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Cooling off period or magic gone?

You know my favorite part of dating someone is the fun part of a new relationship when you are treating each other like a new toy. It is basically the honeymoon phase of a dating relationship. Everything they do is amaaazing and soooo impressive. You can’t keep your hands off of them, and can’t get enough of them.

That does not last forever, things eventually cool off and you start to see your mate as they really are – flaws and all. This is a key point in a relationship that can make or break it. Whether you reach the next level of committment can come down to how you handle the cooling off phase.

When things cool off, that doesn’t necessarily mean the magic is gone. It means things level off to a normal, real life relationship. Some people choose to bail out and go seek out the “magic” with someone else and repeat the process all over again!

How do you handle it when things get less exciting and the novelty has worn off? Does maturity play a role?

Have you ever ended things because things cooled off too much?

How do you keep a new relationship hot and interesting?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

105 comments Add your comment

Lily

April 23rd, 2012
7:03 am

Diva, people that jump bail easily and only stick around during the fun phase are junkies…..thrill seekers. Those type people never went in looking through a window of reality. Every warm blooded adult knows the novelty of any thing will eventually wear off. No, you don’t jet out because she or he is no longer or not as much fun anymore. I would also call that using.

Lily

April 23rd, 2012
7:18 am

I would add people easily turned off should not get married. After the honeymoon phase, there will be babies, weight gain, attention divided or shared, less romance, etc. One should always do everything with a realistic outlook.

Exiled!

April 23rd, 2012
7:24 am

You are a perennial dater that’s why!

If you have scoped and chosen correctly there is no ‘cooling’ off. It heats up. You want to jump each other’s bones every time u meet.

If you are meeting and dating folks that fit your contrived checklist,money,kind of job,what they drive etc and not who you are organically attracted to,I can see how things cool off!

I commiserate with your loong loooong perennial search. :lol:

Good morning!

Lily

April 23rd, 2012
7:33 am

@Exiled: Good point! Real love, not lust is tried and true!

dc

April 23rd, 2012
8:17 am

been married almost 30 years, and still can’t keep my hands off her. imo, it’s key to keep this “spark” going. and it’s a choice….

Lady~anchored!

April 23rd, 2012
8:24 am

Good Morning MIA!

New Edition has a great song asking Can you Stand the Rain? My answer is YES! I wouldn’t describe it a cooling off period I will call it the authentic relationship is revealing itself. The realness of how one handles stress and conflict highs and lows and routine relationship behavior is revealed and it gives an opportunity to learn more about your mate. I personally hold on tight and hit the bumps and get through turbulent times and or not so exciting times. To me if its happy or those butterfly feelings ALL the time it isn’t real. Its more like living for the moment the thrill and rush of lust. To me one’s loyalty is determined during this period.

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
8:49 am

Good morning!

Have to agree with you Ex! You too, Lily.

Exactly, Lady. If you can ride out the turbulent times, the relationship can be strenghtened. Rose petals and champagne isn’t realistic all the time. If there aren’t any lows, something is amiss. All relationships have peaks and valleys.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
8:54 am

I actually had just posted this to my fb this morning:

“Love is a verb. It’s an action requiring your involvement your active participation. You cannot sit back and expect the world will serve it to you. You cannot expect that your relationship will continue to provide love while you’re not putting in any effort. Love has to be earned and must be continually fought for.”

To me, if you’re only living for the honeymoon period, then you basically are saying to me that you’re a lazy lover/partner because everyone knows how easy, fascinating, exciting things are in the beginning. You both are still walking around with your representative masks on and aren’t stressing the little things that will come to be an issue for you later on down the road once the new car smell wears off. I was just talking to a male friend of mine that has been married almost 10years. He says, he and his wife continue to excercise the 3 C’s: Committment, Communication and Compromise. So I do not want to date a person that is ready to buy a new pair of shoes after they’ve barely broken in the previous new pair they just got.

Lady~anchored!

April 23rd, 2012
8:56 am

All relationships have peaks and valleys. <<<<<<<<<Amen!

Shaunie

April 23rd, 2012
9:40 am

People that jump bail easily and only stick around during the fun phase are junkies…..thrill seekers. Those type people never went in looking through a window of reality.

@Miss Lily- Love that statement-for better or worse often comes before you actually say it publicly.

