Is passion overrated?
Passion. Chemistry. Intense desire. Are these things that could actually be overrated? If you aren’t with someone and feel all these things, does it mean you two aren’t supposed to be together?
If everyone is waiting around for the person that they feel strong passion for, does that mean we are all naive and don’t know what real, true, long-lasting love is about?
When you consider the things that makes most couples last beyond six months, how important do you think passion and chemistry are?
I was watching New Girl and Zoe Daschanel’s character wants to end things with a man because he did not seem to have the same “passion” he felt for his ex-wife….a woman he “hates.” He tells New Girl, “Passion is overrated” and that kind of intensity burns out fast and is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship.
TV fiction aside, I had to think about which one I would pick if I had to pick one: passion-filled affair or long-lasting aka lukewarm, attraction. If you had to pick one, which would you want?
Were your best love affairs filled with passion or deep like?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:31 am
in sc it def was below a dollar bc I had a honda civic and 10 dollars was filling it up seriously
abc
April 26th, 2012
10:35 am
Cheaper than I thought actually — avg. gas prices year by year through the 90’s ranges from 1.06 to 1.15 per gallon.
http://www.1990sflashback.com/1990/Economy.asp
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:36 am
Passion is crucial. Without it, you get what the man in the Strawberry Letter is getting, an unfulfilled marriage, walking in the room hoping your mate isn’t there. Driving home, only to become disgusted when their car is in the driveway.
Please like your spouse/mate (lol).
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:37 am
off by pennies sir don’t shoot me though but I am blogging and I hope you get my point that is was CHEAPER sir! wow here we go penny for penny! you win honey!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:41 am
walking in the room hoping your mate isn’t there.<<<<<<<<<<<<< so sad!
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
10:43 am
Leggs – I agree totally! I’ve been on that recieving end too – loving someone who didn’t love me “that way”. Finally broke it off with me because he said he didn’t feel the way he “should” about me as his gf & future wife. And he liked me, but like a friend or sister. I was devestated. It’s an awful feeling.
You can try to minimize it all you want, but when it’s missing, it’s GLARING!
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:43 am
@Lady ~ I was just thinking that with my car. When I bought my Honda, $11 filled up the tank. Gas was .88.
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:46 am
Ummm, according to abc, perhaps I imagined gas was .88?
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:46 am
Leggs I am not making this stuff up. Experience is a fair teacher~
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:47 am
I have paid .79 in the 90s and that is that. I am over it could care less about stats I speak from my experiences
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:49 am
For sure, Lady! I remember almost running out of gas on I-20. I was scared that I wouldn’t make it to the gas station and called a friend immediately to let her know where I might be stranded (lol). I remember the price of gas then to be .88. Heck, sometimes you really can’t rely on your own memory.
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:50 am
Too funny!
disco
April 26th, 2012
10:54 am
lady – yeah I remember .97 cents gas in texas around 98 or 99. I was driving a little 2-door chevy cavalier at the time and I was rolling.
well it looks like passion wins by a landslide. I still say if I had to pick one over the other passion would get laid to rest.
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
10:56 am
My first car at 18 was a dark blue 2-door 6 month old Cavalier.
disco – I thought it was about split or leaning towards folks wanting passion but not the adrenaline roller coaster stuff.
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
10:57 am
Can you reach that oh so wonderful O w/o Passion/lust fueling the lovefest?
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
10:58 am
The 90s and the 2000s are mirror opposites of an economic ups and down and both eras have passion and passionate folks that helped with the good and bad with how both played and playing out~ It is what it is we are living in different times post 911 and folks are more stressed than ever and it has affected every area of their lives.
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
10:59 am
disco – I’m saying you shouldn’t have to choose. But if someone was holding a gun to my head to make me choose, I’d be practical!LOL!!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:00 am
hmmm leggs @ your 10:57?!? hmmmmmm lol pondering
disco
April 26th, 2012
11:01 am
C – I just said “mmmpph – she had a new car at 18”. lol. I teased my son about the fact that he and his first car were the same age. he had a 1989 toyota camry that I think I paid $1600 for. he drove that little camry for years.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:01 am
yep kimmie practical wins if we using a “p” word lol hmmmmm love wins too but logi is protection lol #lame I know lol
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:03 am
meant LOGIC lol
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
11:05 am
Lady – I agree we’re living in stressful times. But I also know even if gas had been a penny a gallon, with certain dudes I dated it still would not have worked!LOL!!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:05 am
Leggs I would say YES between mental stimulation (yes its happened with me) and my damn self (yeah I ain’t scared of me)
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:06 am
agree Kimmie some dudes are just lames no matter how the economy is ! LOL
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:10 am
disco – At 18 I had a full time j.o.b….lol I worked for Dun & Bradstreet (7 years). But had I NOT had a job it would have been a plucker. My kid is getting a plucker…if I have to buy it
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:14 am
C i have been working since 16 too dealing with adult mess too…..lololololol brought that Honda I speak of he wanted 850 for it. I know the game been playing too long at this tender age I have pd off some stuff lololololol life is funny but you will learn! lol
disco
April 26th, 2012
11:14 am
C – no need to explain. whether you bought it, your parents bought it or it was gifted to you it was yours. when my son was in high school I used to be amazed at some of the cars in the student parking lot. some of these kids are rolling.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:15 am
seriously my child don’t need a car to her 2nd year of college but I know her daddy will have her one sooner that that. I am not touching it though but will support with some deep conversations.
