s see. I’m quick tempered and had to take in much learning over the years, time and maturity, on how to handle myself in a relationship. There’s a difference in saying what you have to say to nip things in the bud versus going on and on and on. Yes yes, it took time and mistakes…sorry I wasn’t born doing it the right way…lol I’ll address my concerns when they arise and I don’t let too much slide even now. I’m not going to hammer or scold another adult but if the issue is valid we need to get it out there. I don’t spend time worrying if he’ll leave me or if he’ll think bad of me. If I feel it’s valid respect me enough to listen….even if truly it’s not. If you feel your concerns are valid I owe you the same level of respect to really hear you out and understand the place you’re coming from. What I have learned though is there’s a way, time and place for getting said what I need to get said. Not in public, not among friends, not bringing in girlfriends. In private between the two of us.

Now, if I even think to the slightest that you’re a buster bringing wacked mess that apparently worked on a bunch of chicken heads….simply because I’m insulted yeah, no not holding back. When I tell you to kiss my ass eternally on your way out, I mean it. At that point I’ve lost ALLL respect for you and could care less if you have it for me because by this time it will NEVER be anything. Not even friendship. But we don’t have to worry about that because that sort of thing NEVER happens right? LOL

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Lady – Oh you are not the only one to cuss when angry. I’m not really a cusser so I “there” if I cuss.

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And no, I’m not with any physical exchanges. Naw that ain’t happening…

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lady – and in between the beatings the children kept coming. lol.

leggs – some real stuff be jumping off in those cars. I know one chick who let her boyfriend put her out of her own car. I still tease her about that to this day. to be put out of his car is one thing but to be forced out of your own car, that’s something else.

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Lady – No, you are not the only to cuss, but like Celisea said, you have really taken me “there” if I gotta cuss. I cursed one dude out I dated cause he took me there, and I am not proud of it. Even then, I didn’t call him out of his name. I’ve never cursed hubs and he’s never spoken to me that way.

You are more apt to hear me curse if you were a fly on my wall in my car, cause that’s how I deal with my road rage!LOL!!

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Thinking back, I know I had some to try to push me to get a rise out of me.

Me,too Kimmie. Whenever that happened I always asked them one question, “Do you think this is worth it”…and when they say, “Worth what?” ..I tell them Worth all the bullisht Imma give you if you don’t stop phckin wit me… worked errtime. I don’t deal with that kind of stuff well…why would you purposely try my gangsta like that?!

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disco – Public spankings get you locked up these days…

Leggs – My best friends sister was having an argument with her husband and she was driving. Don’t you know this fool punched her in the side of her face so hard he broke her jaw. Then he put her out of the car and left her on the side of the road unconscious…in Colorado in the WINTER TIME!!!!! Another car came by and saw her, then took her to the hospital. The guy ended up spending 3wks in jail and don’t you know she is still with him?!!!

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Kimmie – Yep so true…and if he takes me “there”, like Sassy said…all bets are off and it’s anything goes. Don’t act shocked or be surprised…lol

Hey there Lady! What’s crackalackin?

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Nothing but the rent C!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

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Sometimes I wish I could be more passive but I am doing better at leaving it be! If he say he got it I don’t touch it no matter how he does it or even if if irks me I just leave it be~ you got sir!

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Sassy – I’m laughing. I ain’t judging

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Leggs – You see Grey’s & Scandal last night?

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Once I get angry ALL bets are off and there’s no telling what’ll happen…I don’t like to get like that and try not to but there are times…

lol. one of the more difficult things s/o and i had to learn about each other was that as long as we’re both talking we’re good. if either of us goes to straight silence, something dangerous is going to pop off. i have figured out that touch is the best way to bring him back from the brink. he has figured out that calling me “baby” in that moment is a huge mistake.

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Then he put her out of the car and left her on the side of the road unconscious…in Colorado in the WINTER TIME!!!!! Another car came by and saw her, then took her to the hospital. The guy ended up spending 3wks in jail and don’t you know she is still with him?!!!

See sh/t like that will make a muhf@#ka come up missin…wooosaaah
Get the behind me satan…

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Celisea – Your 10:23 is a perfect definition of a wuss!

