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Is passion overrated?

Passion. Chemistry. Intense desire. Are these things that could actually be overrated? If you aren’t with someone and feel all these things, does it mean you two aren’t supposed to be together?

If everyone is waiting around for the person that they feel strong passion for, does that mean we are all naive and don’t know what real, true, long-lasting love is about?

When you consider the things that makes most couples last beyond six months, how important do you think passion and chemistry are?

I was watching New Girl and Zoe Daschanel’s character wants to end things with a man because he did not seem to have the same “passion” he felt for his ex-wife….a woman he “hates.” He tells New Girl, “Passion is overrated” and that kind of intensity burns out fast and is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship.

TV fiction aside, I had to think about which one I would pick if I had to pick one: passion-filled affair or long-lasting aka lukewarm, attraction. If you had to pick one, which would you want?

Were your best love affairs filled with passion or deep like?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

252 comments Add your comment

K Bowers

April 26th, 2012
5:51 am

Hopping from one partner to the next in search of “passion” is middle school behavior. If your reason for being in a relationship is the thrill of attraction and passion, then you will be disappointed no matter who you are with because those feelings come and go over and over. Ask any couple who has been married a long time. You can’t be a slave to your own precious feelings and have a successful long term relationship. It’s about being a grown up and accepting that life is not all about you and not looking to another person to “thrill” you everyday of your life.

Lily

April 26th, 2012
7:10 am

Diva no it’s not. Though, I sort equate that with lust if you have it out of the gate. More than likely it’s going to cool a bit. Give me the romance where it starts out luke warm and over time and through it all we find and build to and on that. Not that you can’t have sustained passion initially, I just like discovering it over time.

Good day!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
7:43 am

Good Morning MIA! ;)

I am very passionate in many areas of my life and of course in my relationship~~~~ brb!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
8:13 am

hmmm chasing your 1st marriage passion is tricky. Post divorce relationships are different bc many aren’t leading with emotions and more practical and logical and this is a bit of a sting if you will bc the emotions are more regulated I feel. There will still be passion I feel in a new relationships but some may be guarded but I wouldn’t be comparing my new with my ex husband measuring passions. Its two different eras like oranges and apples. But for real in my opinion after growing from that passionate marriage that ended I know understand my passion more and how to project it correctly and not just passionate just bc I am really feeling this person. You live and learn and do better~ Just my spin ;)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
8:22 am

My current and I are very comfortable discussing those great times and not so great times from our marriage and stated if we remarry our new marriage wouldn’t mirror our 1st marriages at all. The economy was 10x better 10 to 15 years ago, jobs were never an issue, gas was under $1, etc. Just stating some socioeconomically factors that contributed to that past passion. Times are different and folks are more aware and dealing with more strife than before. No excuse to be a bore but some factors affect mood and men and women express differently their levels of passion and feelings.

Dave

April 26th, 2012
8:27 am

Nope, passion is not overrated. Those that are without passion or very little passion try to make it that way or trivialize it, but they wind up alone or in a souless situation. Passion motivates. Passion instills courage to pursue. Passion is the spice of life. Without passion, life would be grey, overcast and monotonous. Some people like the Merry Go Round and others prefer the Roller Coaster. The Merry Go Round people just go round and round, no bumps, twists or highs and lows. They start and stop at the same level with no changes in between. I’m a Roller Coaster guy. You get more out of it.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
8:32 am

Passion is the spice of life<<<<<<<<<Love it Dave Great Post!

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
8:55 am

Good morning,

Of course we all would love to stay on that high that you initiatlly have when you first start dating someone, but that isn’t realistic…just like folks who smoke crack don’t constantly stay high after smoking one rock. They have to keep doing what it takes to chase that initial high. With regards to relationships, for me, it boils down to being with someone who genuinely likes and wants to be with me…whether that means we’re all lovey dovey or whether we’re fighting at the time. To me, thats what makes the difference because if you aren’t into the person you’re with and don’t necessarily like them, it’s going to be hard to want to put forth the effort to make it work on the Not so sunny days. I do not want to be with a dud who really could care less if i’m in the same room with him or 300 miles away. I try not to compare my one very long previous relationship with any other one that I am/or gets into. We had both chemistry, passion and genuinely liked each other but as you can see, that didn’t work out either. lol

Me

April 26th, 2012
8:55 am

Enjoyed your post, Dave.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
8:59 am

Slim it does make a difference and more effortlessly cool when both parties genuinely like each other. The passion and chemistry rolls without thought. An affectionate mate is great to have!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
9:00 am

Passion. Chemistry. Intense desire. Are these things that could actually be overrated? – One word = NOPE!

Come on, passion, desire, intense desire, who wouldn’t want this? These elements help electrify the relationship keeping the flames sizzling red hot. No room for embers to accumulate!!

Good morning.

Row 125, Seat 11B

April 26th, 2012
9:00 am

I agree with Dave…Without passion, what do you have???? Thats not to say that a person spends every waking moment lusting for whatever form their partner, but there is nothing like seeing that person and feeling that feeling that puts you on the edge of loosing control….or thinking abouth them during the day and finding it HARD to focus on anything else….. ( I need to get some air..Is it hot in here? :)

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
9:02 am

@Dave ~ Nice post. I feel sorry for anyone who tries to trivialize the need for passion.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:03 am

Were your best love affairs filled with passion or deep like? I have had just a few fueled by passion from a mate. Not speaking for men but I see them more intrigued by LIKE. Its important to like her. I could be wrong just an observation. My current is a combination of both and I love it. It feels great an emotional roller-coster I am enjoying!

disco

April 26th, 2012
9:10 am

good morning. must say y’all are starting off alright. we’ve got roller coasters and crack pipes. almost makes me wonder if passion seekers and thrill seekers are one and the same. I must say I’m probably not a fan of passion. I like it for what it is but I’m just not the type. if I had to choose between all passion all the time and just plain, mediocre, slow, steady, boring I’d have to go with the latter. naturally, I understand that most folks want to find the balance that works for them but if I had to choose one or the other I’d pass on passion.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
9:13 am

Dave – Your post reminds of a question my uncle posed this past weekend. He asked the ladies, “Would you prefer a man who was predictable or one that was unpredictable?” And it really is a double-edge sword. I think women tend to like a bit of stability but at the same time, I don’t want to know what your every move is going to be and I need a bit of spontaneity. Like I said earlier, no one wants a dud! I want a guy who isn’t afraid to hop up one Saturday morning and say, hey let’s ride to (insert place here) or does nice things out of the blue..it means more when a holiday and plenty of tv commercials aren’t telling you that’s what you need to do.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
9:20 am

Do yall think we are more open to passion and extreme chemistry early on in our dating lives because we haven’t been hurt or awakened by bad experiences yet? You know how that one person that had your nose wide open as a youngin, had you doing things you never thought you’d do, probably made you question yourself….so after you’ve gotten hurt, you’re more guarded to not get that open again??? (just had that convo the other day as well)