Shaunie

April 23rd, 2012
9:44 am

“once the new car smell wears off.”
@Slim-in my own head I imagining two, people who now repulse each other. lol Love what I’m reading this mornin’

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
10:18 am

Dang, where is everybody? Does the chilly weather have all you still in defrost mode this morning or did yall party too hard and are still in the bed, cozy under the covers with the ligths out?

Mr. Unknown

April 23rd, 2012
10:28 am

How do you handle it when things get less exciting and the novelty has worn off? Talk about it, Find a solution but both parties have to be willing to work.
Have you ever ended things because things cooled off too much? Yes, I have… People will truly reveal themselves to you at somepoint, the sooner the better. As they say, you have to keep doing what it took to get them. I can’t wine and dine you every night and then decide I’m a homebody.

Good morning, Got an exam will holla at yall later.

Single and Happy

April 23rd, 2012
10:48 am

It’s not the cooling off period, it’s when their representive leaves, and the real person shows up.

For Real

April 23rd, 2012
10:50 am

What up Blog Fam!

Meeeloo was on point but like my Paw-Paw use to say:

“Lifes bout ups and downs. All dat mat-der is how close the ups is to the downs.”

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
10:51 am

But what do you do when you’ve been in a relationship a few years. You’ve noticed things are cooling off, you talk, talk and talk about it but one party assures the other that everything is fine. However, body language and words say something else. What do you do then???

HH7

April 23rd, 2012
10:54 am

dc your wife is a lucky lady..
this topic is a sign of the times we live in now…microwave & add relationships and i want everything now now now…the ‘when the fizz is gone, so am i’ generation…it’s fickle times
i know of somone who is keeping his mask on long enough to get married but as soon as they do, his mask is gonna come off…and then it’s on for young and old.. i just feel sorry for her smh…

For Real

April 23rd, 2012
10:55 am

Leggs: First look in the mirror and make sure your ish don’t stank and then call BS on your boo and have an adult conversation.

And for the record this whole concept of representative vs real person is complete BS too! It doesn not take days, weeks or months to know who a person is but if it does then don’t blame the person blame yourself.

czBrat

April 23rd, 2012
11:01 am

Guilty! :grin:

yeah. i’ve been accused (rightfully so) of being addicted to the newness.
get in a few years of ‘ain’t life grand!’, then skip when it gets old.

now THIS guy! he ain’t giving in to the ordinary. he’s a big believer in “never stop dating”.
this past year has definitely been the proving ground for our relationship.

HiYas

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
11:06 am

Morning Blog Fam!

I can’t wine and dine you every night and then decide I’m a homebody.

I love that above statement by Mr. Unknown!LOL!! I’m a firm believer in how you start out is how you finish, IF you finish/decide to hang around and continue with the relationship.

If you cut & run after the newness wears off, well only thing I have to say is that yo behind isn’t so shiny and new no more either!!LOL!!

4 Real – Gotta agree with the “rep” thing. It really shouldn’t take that long and so much to find out about the real person you are dealing with. I don’t think anyone is that great an actor!

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
11:07 am

Morning, blog peeps.

On topic: I agree w/ Me.lo and some others earlier — if you’re with the right person, it just gets better with time. Sure, it may not be new forever, but in my experience anyway, things get better and better the more comfortable you become with your mate. For example, I didn’t come right out of the gates tossing Mrs. Swiss’ salad — that requires a certain comfort level that you have to build up to… :lol:

Off topic: D@MN! It’s a tad bit nipply this morning. I picked the wrong weekend to man-scape. :lol:

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
11:09 am

Brat – Looks like ya got a winner! That’s what I’m talking about!

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
11:11 am

Everyone that says with the right one, it keeps getting better – they are absolutely RIGHT!

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
11:11 am

I agree, ForReal, it doesn’t take long for the representative to fade to black and the real essence of the person emerges.

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
11:12 am

For Real — I totally agree w/ your 10:55, but your phrasing is cracking me up. You sound like the Herman Cain of dating: “BLAME YO’ SELF!” :lol:

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
11:12 am

Dagnabit, didn’t mean to hit submit.

@ForReal ~ I also agree with the first part of your post!

czBrat

April 23rd, 2012
11:13 am

one party assures the other that everything is fine. However, body language and words say something else. What do you do then???
you should keep talking, but try telling the truth for a change.

:wink: @ kimmie. hola, chica!