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:15 am
Lady – My mama was like if you wanna drive, buy a car…point blank…lol
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
11:17 am
Leggs – If you’re just after a physical release, yeah there are ways of course.
If it’s someone that just “does it” for you, that you have that passion for, it’s easier to get to that point though, in my opinion. You have a more fullfilling, intimate connection. I don’t want to have to get drunk every time just so I can release.
The right person can get you going just walking in a room!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:17 am
C that was the only option presented to me so I made a way out of no way. they did pay the insurance lol
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:17 am
My sister went to Northside back in the 70s, now North Atlanta and I remember her saying the same thing about their student parking lot. How the cars were better than the teachers.
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:18 am
If it’s someone that just “does it” for you, that you have that passion for, it’s easier to get to that point though, in my opinion <<<<<<<<<<<<AMEN TO THAT!
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:18 am
I think I’m a passionate person
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
11:23 am
disco – My parents believed if kids got a car, they got the old one mom or dad would have normally traded in for a new one. My mom used to say if they bought us a new car, why would we be motivated to go to college? You are right, some of those kids would be rolling, especially at that bougie high school my younger brothers went to. And some would wreck the cars & parents would buy them another one.
Only one of us that got a “new” car, meaning a nice used one, was my youngest brother when he went off to med school. Us siblings were not mad though, cause he earned it!
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
11:39 am
@Lady ~ you got jokes. I can go by that, but I mean between two people.
O/T: Just called my eye doctor to reorder contacts and after looking up my file, some nut comes to the phone saying “Ma’am can we have your number so we can call you back?” I ask if there’s a problem and she says “No, we’re getting swamped and will need to call you back.”
I then say, “going forward you may want to rephrase that statement because all I’m hearing, as a patient, is that my call and my request isn’t important enough to be addressed.”
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:41 am
the theme for my work today is documentation! I am not the one! smh lol #vent
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:42 am
LOL Ms Leggs!!!!!!!!!!! lol
i'm swiss
April 26th, 2012
11:42 am
My first car was a beige 1980 4-door Chevette. I think my parents were trying to guarantee that I got neither speeding tickets nor laid.
i'm swiss
April 26th, 2012
11:44 am
(But I still got both)
Can’t keep me down!
SlimNu
April 26th, 2012
11:45 am
Testing
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:45 am
I ain’t gonna lie and just go ahead and shoot and JUDGE me…I wanted a Chevette sooo bad for a long time. I had a part time gig at 17 and I was riding the bus. Of all of us working there and riding the bus to and from, only one chick had a car and that was it. Everybody was trying to friend her so they could catch a ride to the bank on payday. Otherwise it was a taxi, the bus up to the bank (which was pretty much your lunch break..not hour but break…lol), or the check cashers after work because you missed the bank.
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:47 am
I thought she was hot stuff getting in her Chevette driving past all of us…lol
Leggs
April 26th, 2012
11:50 am
The right person can get you going just walking in a room! Yes ma’am!
i'm swiss
April 26th, 2012
11:51 am
C — See now, if I’d have known you back in the day, I’d have taken you for a ride in my Chevette any time you pleased.
SlimNu
April 26th, 2012
11:53 am
I don’t understand why parents would buy their 16yr old a new luxury car. More often times than not, it ends up wrecked, THEN The parents want to come to their senses and buy a used car. My first ride was my grandmothers old Chevy S-10 pickup. There was a used tired on the back with trash and hay to boot. All I know is that my butt wasn’t walking or riding the bus!
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:54 am
Swiss – And you would have been “the man”
kimmie
April 26th, 2012
11:54 am
swiss – LOL!!! Just you HAVING a car would have been cool in my book then!! Didn’t have to be anything fancy, just able to GO!!
Celisea
April 26th, 2012
11:55 am
I would have said my man has a car!!!
Lady~Love will win the fight~
April 26th, 2012
11:55 am
Just you HAVING a car would have been cool in my book <<<<<<<<<<<college days Kimmie smh lololol good memories! #dead lol