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Dating: Does sex get in the way?

If you enter a relationship with a desire to make it actually last, you may need to consider when, how, and why you decide to handle sex and intimacy. Some people believe sex has little to no real impact on a new relationship. Others have experienced the complete opposite, in which sex changed everything.

Do you believe that sex/no sex is an important part of a dating relationship? In your past experiences, did you figure out what role, if any, sex played on the future of your relationship?

I have heard men say that once the relationship got physical, things changed – the women changed, or the dynamics of the relationship did.

Do men change their behavior after they become sexually involved?

Do you think there is a way to avoid sex getting in the way?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 12th, 2012
11:14 am

Hey ladies…

dayum Leggs, he was gonna get some too, po fella…
Lady: That’s why the best wolves wear their natural skin, no suprises.

Slim: So want to know what it feels like to have a wang…..It feels like carrying around a 3rd arm that might raise his hand to answer a question before a teacher finishes talking, if the teacher does not call on him, he will just keep throwing that hand up till he gets acknowledged…big time attention seeking behavior

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:16 am

ok cool will keep you posted!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:18 am

Jake if I was close to you I would throw a book @ you hahahahaha!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:19 am

Jake you stooopid I am dying laughing smh!!!!!!!!! lololol

Exiled!

April 12th, 2012
11:22 am

Does s e x get in the way?

I Always thought her panties get in the way…time to yank it down with the forefinger! :lol:

On topic:

I think s e x is like your door mat,right before you get or decide to get in the house. If the door mat is dusty,unattractive,looks derty etc,u frown and are proly less inclined to go in.

If the door mat looks well laid,it looks clean around the door,you are inclined to accept when she says ‘come in’

So hitting the spot early on is vital because you don’t want spend time with a ‘nice’ chic whose below the belt assets are less than Stella. You want to do a quick screening process. And you want to have your cake and eat it too,for others,literally and gleefully,ear to ear!

So No..s e x is part of the Big total package.

You don’t wanna spend time either with a chic just holding out on sex when everything else about her seems lacking. S e x is the final determinator.

If she ain’t that good but u thinking,hmmmm,maybe s e x might salvage it,so let’s just hit it then and see how it is. A lot of females behave differently once the jackpot is hit. It’s like some wind got into them,Now they Exposed! :lol: Ofcourse dudes behave as if they grew another third ball,especially if they hit a major target they really digging. ! :lol:

So to recap,let’s hit this thang,clear the deck and focus on solidifying the relationship.
The sweeter the s e x,the more likely we will see each other again.

The earlier the better to avoid investing time in a lemon of puddy.
:lol: :lol:

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
11:26 am

@Celisea ~ like Lady always says, silence is Golden. I didn’t respond.

And, “Just act right and do right and it’s your for the taking…. Too bad they don’t get it. – YEP, YEP, and more YEP!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:28 am

Leggs it gets them every time~ ;)

Celisea

April 12th, 2012
11:30 am

Leggs- Yes it is….my mama taught me that. Ignoring folks carries a greater impact than acknowledging. He was just so much of an ass that he didn’t even deserve silence. How you gonna tell someone from now on I’m doing it my way? At that point your way is no way…null, void, nil

I hear ya

SlimUno

April 12th, 2012
11:38 am

Jake – Hahahahahahaha, now that is a good one that I have yet to hear. :lol: I’ll never look at school the same :shock: I picture the 3rd arm waving wildly around like, “Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!!”

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:40 am

SLIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! smh LOLOLOL!

Just Saying

April 12th, 2012
11:41 am

Amen Exiled! … Preach and I hope the congregation are taking notes. lol

Celisea

April 12th, 2012
11:44 am

OMG….someone is telling a joke on our conference call!! WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE WORKING. The joke was funny though

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
11:45 am

@kimmie ~ you’re absolutely correct. I’m still somewhat speechless, because all I can say is DAMN DAMN, DAAAYYYYUUUMMMM. No doubt I have no idea where the relationship would have gone, but I sure feel good knowing I hadn’t already had sex with him that time I truly thought about it (lol). Because if he can’t wait after what I PERCEIVE to be a short time, he wasn’t worth it. A leopard can’t hide it’s spots, but this Cougar sniffed something wasn’t right early on.