That’s why I can’t stand Kobe Bryant! Every time I see him he’s always beyotching or whining about something!!

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Kimmie – You know! A dude sulking because he wasn’t able to “get over” or play her so now like some woman, he’s going in for the kill by trying to either make her look bad or intimate or becomes threatening. Some of us down back down for how apparently you’ve mistreated women over the years. I say for every dude out there wearing pannies like that, there’s a match in the form of a woman just waiting to happen to him

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disco – I chuckled a bit because I did think (while typing) she should have drove him off a cliff but then that would have been her too. Driving his side of the car into a telephone pole is funny as heck. Bet he’ll think twice the next time he smack a woman….lol Yep, that’s why we have car insurance….FOR ACCIDENTS

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Sassy – not to make light of the situation but I read this: “Get thee behind me satan…” in the voice of David Allen Grier

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should’ve been *get thee behind me* but y’all get the jist.

Celi as long as you’re laughing “with” me chica Gurl I really hurt his feelins when I did that. He said he didn’t know I could talk like that…poor thang. You gone learn today

i have figured out that touch is the best way to bring him back from the brink.

Yeah cz, there’s something about that that has a calming effect. And you can tell when their breathing pattern changes and some of the nots/frowns in their faces go away…shoulders relax and then they start talking.

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SlimNu ~ I almost teared up picturing that exchange. Never say never, but I know my “constitution,” and I could not let someone back in my heart that broke my jaw, put me out of the car in the dead of winter knowing I hate, hate, hate being cold, and driving off. Naw, I would never be the same so why try to form a better relationship with someone who clearly thought little of me to do that. Once disrespect for me has flown out the window like that, I couldn’t go back. Not knocking those that do, everyone seems to have a valid reason why they go back, just like I would have a valid reason not to.

@kimmie ~ yes, I saw both shows. Why she sleep with him is beyond me, then worry that Jesus no longer likes her. Such a hypocrite. Didn’t like that scene. Can’t blame the chief at all, not at all. I thought he was going to back out at one point.

Scandal is just good at every turn. The President’s right hand man is a TRICK!

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Sassy – I’m laughing “with” you because I know me. Heck we ain’t perfect. You scratch it long enough it’s coming to the surface.

What about women that won’t ever let go and just hold it together all the time? I’m together most times but if we need to have a heated discussion, let’s do that. I think it’s healthy. I think it’s unhealthy to hold something in out of fear or to appear to be happy or okay with it. Anything festering long enough will eventually come out. Do it rationally rather than exploding.

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kimmie – I wasn’t feeling either of them from the first show but after last night’s show I was just thinking “I’m sick of both of these heffas”. the new hire chick got on my bad side crying the first episode and it didn’t help that she comes off as dense, she doesn’t follow instructions and she doesn’t have the good sense to stay away from the reporter that keeps bamboozling her.

the other chick is just snooty and thinks she’s all that. I wasn’t feeling how she keeps making cheap shots at old boy (the one who got engaged and used to be with escorts). her shots aren’t friendly, we’re cool, I’m just playing shots. she acts like she’s jealous because he doesn’t want her. I also don’t like that she thinks she can blatantly disregard rules. so what she was a battered woman. Olivia should have told her I sent you to find a chick not save a chick. also, she fits in with today’s topic. she’s also argumentative.

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Lady – Thanks. I typing as I think and sometimes, my mind is running…lol It’s sometimes hard to type as quick as my mind is moving

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C regarding your 10:53 I know for sure I would have a flashback from my childhood and while I know I can beat a man down that pain from seeing my mother abused would come into play and it will be ugly across the board. My sister says the same thing. I pray I am never subjective to physical, verbal, or mental abuse.

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disco – My sentiments EXACTLY on those two!!

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disco – My mom has done the ‘turn around while driving’ to pop my sister or I in the back seat. Why else do you think parents put the kids on the right side of the backseat…so it’s easier to reach them legs if need be lol

And you wonder why some of these kids grow up to act like they do. Look at their examples!

kimme – Yeah, did you see DMX sobbing like a 7 year old boy when they were talking about how his mother gave him up to the state or whatever and he said she never told him she loved him. Might explain a lot with how he treats his current wife. His first relationship with a woman, being his mother, was not a great example. I have to say, not to beat him up about crying, but I found it hard to watch him literally sobbing that hard. I felt bad and a little uncomfortable.