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
11:29 am

That’s it, czB ~ try telling the truth for a change.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
11:36 am

make sure your ish don’t stank and then call BS on your boo and have an adult conversation

For Real – So if said steps have been taken and the adult convo has been initiated but is met with the, “I’m good, everything is cool on my end…dunno what you’re talking about…blah blah blah” then what when clearly their actions aren’t lining up with they are saying. Is that a passive aggressive way for that person to get YOU to break it off with them so they aren’t the bad guy or what?

czBrat

April 23rd, 2012
11:56 am

passive aggressive
one of my middle names :oops:

in my case, though, it’s not about trying to get someone else to do the dirty work. dishonesty in itself is plenty dirty. i tend to pull the “no worries. we’re good.” bit in an effort to avoid hurting the other person’s feelings. sooner or later you find that:
1. they’re probably thinking/feeling the same as you.
2. they’re grown enough to handle the truth.
3. your issues are probably fixable if you just FACE them!

are we all semi-comatose today?

lolalee

April 23rd, 2012
11:59 am

OT: Things do change over time, but the effort shouldn’t.

OT: Backdating to a prior topic that I missed… but, how do you know when gf will never become wife?

Celisea

April 23rd, 2012
12:02 pm

Slim – I’m sure there’s a blog boo just waiting to scoop you up if you need one :)

Hey folks!!

lolalee

April 23rd, 2012
12:09 pm

cz Glad you are self aware enough to know what you tend to do. Thing is, some news is painful to hear, no matter how you present it. But, it’s going to come out at some point anyway (a break up or whatever), so better to be as tactful as you can but still communicate the message. It seems dishonest otherwise, and like you said, dishonesty in itself is plenty dirty. It’s really not fair not to let the other person know what’s going on — you’re right, many things are fixable.

For Real

April 23rd, 2012
12:12 pm

Slim: “Is that a passive aggressive way for that person to get YOU to break it off with them so they aren’t the bad guy or what?” – Yes, that’s classic jedi right there or if it’s a women, classic victimhood.

For Real now unpacking his cape and plotting a trajectory to Slim’s window.

For Real

April 23rd, 2012
12:14 pm

Bratz: passive aggressive is one of my middle names

Dr. For Real: You don’t say… Hold still, now turn your head to the left and cough.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
12:24 pm

Did anyone catch “Think like a Man” this weekend? Thoughts?

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
12:30 pm

Afternoon All,

Magic gone, huh???? Really most dating men thrive during this period. After a few dates and some time together Men typically go/stay in a holding pattern. We have usually already smashed and at that point we are cool with the AS IS. If the Woman is someone we want to keep long term then we keep it up to turn into a LTR. Sometimes women start with the where is this headed ?’S (rightly so) that Men dread. If the guy thinks its backing him into a corner then the exit plan is put into place. Passive aggresive is a way to dodge blame by saying everything was cool until…….

czBrat

April 23rd, 2012
12:33 pm

now turn your head to the left and cough.
that doesn’t work on girls, you goober.

slim, i’ve seen nothing but rave reviews. we’re putting it on the agenda for this coming weekend.

thanx, lola.

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
12:33 pm

Swiss – what’s your email addy?

Celisea

April 23rd, 2012
12:34 pm

Orr, passive agreesive could me he’s on to the next one and just don’t have it in him to say so….no?

Anyway folks, I AM OUTTA HERE :)

Celisea

April 23rd, 2012
12:41 pm

AGGRESSIVE….bye folks :) Afternoon delight :)

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
12:44 pm

Cel – True that. Really tho unless it was some exclusive/commited type R’ship then dudes don’t feel the need to explain. Plus, unless its filed away on the books as definitely our fault we would probably circle back around. Not saying that’s noble but history has shown the fade away results in about a 40% chance of some get back even if only for a night.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
12:46 pm

Cz – I took myself to see it Saturday and it was funny. Kevin Hart is a skrait fool but i’m glad he’s doing well because the comedy game seems a bit dire at the moment as far as AA comedians in the limelight.

Celisea

April 23rd, 2012
12:48 pm

WillieD – I not a man but I’ll be presumptous and bump that up about 10% more. Honestly, the honorable thing to do as we (being women…and sometimes men are “victims”) would really like for you to upfront, but if there’s no commitment and folks just feeling each other (smashing included), you can’t hold him or her for that matter to explaining or giving closure. Heck if they don’t want to, you can’t make them do or say anything. I think though or in my experience if there’s been some time put in and we broached coupledom, folks will say hey it’s not working out.