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
11:53 am

To be honest, I so wanted to respond but knew it wouldn’t be pretty and really didn’t feel like sullying my own name and character with him. WTH has the audacity to say “on my terms” like I have no say. Well, he barked up and sniffed around the wrong tree….

Anybody here knows a beautician that specializes in dreadlock cobwebs. Whew, that made me laugh. Seriously, just being funny, no need to respond.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 12th, 2012
11:56 am

Ladies..I’m serious though….When we meet you, and we see your figure, we visualize you naked…that vison does include the additional plumpness that is you outside of those constraining garments…so then the task becomes get to the honey…in the journey to the honey we find out who you are, what you like, etc…but its still mostly about the honey, if you are great person, thats the bonus, and we may embark on a relationship……men are results based, so if you go back to the end of Ex’s post its true,

“The sweeter the s e x,the more likely we will see each other again.

The earlier the better to avoid investing time in a lemon of puddy.

Even the patient, less aggressive fella will disappear on a bad piece, wait, not sure if there is a such thing, puddy is like cake, some are more moist than others, some get dry fast, but they all are sweet.

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:58 am

are we taking up tithes and offerings today?!? pass the plate! LOL

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
11:59 am

Jake good stuff!!!! gotta respect the male’s perspective!

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
11:59 am

When I saw today’s topic I was compelled to share my recent mishap (lol).

SlimUno

April 12th, 2012
12:08 pm

Jake – I’m nominating you as the King of Anologies…

Cake = puddy
Moist Cake = moist puddy
Dry cake = dry puddy
all = sweet puddy

:lol:

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:09 pm

O/T I did a 60 slide PP for a 20 min presentation plus a 8min video think time is on my side for covering material?!? how many minutes on each slide?!?

kimmie

April 12th, 2012
12:13 pm

Jake – I can see if they (Leggs & dude) had been seeing each other on the regular the 4 weeks they knew each other. I understand the anticipation, the curiosity with someone you are seeing 1 or 2 or more times a week. Like she said, she was close to making it happen. But then you don’t see me for 2 weeks & then when you finally resurface, via text, you come up with some mess like he did? Come on!!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:14 pm

Kimmie that is straight game playing! lol

kimmie

April 12th, 2012
12:15 pm

Lady – Okay!!! And not even good game playing at that! Certainly not playing to WIN!!!

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
12:19 pm

@Jake ~ I would guess that most women are aware of this. We know you guys see us nekkid right out the gate. Nothing wrong with that. What’s wrong is when the “hunger” is shown in the eyes and convo is based around it. Finesse goes a long way. That’s how some can get to that sweet nectar quicker than others.

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
12:21 pm

Exactly, kimmie. Hell he’s was curious about me, I was curious about him and his package and his ability. Great kisser, but come on I remained a lady and didnt jump his bones. Aww hell, that’s what I was supposed to do. I never got that memo….

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:22 pm

Leggs refer back to Jake’s 11:14 some are just so smooth its natural that is why you have to be open to debunk that foolishness as well. Trust you fall prey to some but it can’t be an ongoing thing it gets old is my point.

kimmie

April 12th, 2012
12:24 pm

Leggs – Amen, that’s been going on since the beginning of time, so no need for the congregation to take notes!

Then the lame, so-called “nice” guys come on the blog, wondering why the so-called “bad boys” are able to get the goods quicker! No Finesse!!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:26 pm

meant to say refer to C’s vulnerable post too from this morning too~ its some good references today!

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:34 pm

What are yall eating for lunch I am bout to run quickly in a few to get something hmmmmmm

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:35 pm

LOL Kimmie I just saw what you typed no note taking lol no offerings either huh lol

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
12:39 pm

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
1:08 pm

it certainly warmed up! this weather will have you sick! alrighty party people what is poppin’?!?

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 12th, 2012
1:44 pm

another slow day….guess I’ll do my job over here

SlimUno

April 12th, 2012
1:45 pm

We had Chinese delivered today since a close co-worker is enjoying her last day here.