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okay. since the men aren’t out in full force just now I have an off topic question. I know some of y’all wear mac makeup. I’m looking to get a new blush. I’m an NW43/45. generally do margin and raisin. any suggestions?

leggs – I accept that every character has his/her place. just commenting on how I don’t like those chicks. like if I worked there, I wouldn’t eff with either of them.

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Lady – That abuse ain’t no joke. My sister was with a dude and he was abusive. She’s been to the ER an all. Her girls were small enough to be afraid but big enough to recall. I lived in the same apartments for a small window of time, right across the way from her and I could hear him yelling and breaking stuff. When he was angry he would just trash her stuff. A frigid day in hades is all I can say…..

My relationship with my kid’s dad was the worst but it wasn’t a physical one….not like THAT. We got into a fight a couple of times but that was because he tried me. When it was all over with, he knew better for the next chick. Sorry but during that time I fit the “crazy” category. I gotta a problem with a dude not respecting me. For real. Now I know to not even be bothered if I get a whiff of a man and how he treats women but back then….heyal naw! I burned, bleached, broke, reported, did warrants (child support), snitched (he had fake license)…so forth and so on…I could go on but I won’t. And for all of that, I still couldn’t shake buddy for about seven years. LOL He was still asking to reconcile.

Like I’ve said before, only twice in my life have I been blind with fury. The first time was with him and it was all out war and NO HOLDS BARRED. The second time, I walked away I did. I let it go. I was hurt beyond hurt but I had to learn what it meant to not be reactive to everything and that hurt is a part of this whole thing. You cannot “get” somebody everytime you’ve been hurt.

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Leggs – I agree with you on not being able to keep it going with a person who basically left me out for dead and breaking my jaw. I’m very blessed to not have had to deal with physical abuse in a relationship. I hear that it’s starting even in middle school where boys are slapping, choking, hitting their gf’s.

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There was a dude on this blog argueing with a lady. It was strange reading the exchanges from a dude going back and forth with a woman on a blog. Calling her names and trying to one up on her, that’s Birly. I heard a new word and I like it.

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C i feel your whole post 11:07 I could write a book! The title would be “Thursday”

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Sassy I don’t watch it but folks on FB give great updates its like I am watching it lol

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Hey Cely I like that word, Webster don’t have anything on you. The fellas may have to adopt that one and retire B.A.B.

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Slim/Sassy – I didn’t see DMX, but Egypt played parts of it on V103. It was hard to hear, so I know watching was uncomfortable.

Not that it’s an excuse by any stretch, but a lof of folks act the way they do because of unresolved childhood stuff. The best thing you can give a child is as close to a normal healthy childhood as possible. If you don’t think you can do that, leave them in heaven.

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Lady – Only the strong survive. I was VERY young and that was the ONLY time in my life that I went through a bunch of BS. I say it only take once to learn. You ain’t gotta catch hell a million times to learn better.

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And I don’t know if I’ve told it here before but I got into a fist fight with his mama. My mama said you’re just out in those streets acting like an urchern, like you wasn’t raised with any home training. All I could say was I know mama but she put her hands on me All over me putting him up for child support.

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Not that it’s an excuse by any stretch, but a lof of folks act the way they do because of unresolved childhood stuff

kimmie – You are absolutely right…in watching how DMX interacted with his mother, it was as if he morphed back into that little boy still wanting the affections of his mother way back when. I think this show has probably shed light on some things for him more than he originally anticipated. He seemed to have calmed down a lot from when he first got there (probably drunk & high) So my hope is that he continues the sessions even after the show is no longer. He needs to work on himself and having a better relationship with his current kids becasue it’ll only continue the cycle

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but Egypt played parts of it on V103. It was hard to hear, so I know watching was uncomfortable.

Kimmie chile I was crying,too. But on the real, he seemed like a weight had been lifted off of him…he engaged others more, he was calmer in general and even looked different. I agree that alot of adults are acting out b/c of childhood demons caused by parents that they need help exising from their lives. I hope he stays the course and turns the corner on all of his issues…I think the test will be when they bring up the abuse and how he and his mom handle that therapy session.

