Why are titles important?
If you have been seeing someone on a regular basis, met friends and family, do you really need to call it a relationship, with titles? Someone once told me he does not like calling women his girlfriend, lady, etc. This has often lead to a big argument about why titles are important to women.
Apparently women need the title and the action to back it up. It’s not enough to spend all the free time together, if the girlfriend title isn’t floating around after a few months, there will probably be a big discussion about it.
Is it insecurity? Is it about laying claim on someone? Is it important to have the title of a committed relationship or is it the actual commitment that counts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
2:15 pm
Slim – j/k bnr. But heyal naw. Not your Mama’s husband. Nowadays yall in the same boat. Mention wife or gf and they add 0’s and commas just cause its what she would want. Hahaha not complaining just saying.
Cel – that’s bout the norm. Soooo you bout booed up now? Bout time for you to come thru the barbershop. What’s hapn?
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
2:15 pm
Celisea – Funny, I remember this guy I dated once that was kinda hung up on titles – he was one who didn’t go for them, always vague about where our relationship stood, a commitment phobe. But when it came to me getting work done on my car, either he went with me or told me to mention him as my man/bf. I give him props for that!
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:17 pm
At this same dealership, I had to pay $1800 for a repair (this was on the car I had before my current car), yet when I got to pick my car up…AFTER THEY DROVE IT AROUND (so they knew)…..it was doing the same thing! Nothing different than when I had it towed there. I was livid. They tried to sell me some crap that they needed to order a part from Germany…I called crappery on them. I said I’m not paying another cent. I said I will walk out on Roswell Road with a sign that y’all take money and deliver poor service AND threatened to call Clark Howard. I said now, give me back my $1800 you just swipped my debit card to get or fix my car….today!! My normal service guy wasn’t there and some young chump thought he was gonna get over. Well they called for the General Manager who had them bringing me water and stuff. They drove around a loaner and my normal service guy called the next day and said she’s purring like a kitten…she’s ready
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:21 pm
Kimmie/WillieD – Funny how just the mere mention of a man in a dealership can get things moving along…lol
WillieD – Boo’d up? Let’s talk about it after hours. I’ll meet you in the barbershop….lol
Lady~
April 25th, 2012
2:23 pm
what a day and still have a meeting to go! O_0 wooosah what is poppin’ now folks?!?
Lady~
April 25th, 2012
2:24 pm
interesting~
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:28 pm
Y’all my manual is coming along
I’m pretty proud so far. I was stuck this morning but the thoughts are coming. I have a beautiful layout 
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
2:32 pm
Celisea – Feels good to do a great job, doesn’t it?
One of the regular car spots I go to had me cracking up one day. He told me it’s gotten to where they hate to see women coming! He said some roll in armed with more car knowledge than the mechanics and are on guard for someone to try to rip them off!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
April 25th, 2012
2:35 pm
Hey Willie, they have no idea, mention a wife or s/o and get ready to be upsold….example, went to the Jewelers one day to pick up a piece, I had been looking already, knew what I wanted, then I said, its bday gift for the wifey, you would have thought somebody rung the bell in Players Club…shawty spenty the next 15minutes showing me other items, matching earrings, this and that…I played along cause she was smokin hott, “Don’t Judge, me married not dead”, then i politely told her no thanks, I came for that particular piece, and got the hell on…
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:35 pm
Kimmie – Yes ma’am it does
That’s funny, armed with more car knowledge than mechanics. Shoot you better be.
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:38 pm
Jake – It’s okay to look and admire….especially if she’s smoking hawt…lol
Lady – One last meeting huh? I’m about to hit the hub for cupcakes at 3:30. To think I was the one at the beginning of the year saying I didn’t want to participate. Shoot my soup wasn’t good so I didn’t finish. Iz needing a snack right about now
czBrat
April 25th, 2012
2:42 pm
Funny how just the mere mention of a man in a dealership can get things moving along
yet i’ve learned that using “my big brother” seems to have no effect at all.
Lady~
April 25th, 2012
2:45 pm
hmmmm Asante Samuel to the Falcons?!? I want his jersey right now!
Go Falcons!
Lady~
April 25th, 2012
2:46 pm
C I am just glad its the end of the day the meeting with be a blur………I am ready to hit the softball field and walk some laps and listen to some good music. Iam over this day!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
April 25th, 2012
2:47 pm
cz-that’s because the big brother threat only works in school settings, they know if a husband shows up, he is gonna be pissed because of the assumed disrespect shown to his wife, and they also know that this woman can get him to act out, if she got him down the isle, gettin him to grab somebody neck in there is a piece of cake….lol
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
2:50 pm
Off of what we’re talking about….