Willie….I agree

Okay for real this time….

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
12:52 pm

unless its filed away on the books as definitely our fault we would probably circle back around

Sounds like a buzzard swarming over a piece of roadkill in the middle of the street. :shock:

passive aggressive could me he’s on to the next one

I call this the lily pad syndrome…sorta preparing the next lily pad before you actually take the full leap. Definitely have to check to see if it’ll sustain you even for a little while before taking off from the pad you’re already on right.

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
12:53 pm

Mike P

April 23rd, 2012
12:59 pm

@lolalee: you wrote – OT: Backdating to a prior topic that I missed… but, how do you know when gf will never become wife?

My response: from the very beginning… if he comes at you with “aye shorty u sexy as hellx, can I get your number?” he doesn’t date you before trying to get into your pants, he play mental games with you, he’ll allow you to think you’re manipulating him (don’t fall for that ladies, its a trick). A man who views you as a “wifey” won’t play games with you nor will he tolerate that foolishness from you; he will check you from day one. If you are use to dealing with the bad boy, player types, then it may seem ” slightly boring,” when out with him at times or being with him may “appear” less-exciting then when dealing with the players on the onset; but don’t mind that, that’s just a way of vetting out loser women who don’t deserve his time; he is trying to court you with serious intent; so he’s gonna come at you more seriously than other guys.

lolalee

April 23rd, 2012
1:55 pm

MikeP ~ Interesting. The playa would make me think I”m manipulating him towards marriage bc he lacks the ballz to say it’s just not gonna happen (for whatever reason)?

But still, a serious man could come with “serious intent” to remain long-term dating relationship, right? As in, it’s exclusive and serious, but he doesn’t want risk that marriage might lead to a divorce.

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
2:13 pm

O/T ~ Bought a dress from Dillards’s clearance rack this past Saturday. Originally $98.30, on sale for $34.30, but I found a teeny, tiny snag and received another 10% off. Now, that’s a sale. And the dress is gorgeous.

Back to silent blogging…

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
2:17 pm

Swiss – mail?

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:23 pm

Leggs – This silent blogging is like watching paint dry. I can’t say I’ve ever seen it moving THIS sllllllllllllllllloooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwww! Maybe I should put on some Luke to get this place popping or something.

And everybody likes a great deal!

disco

April 23rd, 2012
2:24 pm

wow – it’s quiet up in here today. ver-wy ver-wy qwiet to go back to last week’s cartoon discussion. to answer re think like a man – I did not see it. I did however watch Columbiana on tv yesterday. must say I enjoyed it.

slim – not that you brought up luke. I attended a 50th bday party over the weekend and they put on that luke skywalker it’s your birthday song. had old heads up in there scrubbing the ground.

oh. hey y’all.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:25 pm

It’s nearly 3 and we’ve JUST gotten to page two….wiggety wack

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:29 pm

disco – They played some pretty good jams at the step show this past Saturday, in between acts. I was so ready to leave and get my dance on but us old heads ended up going to Smokey Bones afterwards instead. And let me just say, this group of folks were sitting right across from us. Apparently, two of the guys got into about something and the one dude stood up and flipped plates over on the table. He happened to flip the fresh entree plate over into the lap of the girl he was with that sat across from him. So you heard a commotion and her scream because poor little thang had on an all white dress! They got escorted out but i’m thinking you can’t even go out for drinks in a restaurant anymore. smh

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
2:30 pm

Slim – why don’t you bless us with one of your poems.

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
2:33 pm

Leggs – Now THATS a deal!LOL!!

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
2:35 pm

Slim — Or if you prefer, bless us with a pic of your CT. That should liven things up in here… :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm

Mike P

April 23rd, 2012
2:38 pm

@lolalee: The player is all about creating an illusion for you; he will make it exciting for you, he will make you think you two are on the same page, or he’ll make you think that the games some women play on men is actually working on him all the way up till you give it up to him AND he’s done with you, then all of the sudden, he doesn’t got time for you anymore.

but I don’t understand your questions regarding the serious man… the serious man would be about the commitment; you just have to be patient with him when it comes to marriage; this man isn’t (shouldn’t) be playing those games with you.