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Alright, I need to work. Though it’s Friday, I’m still required to work

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Thinking back I used give my dad a good workout sometimes twice a week, dude would jack me up by my arm and hang glide me back to the whooping room. When we came out the room my eyes were wet and red my sis would be falling out with laughter.

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Blackfoote – How’s your mom doing? Hope that’s not too personal

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BF – I can’t say that I’ve ever laughed at my sister getting whooped…I definitely didn’t want to bring attention to myself and end up getting one too. I guess it’s a good think I never had a brother.

Sassy – Oh ok, I had just turned to the show at the point so I didn’t see it all. I was surprised at how much her and X sound alike. Did you notice?

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Glad you asked Cely she is cancer free now, she started her chemotherapy last Friday and has six more sessions to go. She’s back to her vibrant self like nothing ever happened, says she can’t wait to walk in the Susan B. Komen for cancer survivors. I was the one on edge the day before her surgery cause I had never in my life seen her sick.

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Good for you and your mom Blackfoote!!

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I am going to a BBQ @ 3 in Riverdale and I can’t wait to unwind and talk smack and sip on a drank! its been a long week!

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Thanks Lady’s, all those prayers y’all threw at us certainly was heard and answered. I can’t thank y’all enough.

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BF – Glad to hear about ma dukes And that’s exactly why i would be scared to get caught laughing at my sister.

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Happy Feelings by Maze BF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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My documentation paid off!!! yay happy camper!

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wow my internet is off the chain smh lol

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Slim the server here today sucks! smh! lolololol

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BF okay I am going to believe you were with me this morning chile Tom Joyner played that song by Lionel Richie this morning and that was my praise and worship! Love will find a way~ LOVE IT! That is my song of the day now! lol

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BF I just posted it to FB! #POW lol silly me lol

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I haven’t update me sis!

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wow @ the one child per adult lol what will I do with my twin niece and nephew lol okay will check out lololol

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I do miss my hometown festivals I have yet to get with the different festivals here. I am looking forward to Gresham Park Day! I will be on the grill holding it down!!!

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Are we still on topic???

““if he don’t hit me that means he don’t love me” – I know a grown woman who physically fights with her man on the regular. She is like pitbull in the ring. A real fire storm who doesnt back down. Holes in walls, scars on arms, face, even had a black eye. She finally divorced him and is now involved with another that beats her the same way. Good thing we aren’t friends so I no longer have to hear or witness her pain! It “appears” to be the only life she knows.

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Ain’t that the truth because when I go to the Library every kid in the neighborhood is there. The employees say if it will keep them busy and out of trouble, we’ll take them. One lady said some parents drop their kids off as soon as the doors open and come back at closing time. That’s a dang shame. And for some of those chicken heads it’s not just on kids it’s all of them…3 or 4 (sisters and brothers). There’s not a time I go in there when every computer is in use and there are little kids as young as five sitting at the little microphish (or whatever they’re called), doing some sort of activity. Kids waiting in line to use the computers, others with magazines or books. If one gets idle..lol…they (being the adult workers), will say hey baby get a book, don’t just sit there…lol I think it’s a dang shame though

Okay I went waaaay to the left on this one

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Cel – That’s not really waaaay to the left because bottom line is parent are guilty of doing the kid drop zone deal. Why do you think they’ve gotten so strict at the malls these days..especially at Stonecrest.

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Dang, folks are crazy…sort of ties into what we discussed earlier about fighting…man beat his mother in law with a frying pan

http://www.ajc.com/news/henry/cops-man-who-beat-1427194.html

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awww that is terrible slim! wow

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@Celisea ~ I had friends say when mine was younger that I should get a babysitter and hang out. I would tell them, I’m a parent now and I need to hang out with her to make sure she grows up the way I want her to grow up and not by me hanging out not paying attention. I had a different watch now.

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Leggs you sound like my mama we were talking about that last night. We were invited to a Mother’s Day Spa Day tomorrow but we don’t have a babysitter plus the kids have softball practices and a game. So there goes spa day! imagine if we was selfish where would our kids be?!? Every mother’s day I am the grill-master too! you just do what you have to do~ humbly

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Sometimes I wish I could wisk my kid away to some far far place…BUT THAT AIN’T REALITY

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“…you just do what you have to do~ humbly” – And, that’s the bottom line…No if’s, and’s or but’s. Most times it’s done with a smile! The hardest and best job I’ve ever had.