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
9:28 am

Do yall think we are more open to passion and extreme chemistry early on in our dating lives because we haven’t been hurt or awakened by bad experiences yet? – Possibly! However, if one hasn’t experienced hurt, bad experiences, they’re young and just starting out in the dating world. I think the older one gets the better the passion. Experience dictates better ways one executes passion.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:32 am

Experience dictates better ways one executes passion.<<<<<<<<<Amen Legss!!!!! ;)

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
9:33 am

Leggs – You may have a point there as you deal with different experiences, maybe we get better at deciding how or when to display our passions for others. I surely wouldn’t want to waste it on someone who wouldn’t appreciate it. I was talking to one of my good guy friends and he was telling he would NOT want to be that wide open or passionate about another chick again. He’s still a bit bitter from his divorce, I think. I told him, he needs to let it go and stop carrying that extra headache around with him. But he has built the walls so high that, not only can no one get close to him, but he ass can’t get out either. That wall goes both ways.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:34 am

That is why I am not understanding why the guy in Diva’s writ up is reminding his current of his past thrills with his ex wife. Why are they divorce then?!? Bc mess happens and that is called experience and you deal differently moving forward. Its interesting!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:36 am

and currently he is not so passionate for whatever reason. Maybe he is just not into her or not ready for what she wants. It could be anything and that statement could be a loophole to get out without be direct and forthcoming. Its easy to place blame.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
9:43 am

Most definitely, Slim, the wall goes both ways. Not sure which one is worse, not letting one in or not letting yourself out??? I think the latter may be worse because then it overlaps into other areas of one’s life.

…we get better at deciding how or when to display our passions for others. – And that right there is key to growth and maturity.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
9:43 am

Lady – Yeah, I would not want a dude i’m dating telling me about the passion shared between him and his ex. That would make me want to be like, Well go be with her then! :roll: Sometimes our memories tricks us into believing things were much better than they really were…or at least fades away the bad times and amplifies the good times as far as exes go

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:44 am

Exactly Slim the grass theory applies there. Sometimes parting ways is best but 2nd go round for me I will fight harder for my marriage if I tie the knot again. You live and learn!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:45 am

Its many living with regrets and it is projected unconsciously sometimes~ or denial if you will.

disco

April 26th, 2012
9:52 am

when I read diva’s comment re dude’s passion for his ex-wife, a woman he hates I was thinking more like he “hated her with a passion”. lol. we used to say that back in high school. I hate such and such with a passion.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:55 am

I read it like he supposedly hates her currently but is reminded of the passion he had for her……..perception is funny sometimes disco……lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
9:57 am

wants to end things with a man because he did not seem to have the same “passion” he felt for his ex-wife <<<<<<Really dude lol okay yeah that would piss me off too

disco

April 26th, 2012
9:59 am

lady – our perceptions likely come full circle. he missed the original passion he had with her and hated her (passionately) because she took that passion away from him.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:00 am

exactly Disco!!!!! your 9:59! ;)

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:01 am

Morning all,

Passion eh? I kinda like Slim’s crackhead analysis. If you’re a thrill (i.e. passion) seeker then yeah PASSION IS THE WAY TO GO!! LOL In all seriousness, nothing wrong with passion, but if it fizzles what then? I think a balanced person can enjoy passion but sort of knows realistically passion won’t have you swinging 50 stories high everyday.
I would say we probably have different views of how we interpret. Not one person can “stay up there” I picture passion more so as the bond or the glue or that thing that keeps you coming back. Overall passion is good but like I say it probably depend on how each of us view. Now if you’re a relationship junkie and you need someone to keep giving you a fix, then you’re gonna be changing partners like you’re changing drawers.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:04 am

yep that is why I said roller coaster C I have dealt with highs and lows here currently and they balance and the highs outweighs the lows currently so its meshing you are right. To walk around HAPPY 24/7 is cause for concern its called mania and its a problem so to proclaim your relationship is 24/7 is far fetched too. Life isn’t that straight and narrow. Its all in how you deal with the curve balls~

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 26th, 2012
10:05 am

Yeah, what Cel said lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:06 am

meant is HAPPY and GREAT 24/7 but I know you all get what I am saying! lol That is the candy land theory! lol I love theories! lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:07 am

Lady – To walk around HAPPY 24/7 is cause for concern its called mania

LOLOL…so true. Cause for the folks to come for you. Ain’t nobody up there all the time and no one should expect a relationship to do that for them…all the time. Make your own self high naturally, off life. Ride your own roller coaster :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:08 am

Ride your own roller coaster ;) love it sis!!!!!!

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:10 am

And chile, I ain’t had nobody to “keep me on the edge of losing control” I guess I just dang missed that altogether…lol I’ve had someone that just did it for me but I didn’t feel like I was gonna lose control on sight…lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:11 am

Lady – :) Alright got my kid with me today. Need to go check on her… She’s reading The Girl With the Tatoo Dragon :)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:11 am

at all C!!!!! you are the master of your fate not them! & you can’t control or change them either. it will never happen!!!!!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:14 am

I heard its take your child to work day today!!!! Enjoy! My child is testing this week her last day today! she has done well all week!

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:16 am

Lady…is it? Well heck I didn’t know. She wasn’t together or “her self” this morning so I just grab her, the laptop and my purse and headed in…lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:17 am

In 43 minutes I have a team call and was suppose to read 3 chapters of this book we’re reading….I HAVE NOT DONE IT. So for the next 43 minutes I’m skimming

be back later

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:21 am

Update on BF – He’s doing well and his mother is doing well too!

@Celisea ~ don’t let her see the movie. The crazy sex scenes are just that, crazy. I for one do not understand how it was nominated for 5 awards. So glad I saw the bootleg version and didn’t pay to see it.

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
10:23 am

Morning Gang!

I don’t think I’ll ever have that crazy, lost-control feeling I had with my 1st love – nor do I want to. It was a high that felt awful when it came crashing down. Yes, past hurt and experience made me a little more guarded with my emotions, but not to the point where I was bitter and not open to real love, thank God! There is no better feeling in the world! And yes, I’ve been in a situation where there was intense passion and chemistry – but I could not STAND the man! Can’t to this DAY!! Don’t wish him bad, just don’t like the person he is!!

Having said that, a life with NO passion – NO WAY! I’m with Leggs on this, who wants that? People try to minimize it, and even try to live without it because of past hurts. The lack of it eventually sneaks up on you though. One of the Strawberry Letters last week touched on it. A guy wrote in admitting he “settled” for his wife because she was nice and he thought she’d make a good wife and mother. He is miserable now, because there is no passion.

