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Women more sexually empowered?

There is an interesting debate that started over at Huffington Post and I heard about on Q100’s The Bert Show. It is centered around the questions: Do women now have a sexual advantage? Are women more sexually empowered than men?

Since women are earning more, staying single longer, and are generally living on their own terms, our sex lives are drastically different. Somehow this translates to a sexual advantage.

There is something about sexual empowerment being connected to economics that bothers me, but I understand the point that is being made. The idea is that there is some type of advantage in being a female today with more money, power, and freedom to make choices.

What I wonder though is how can one truly qualify or quantify sexual empowerment? Perhaps I am over thinking this, what are your thoughts?

Is sexual empowerment in men and women something that can truly be compared? Especially considering all of the different/double standards society hold for men and women?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lily

April 11th, 2012
7:16 am

Wow Diva, I caught a bit of this yesterday morning driving in and frankly as women have progressed in many areas over the years, we are still women. That’s the way God made us and that’s the way we’ll remain. While I may sound ignorant to some, we were made different from men for reasons. There is variance that lie between the sexes and will always remain. Women weren’t intended to operate as men otherwise God would have made us all one gender. Yet it doesn’t make us any less. I don’t need to have sex the way men do and I’m not any worse in not competing for men like men compete for women. No matter how much “catching up” of the genders it seems we’ve done, we’ll never be men, have the strength of men, have a heart of stone like men, etc. I happy to love hard, I’m happy to go deep, I’m happy to be the softer weaker sex. I’m especially happy to be the bearer of life. we are different and unique in our own right. I like what I possess as a woman and the difference in gender I can offer AND bring to my man.

As it relates to salaries and fairing different, I don’t fret over that either. I make well and satisfied with my own accomplishments. I don’t the time or energy to waste over worrying about what men are makung. I keep on keeping in my own right.

There are so many things and areas where we differ in genders that the good outweighs the bad, evem down to the double standards carried between the sexes.

Nahila

April 11th, 2012
7:24 am

Women have always been physically able to engage in sexual intercourse because they have the ability to do so if they are so inclined where men have to face the reality of aging in a more profound way. Women have much more mental involvement and stronger relationship leanings in selecting their sexual partners. Women have enjoyed increase empowerment in their relationships with or without men which has been changing over the years because of their increased education and their ability to compete with men in the employment market place for the better paying jobs as well as their demonstration to employers of their abilities to perform in almost all job opportunities in all walks of life. Women have found a way to balance careers with the raising of their children thru seeking and finding their husbands willing to work together in raising their families together in order to provide the family with the ability to increase their family income as well as seek a level of accomplishment in their career fields. Yes, their is still the staying home Mother, but an increasing stay at home Father as well depending on the earning power of each of them. I have 4 daughters, all college educated, strong willed, some career oriented but all wonderful Mothers who have thrived under the present family format available to those women who seek a better life through higher education and new empowerment of their elevated employment opportunities variable to them. That translates to all things that affect sexual, economical, and family life. I must qualify that I am talking about America as no where else on earth are women able to enjoy these opportunities that American women have available to them, I only wish that all American women could be in a position to take advantage of these opportunities.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
7:50 am

Morning! Interesting topic……..I will lurk a bit………….

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
7:50 am

Aww man!! Tsk Good Morning!!

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
8:32 am

Naw don’t lurk Lady, dive on in….lol

Are women more sexually empowered than men? Uhhh yeah…Its more evident in todays generation than in the past. I also think its one of the many factors that created a blur in the line with our roles as men and women.
Nahila~ Soo are any of your daughters married?? Just curious, All I heard was college educated, strong willed, some career oriented but all wonderful Mothers who have thrived under the present family format. Some consider the present family format as being a single mother doing it on her own.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
8:40 am

I was wondering that too about if they were married?!?

waving @ Mr. U.

I am rolling with Lily this morning………….Order of service is important to me and I promise the older I get I am understanding my role as a woman and mother…………..

The Mrs.

April 11th, 2012
8:45 am

I like what Lily presented.

I like “order of service” too Lady

Robert

April 11th, 2012
9:08 am

“The idea is that there is some type of advantage in being a female today with more money, power, and freedom to make choices.”