@Celisea ~ sounds like those few moments when I wanted to drop my off in the middle of the forest and RUN….

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LOL Slim don’t tempt me I love entertaing….I will ponder it though~

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Well, let me just throw it out there…I’ll bring the Bounty napkins (afterall, we’re going to need the quicker picker upper to sop all that goodness of our fingers and lips lol) oh wait, that didn’t come out right…aw heyal, 5 4 3 2…)

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Sorry, I read it with MLB. Guess it does sound alright.

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Yeah, it helps we are alone! Forgot that part too.

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Whats it been like Jake? Hope you been pampering these fine lady’s like a good man can.

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BF, add me to the list of well wishers for your mom: very glad she’s doing well.
Debating is good if you learn something meaningful after it’s done.
Arguing to determine who can cuss and shout the most……not interested.

My wife’s father taught her to assume everybody is a SOB until proven otherwise.
In the early years, that caused some friction but with age comes maturity and couple
rounds of counseling also helped.

Lady, the birds now have two all pro corner backs…..looking good on defense.
Hate we lost Lofton…..especially to the Aints LOL

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Awwwwww suki suki now… Slim’s finally ready to taste some WLB good good. My phone is fully charged & ready to record…

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Ummmm, I don’t think that was a good lesson plan, cba. More detrimental than helpful wouldn’t you say??

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Okay back from lunch with a serious case of “the itis”…

Slim, Swiss must be somewhere tied up(and probably liking it) to not have commented on what you posted…I’m sure he would’ve come through with something by now.

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I knew it, Slim. You can’t put those two words to gether. It’s like the movie The Birds, the men are flocking together coming from all corners…

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I am ready to see what Indy is gonna do!!!! I love me some reggie wayne! lol that is my bandwagon team lol smh

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It’s amazing how the mere mention of ‘good good’ seemed to made the men magically appear.

swiss – I don’t even know why I thought I’d get away unscathed from that comment. lol

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I knew you wouldn’t SlimNu. No way…

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lolololol Jake you know I will lololol

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celisea – re folks using the library as daycare, seems like a few years back some woman dropped her kids off at barnes and noble. apparently it doesn’t work like the public library. she got arrested.

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Hey thanks cba and all my bruhs.

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disco – As should be. I wish the po po was waiting on the chicken heads leaving their kids to run around and do God knows what all day. Hey if they blocking you made ‘em. Deal with it.

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Leggs, that’s why as parents we have to be reeeeeeeeal careful how we teach our kids. I know he was raised in a different generation (’20’s) and was probably taught the same by his father. Unfortunately/fortunately some of the things we are taught don’t manifest itself until we are young adults.

Lady, in my younger years, most of the cussing and shouting with guys were about sports….. who’s best Wille Mays or Hank Aaron, Jim Brown of OJ, Jordan or Magic……..who’s finer Peaches or Kesha

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I hear ya cba. I get it men don’t do the arguing thingy! lololol

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BF – Beautiful about your moms!!! That’s what I love to hear!!

Leggs/ladies – Okay it’s on and popping now. I’m really going to have to dicipline myself. A new Nordstroms Rack just opened near my job. I just did some SERIOUS damage up in there! But I feel good – I needed and earned it all. Got 3 HOT new pairs of shoes with leather so soft it feels like butter! A few cute outfits – it’s on, summer!!!

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Kimmie know she is a shopper.com you go girl!!!!! Enjoy!!!

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Lady – I got irked the other day when this chick pulls in, looking all dolled up and some wacked ghetto hairstyle picking up her boys at the close of day. Looked like she stopped doing whatever it was she was doing long enough to come get them and probably dropped somewhere else so she could go back to doing whatever she was doing. Getting there five minutes before they locked up. One kid looking seven-ish and the other nine-ish

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C stop! a uncle Keisha did my hair last weekend and did awesome! see they fine too ! lolol

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I down all day buying someone something to eat….that’s homeless

WillieD – Did y’all have y’all meet and greet last night? Ooops I asked didn’t I?