There is nothing better in the world to have that mature love, affection and respect for a person. Someone you genuinely LIKE(extremely important). But there needs to be a least a flicker of some passion. It really sets this person apart from being just a good friend, in my opinion.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:23 am

I have a student weeping @ my desk be back too. if only they would listen the 1st go round but again that isn’t life but yeah graduation is close but there is hope an dI shall instill! ;) bbl

abc

April 26th, 2012
10:24 am

Regarding the economy being 10+x better, not so much. As far as gas costing $1, that hasn’t happened since the 80’s.

They call it chemistry because it IS chemical — a chemical reaction that releases dopamine and seratonin in your brain. It’s a physical and tangible thing. You can hang with a person with whom the chemistry is lacking, or you can hold out for the chemical reaction. The chemical effects wear off in 3-7 years. You’ve heard of the 7 year itch, right? There you are.

For the long term, go with someone that you just plain like. They make better companions.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:28 am

abc – Like your last line

Leggs – Ut…too late she’s seen the movie. Right now though she’s NOT reading the book…lol She’s watching Blood Diamond

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:29 am

yep abc! it has to be more substance! good post!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:30 am

hmmm abc I remember gas in the 90’s being .79 to .99 cent but I get your point though but still gas was cheaper

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:31 am

in sc it def was below a dollar bc I had a honda civic and 10 dollars was filling it up seriously

abc

April 26th, 2012
10:35 am

Cheaper than I thought actually — avg. gas prices year by year through the 90’s ranges from 1.06 to 1.15 per gallon.

http://www.1990sflashback.com/1990/Economy.asp

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:36 am

Passion is crucial. Without it, you get what the man in the Strawberry Letter is getting, an unfulfilled marriage, walking in the room hoping your mate isn’t there. Driving home, only to become disgusted when their car is in the driveway.

Please like your spouse/mate (lol).

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:37 am

off by pennies sir don’t shoot me though but I am blogging and I hope you get my point that is was CHEAPER sir! wow here we go penny for penny! you win honey! ;)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:41 am

walking in the room hoping your mate isn’t there.<<<<<<<<<<<<< so sad!

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
10:43 am

Leggs – I agree totally! I’ve been on that recieving end too – loving someone who didn’t love me “that way”. Finally broke it off with me because he said he didn’t feel the way he “should” about me as his gf & future wife. And he liked me, but like a friend or sister. I was devestated. It’s an awful feeling.

You can try to minimize it all you want, but when it’s missing, it’s GLARING!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:43 am

@Lady ~ I was just thinking that with my car. When I bought my Honda, $11 filled up the tank. Gas was .88.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:46 am

Ummm, according to abc, perhaps I imagined gas was .88?

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:46 am

Leggs I am not making this stuff up. Experience is a fair teacher~

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:47 am

I have paid .79 in the 90s and that is that. I am over it could care less about stats I speak from my experiences

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:49 am

For sure, Lady! I remember almost running out of gas on I-20. I was scared that I wouldn’t make it to the gas station and called a friend immediately to let her know where I might be stranded (lol). I remember the price of gas then to be .88. Heck, sometimes you really can’t rely on your own memory.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:50 am

disco

April 26th, 2012
10:54 am

lady – yeah I remember .97 cents gas in texas around 98 or 99. I was driving a little 2-door chevy cavalier at the time and I was rolling.

well it looks like passion wins by a landslide. I still say if I had to pick one over the other passion would get laid to rest.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
10:56 am

My first car at 18 was a dark blue 2-door 6 month old Cavalier.

disco – I thought it was about split or leaning towards folks wanting passion but not the adrenaline roller coaster stuff.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
10:57 am

Can you reach that oh so wonderful O w/o Passion/lust fueling the lovefest?

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
10:58 am

The 90s and the 2000s are mirror opposites of an economic ups and down and both eras have passion and passionate folks that helped with the good and bad with how both played and playing out~ It is what it is we are living in different times post 911 and folks are more stressed than ever and it has affected every area of their lives.

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
10:59 am

disco – I’m saying you shouldn’t have to choose. But if someone was holding a gun to my head to make me choose, I’d be practical!LOL!!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:00 am

hmmm leggs @ your 10:57?!? hmmmmmm lol pondering

disco

April 26th, 2012
11:01 am

C – I just said “mmmpph – she had a new car at 18”. lol. I teased my son about the fact that he and his first car were the same age. he had a 1989 toyota camry that I think I paid $1600 for. he drove that little camry for years.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:01 am

yep kimmie practical wins if we using a “p” word lol hmmmmm love wins too but logi is protection lol #lame I know lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:03 am

meant LOGIC lol

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
11:05 am

Lady – I agree we’re living in stressful times. But I also know even if gas had been a penny a gallon, with certain dudes I dated it still would not have worked!LOL!!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:05 am

Leggs I would say YES between mental stimulation (yes its happened with me) and my damn self (yeah I ain’t scared of me)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:06 am

agree Kimmie some dudes are just lames no matter how the economy is ! LOL

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:10 am

disco – At 18 I had a full time j.o.b….lol I worked for Dun & Bradstreet (7 years). But had I NOT had a job it would have been a plucker. My kid is getting a plucker…if I have to buy it

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:14 am

C i have been working since 16 too dealing with adult mess too…..lololololol brought that Honda I speak of he wanted 850 for it. I know the game been playing too long at this tender age I have pd off some stuff lololololol life is funny but you will learn! lol

disco

April 26th, 2012
11:14 am

C – no need to explain. whether you bought it, your parents bought it or it was gifted to you it was yours. when my son was in high school I used to be amazed at some of the cars in the student parking lot. some of these kids are rolling.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:15 am

seriously my child don’t need a car to her 2nd year of college but I know her daddy will have her one sooner that that. I am not touching it though but will support with some deep conversations.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:15 am

Lady – My mama was like if you wanna drive, buy a car…point blank…lol

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
11:17 am

Leggs – If you’re just after a physical release, yeah there are ways of course.

If it’s someone that just “does it” for you, that you have that passion for, it’s easier to get to that point though, in my opinion. You have a more fullfilling, intimate connection. I don’t want to have to get drunk every time just so I can release.

The right person can get you going just walking in a room!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:17 am

C that was the only option presented to me so I made a way out of no way. they did pay the insurance lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:17 am

My sister went to Northside back in the 70s, now North Atlanta and I remember her saying the same thing about their student parking lot. How the cars were better than the teachers.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:18 am

If it’s someone that just “does it” for you, that you have that passion for, it’s easier to get to that point though, in my opinion <<<<<<<<<<<<AMEN TO THAT!

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:18 am

I think I’m a passionate person :)

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
11:23 am

disco – My parents believed if kids got a car, they got the old one mom or dad would have normally traded in for a new one. My mom used to say if they bought us a new car, why would we be motivated to go to college? You are right, some of those kids would be rolling, especially at that bougie high school my younger brothers went to. And some would wreck the cars & parents would buy them another one.

