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Is passion overrated?

Passion. Chemistry. Intense desire. Are these things that could actually be overrated? If you aren’t with someone and feel all these things, does it mean you two aren’t supposed to be together?

If everyone is waiting around for the person that they feel strong passion for, does that mean we are all naive and don’t know what real, true, long-lasting love is about?

When you consider the things that makes most couples last beyond six months, how important do you think passion and chemistry are?

I was watching New Girl and Zoe Daschanel’s character wants to end things with a man because he did not seem to have the same “passion” he felt for his ex-wife….a woman he “hates.” He tells New Girl, “Passion is overrated” and that kind of intensity burns out fast and is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship.

TV fiction aside, I had to think about which one I would pick if I had to pick one: passion-filled affair or long-lasting aka lukewarm, attraction. If you had to pick one, which would you want?

Were your best love affairs filled with passion or deep like?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Sassy Me :-)

April 26th, 2012
1:12 pm

If you’re in the market for a blender, do yourself a favor & get a Ninja.

Soo cosign…I loove my Ninja. The fact that I can blend into to go cups OR a 40oz pitcher is awesome and the recipes are fun and easy…

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

Lady – I’m a Nissan chick now too ;-)

swiss – Yes, we are still talking about cars regarding the driving a stick…the other thing I’m still on intermediate level. I wouldn’t call me an expert just yet but i’ll at least get you from point A to point Beeeeeeeee :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

Afternoon all,

Topic – passion is an ingredient. Without I life in general is bland. Too much of it and you get heart disease. Lol

Side topic – 1st car was a 3rd gen hand me down 80 cutlass. Big bruh had it b4 me so really everybody knew it as his car. Thanks to the game I quickly bought a ol school that was all ME. Good times

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:24 pm

Leggs – I don’t know if it’s the sugar from this smoothie i’m drinking but reading about your sweat stains in a silk blouse just cracked me up :lol:

Teaching someone how to drive a stick can be very frustrating….I taught the ex how to drive my Kia Ria back when they first came out….that was the worst newest car I’ve ever had. Thank goodness Kia has come a long way as far as quality goes.

Stick shifts are fun to drive but not living in heavily populated/traffic areas. I caught plenty of cramps in my leg when I used to work downtown. Not fun!

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
1:25 pm

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:25 pm

WD – It’s amazing how many cats are still into thos ol skool big rides. My dad had a cougar back in the day and it felt like being on a cruise ship and making turns was almost like being in a damn 18wheeler trying to make a turn :lol:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:26 pm

Lady – Oh and my cuzzo has a Murano too…I those rides ;-)

Lady~Love will win the fight~

April 26th, 2012
1:29 pm

http://images.thecarconnection.com/lrg/2003_nissan_murano_100006026_l.jpg <<<<<<<<<Slim this is the inside of mine and I love it! its a come up! one day I will have the next luxury suv I long for lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:30 pm

Nothing rides like a cougar. Wait, are we still talking about cars?

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:34 pm

swiss – Does Mrs Swiss sense of humor match yours or are you pretty much the entertainment round your crib?

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
1:37 pm

@Slim ~ I was very glad I was on my way home and I didn’t burnout the clutch. I remember being on a side street and had to go up a hill. I went three blocks out might way not to go up that hill.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:37 pm

Lady – That’s nice, is that burnt orange? The cuzzo’s interior is the beige leather…ride is smooth too.

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:38 pm

Mrs. Swiss is pretty funny, too — just in a more innocent way. But don’t let her fool you, she definitely enjoys my naughty side. :lol:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:41 pm

Leggs – Those hills would have me soooo nervous and I would start cussing out drivers that would pull up too close to my rear because it made me MORE nervous about rolling back into them. The first day of my attempt to learn to drive, I got so scared on a hill that I had to get out and let my stepdad take over. lol

Now on to a different type of vehicle—> the scooter. The first time I drove a scooter I was in the Bahamas and they drive on the opposite of the road. I nearly killed myself trying to make a turn because I got confused on which way to go. I also hit the gas too hard on my first try and barely ended up running into the side of McDonalds lol

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:43 pm

swiss yous a fool! i refuse to buy a cougar card yet!!!!!!!!!!!!! smh lol

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:44 pm

something like that Slim I say tan but I know I am wrong lol its orange lol

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

I’m behind the wheel hoping and a praying that theother cars dont come to close for fear of rolling back into them…scariest thing.