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Lady – LOLOL

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Great request, Jake.

It was on the radio this morning that a homeless man asked Oprah for a bowl of soup. How she responded was coming up next, but I had to get out the car. Probably will be on Inside Edition this evening.

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Kimmie – Imma have to check it out. I have NEVER found anything in Nordstroms that I like. Ever. So maybe it’s time to give Nordstrom’s Rack a chance. When my pops died I went there first but didn’t see anything. I like very simple, toned down elegance. I saw one dress but it was a bit too revealing on top (sort of like chiffon), IMO for a funeral.

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tell them junkies, I don’t have any spare change for you, but I’ll get you something to eat, buy a homeless person a meal this weekend….

I’ve done that before…sometimes it’ll work but sometimes when I say, “I’ll buy you something to eat but I won’t give you any money”, they come up with excuses…really?!

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she gave money and food leggs. she is trying to recover and saver her network its been a learning experience for her I am not knocking her good deeds bc she always gives I am just throwing out there this past year has been tough for her too they laid off half the network and revamping

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lol leggs

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Everything is relative. I sense no matter how tough it is for her network, she’ll never be broke.

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WD – OMG you sound just like the beau, “Are you done? What else? Do you feel better now?” Aaarrrgggghhh!

I just got invited to a self-defense class and margaritas next weekend…this ought to be interesting and I must admit I’m a bit excited

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I agree, Lady, the rich are having troubles as well. But I don’t think she’ll ever be broke (again).

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Oprah always sweating my thoughts, if they refuse a meal, fugg’em…it’s me, gone mobile.

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LOL patient them Jake!!!!

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must not shoe shop…must NOT shoe shop…

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Alrighty good folks its time to go play in the city! Have a great weekend! Peace!

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Celisea – Now I loved the Nordstroms up in NY & Jersey when one of my best buddies lived up there. That was many years ago. Nordstrom Rack is good if you want some different shoes(sandals) and casual stuff. I didn’t like the career/dressier things. I got 2 cute sundresses, 3 cute tops, a workout outfit and the shoes I mentioned. Plus some Urban Decay eye pencils. I didn’t like the kids stuff at all. I’m going to go back for a few pairs of the athletic sandals(Nike, Reebok, etc) and they had some cute yoga clothes & mats and athletic bags.

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Awww looka the guys planning an outing

Yeah I’m sure Oprah thought that b/c of he popularity on her own talk show, that her OWN(pun intended bnr) network would be a shoe in..but she’s since realized that it takes much more than that.

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So any Blog Bros who want to pound

swiss – Now you know I expect WAY more from you…you got a little careless with that one dontcha think?

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I like the network too.

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kimmie – Well, you’ll be surprised how many folk like the sci-fi & animal planet channels (lol) but you’re right, it’s not up there with Bravo or VH1 or anything like that.

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Kimmie I haven’t seen Welcome to Sweetie Pies but the show looks like fun. Oprah will be/do more than fine….she just needs something to do with her time. I don’t know what Mr. Winfrey (Stedman) is doing but yeah she needs a hobby or something…

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Yall be easy….have a good weekend!

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Kimmi – Vera Wang perfume on sale is fantab. For that reason Imma swing by. Macys NEVER have their perfume on sale.

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Guess I’ll take my nappy head down for a snack…ho hum

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Seems folks are cutting out early today. I can’t because I told a coworker I’d cover for her until 5:00

Well damn…at least you’re doing something nice for someone.

I think I feel kinda…cough..cough..

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Cel – I’m still here. Whatchu got? Talk to me what’s on ya mind.

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Slim — I like to leave the door open for you every now & then.

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Nothing too freaky sneaky (and that’s my opening) now. I’m trying to get back to my good girl image Too, I’m feeling rough from all that fighting (we talked about) this morning

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Leggs – I was tired from all that recollecting…lol I feel like I actually went back there…whew

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Cel- I feel ya on the good girl thing but you aint fooling me. I don’t need you to act a fool. Long as I know you capable of going there. I operate on the edge at times. Like I say its a struggle between Cliff Huxtable and Willie Dynamite.
What’s your w/e plans? Booed up (I had to ask didn’t I)? Hahaha

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sew, not sow

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WillieD – Let’s just say Imma good girl at heart as I was raised to be. I just learn little something something out there in the wild…lol

My weekend agenda ain’t specific this week but whatever I do, I’m gonna do it booed

What you got going this weekend? Anything with the little ones?