Only one of us that got a “new” car, meaning a nice used one, was my youngest brother when he went off to med school. Us siblings were not mad though, cause he earned it!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
11:39 am

@Lady ~ you got jokes. I can go by that, but I mean between two people.

O/T: Just called my eye doctor to reorder contacts and after looking up my file, some nut comes to the phone saying “Ma’am can we have your number so we can call you back?” I ask if there’s a problem and she says “No, we’re getting swamped and will need to call you back.” :shock: I then say, “going forward you may want to rephrase that statement because all I’m hearing, as a patient, is that my call and my request isn’t important enough to be addressed.”

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:41 am

the theme for my work today is documentation! I am not the one! smh lol #vent

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:42 am

LOL Ms Leggs!!!!!!!!!!! lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
11:42 am

My first car was a beige 1980 4-door Chevette. I think my parents were trying to guarantee that I got neither speeding tickets nor laid.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
11:44 am

(But I still got both)

Can’t keep me down! :lol:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
11:45 am

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:45 am

I ain’t gonna lie and just go ahead and shoot and JUDGE me…I wanted a Chevette sooo bad for a long time. I had a part time gig at 17 and I was riding the bus. Of all of us working there and riding the bus to and from, only one chick had a car and that was it. Everybody was trying to friend her so they could catch a ride to the bank on payday. Otherwise it was a taxi, the bus up to the bank (which was pretty much your lunch break..not hour but break…lol), or the check cashers after work because you missed the bank.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:47 am

I thought she was hot stuff getting in her Chevette driving past all of us…lol

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
11:50 am

The right person can get you going just walking in a room! Yes ma’am!

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
11:51 am

C — See now, if I’d have known you back in the day, I’d have taken you for a ride in my Chevette any time you pleased. ;-)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
11:53 am

I don’t understand why parents would buy their 16yr old a new luxury car. More often times than not, it ends up wrecked, THEN The parents want to come to their senses and buy a used car. My first ride was my grandmothers old Chevy S-10 pickup. There was a used tired on the back with trash and hay to boot. All I know is that my butt wasn’t walking or riding the bus! :-)

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:54 am

Swiss – And you would have been “the man”

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
11:54 am

swiss – LOL!!! Just you HAVING a car would have been cool in my book then!! Didn’t have to be anything fancy, just able to GO!!

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
11:55 am

I would have said my man has a car!!!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
11:55 am

Just you HAVING a car would have been cool in my book <<<<<<<<<<<college days Kimmie smh lololol good memories! #dead lol

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
11:55 am

I always wanted one of those rabbit’s lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
11:57 am

We’re talking about cars, not sex toys, Slim.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
11:59 am

That little Chevette wouldn’t go more than 60mph — and that was down hill with a strong wind at its back. But that d@mn thing wouldn’t break down. We gave to my uncle after I got my own car and he drove it for another 10 years after that.

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
12:01 pm

I wanted a Honda Accord or a Jeep! Never got the Jeep, but my 1st car was a used beige Accord hatchback that I got for $1500 when I graduated from UGA. I was so proud of that little car and the fact that I had no car note!!

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
12:02 pm

swiss – I’m scared of sex toys…and now that I look back on it, the Volkswagen rabbit looks a bit scary too :shock: :lol:

that d@mn thing wouldn’t break down. We gave to my uncle after I got my own car and he drove it for another 10 years after that.

Mayne! Cars used to last back in the day because they were heavy duty. These days, I believe they are built to need repairing within the first 3 years lol…then the repairs are so expensive that it makes sense to just buy a new damn car altogether.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:03 pm

kimmie — You can ride in my Jeep. It’s topless & waiting (just like its passengers should be). :lol:

kimmie

April 26th, 2012
12:05 pm

Swiss – :lol: :lol:

Leaving early today Gang, read ya tomorrow!!

disco

April 26th, 2012
12:07 pm

funny. reminiscing on first cars and how a guy was the man just because he had a car. heck, coming up we didn’t even have a family car let alone cars for the kids to drive. when a new car did hit the scene it was something else. I remember assorted family members sporting their new thunderbirds and lincoln continentals and I can’t leave out the cutlass supreme.

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
12:11 pm

Good noon, good people!

passion? it comes in sooooo many forms. there’s the lustful passion (which i NEVER want to be without) and then there’s just good ol’ fashioned passion for life, living, sharing, experiencing (good and bad). all those things are important in our relationship.

even when we’re vegging on the patio or the couch, there’s still a passion for sharing those moments of absolutely nothing. i guess it’s all a matter of perspective and perception. my first marriage had great passion too. unfortunately, i learned to turn it against him. c’est la vie. *shrugs*

cars? i bought my own first car; a 89 mercury tracer. i was 24. i’ve bought both my kids their first hoopties. and both were greatly appreciated simply because it kept them away from dark, cold, rainy bus stops. they were in high demand for giving friends rides in high school. but mama kept that under strict supervision.

and every car we’ve had in our household has been named. :grin:

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:13 pm

good post brat!!!!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:14 pm

disco it was four kids in my family and mama kept a station wagon and I used to be so embarrassed but my friends would be the ones begging for rides from school and to games and away games. how ugly it was we were lucky to have transportation. my mama went through but we made it lol

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
12:15 pm

I didn’t get my first NEW car until my 2nd year in college. It was a Geo Prizm and it was a stick..I came home one weekend and it was in the driveway. I was all excited until I saw that stick shift throught the window, then my smile turned into a frown because I had no clue how to drive a 5-speed….so basically, my step-dad taught me that same weekend how to drive it lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:17 pm

I remember my first day with a driver’s license. I turned 16 on a Friday & got my license that day (of course). My HS had a football game that night, so I told my parents I was going to drive to the game with some friends (that couldn’t drive yet). Now, we lived in a tiny, po-dunk town about 2 hours away from ATL, and the HS was only like 2 miles from my house, so my parents were cool with that. Of course, what I didn’t tell them was that it was an away game — at Marist. So I loaded my little 16-yr-old butt along with 3 of my friends in that little Chevette & hauled our behinds around 285 on a Friday evening to get to the game. My parents didn’t realize it was a road game until they listened to part of the game on the radio. Needless to say, they were not amused when I got home. :lol:

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:17 pm

Slim after my honda civic died I din’t buy a new car til I was grown and it was a nissan sentra….been rolling with Nissan every since oh I did have the Jeep Cherokee but never again with American cars. I love my Nissan Murano currently………………I really want a Lexus but lil mama’s tuition now is more important. I have a cool mommy crossover if you will lol smh

disco

April 26th, 2012
12:19 pm

lady – ahhh. the station wagon. my grandparents had one way back in the day and it takes my grandmother to tell the tale of how she put that car on layaway. that’s right – I said layaway! she said she made arrangements with the car salesman to make payments on a used station wagon until they could pay it off and take it home. may have mentioned these particular grandparents had 12 kids. grandma said she got home from a church picnic once and the kids piled out of the car. turns out she had two kids that didn’t belong to her and she had to drive them back. hilarious.

swiss – you needed your butt kicked for that stunt.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:19 pm

Slim — I think everybody’s first car should be a stick. (And BTW, there’s something very sexy about a chick who can work a stick. Are we still talking about cars?)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:21 pm

grown meaning out of college having a car in college after mine died wasn’t important my boyfriend had a car and folks from my hometown had a car. nothing like your own but I never lack trying to get somewhere

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:22 pm

disco — Hey, they never asked where the game was, so technically, I didn’t lie. ;-)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:26 pm

i refuse to buy a mini van or station wagon lol or car I like SUV’s a lexus suv or BMW x5 is want I long for lol staying in my lane though don’t want to eat beans and rice daily lol

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
12:28 pm

I never learned how to drive while in NYC. Got my license at age 25, and bought my first car. A Honda! Road it until the wheels fell off. Loved that little silver car with the cassette deck (lol).