Today, women can have an advantage if they apply their overall knowledge, skills and abilities to succeed in life. All women are emotional and sometimes their feelings get in the way of the choices they make. As women mature they become aware of their power and freedom to make choices. For example younger women (20-30) are still learning how to survive and will make stupid choices concerning money and relationships by not finishing their education, having kids, etc.. Some women are able to overcome these choices and live a good lifestyle. Older women (35-50) have experience and knowledge and will use that to take advantage of their freedom of choice. Most women know money and power does not make you happy. The choices women make (family, career, relationship, etc.) determine who they are and how happy she can be in her life.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2012
9:16 am

Women weren’t intended to operate as men otherwise God would have made us all one gender. Yet it doesn’t make us any less….I’m especially happy to be the bearer of life. we are different and unique in our own right. I like what I possess as a woman and the difference in gender I can offer AND bring to my man.

Worth repeating!!!

In the immortal words of Prince, Let a woman be a woman and a man be a man!

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
9:17 am

Yet it doesn’t make us any less<<<<<<<I love this effortlessly~

Jeff

April 11th, 2012
9:17 am

Ummm, the reason women are waiting longer to get married is because men aren’t asking as soon, if ever. Until women start doing the asking, then they aren’t the ones making all the decisions about waiting. Just another myth perpetrated on people.

Proof?

If a man doesn’t produce a ring and ask, is she getting married? No.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2012
9:23 am

@Jeff: If she says “no”, is the man getting married????

All kidding aside, your statement that men aren’t asking as soon is true. But you failed to mention that more people (men and women!) are attending college and pursuing secondary degrees than ever before. Added to this is the desire to establish a career and stability. So yes, men are asking later, but women aren’t ready to be asked.

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

April 11th, 2012
9:28 am

“Ummm, the reason women are waiting longer to get married is because men aren’t asking as soon, if ever. Until women start doing the asking, then they aren’t the ones making all the decisions about waiting. Just another myth perpetrated on people.” — Jeff

That’s truth.

lolalee

April 11th, 2012
9:29 am

Lily “As it relates to salaries and fairing different, I don’t fret over that either”

Whaaaat??? You should. Why should women be paid less than men for the same work? I very much object to that. It’s not right.

As to whether women have a sexual advantage, haven’t we always? Did you know that women ultimately got the right to vote not by picketing and complaining, but by HOLDING OUT at home. No vote, no puddy. Those women of yesteryear understood their sexual advantage.

Jeff ~ good point. I doubt many women are willing to propose. I sure wouldn’t. It’s just not my part to do so.

Row 125, seat 11B

April 11th, 2012
9:40 am

LOL at this one!!!

The truth is Women have ALWAYS had the advantage when it comes to sex…..Always have and most likely always will!!!! Don’t believe me??? Go out and count the numebr of guys that are making every effort to hook up then just try to find the number of women doing the same….. You know what, you will not find that woman, becfause if she wants to, all she has to do is say the word, so she is never looking for more than a second……. As my dad use to say . ” With men it is IF, with women its WHEN”…….

Into the Light

April 11th, 2012
9:42 am

(waving) Heeeey Lady! Morning, Row!

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
9:43 am

Waving right back ITL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
9:48 am

Good morning all,

I love everything about Lily’s post :) Couldn’t have said it any better. I didn’t hear anything negative nor a take down. I didn’t hear her say she’s happy to make less than men.

Lady – I’m digging the “order of service.”

I’m the woman God created and happy to thrive in that role. For me that means progressing, doing better, making my own money, being independant, etc. Even so, it does not negate the fact that I need men. All of you (men), everywhere. I need my SO, my daddy, my bothers, my nephews, my neighbors, pastors, community workers….all of them.

I don’t need to prove ever that I’m just as strong or just as equal or just as qualified. Men that are men already know and understand the role. They are atuned to the purpose she serves that it’s never been beneath them. It’s not about doing him one better or vice versa, it’s about coming together as one, as a whole whether in relationships or by humanity.

I don’t need to have tons of sexual escapades to prove my empowerment. I don’t need to dangle the carrot (being sex) to get what I need. IMO that’s game playing. Empowered women don’t play games. I don’t need to hold out as bait. If there’s an issue that calls for such, so be it but not under the guise of game playing or baiting.

I believe (and in my opinion), too much woman trying to play the role of man and operate as man and play like man will eventually have an adverse effect.

ITL – Love your response regarding women not being ready. I’ll add that some of the empowerment women now possess is because of the lack of presence from men. IMO this only evolve and turned positive for women overall and everywhere.

Row 125, seat 11B

April 11th, 2012
9:54 am

Nice to have here the thoughts of all of you lovely ladies this morning… :)

Morning I.T.L…..