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Metaphorically speaking, that is.

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WillieD – I picture the argyle sweater hanging on the coat rack ready for the switch when heading out…lol I’m kidding

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I’ve had only water today….mayne I need a strong diet coke…ugh

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@Celisea ~ I’m leaving 30 mins before I’m supposed to. No one is here.

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Air drums time…time to turn up the radio and dance around my chair. I just did that with R.Kelly’s new song (Save My Love). Nice stepping song!

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Brat — My match will start at 9am. We’re playing at a subdivision called Hampton Hall.

HAMPTON HALL
8165 HIGH HAMPTON CHASE
ALPHARETTA, GA 30022

I’ll be the hot one w/ the totally intimidating red bandana head band.

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Cel – funny funny cause Wifey told me the sweater/sweater vest was fake (still ruff round the edges). I can pull off the slacks button down/polo look tho.
I got a almost free w/e but I’m a homebody so me and my smoker (food) and some brews chillin.

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@Celisea ~ no. That’s the song where he’s trying to show a woman how he show her how to POPULATE…

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I think that’s my plan, lol

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WillieD – If you can pull off the preppy look…almost with polo/slacks/button downs, heck you’re almost there…lol I like men that have the street now how but crisp (my favorite word) and clean cut. Tell wifey you are well on your way.

Grilling and movies and snacks beverages sounds like a plan to me. I like getting out about as much as chilling at home I can do either. Especially if I’m loaded down with movies and good eats.

czBrat – I’m a diet coker drinker for sure. It’s usually worse at home. I don’t too much drink sodas during the day unless I’m dining out for lunch. Just every blue moon I need one to burn the back of my throat.

Leggs – Thanks. That other song is killing me…lol

Dang it’s just 4:18

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Brat – I see you doing the Math now. 10 pts, $500, $1,000, shoes/mall. STOP.

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Just every blue moon I need one to burn the back of my throat. – Didn’t look at it like that this afternoon, but I really wanted the taste of a soda. So I went to the fountain in the cafeterial and put a sip in a cup then left (lol)….

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But he’s a birl…he would definitely get to neck jerking and fingers snapping if ever ticked. He was in the group I was in and he told me he was gonna go Ike Turner on the manager we were both under. I almost lost it. She was scared of him. Not only did she promote him, she helped him get out of there.

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Leggs – I don’t know if it’s just me but I find the much stronger drinks to be the fountain sodas. I miss cokes back in the day where you couldn’t take but a couple of swigs before coming up for air. They were too strong to straight gulp.

Okay, I’m just posting and rambling now…lol

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Brat – that’s cool (I’m married remember). Impulsive but brainy. I like.

Cel /Leggs – channeling my inner Swiss. Its okay to sip a taste. You don’t havta gulp (unless you wanna). Just don’t spit it out. Hahaha

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WillieD – Shet it up!! Ain’t that how you say it Leggs?? LOL I should have started the countdown with that one. If it wasn’t Friday and so late that would be (gulping that is) the call of the wild back up in here…lol

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Yep, that’s how you say it, Celisea!

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oy. i’ll leave yous to your foursome.

ciacito, good people!

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See I said that wrong..

Iz a virgin drink dranker…maybe I had too much to drink

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OMG, Swiss, I am hollering over here…only you man., only you! Good one twisting the word.

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(Celisea speaking in a whisper…shhhhh) There were no trolls trolling today!

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And watching for that digital number to flip over is nerve wracking (lol).

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Did WillieD and Swiss leave? I guess clock watching (ooooh, that sounded kinky) ain’t fun huh?

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4:55

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I have my purse on the desk, my loaf of raisin bed out of the drawer, my book in hand…all I’m waiting for now is time. As soon as the clock strike, it’s laptop in bag

Night folks..have a great weekend

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I have the rest of my food on my desk to take home, purse on desk and gym bag by door (lol).

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