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
12:29 pm

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
12:30 pm

My second car was a brand new…Toyota Corolla, 5 speed. Talking about being a dumb bot, I bought it in Alpharetta with no adult with me (probably had SUCKER stamped on my forehead) and drove it home. It’s a wonder I didn’t burn the clutch out. But I learned to drive an automatic right then and there. I tell ya, the dumb things you do when you’re young. Although, my dad would take me out and give a helping hand until I profected.

I haven’t driven a 5-speed in years. A few years back a dude I’d just started dated loaned me his car after knowing him a month or so while my was literally being repaired. I needed to make a run and he offered…so I accepted. It was a Saab and it all came back to me as I pulled off. I did get stuck one and the alarm kicked in. I had to call him and asked how to start the car again…lol Folks were honking at me in traffic

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:31 pm

C you sound like my aunt (with the 5 speed) and me. I am known for going to buy a car with no one but me! lol

disco

April 26th, 2012
12:31 pm

swiss – between you, me and whoever else happens to read it – did your parents buy that logic? I can’t imagine they did. I imagine you either had a backside so sore you couldn’t sit to drive OR two eyes so swelled up you couldn’t see to drive.

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
12:32 pm

lol @ swiss. yeah, disco’s right. you shoulda been thrashed.

my funny new driver stories?
1. because i learned to drive in a plymouth sundance i used to go to dealerships and ask if they had any on the lot because that’s all i knew how to drive. :lol: i kid you not!

2. when i did get my little tracer, i didn’t know how to turn on the headlights (cuz it was ever so slightly different from a sundance), so the very first time i drove it at night i found myself navigating 285 (from LaVista to 75) sans headlights. EVERYBODY was honking at me.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
12:32 pm

Lady – I don’t do that now…lol Just like we talked about having “help”, I make sure I get a dude’s opinion first.

I agree with Swiss, I think everybody should learn to drive in an automatic

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:35 pm

disco / Brat — Amazingly enough, I got off with nothing more than a little yelling and a warning not to pull anything like that again. I was always good at smooth-talking my way out of trouble… ;-) :lol:

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
12:35 pm

Alright folks, need to take the kid to lunch…

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:36 pm

You mean a stick, C?

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:37 pm

i soon stop bc the maintenance killed me trying to be fast but I have done it happily thinking I was doing something is my point lol

I am having pizza C and mozzarella sticks smh but its good!

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:37 pm

Yeah, if you can’t drive a stick it’s like only being able to ride a bike with training wheels. Everybody should learn to drive a stick. Plus, it’s more fun.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:38 pm

I heard that Swiss. my terrible coordination wouldn’t let it happen

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:39 pm

do they still make stick shift cars?!? seems like old timey now lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
12:39 pm

Swiss – Yes….I CAN DRIVE A STICK :) lol

Lady – Pizza sounds good and quick right about now. Nowhere around here. She’s acting like her ribs are touching her back…lol I was gonna walk down to Publik next to the Fox. Nice little spot but it looks gloomy and I have on heels. So the cafe it will be :)

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
12:41 pm

Anybody near town? This place on the corner of the block where the Fox is located is a nice spot. It’s always packed after hours starting Thursdays and on Fridays. They have a nice selection of dishes. Check it out if you’re ever down here…Publik..with a “K”

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:44 pm

Lady — It’s not easy to find a stick these days. I had my Jeep special ordered, so I asked for a stick, specifically, but I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen a stick just in stock on a new car lot.

C — Somehow, I had a feeling you knew how to work a stick. ;-) :lol:

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:44 pm

I have seen it before C always wanted to go but haven’t……no concerts I am frequenting are at the Fox so one day I will go

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:45 pm

i didn’t think so Swiss. the term seems out dated lol

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
12:46 pm

i’m with you, lady. nothing but imported suvs for me. and i don’t mean imported from detroit. :mad:
although, i do plan on test driving that gmc terrain. it could be a contender. i’m in a qx4 now but i’m ready to downsize. next up should be a bmw x5 or audi q7.
s/o is pushing for the beamer; i’m for the audi. we’ll just see :lol:

my first brand-spanking new car was a ‘00 camry. i hated that car cuz everybody and their mama had one. but it gave me zero maintenance issues and allowed me to speed like a bat outta he!!. not necessarily a good thing, i know, but i sure made good use of it at the time.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:46 pm

where are the men blog folk today?!?! hmmmmm lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:47 pm

Lady — Don’t worry about the rest of them, I’m man enough for all you ladies… :lol:

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:48 pm

Brat the Ford Edge is nice but I will get the Acura version oh I love the Infinity big body!!!! Love it!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:49 pm

That you are Swiss now pass me a Rita boo!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) lol

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
12:51 pm

the ex hubs tried to teach me to drive a stick. for some reason i kept skipping from 1st to 3rd and that pissed him off royally.

seeing as how they’re apparently on the verge of extinction, i don’t feel cheated.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:52 pm

lol brat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
12:52 pm

Lady — My pleasure.

Speaking of margaritas, can I just give a shout out to my new(-ish) blender? Had this thing for a couple months now & it is the best blender I’ve ever had by a long shot. If you’re in the market for a blender, do yourself a favor & get a Ninja.

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:53 pm

will look into that sir!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) I harbor blenders and crock pots! I really do! lol

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
12:56 pm

four more Mondays yep this too shall pass

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
1:05 pm

@Celisea ~ I was dating a guy who had to leave town (a trucker) and he left his Nissan 200SX with me. Loved that car. He told me I could drive it if I knew how to navigate a stick. Hell, nothing but words to me. I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta. I was sweating bullets. That car had awesome speakers. By the time I reached home, I had sweat stains under my armpits (didn’t help I had on a silk blouse).