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

i called my dude old man he just turned 44 and having reservation with aging lol I said old man I won’t stuff this food down your throat as I fixed his plate lololol I will be a nice caregiver smh lololol

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
1:47 pm

swiss – From that day on yoga postions and such, I surely hope she enjoys your naughty sides just as well. :lol:

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
1:51 pm

Lady — You can never be a cougar, ‘cos you’re younger than me. I think that’s part of the official definition of cougar — you’ve gotta be older than swiss.

Slim — Lawd, don’t get me thinking about Mrs. Swiss & her yoga. Gonna give me a woody up in here… :lol:

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:53 pm

to the young dudes is what I meant I don’t date younger than me at all not interested lol old men rock lol smh

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
1:54 pm

j/k 40s ain’t old at all just older lol I stop at 46 I did date a 55 year old and I couldn’t losen up and go in and go off like i wanted too felt like I was disrespecting my elder lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
2:02 pm

Lady — Nah, 40 is old. At least until I get there. Then 40 will be the new 30. :lol:

One of my buddies just turned 40 last month, so I plan to give him all kinds of hell until I join him. :lol:

Albert

April 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

No, passion is definitely not overrated, and anyone who says so probably has no idea how good it can be!

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
2:11 pm

lol swiss you funny!

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
2:28 pm

Gonna give me a woody up in here…

swiss – How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? ;-)

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
2:34 pm

Lady – I have seen it before C always wanted to go but haven’t……no concerts I am frequenting are at the Fox so one day I will go

Check it out next time you’re downtown….I think you’ll like

Swiss – Somehow, I had a feeling you knew how to work a stick.

Like magic :)

Leggs – Hell, nothing but words to me. I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta. I was sweating bullets

LOL…I laughed at the sweating bullets part. Self help/taught is something else. Getting back to Atlanta and learning to shift gears was something to conquer. Did I mentioned I was in a wedding that day…maid of honor…and they were waiting on me. That’s why I called myself dumb… It’s true. My bff was hot with. She got over it though sooooon after the wedding…lol

i'm swiss

April 26th, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim — I don’t think I like what you’re insinuating about my woodchuck…

Lady~

April 26th, 2012
2:48 pm

bye yall I need a nap! ;) peace! C I will maybe I will meet you there late May! ;)

Row 125, Seat 11B

April 26th, 2012
2:51 pm

What it do Fam??? I see the convo has turned to first cars…… My first car was my dads “hand me down” White station wagon with the wood panel….I was a joke until I tinted the windows and put some bass up in there! The girls did not want to ride in it but they had no problem hanging around on Sundays at Mosley Park… :)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:03 pm

swiss – Awww, I don’t like a sad woody. Lemme make it up to you :oops:

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:06 pm

I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta.
now THAT’S funny! reminds me of when i asked my b.i.l. if i could drive his manual mercedes. i told him i’d mastered as far as first gear and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough.

disco

April 26th, 2012
3:14 pm

O/T – I think it’s about time for me to take a trip home and spend some time with my folks. I’m feeling quite ghetto. all angry and confrontational. usually I just need a dose of home to get it out of my system, spend some time with some folks who don’t call me by my government name. as it is I’ve had two snap moments this week.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

I taught myself that day and smoothed out the rough edges during a long trek to Marietta.
now THAT’S funny! reminds me of when i asked my b.i.l. if i could drive his manual mercedes. i told him i’d mastered as far as first gear and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough. -

You got me beat, your story is hysterical. → “and was fairly confident i could figure the rest of ‘em out if he let me keep the car long enough.” A mercedes at that. Bet he laughed all day at that suggestion.

