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Are women today too aggressive?

I know guys that are generally surprised whenever a woman approaches them. There are men that can appreciate the type of woman who takes the bull by the horn. Then there are others that think a woman loses her femininity when she flips the script.

Women are more apt to approach and even pursue guys these days but are women too aggressive? Alpha men are respected and admired, but women have to show that they can find a balance

When a woman is more aggressive, does it mean she can’t let a man take the lead?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

275 comments Add your comment

HST

April 17th, 2012
11:14 am

Since when is going for what you want considered aggressive? Sounds like either the male is insecure, masochistic or wants a woman in the kitchen. I prefer my women to know exactly what they want. I just don’t see how going after what you want is considered aggressive.

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
11:14 am

weather getting nicer and days getting longer.
leggs, i’m feeling the need for a blogettes lunch, brunch, sumptn.

HST

April 17th, 2012
11:16 am

opps…misogynistic no masochistic…auto-correct fail…

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
11:16 am

That is right HST! approved 11:14

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
11:18 am

Cel – I’m sure we still have angst about things, whether booed up or not. It’s just some of us may not choose to disclose it on here. Take for instance the beau and I, we’re having a serious break down in communication and let’s just say, it’s not breaking down on My end. :???:

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
11:21 am

What is going on around the city?!? I feel out of loop!!!!! I ‘m free and want to find a patio…………

Celisea

April 17th, 2012
11:23 am

Slim – Agreed. But not along the same lines as finding the one or breaking the ice or being nervous in moving to quickly. I’m sure there’s angst in marriage but just saying it’s not the same as “misadventures” IMO, so to speak. Heck yeah, I was just telling someone on email, we are never removed from stumbling across a chump, but sometimes you just silently nip that one and K.I.M. :)

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
11:26 am

“Daaaaaaaamn Leggs, you kick ass and take names quite often…”

Unfortunately, this is true. Wish I didn’t have to, but I’m not tolerating the dumba$$ ways guys try to dismiss you only to wind up knocking on my front door. Hell, if you don’t like me like that to actually want to date me, I’m cool with that. I’m also even cooler with you not getting in my panties. I can’t force anyone to see the quality person I see in myself, but I definitely can force them not to take advantage. Easy I ain’t….

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
11:27 am

;) So need that C~ you made my day!

I need a drink or two too!

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
11:29 am

@czB ~ I feel like a blogette luncheon myself. Let’s get one organized.

CoolShadow

April 17th, 2012
11:29 am

@Celisea’s 10:52 – so are you saying just by a mere smile that I’m supposed to know you’re interested? That could be seen as being congenial but not necessarily interested. So let me ask, what are the cues that you give off to show interest? Which cues are most overlooked by men?

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
11:29 am

hst, we’re just chatting out the different ways of “going for” what you want. it’s a tactical discussion.
the chick that opts for the ‘come hither’ look is still going for what she wants. she’s just not going at it balls to the wall.

GracieL

April 17th, 2012
11:30 am

czBrat: “…i don’t give a second thought to the ones that miss my cues. i’m only looking for the sharpest knife in the drawer,…”

Exactly.

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
11:32 am

cool, it’s the smile WITH the eye contact, WITH the head tilt, WITH the forward lean …
*sigh* it’s a process, ok?
:lol:

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
11:32 am

balls to the wall

I wonder if anyone has ever really someone do this and more importantly, WHY would someone put their balls on the wall. Things that make you go Hmmm?

Celisea

April 17th, 2012
11:39 am

Lady – :)

CoolShadow – I’m no teenager so I’m not scared but I’m not going to go “balls to the wall” as czBrat just said. Nothing wrong with outright speaking or starting a converstaion just in general, giving an opening to engage in conversation. If I see a dude checking me out at that point it could very well be a misfire and I too might be misreading but rather than dismissing I’m going to give him a lift. If it’s the case of me being interested…me personally I ALWAYS like to lock it in…looking sqauare in the face. No flitching, no shyly looking away….out of habit, my lift my left brow goes up for a second and a smile. Not the cheesy smile but the yeah, you know smile. You can make it known without running all over dudes.

When I’m heading in to work it seems once every couple of weeks or so there’s a cute dude sitting at a particular intersection where I purposely look him square in the face as I’m turning and he’s sitting (I have the green and he’s got the red). That’s not to hook up but it’s to let him know, yeah you’re HAWTE!

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
11:40 am

it’s the smile WITH the eye contact, WITH the head tilt, WITH the forward lean And the CT flash, boob flash, finger licks, licking of the lips then last but not least the Open Wide-legged leg cross.

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
11:41 am

eye contact is so key~

dyslexicbunny

April 17th, 2012
11:43 am

> WHY would someone put their balls on the wall
The balls could exclusively be warm and the wall could be cold. Or vice versa.

Celisea

April 17th, 2012
11:44 am

So you see Cool Shadow, so far 3 of us said it’s the look…. Ain’t no time to get coy, look at the man and tell him want you’d much rather not outright say. Now if he can’t move or get from that then he’s a dumb bot…I kid I kid I kid…lol

i'm swiss

April 17th, 2012
11:45 am

Slim, are you coming on to me? :lol:

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
11:48 am

just interesting………………………..

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
11:52 am

jeeze. slim bout to cause me a hernia from stifling the chuckles.

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
11:57 am

off topic; i’ve decided s/o’s b-day getaway this year will be deep sea fishing in panama city.
and that means one full day at the sandestin outlets for me! :grin:

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
11:58 am

swiss – Not this time. I just crop dusted over here and was trying to fan it away. Whew, that was a stinker! :lol:

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
11:59 am

Cz – That’s a great plan of distraction :lol:

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:03 pm

“…the Open Wide-legged leg cross” – Isn’t that called the “Sharon Stone?”