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
1:11 pm

What are yall summer plans?!? I just booked @ the Marriott Hilton Head Resort for a July family reunion. Gotta do Sandestin next!!! ;)

Sassy Me :-)

April 26th, 2012
1:12 pm

If you’re in the market for a blender, do yourself a favor & get a Ninja.

Soo cosign…I loove my Ninja. The fact that I can blend into to go cups OR a 40oz pitcher is awesome and the recipes are fun and easy…

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

Lady – I’m a Nissan chick now too ;-)

swiss – Yes, we are still talking about cars regarding the driving a stick…the other thing I’m still on intermediate level. I wouldn’t call me an expert just yet but i’ll at least get you from point A to point Beeeeeeeee :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

Afternoon all,

Topic – passion is an ingredient. Without I life in general is bland. Too much of it and you get heart disease. Lol

Side topic – 1st car was a 3rd gen hand me down 80 cutlass. Big bruh had it b4 me so really everybody knew it as his car. Thanks to the game I quickly bought a ol school that was all ME. Good times

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:24 pm

Leggs – I don’t know if it’s the sugar from this smoothie i’m drinking but reading about your sweat stains in a silk blouse just cracked me up :lol:

Teaching someone how to drive a stick can be very frustrating….I taught the ex how to drive my Kia Ria back when they first came out….that was the worst newest car I’ve ever had. Thank goodness Kia has come a long way as far as quality goes.

Stick shifts are fun to drive but not living in heavily populated/traffic areas. I caught plenty of cramps in my leg when I used to work downtown. Not fun!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
1:25 pm

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:25 pm

WD – It’s amazing how many cats are still into thos ol skool big rides. My dad had a cougar back in the day and it felt like being on a cruise ship and making turns was almost like being in a damn 18wheeler trying to make a turn :lol:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:26 pm

Lady – Oh and my cuzzo has a Murano too…I those rides ;-)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
1:29 pm

http://images.thecarconnection.com/lrg/2003_nissan_murano_100006026_l.jpg <<<<<<<<<Slim this is the inside of mine and I love it! its a come up! one day I will have the next luxury suv I long for lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:30 pm

Nothing rides like a cougar. Wait, are we still talking about cars?

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:34 pm

swiss – Does Mrs Swiss sense of humor match yours or are you pretty much the entertainment round your crib?

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
1:37 pm

@Slim ~ I was very glad I was on my way home and I didn’t burnout the clutch. I remember being on a side street and had to go up a hill. I went three blocks out might way not to go up that hill.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:37 pm

Lady – That’s nice, is that burnt orange? The cuzzo’s interior is the beige leather…ride is smooth too.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:38 pm

Mrs. Swiss is pretty funny, too — just in a more innocent way. But don’t let her fool you, she definitely enjoys my naughty side. :lol:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:41 pm

Leggs – Those hills would have me soooo nervous and I would start cussing out drivers that would pull up too close to my rear because it made me MORE nervous about rolling back into them. The first day of my attempt to learn to drive, I got so scared on a hill that I had to get out and let my stepdad take over. lol

Now on to a different type of vehicle—> the scooter. The first time I drove a scooter I was in the Bahamas and they drive on the opposite of the road. I nearly killed myself trying to make a turn because I got confused on which way to go. I also hit the gas too hard on my first try and barely ended up running into the side of McDonalds lol

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:43 pm

swiss yous a fool! i refuse to buy a cougar card yet!!!!!!!!!!!!! smh lol

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:44 pm

something like that Slim I say tan but I know I am wrong lol its orange lol

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

I’m behind the wheel hoping and a praying that theother cars dont come to close for fear of rolling back into them…scariest thing.

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

i called my dude old man he just turned 44 and having reservation with aging lol I said old man I won’t stuff this food down your throat as I fixed his plate lololol I will be a nice caregiver smh lololol

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:47 pm

swiss – From that day on yoga postions and such, I surely hope she enjoys your naughty sides just as well. :lol:

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:51 pm

Lady — You can never be a cougar, ‘cos you’re younger than me. I think that’s part of the official definition of cougar — you’ve gotta be older than swiss.

Slim — Lawd, don’t get me thinking about Mrs. Swiss & her yoga. Gonna give me a woody up in here… :lol:

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:53 pm

to the young dudes is what I meant I don’t date younger than me at all not interested lol old men rock lol smh

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:54 pm

j/k 40s ain’t old at all just older lol I stop at 46 I did date a 55 year old and I couldn’t losen up and go in and go off like i wanted too felt like I was disrespecting my elder lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
2:02 pm

Lady — Nah, 40 is old. At least until I get there. Then 40 will be the new 30. :lol:

One of my buddies just turned 40 last month, so I plan to give him all kinds of hell until I join him. :lol:

Albert

April 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

No, passion is definitely not overrated, and anyone who says so probably has no idea how good it can be!

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
2:11 pm

lol swiss you funny!

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
2:28 pm

Gonna give me a woody up in here…

swiss – How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? ;-)

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
2:34 pm

Lady – I have seen it before C always wanted to go but haven’t……no concerts I am frequenting are at the Fox so one day I will go

Check it out next time you’re downtown….I think you’ll like

Swiss – Somehow, I had a feeling you knew how to work a stick.

Like magic :)

Leggs – Hell, nothing but words to me. I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta. I was sweating bullets

LOL…I laughed at the sweating bullets part. Self help/taught is something else. Getting back to Atlanta and learning to shift gears was something to conquer. Did I mentioned I was in a wedding that day…maid of honor…and they were waiting on me. That’s why I called myself dumb… It’s true. My bff was hot with. She got over it though sooooon after the wedding…lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim — I don’t think I like what you’re insinuating about my woodchuck…

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
2:48 pm

bye yall I need a nap! ;) peace! C I will maybe I will meet you there late May! ;)

Row 125, Seat 11B

April 26th, 2012
2:51 pm

What it do Fam??? I see the convo has turned to first cars…… My first car was my dads “hand me down” White station wagon with the wood panel….I was a joke until I tinted the windows and put some bass up in there! The girls did not want to ride in it but they had no problem hanging around on Sundays at Mosley Park… :)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:03 pm

swiss – Awww, I don’t like a sad woody. Lemme make it up to you :oops:

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:06 pm

I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta.
now THAT’S funny! reminds me of when i asked my b.i.l. if i could drive his manual mercedes. i told him i’d mastered as far as first gear and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough.

disco

April 26th, 2012
3:14 pm

O/T – I think it’s about time for me to take a trip home and spend some time with my folks. I’m feeling quite ghetto. all angry and confrontational. usually I just need a dose of home to get it out of my system, spend some time with some folks who don’t call me by my government name. as it is I’ve had two snap moments this week.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta.
now THAT’S funny! reminds me of when i asked my b.i.l. if i could drive his manual mercedes. i told him i’d mastered as far as first gear and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough. -

You got me beat, your story is hysterical. → “and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough.” A mercedes at that. Bet he laughed all day at that suggestion.