Celisea

April 12th, 2012
1:49 pm

We’re having a shingdig too for someone working their last day today. Mmmmm…love sweets :)

SlimUno

April 12th, 2012
1:57 pm

Cel – We will be pulling out the brownies and ice cream once this Chinese food disappears. ;-)

Celisea

April 12th, 2012
1:59 pm

Slim – I’m headed right now to the “sweets” portion of this shingdig. It’s scheduled for 2:00….it’s probably gonna be “Piece of Cake” and the big chocolate chip cookie. Ice cream with that sound delish right about now. Okay…heading over for sweets

Row 125, seat 11B

April 12th, 2012
2:20 pm

OK, O/T..Just had a conversation with the really hot older chick from accounting…..wants to know if I will meet her for drinks 2morrow after work. Said she needs to let her hair down and cut loose for a bit……..My Spidey senses tell me she is looking ot be rode hard and put away wet…..Different department…Two floors down…..Yeah She is about to get “Debow’ed”…….

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
2:25 pm

wow Row that seem out of character for you!!! seem more of the charmer 2 weeks ago but you could be just cutting up so don’t mind me lol

SlimUno

April 12th, 2012
2:31 pm

Well, do what you do but don’t come with the crazy, derranged female story when the ish hits the fan. Be careful, vewwy vewwy careful!

Row 125, seat 11B

April 12th, 2012
2:32 pm

Lady…. Generally speaking I am…I am proud to call myself one of the nice guys. I was raised by a single mom and Grandmom, so I have always been taught to honor and respect women to the highest degree…But I am looking at her kinda like the NDA during the lockout….. An exibition game to sharpen my skills and to show off for the fans… LOL

Row 125, seat 11B

April 12th, 2012
2:33 pm

NBA not NDA…. ( Damn…Think that might be a sign for me to bow out before hand???)

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
2:36 pm

I hear ya!!!!! those situations do occur!!!!!

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 12th, 2012
2:48 pm

Row…just take her to a game for fun, just because….lol

On the real, be sure that she wants it to be silent, walking past each other at work like strangers and the whole nine, wouldn’t want to comprimise your the dughnut shop…but have fun with her, she sounds more than ready to reciprocate…be careful with Ms. Seasoned Lady, she might have that snap down there, have you leaving cards on her car.

i'm swiss

April 12th, 2012
2:53 pm

Afternoon, peeps. “Big ol’ jet air liner, carry me to my home…”

On topic: I do loves me some pdu$$y.

Off topic: The TSA can French kid my unshorn taint. That is all.

Oh, hey ITL… ;-)

Willie Dynamite

April 12th, 2012
2:54 pm

Afternoon All,

Leggs- just wow, these dudes gon learn puddy is given not gotten. Should have paid attention to the lecture during ‘Shut the Fugg Up 101′.

Topic – You really have to define what it is you are looking for. Once that is defined you have to make sure your partners goal are the same. That is the hard part especially for ladies. Men don’t understand why they can’t have the cake AND eat it too. Makes so sense to us otherwise. Going back to yesterday and how some Women feel more empowered, Wolves don’t have to wear sheeps clothing. They can choose now. Tacky or not dudes don’t have to wait 5 weeks if they have choices. I don’t agree with that but that is where we are right now. For most dudes out her dayum whether it changes the dynamics or not. Without Sex there is no relationship.

Lady~

April 12th, 2012
2:56 pm

i'm swiss

April 12th, 2012
2:58 pm

French kiss, that is. Damn auto-complete

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 12th, 2012
3:07 pm

WD- So you are saying, these empowered women out here decided to get theirs, are making hard on more traditional good girls (wink) like our friend Leggs? If so, sounds like the good ole tried true supply and demand theory…supply is way up, so the lady demanding a wait period is out of luck because I can get it somewhere else! Matter of fact its so easy to get a piece, I will send you text like this:

“I would like to come over and cuddle and make love to you, but since it seems I have to ask for sex I am no longer interested in it w u. Would like to get to know you, but now it will be done on my terms and I’ll see u when I see u.”

EMPOWERMENT

Leggs

April 12th, 2012
3:10 pm

“…wouldn’t want to comprimise your the dughnut shop” – never heard it quite like that.

@WillieD ~ too funny. He may have been frustrated with sexual angst (as Ex would say), but come on. You’re a 47 year old man. Don’t you think it’s time to use some restraint and readdress a reasonable timeline to get buck wild crazy? Another thing that pissed me off is him saying he wants to come over and make love….don’t you have to be in a relationship to make love because short of that, all you doing is Sexing!!!