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
2:38 pm

Slim – As long as there wasn’t any danger of gunfire, that’s interesting stuff there!LOL!!

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm

WD – Sure, enjoy lol

Your love always hits me like a brick wall, when you stall, but I was anticipating the fall of us giving to it our all in a lovers free fall. Keep getting to the edge ready to make that leap, gets too deep, then like a shepard you steer away your hearts’ sheep. Leaving me hungry in an empty meadow, unattended confused and melancholy. What ever did I do to deserve thee? Maybe trusting in love too recklessly, on a mission for my missing piece, what’s wrong with me? Good girls finish last, well in this life at least. Peel away the scabs on my bended knees asking God to send me a sign so that I can see who he has is waiting on me, but first gotta clear out the hurt of loves’ injuries. And that same love that hurt will now set me free because when God loves, its pure and unconditionally

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm

“ad old heads up in there scrubbing the ground.” – This is so funny. Old heads scrub the ground while youngins drop it like it’s hot. Cracking up!

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm

kimmie – Well we were on edge to see if guns would be drawn so I suggested we flip the table over if need be. Come to find out the damn table was bolted to the floor so we were just going to be S.O.L :shock:

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
2:40 pm

Thanks, Slim. A little furrier than I expected, but it’s all good… :lol:

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
2:41 pm

@SlimUno ~ I stopped in Smokey Bones for dinner on Saturday and was told the wait would be 40 mins. I was too hungry to wait and then have to wait on my food so I had to step. Get it step show, I had to step….sorry folk, been cracking corny jokes with a friend all day.

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
2:44 pm

That was good, SlimUno…nice words!

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim/Mike P – Thinking back, to be honest most every man I’ve ever dated made his intentions known rather early. Some were very direct with it – some let me know up front they were not looking for anything serious or marriage. After the 1st time I stayed and tried to “change” a dude’s mind and got my feelings hurt, I learned to take a man at his WORD! Some didn’t understand that either when I would kick them to the curb and wanted to try and backtrack.LOL!! Others were more sublte about their intentions, but my ears & eyes are wide open. I couldn’t say I did not have a clue.

So I say all this to say alot of times the answers are right in front of our faces, we sometimes choose to not see them. Like I said earlier, nobody is that good an actor!

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:46 pm

Leggs – Well we probably got in there around 11ish and was told the wait was about 30 minutes. Granted it did not take that long but the food was slow to come out. I’m not sure if that altercation caused a dent in the wait time or not. That was my first time in there and I thought it was larger than it actually is in there. I think they have a Dj in there on Thursdays or something

kimmie

April 23rd, 2012
2:48 pm

Slim – That made me think of Love Jones! :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm

swiss – Sorry charlie. I wasn’t expecting a show & tell session so I’ve been lazy on the shaving. Thank goodness I didn’t shave because them winds are a blowin’ outside. brrrrrrrrr (5 4 3 2…)

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
2:54 pm

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
2:54 pm

Thanks ya’ll ;-)

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
2:59 pm

Slim – good stuff

disco

April 23rd, 2012
2:59 pm

leggs – you know 2 live crew will make you do some thangs on the dance floor you didn’t think you had in you.

kimmie – re no one being that good an actor. this is why when I watch the show who the bleep did I marry I always wonder what the heck is wrong with some people. I can see getting tripped up a little bit but not like all that.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:03 pm

I know I said Luke earlier but V103 is playing Too Short which is just as good. ;-)

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
3:05 pm

@disco ~ Like Austin Powers would say, YEAH BABY

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:12 pm

WD – If that was a bit too dark, try this out:

The rays of the sunrise beats upon my brow & I awake with thoughts of you dancing around my head. The coolness of the morning dew populates chills on my skin reminding me of the gentle touches from you. And the still calmness before the world begins, mimicks the peace to me your love brings
:-)

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
3:23 pm

I’m dozing at my desk and woke myself up to my own laughter. While dozing had a quick dream. Man walking across the stage than trips. Someone shouts ought,”guess he’s still traveling” and I burst out laughing….then I wake up.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:30 pm

:lol: It’s amazing how you can have a whole dream in just a few seconds…the mind works fast

Willie Dynamite

April 23rd, 2012
3:30 pm

Slim – dayum lil mama. I might havta put you on retainer like Hitch when I need something sweet to say to the Mrs or ……

lolalee

April 23rd, 2012
3:31 pm

MikeP ~~ I don’t think the serious man is playing games, I just think the end game for him might be exclusive dating indefinitely. No legal complications in case it blows up at some point. SO I guess I have to decide whether than works for me….and then take it from there.