This is the 4th celebration this week at work. People are retiring left and right!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

I stayed away from the cake, but I wanted just a sliver…I kept on walking.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

disco – Yea, sounds like a time to get away and rejuvenate yourself. I’m still hoping on a vacation soon

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

Yeah disco – take a break :)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

Leggs – Well I can’t call it retiring but more so like ‘tired’ here at my job…folks are jumping ship like it’s on fire. lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:29 pm

Folks are getting tossed over here. My manager just told us another group…not one or two but group was let go…gheesh

I was just trying to remember every car I’ve had. If I can think of them all I’m gonna list

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

Disco ~ sounds like you need to go home, regroup, snap when you want to snap at somebody, then come back home to your other reality.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

Cel – It’s been a bit of that too going on here…

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

leggs, he laughs about it now. he wasn’t amused then. that 2-seater coupe was a purchase he made while stationed in germany. that bad boy was midnight blue with gold package and camel tan leather interior. suweet!!

he refused to leave it in my care when they got stationed in japan. he chose to leave it with his dad instead. only to come home a year later and find the car so completely ruined that he had to chunk it. he said his little sister drove the thing into the ground. she somehow managed to wear a hole in the floorboards so bad you could actually see the road between your feet :shock:
my sister told me there were wires hanging from everywhere inside and out; none of the windows worked; the hood wouldn’t stay down. she said she never gave two sh!ts about the car before then but she nearly cried at the sight of it.

and the kicker …. the whole time they were overseas his family continuously swore to him the car was not being driven at all! i told him he shoulda left it with me. the most he would have had to do was a little transmission work. :)

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:33 pm

@Slim ~ where I work, I call it The Pet Cemetry. Once you get in, you don’t want to leave. No one seems to leave (and it’s hard to get fired here). I work for the meanest person in the entire company. You gots to have backbone to sit in this chair! Here I is, 16 years later! Whew! Never woulda thunk I would still be here. I think when I retire, I might get 3 ppl to attent, I kid, I kid, kinda sorta (lol).

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
3:34 pm

Yo, what ups peeps…..Row, did you say Sundays at Mosley Park, brings back memories.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

czB ~ that car sounds suweet! Too bad his family didn’t take care of it….I have a feeling it might have met the same fate in your hands as well. :wink:

disco

April 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

leggs – I don’t know what it is about my trips home but I go home all good times and come back all mayberry. something about being around my people makes me want to get back on good behavior.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:37 pm

Slim – The company put it out last year there would be cuts…and boy are they cutting left and right. We didn’t even get our trip to Florida this year let alone other small one off trips. By now I would have had at least 2 working on my 3rd. Too while I’m laughing at the other group, we got an email yesterday saying if you’re printing all of your work on color printers to switch to black and white :| I’m sure more cuts, not just in staffing are sure to come. Oh another one…if you’re not in a meeting longer than six hours no lunch will be expensed…bummer

I think they’re still recovering on the trip to Miami last year. That bad boy carried a price tag of over $100,000…I hear

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:39 pm

Talking about Passion….men have a great deal of passion for their cars!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:41 pm

@disco ~ I do understand. You can really, I mean really let loose. When you get back home, you simply appreciate how you managed to forge an extension of where you came from to where you are now. You need Mayberry style living after your family! I do understand…. :cool:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:43 pm

czbrat – I had to read this line twice: that bad boy was midnight blue with gold package and camel tan leather interior Somehow the brain initially thought it read it had camel toe leather :lol: And that story is similar to the one on Q100 where a chick was told to drive a car back to a guys house that got locked up which had less than 6000 miles on it. The chick had been driving it the whole time buddy was locked up and put almost 30k miles on it I believe, drove it down to Miami and other places with her friends.

Leggs – Even after all that time of working there, your boss is still a dizzle???

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

First ride was a 91 Nissan Sentra, handed down….rode that fugger til I had to let it go, had 285,000 on her before I gave in. My peeps from school dubbed it “The Rolling Frat House”, cause I had everything you would need for a party in that ride. Keg and Tap, cups, essential green goods, 80 proof concoctions, whatever….my motto was, if the gas station is open, we will get there…carried me through college, and my first 4 years after…..dayum I loved that car!!!

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
3:47 pm

swiss, is that link safe

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:48 pm

He’s mellowed over the years, but he has his moments. It’s in his DNA, much like it’s in mine to buck back!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:50 pm

Funny, Jake asking if it’s safe…it’s a video of R.E.M. You can take it from there (lol).

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
3:51 pm

Yeah, it’s just the REM song (Talk About the Passion)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:51 pm

Trips home replenishes us because it’s simple, in many cases…you are with folks that care about you and accept you as you are. I tend to go ‘home’ too when I get aggravated & fed up with life at times…and there is something about being around my little niece that gives me a whole nother perspective. She is so innocent, eager to learn, eager to play and lives for each moment. I guess being around her represents life before Eve eating of the Tree of Knowledge ;-)

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
3:53 pm

I love how everybody is afraid to click my links at the office. Need to post something truly NSFW to keep up my rep. :lol:

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:53 pm

disco, trying to wrap my head around outbound “good times” and “‘mayberry” on the return lap.
i’m usually the other way around. time with my fam tends to bring out the “barrio” in me.

leggs, now that’s just rude! i may severely neglect the mechanics of an automobile, but i’d never let it LOOK bad.

jake, it’s a nissan/infiniti thang! i LUVED my maxima. still hate that the ex totalled it, left it on the side of the road somewhere, and never even told me.
my qx4 has 223k miles and still purring like a big cat. i’m not trading him in either. osiris will be with me until he truly returns to the underworld.

celisea, i put in my time with the national gigs. so many cutbacks and threats of layoff you never know what to expect. one minute its “hey! aren’t you all glad we’re surviving this economy?!” next minute “uh. but we’re not doing well enough to pay raises or bonuses. sorry.”

there is something to be said for working for a small company. we each have quite a workload, but we’re indispensable.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
3:54 pm

“Trips home replenishes us because it’s simple, in many cases…you are with folks that care about you and accept you as you are”

Man, total opposite for me. Trips home tire me out because I’m either constantly holding my tongue or getting into political arguments.

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

swiss, i thought about you day before yesterday. i was gonna post a link to the brian mcknight “puddy” song. i figured that would make you smile.
then i forgot all about it.

slim, you are just soooo silly!! just omg with the camel toe.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

r00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000.

Just opened my eys and this is what I saw on the screen ↑

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

Leggs – From what i’ve gathered over the years, bosses like that often times appreciate a bucker employee as opposed to someone they can steamroll.

Sassy Me :-)

April 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

Sundays at Mosley Park, brings back memories.