The lady that I wanted to apply for the position here called me late last night. She was written up so now she can’t apply. I so hate that for her because her manager is so dishonest and plays unfair. Remember I said she had been tossed under the bus? Well, yet again. She’s been placed to do research and now working two desks. I felt so bad for her. She was soooo upset. I told her to call the team that steps in. They are GOOD. She said she was going to call and report the mistreatment. She’s pretty much the whipping girl for that team.
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
2:51 pm
Brat – Yeah, I was going where Jake went on big brother – only works in school!LOL!!
Lady~
April 25th, 2012
2:51 pm
Peace out good folks!
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
2:53 pm
Celisea – Hate that for her – that kinda stuff burns me up! Now THAT is the kind of stuff I get upset about!!
Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
2:55 pm
Jake – well played. I’m married but I aint dumb. Matter fact while you tryn to upsale that’s giving me another 15-20 mins for you to understand why I’m in here. Fangs may not be showing but the topic done changed from the upsale to a bid for MY time. Thank its a game, Herm Edwards hahaha
Cel – gotcha, no appt needed.
czBrat
April 25th, 2012
2:56 pm
lmao @ jake. well said.
i do look at my big brothers a little different since realizing they really won’t stick their neck out for me like they did when i was a wee one. good thing i done gone and got myself a man. lol
wow. so brothers will no longer pose a threat to the general public on my behalf now that i’m all grown up, but they will beat the dude to death if HE doesn’t do the job. as lady would say, interesting.
SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough
April 25th, 2012
2:56 pm
you would have thought somebody rung the bell in Players Club…
disco
April 25th, 2012
2:57 pm
kimmie / jake – the threat of big brother also works in the streets. you never get to old for your brother to throw down for you. and, when you are grown, you can even use the little brother that couldn’t rep for you when he was small. and I hate to go there but when you get a certain age you can even call in your sons if you have to.
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:01 pm
Kimmie – I was walking in the house, almost 11 and my phone rings. I knew then something was wrong. She sounded so defeated. I told her to not go down without a fight.
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:04 pm
Big brothers? I have 4 and tons of cousins that act like my brothers. Yes yes, the threat of big brothers is alive and well. Grant it I don’t get into too many binds and fixes where I have to call on folks…I’m just saying though
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:06 pm
Bye Lady
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
3:06 pm
Celisea – There are all kinds of double standards & such out here. I don’t pay much attention to any of them because I’m gonna be me & do what I do. But workplace injustice – that’s when I get mad cause now you messing with my money!!
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:19 pm
Kimmie – So true. I wish I could call for her but I can’t. She’s 50 something and it’s high time she learned to stand up for herself. You’re right, messing with my money is motivation enough. Just all kinds of crap. Her son is in college in TN and got sick, manager wouldn’t let her go (and that’s a HUGE no no for this corporation), sister had been diagnosed with cancer and needed to be picked up after surgery, manager initially said no but changed her mine when she started crying…. I could go on and on with the stuff she told me. I don’t understand how she just allowed that treatment.
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
3:24 pm
C – They prey on those they think are weak. If she showed out one good time all legal-like and reported their behinds, bet they would not mess with her anymore! They don’t respect her. People will walk all over you if you don’t show some backbone or they think you don’t have any backup(like the auto mechanics).
I roll thru all calm, but some think I’m the calm before the storm. It’s best they continue to think that way!
disco
April 25th, 2012
3:34 pm
kimmie – once I spent days trying to think of a snappy, professional comeback that would get the point across that if I wasn’t at work this would be a cuss out. I walked a very fine line but I got it and I remember being completely overjoyed at the astonished look on old boy’s face. his eyes got big and he bucked back a little bit but he knew I had him. it felt like victory!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
April 25th, 2012
3:36 pm
Willie-you read all between don’t you pimp…I left out the part where she gave me her card, and told me her work schedule the following week, sneaky azz broad….
SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough
April 25th, 2012
3:38 pm
Jake – Mmm huh but you did take the card though right?
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
3:39 pm
disco – When you’re professional with your “comeback”, they don’t have a leg to stand on!LOL!! Love it!!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
April 25th, 2012
3:40 pm
As for the brothers & cousins, of course they will kick some azz for you still, but that hubby is an on-call azzkicker, he coming right now if its needed….
Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
3:46 pm
Jake – true that. I advise you to say no comment to any further blog ?’S.