This is the 4th celebration this week at work. People are retiring left and right!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

I stayed away from the cake, but I wanted just a sliver…I kept on walking.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

disco – Yea, sounds like a time to get away and rejuvenate yourself. I’m still hoping on a vacation soon

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

Yeah disco – take a break :)

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

Leggs – Well I can’t call it retiring but more so like ‘tired’ here at my job…folks are jumping ship like it’s on fire. lol

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:29 pm

Folks are getting tossed over here. My manager just told us another group…not one or two but group was let go…gheesh

I was just trying to remember every car I’ve had. If I can think of them all I’m gonna list

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

Disco ~ sounds like you need to go home, regroup, snap when you want to snap at somebody, then come back home to your other reality.

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

Cel – It’s been a bit of that too going on here…

czBrat

April 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

leggs, he laughs about it now. he wasn’t amused then. that 2-seater coupe was a purchase he made while stationed in germany. that bad boy was midnight blue with gold package and camel tan leather interior. suweet!!

he refused to leave it in my care when they got stationed in japan. he chose to leave it with his dad instead. only to come home a year later and find the car so completely ruined that he had to chunk it. he said his little sister drove the thing into the ground. she somehow managed to wear a hole in the floorboards so bad you could actually see the road between your feet :shock:
my sister told me there were wires hanging from everywhere inside and out; none of the windows worked; the hood wouldn’t stay down. she said she never gave two sh!ts about the car before then but she nearly cried at the sight of it.

and the kicker …. the whole time they were overseas his family continuously swore to him the car was not being driven at all! i told him he shoulda left it with me. the most he would have had to do was a little transmission work. :)

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:33 pm

@Slim ~ where I work, I call it The Pet Cemetry. Once you get in, you don’t want to leave. No one seems to leave (and it’s hard to get fired here). I work for the meanest person in the entire company. You gots to have backbone to sit in this chair! Here I is, 16 years later! Whew! Never woulda thunk I would still be here. I think when I retire, I might get 3 ppl to attent, I kid, I kid, kinda sorta (lol).

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 26th, 2012
3:34 pm

Yo, what ups peeps…..Row, did you say Sundays at Mosley Park, brings back memories.

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

czB ~ that car sounds suweet! Too bad his family didn’t take care of it….I have a feeling it might have met the same fate in your hands as well. :wink:

disco

April 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

leggs – I don’t know what it is about my trips home but I go home all good times and come back all mayberry. something about being around my people makes me want to get back on good behavior.

Celisea

April 26th, 2012
3:37 pm

Slim – The company put it out last year there would be cuts…and boy are they cutting left and right. We didn’t even get our trip to Florida this year let alone other small one off trips. By now I would have had at least 2 working on my 3rd. Too while I’m laughing at the other group, we got an email yesterday saying if you’re printing all of your work on color printers to switch to black and white :| I’m sure more cuts, not just in staffing are sure to come. Oh another one…if you’re not in a meeting longer than six hours no lunch will be expensed…bummer

I think they’re still recovering on the trip to Miami last year. That bad boy carried a price tag of over $100,000…I hear

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:39 pm

Talking about Passion….men have a great deal of passion for their cars!

Leggs

April 26th, 2012
3:41 pm

@disco ~ I do understand. You can really, I mean really let loose. When you get back home, you simply appreciate how you managed to forge an extension of where you came from to where you are now. You need Mayberry style living after your family! I do understand…. :cool:

SlimNu

April 26th, 2012
3:43 pm

czbrat – I had to read this line twice: that bad boy was midnight blue with gold package and camel tan leather interior Somehow the brain initially thought it read it had camel toe leather :lol: And that story is similar to the one on Q100 where a chick was told to drive a car back to a guys house that got locked up which had less than 6000 miles on it. The chick had been driving it the whole time buddy was locked up and put almost 30k miles on it I believe, drove it down to Miami and other places with her friends.

Leggs – Even after all that time of working there, your boss is still a dizzle???