Lady~I will survive!

April 17th, 2012
12:03 pm

I just ate a delish turkey burger and sweet potato fries! yum! I am ready to go too! smh lol

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
12:05 pm

Leggs – YUP! I sat here with my almost 34 year old mind trying to remember her name. I was going to say, You can thank Sharon Stone for that one :lol: Thanks for the mental boost. I might need to incorporate some Ginko Biloba in my daily routine.

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
12:08 pm

slim, he tells me they don’t allow lounging on the top deck, so that leaves me no choice but to schedule my own sport for the day.

Isn’t that called the “Sharon Stone?”
i just call that nasty. :mad:

lady, your lunch does sound delish.

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:08 pm

Ummm, I have an O/T that just happened at my desk. Reminded me of the reason “The Slime” decided not to see me anymore.

This older woman stops and tells me she’s loving the relationship she’s in. Met him in February, haven’t done the “do” yet, but they sleep together nekkid when they are together. She sees nothing wrong with that because she wants HIM to value her and pamper her. Penetration takes away from all he’s “supposed” to do to get to the “penetration” part of the relationship. I understand what she’s saying for the most part, but boy my head is spinning. She’s sleeping nekkid with him and foreplay is in full swing (so she says), but haven’t done the deed. She’s 62 and apparently he’s a spry 70. He wants to engage but she doesn’t just yet. She is a prima donna, stuck up, the whole nine. She says he’s not going anywhere and he’s rich. I’m realizing being rich is relative. Like NeNe says, “I’m rich bytch!”

You ask why is she telling me this? I rightly don’t know.

Celisea

April 17th, 2012
12:14 pm

Well I guess I’ll grab lunch myself. I’ve got a meeting with my manager. My next project is writing (from scratch and blank stare here) a manual sort of for dummies on a particular process. Okie dokie now. She’s sent two emails saying she’s looking forward to discussing and getting ramped. Ummmm, I have no clue how or where to start…lol

I do know this, the cafe will be closed by the time we’re done…lol

czBrat

April 17th, 2012
12:15 pm

but they sleep together nekkid when they are together
that’s as far as i got. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
what are you ladies doing to me today?

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:19 pm

Guess his balls are to the walls and they’re now blue balls!

Boom Ba Da Bing!!!!

Jaded Guy

April 17th, 2012
12:21 pm

Aggressive AT CHEATING, you mean???

I’ll agree with that.

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
12:21 pm

Leggs – I’m not close to being an ageist but the thought of a 62 and 70 year old engaging in full swing foreplay in the bed nekkid makes me cringe juuuuuuust a little bit. :shock: The fact that she’s telling you all this is only throwing a cherry on top

i'm swiss

April 17th, 2012
12:24 pm

I thought the problem was that she isn’t throwing the cherry on top? :lol:

i'm swiss

April 17th, 2012
12:26 pm

Leggs, you should have told her to give that poor old man some pdu$$y before he dies! :lol:

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 17th, 2012
12:26 pm

what up ya’ll, headed back to Lurksville,

Leggs-She gonna kill that older gentleman, and ya’ll trippin on that “Ball to the walls” reference…lol

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
12:28 pm

Jaded – Just throw you balls to the wall, that’ll cool your ass down. Balls to the wall is the top home remedy in blogsville today.

swiss – Good point! I stand corrected ;-) No cherries for him but now that I think about it, at her age, even if she gave the poor old man some puddy it STILL wouldn’t include a cherry :lol:

i'm swiss

April 17th, 2012
12:29 pm

Actually, Jake’s probably on to something. That’s probably her plan. Get that poor old man so pent up that when she finally does give him some he has a stroke & she takes all his money.

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:29 pm

I thought of Staceye’s “tinsel tubes” phrase.

All in good fun, Jake sweet peeda…all in good fun.

Good one swiss!

i'm swiss

April 17th, 2012
12:30 pm

Slim — True. More like a prune. :lol:

CoolShadow

April 17th, 2012
12:32 pm

Celisea/Lady/czBrat – ok ladies, got it. You look my way and blink, you therefore think I’m hot. It’s on now! :)

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:33 pm

I figured someone would say “ewww” to that post, but I sat here looking at her in amazement. Older folk getting crunked..

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
12:33 pm

swiss – When I read ‘prune’ the first thing that came to mind was the poor old man’s ballz :lol: But Leggs did say they are doing some serious foreplay. Maybe she likes to rub his fruit clean :lol:

Mike P

April 17th, 2012
12:35 pm

Its nothing wrong with a women being more aggressive per se, its just timing is off I think. When the woman is between the ages of 18 and 30, she getting approached by 100’s of dudes at a time, so this woman don’t go at it more aggressively. and now here this same women in her mid 40’s starting to become more aggressive, when many dudes ain’t checkin for her like that anymore, maybe 5 or 10 dudes, not like the high numbers like when she was in her twenties.

Here’s the problem she’s faced with (for the most part) I think:
(1). general inexperienced in the art of pursuit – given her age.
(2). haven’t learned the art of rejection-management – given her age.
(3). she a 3 or 4 checking for dudes 8 and 9. (from a dude’s point of view)
(4). overzealous in selling herself up (presentation). – a huge turn-off

i donno but that has been my experience with the more aggressive chick.

SlimUno

April 17th, 2012
12:36 pm

And the perfect song for the Balls to the wall would be Lil John, “From the windows to the wall, till the sweat drip off my ballz!!!” Ok, to the corner i go :oops:

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:36 pm

I take that back, they’re not getting exactly crunked.

Leggs

April 17th, 2012
12:38 pm

@Slim ~ I’ve been singing that song since the balls to the wall comment….