Cel – great advice to your co-worker. She has to learn by hook or crook. Just being good mneans you are a doormat. You don’t have to be an a-hole but you have to grow a spine.
disco
April 25th, 2012
3:46 pm
jake – that’s what I’m talking about. I was just saying at lunch that I’ve got two teams of friends. the ones that try to talk me off the ledge and the ones that say “you bad, you can make that jump”. boy my instigating friends be keeping me hyped up!!! my peace-making, take the high road friends be ticking me off. If I ever get married I probably will need a peace-making hubby. I can’t imagine the drama that two high strung temperamental ready to go off types would bring.
i'm swiss
April 25th, 2012
3:47 pm
Afternoon, folks.
Like Bobby Petrino, I’m 100% in favor of t!tt!es. Can’t even believe that’s open for debate, but oh well…
And, Jake / Willie are right on about the up-sell (store merchandise and booty) when wifey/GF/SO is mentioned. What is it about a wedding ring that makes some of y’all ladies a hot & wet mangrove swamp down below?
Leggs
April 25th, 2012
3:47 pm
@SlimUno ~ sometimes, there’s a place for little, teeny tiny “white lies.”
@Celisea ~ it’s a shame how these dealerships thing women are clueless and they can run a scam on us. Glad you called them on it and had them back pedaling.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
April 25th, 2012
3:47 pm
Slim- of course I took the Business card, I may need to consult with her on my next purchase….lol
Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
3:51 pm
Disco – who you think you fooling. The high road dude won’t get past the sponsor stage. The dude you want/need will either be locked for knocking yo azz out or dead for knocking yo azz out. J/K bnr
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:54 pm
WillieD – Not to go to deep…but let me tell you…I worked under this same manager. While I didn’t abuse the system and did my work, I didn’t even think twice about her or the other folks in that group. Pettiness and scratching all the time. They just sort of know, Celisea don’t fratenize too much but by the same token don’t mess with her. I closed the door to her office and told her I wasn’t going to play any games, no gossiping with her….nada….none of that crap everybody else was do to scratch up in her butt. My reviews were always squeaky clean and well rated…lol I respected position as manager and kept her looped in when let her know when I needed to come and go but I didn’t play that mess. When I got this position and they needed her reference, I called her at home and plainly said (not as bad as it reads) that I was about to move on and pretty much, don’t screw me. I did. When I say she’s lowdown, she is low down. Just about everybody on that team is scared to post somewhere else cause she’s known for taking it personal and jacking folks up.
Leggs – I was so mad that they didn’t even bother to say, oh there’s another part missing. I guess I was suppose to just drive off and pretend I didn’t notice the problem was still there…nuh uh
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
3:57 pm
Leggs – I saw your Dillards deal the other day
Go on witcha ya bad self
disco
April 25th, 2012
3:59 pm
willie d – I know. you are right. what’s a girl to do? case in point. I’ve been worked up about a situation all day (in particular my neighbor and her dog – I’ve been thinking of ways to take a dog out or contacting a dog smuggling/kidnapping ring because some of those little pocket dogs are worth some money.) I’m all hyped talking about “I’m going to do this, I’m going to say that, she better not jump bad” straight up smelling myself as my momma would say and the old joker that’s been sniffing around is talking about “before you do this, before you say that, maybe you should think about this”. I told him he’s a punk. lol.
Row 125, Seat 11B
April 25th, 2012
3:59 pm
Checking out the convo up until this point and I have a funny for you….I spent 10 years as a finnace manager at a large local Chevy dealer, an I can say without questtion, that guys that go to service and to buy cars get ripped off a whole lot worse than teh ladies do…… The service techs start running down mechanic speak and alot of guys are to proud to say that they do not know what the deal is and BAM they get hit with a $1800.00 service bill for a $1200.00 job!!! Or they sit in teh office and get $500.00 knocked off the sale price and get 2 grand added to the back end…then they wonder why their payment is still $375.00 for a Chevy Cobalt…..
SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough
April 25th, 2012
3:59 pm
Jake – Um…errrrrr…nice response. Even I can’t hate on you for that lol
Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
4:04 pm
Cel – I gotta tell you I manage over 100 employees and I respect that 3:54 more than anything.
kimmie
April 25th, 2012
4:05 pm
disco – I don’t see you with a quiet dude that’s not assertive. One that has a “quiet strength”, kinda lays back in the cut with the voice of reason, but will show out if necessary – that sounds like a winner for you!
Celisea
April 25th, 2012
4:05 pm
WillieD – You hiring? Just kidding
i'm swiss
April 25th, 2012
4:11 pm
Totally off topic, I do believe I might sh!t my pants if I were one one of these flights:
http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c4#/video/world/2012/04/25/nr-spain-planes-land-in-high-winds.cnn
Willie Dynamite
April 25th, 2012
4:13 pm
Cel – how well do you take dictation? Just kidding (no smile, straight faced). Hahaha