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
9:55 am

lolalee

April 11th, 2012
9:56 am

out now, bye

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
9:57 am

Really!! We all going to hold hands singing we are the world today? lol I think the Empowerment of todays women are some of the reasons for today relationship problems.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
9:58 am

I don’t need to prove ever that I’m just as strong or just as equal or just as qualified.<<<<<<<<Love it~

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
9:59 am

Hey Lady! What’s crackalackin??? :)

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
10:00 am

nothing much sis…………just maintain my lane ;)

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
10:06 am

With power comes great responsibility. I love an educated woman, cultured woman but that doesn’t mean she gets to move to the head of the line in the family structure. We are saying all the right things this morning and thats cool. But do we really see that taking place after (some, not all) get a taste of being successful.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
10:07 am

With power comes great responsibility<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<Love Peter Parker~ ;) awwww!

abc

April 11th, 2012
10:08 am

What does ’sexual empowerment’ mean?

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
10:09 am

lol shut up….

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
10:10 am

Mr. U things have shifted a bit and its shifted about 35 years ago in my opinion…………Its a new and different day…………..does history repeat itself and will our kids see a different type of day?!? who knows but I will try to be truthful and transparent with my child with the facts of life and my errors and how not to follow the same path~

Mr. Unknown

April 11th, 2012
10:15 am

I feel ya Lady… I vote that we start taking shows off the air such as, real house wifes of ATL, basketball wives, bad girls club, Chilli, ect… Todays role models.. Anyway, Have a good one Im out.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
10:16 am

the family structure varies so much these days and doesn’t depict what many grew up on………….its not all about single moms either I meet many single fathers holdin’ it down. things are just more open and different with how a family operates.

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
10:26 am

with folks waiting later to marry its affect overall school population. population is down greatly since about 30 years ago………….its interesting how many factors are interconnected.

Jeff

April 11th, 2012
10:36 am

Into the light (9:23). Actually women are beginning to dominate college and post-grad enrollment. So,if anything, more and more women are extending their education, not men.

But it is still a myth that the only reason women aren’t getting married is because they are the ones who are deciding to wait. If men are asking at the same rate, and at the same age as previous generations and women were saying no, then it would be valid that women are waiting. But let’s put that myth to rest.

kimmie

April 11th, 2012
10:55 am

Morning All!

I heard this discussion on the Bert Show. Interesting. I like Lily’s post though, except while I don’t spend alot of time worrying about it, equal pay for equal work is only right and fair.

I have no desire to be or behave like a man when it comes to the birds & the bees. I embrace my womanhood. The beautiful thing about it today is that I have choices women did not have in the past. It’s a beautiful thing. I can go the traditional route or the modern route or some of both. I choose both! I am a lovely mixture of it all. It’s necessary to be able to change in this changing world.

As for marriage, it’s all about finding someone who compliments you, shares the same values and is supportive of your dreams, whatever they might be. There is someone for everyone out there! Don’t knock other people because they choose to go about it different than you would or what you are used to.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2012
11:07 am

But it is still a myth that the only reason women aren’t getting married is because they are the ones who are deciding to wait

Jeff: I will respectfully disagree without being disagreeable. I believe that men AND women are postponing marriage.

Into the Light

April 11th, 2012
11:28 am

:shock: Did everybody R-U-N-N-O-F-T???

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
11:44 am

lol I am here working on my MBTI powerpoint presentation ITL……………what is shaking sis?!? lol

Mike P

April 11th, 2012
11:52 am

I totally agree with Lily’s early morning post…

Sexually empowered? Did I miss something? When did women ever lose their sexual-power? You have to FIRST be sexually weak to be empowered. I think the better question would be “Are women more sexually promiscuous?”

If the woman is sexually promiscuous with many men (non-committed relations), then yea she sexually weak, because she’s not in her lane; playing it like a man. sexual advantage over men, yeah right, don’t make me laugh..advantage over little boys maybe, but men nope!

Morning folks!

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
11:57 am

Hey Mike P! good post!

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
12:10 pm

I’m taking my kid (and friends) to Copelands. That’s the restaurant of choice for her this year.

Mike P

April 11th, 2012
12:11 pm

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
12:17 pm

sounds like fun C! are yall doing the bistro in Atlantic Station or the one in cobb county?!?

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
12:24 pm

I am ready to close this week out and enjoy two weeks off from my counseling program. while I love assessments its getting on my nerves measuring it……ugh #vent

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
12:27 pm

Lady – If they don’t state a preference, the one on South Cobb Drive…up near Cumberland. It’s been a minute since I’ve been.

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
12:29 pm

They being kid and friends

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
12:30 pm

cool beans sis that is the one I frequent……I love their brunch on Sunday’s overall but it is some good eating!!!!

Lady~

April 11th, 2012
12:30 pm

I got you C~

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
12:31 pm

Good eat….yes it is

Celisea

April 11th, 2012
12:32 pm