Leggs ~~ have some coffee woman, you’re losing it :)

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:39 pm

WD – Its weird with me…I can’t write something on demand because I have to be in the moment. When I wrote that last tidbit, I was actually out for a early morning job while it was still dark and cool out. So I texted it on my memo pad in my bb so I wouldn’t forget. Be like that sometimes…

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:43 pm

Mike P

April 23rd, 2012
3:45 pm

@lolalee: that’s all apart of the conversation we had last week; but you have to decided whether being with him, in a committed relationship with the one you love, is more important than having a signed piece of paper… OR not.

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
3:46 pm

Slim — I like getting jobs in the morning, too.

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
3:52 pm

swiss – Do you ever turn Mrs Swiss advances down?

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
3:56 pm

@SlimUno ~ it was a quickie, a one line dream (lol).

@lolalee ~ I done lost it…

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
3:57 pm

“swiss – Do you ever turn Mrs Swiss advances down?”

Is this a trick question??? Too funny

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:02 pm

Slim — Never. Although, there was one time when my mouth set yes but The Matterhorn said no — but that was like 2 days after having hernia surgery, so I think I should get a pass for that one… :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
4:03 pm

Leggs – You never know now. Let’s not forget when we had the discussion on rejection and how they say women aren’t used to getting rejected because we’re brainwashed to assume all men want it ALL the time. So figured I’d at least ask :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
4:05 pm

Leggs – A quickie dream beats a quickie session any day :lol:

swiss – :lol: That reminds me a guy I know who had surgery on his sacs to remove a blockage he had down there (trying to have a baby) but anyway he says it was hard not to get aroused during his recovery because that thang was SORE and SWOLLEN. So althought I can’t feel your pain, I feel your pain. You are excused sir

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:20 pm

Slim — Now, don’t get me wrong — there have been times when I would have liked to have asked for a rain check — say, in a couple of hours when the game is over, etc. But I’m smart enough to know that it I try to say “later” to the puddy so I can finish anything else right now, then that “later” is going to end up being muuuuuuuuuuuuuuch later than I want. :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
4:25 pm

swiss – Sounds like you learned the hard way :lol: Damn Mrs Swiss is good ;-)

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:31 pm

Slim — I learned that lesson long before I met Mrs. Swiss. I had a girl in college who used to get h0rny as hell every time I’d sit down to try to write a paper. It only took once for me to learn that if you ever want the puddy, ever, you best not turn it down when offered. :lol:

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
4:32 pm

Doesn’t matter which path you take toward learning your lessons. All that we are concerned is that you in fac have learned. :wink:

Leggs

April 23rd, 2012
4:35 pm

Now, all I have to do is learn how to spell and stop leaving words off.

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:36 pm

Leggs / Slim — Oh yes, I’ve learned. That woman can’t deal with rejection and y’all are some vindictive creatures, to boot. ;-) :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
4:42 pm

swiss – We don’t like to get our feelings hurt…just the way we’re wired I suppose. And it sounds like your girl in college took it on as a challenge to get you from spending time with that paper and pen (or computer depending on your age)

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:47 pm

Slim — Hey, it’s cool. And you know I was just playing with you ladies. I hope neither you nor your CT will hold it against me. :lol:

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:50 pm

Just to show you where my priorities are — my freshman year at UGA, I failed a Portuguese class because I chose puddy over going to the final exam. :shock: :lol: In hindsight, it was totally worth it! :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
4:51 pm

swiss – It’s no biggie because you’ll never have to worry about me holding the CT against you. I heard about those island women can go killahcrazy over chicks coming on to their men. :lol:

i'm swiss

April 23rd, 2012
4:59 pm

Slim — True. And that Haitian voodoo is nothing to play with… :lol:

SlimUno...looking for my breakthrough

April 23rd, 2012
5:02 pm

Have a good one!

Ciao

Exiled!

April 23rd, 2012
5:09 pm

Everybody bolted? Dammn

Anyway,it’s cold (nippy) in Atl I’m sure,Slim,let officer work on them n_ips tonite!

Muuaaahhh

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