Yes it does…don’t forget Maddox Park,too…
Those were the daaaays :lol:

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

czB ~ I was referring to the mechanics of the car, not the body work.

disco

April 26th, 2012
3:58 pm

jake – too funny. once when I went home some cousins and I popped the trunk and opened up shop. had a party sitting on the curb of our old block. dude had a cooler, liquor, beer, set ups, ice, cups, tops, swishers you name it.

slim – you make going home seem all innocent. innocence isn’t what I seek. I need to be checked. I need for somebody to say “shut the eff up” or “sit your blank A down”. I need folks that are just as rough around the edges as I am.

brat – see what I said to slim. after a few days of all my family’s ignorance and foolishness I’m good. I can go Pollyanna for a minute. thing is it doesn’t last long. that real, true self always starts to work it’s way to the surface.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
4:00 pm

And I was messing with you, czB.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
4:01 pm

Sassy….Maddox was jumping too, was that you in those tight biking shorts 18-20years ago.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:01 pm

czBrat – I know right….I have a coworker on the phone right now fretting about the cutbacks

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:02 pm

swiss – Well, i’m not counting you in on the ‘in most cases’…I forgot about how you say things at home can be for you..where is your hometown again?

Anybody heard from Purple?

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – Meet me at happy hour and after a few cocktails, I’ll gladly tell you to shut the eff up and you can save your gas :lol:

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

Disco..thats what I’m talking bout…back then I was too dumb to think about how dirty I was riding, I used to have this Crown Royal bag full of other bags. Just ridin, delivering, drinkin, smokin, kickin it hard 24/7….as grandadddy would say, ackin a plum fool.

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
4:09 pm

I need to be checked. I need for somebody to say “shut the eff up” or “sit your blank A down”. I need folks that are just as rough around the edges as I am.
^^^^HAHAHAHAHAH!!!^^^

gotcha, leggs. you’re still rude. :grin: :lol:

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
4:09 pm

:lol: @ Slim. Yeah, I was thinking if all disco wanted was for somebody to tell her to shut the eff up, I’m sure we can find some folks on here who would do that for free.

Oh, and my hometown is in NW Georiga — right on the Alabama border.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
4:11 pm

Whatever happened to Amazon? Maybe we should give her disco’s number? :lol:

Row 125, Seat 11B

April 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

Thats whats up Jake….Use to spend hours and hours sitting in traffic to get to the park and…..sit in traffic!!! Finally gave up that wagon when I went to work in the car business…Then I drove New Demos for nearly 10 years!!! Flashy and hot in the summer and Big and cool in the winter…..

Sassy Me :-)

April 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

was that you in those tight biking shorts 18-20years ago.

Umm no it wasn’t…I only wear those around the house :mrgreen:

disco

April 26th, 2012
4:15 pm

thanks slim. I’ll take that in the goodwill it was meant. problem is it takes a certain somebody to tell me to shut the eff up without it being a fight. lol. sort of like I said the other day. when I meet the man that tells me to shut up and I actually do it I’ll be sending out announcements.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:17 pm

swiss – Yeah we could give her a verbal beat down worse than she gets at home…tag team and Mrs Swiss wouldnt even have a reason to get mad :lol:

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:19 pm

I’m still here…..sigh and ready to go

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
4:19 pm

czB ~ so I’ve been told.

PR contacted me a few weeks back. He’s doing good, Jules is fine, the baby is fine, he’s loving his life (nothing much as changed).

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:20 pm

disco – Well if a fight breaks out, I think i’ll be covered. I’ll be the one wearing the catcher’s full uniform :lol:

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/7/7f/Baseball_catcher.jpg/300px-Baseball_catcher.jpg

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:22 pm

Okie dokie….ho hum….just rambling

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
4:22 pm

Row. exactly….that’s back in the trunk rattling, cruisin days, a mini-Freaknic weekly. Ride by Mosley, if it ain’t jumpin yet, ride by Maddox, might hit Grant, might even hit Piedmont, this was prior to the invasion…..good times

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
4:23 pm

awwww. reign has another bambino? what did they have?

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
4:23 pm

this was prior to the invasion…..I thought the invasion was always there.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
4:24 pm

Sorry, baby is doing fine growing in belly.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
4:31 pm

Leggs, nah, back then, the area was different in the early 90’s, there were not flags everywhere you turn, that openness that it is now, as the evening would come, you would see a couple come out the woodworks, but its all theirs now…lol.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:33 pm

That’s why the “no cruising” signs started going up, Mosely, Piedmont and other places would be gridlock on Saturday nights and Sundays….GRID LOCKED. I’ve been in a few traffic jams maself

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
4:35 pm

When I do drive in the area, I’m surprised to see how they have the corners on lock down.

Ciao~

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
4:41 pm

Since we talkin about cool ATL stuff, what happened to Funkjazz Cafe, it just stopped happening?

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:42 pm

I’ve never heard of it but have any of you all been to Acoutix? I was thinking about trying it out but wanted a more personal review

Exiled!

April 26th, 2012
4:45 pm

Disco?

How bout a dude to rough ex u…slapping that booteey as he gives u a good pressdown in that bed…

u need that outta ur system..

H0rny makes some girls extra antsy.

Unless ofcourse ur sharp h0rns are due to oncoming unfertilized egg?

What a waste, if that’s the case! :lol:

Exiled!

April 26th, 2012
4:47 pm

I can be ur Opprah:

U get a sperm

U get a sperm

U get a sperm

U get a sperm!

Sassy Me :-)

April 26th, 2012
4:52 pm

what happened to Funkjazz Cafe, it just stopped happening?

I don’t know but the last one I went to was ON…it was right at the Tabarnaacle and I could walk there from my apartment. Oooh how I miss living downtown..

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
4:53 pm

Ex – What a way to make an entrance and scare away any 5:00 stragglers

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
4:53 pm

(me-lo made me snort snot bubbles :mad: )
on that note.

ciaocito!

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:55 pm

MMelloo – LOLOL

About as funny as when you did Oprah using “you get a man” instead of car

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
4:56 pm

Night folks…

Exiled!

April 26th, 2012
5:01 pm

I miss u guys but I’m on lockdown

Lifelong

April 27th, 2012
12:45 am

Love some of these posts! I have been married for 31 years. I would be lying if I said the passion stayed as red hot as it began all of this time. Don’t get me wrong, we had to work at it. There were plenty of times it seemed we had gotten into a “rut”. The passion had left. Each time became a opportunity for re-awakening. The weekend in Las Vegas, the family vacations at the beach, even trips to see family all became launchpad’s for new, vibrant and even deeper passion. Long term relationships are a process. I believe you have to constantly work on them. They are always under construction.

truth

April 27th, 2012
8:18 pm

Passion-filled affair. You only live once and life is too short to be sitting across the table from someone who doesn’t make your heart beat. While these feelings alone are not enough to sustain a relationship, you can not go without them. If you settle for lifeless partnership, you will surely run into someone down the line who ignites that passion and then you are in trouble.