accessAtlanta

City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Are you dating a jerk?

I never understood why so many single people put up with bad behavior or rudeness when it came to dating. If these things rear their heads in dating, imagine what being in a relationship with the person will be like?

It happens a lot, sadly, and I wonder if there is some reason for it. If you notice such things as quick tempers, rude to servers, tardiness, and other jerk behavior, why give the person second and third dates?

Why are we so drawn to jerks? I know that no one is perfect, but it seems that many of us endure certain things longer then we should and then wonder why we end up dating a jerk.

How do you know when you are dating a jerk or if someone just has a few bad days? Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

308 comments Add your comment

Lily

April 5th, 2012
7:02 am

Diva, I can’t pin any of the attributes aforementioned but “jerk” behavior none the less goes far beyond. How about lying, playing games, playing with feelings, playing dumb, string along or at least an attempt, trying to undermine, an attempt to intimidate and an attempt to turn the table….just to name a few? Thank goodness it never came to fruition. Can you imagine a relationship?

Lily

April 5th, 2012
7:02 am

Diva, I can’t pin any of the attributes aforementioned but “jerk” behavior none the less goes far beyond. How about lying, playing games, playing with feelings, playing dumb, string along or at least an attempt, trying to undermine, an attempt to intimidate and an attempt to turn the table….just to name a few? Thank goodness it never came to fruition. Can you imagine a relationship?

Lily

April 5th, 2012
7:07 am

My apologies about the double postings.

I’d like to add, why would you want to stick around or even hope they would change? A person is always all the better for moving on. In my case I’m sure everything would have their way or the jerk way.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
7:55 am

I’m not a jerk – i.e. the rude behavior described in the post; but I am an arsehole.

But that’s much different.

Morning

disco

April 5th, 2012
9:13 am

good morning. hey y’all. my take on the jerk issue? some folks just ignore it because they’d rather be with a jerk than be alone. other folks just think the jerk-ish behavior is cute, sort of like the woman who thinks its cute when her man jacks her up because he’s “jealous”. I guess a third option is like attracts like. maybe you don’t notice jerk behavior because you practice jerk behavior and therefore think it’s normal. who knows.

czBrat

April 5th, 2012
9:19 am

lmao @ Dan. hiya, hun! isn’t it a wonderful thing to know thyself and yet luv thyself? :wink:

so i dunno about this whole “why are we so drawn to jerks” nonsense. who’s DRAWN to jerks??
if anything, the chick with the “i think i can fix him” complex might want to take on that project, but most reasonable people looking to hook up with like-minds are not gonna waste more than half a date on a jackazz.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
9:25 am

I’m not a jerk – i.e. the rude behavior described in the post; but I am an arsehole

I am nominating this as comment of the day! :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
9:26 am

@Brat – it so very is.

The other thing is those people funny; and in a very real way, you sometimes laugh at the inappropriate behavior…..until it gets turned on you.

I used to date smart moufed women a lot for the reasons stated. But when it got turned on the D, we had issues. I broke a few from the habit of talking to me like that, but it can get to be too much.

disco

April 5th, 2012
9:28 am

brat – I forgot about the “ms. fix-him-uppers”.

slim – he’s right though. there is a difference between the two.

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
9:37 am

czBrat The ” I can fix him’ complex seems to be about the ‘fixers’ low self esteem. You can’t fix anybody. Ever. If they WANT to fix themselves, you might be able to help, but that’s a tricky balance. I’d be a friend of a fixer-uper, but woudn’t date one. Wouldn’t date OR be a friend to a jerk. Why bother?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
9:43 am

@Lola

Not entirely true

While the work has to be done by the individual, one person can be catalyst for the change of another…

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2012
9:45 am

Morning

I think lots of “jerks” tend to be (or appear) very confident. So, maybe people are actually drawn to the faux confidence. Also, “jerks” tend to not give a damn what anyone else thinks, and for lots of people there is a certain draw to that.

disco

April 5th, 2012
9:46 am

lola – I don’t think it’s always a self esteem issue. just last night I had a discussion with a friend who took a man into her home under the pretext of helping him out. her particular situation wasn’t so much about fixing up the man as it was doing the right (i.e. Christian) thing. I told her the next she was feeling all Christian-like she might want to find another way to serve besides taking a homeless, unemployed man (friend or not) into her home especially since she’d “helped” this same man about 6 months ago and he hasn’t progressed any from then to now.

dreams – sho you right. often times you can’t tell those jerk types nothing.

n

April 5th, 2012
9:46 am

That is a great question. I really like it. The reason so many continue to date jerks, because they see the alternative as loneliness, isolation and an incredible fear of not being wanted.
That being said, a lot of people like jerks, it reminds them of dear old dad. Also, when someone is with a jerk, they do not have to worry about being the center of attention, the jerk always is.
I am sure I have been characterized as a jerk, although that would be one of the nicer comments.
Some see being a jerk as inevitable, so they see everyone else in the same way.

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
9:51 am

Dan
Catalyst, sure. Sparking change by example, perhaps. But unless that person has decided themselves to make change, you can’t make it happen for them. For example, if you are rude to the waiter and I say, hey Dan, that’s rude, do that again and we’re done, you might ‘change’ when you’re around me because you want the puddy. But then when you’re with your boyz you’re rude again. I didn’t make you change at all.

disco
Sounds like she’s trying to do right, but that sounds crazy to me. Seems like a lot of ‘christians’ get abused by other people who manipulate them based on their desire to do ‘good’

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
9:53 am

Dreams
Confidence is cool, but not when it abuses other people. That’s the difference between ‘confident’ and ‘jerk’

disco

April 5th, 2012
9:54 am

does getting excited about the arrival of the new phone book make you a jerk? okay. sorry. couldn’t resist.

czBrat

April 5th, 2012
9:56 am

it just occured to me that quite often people who act a certain way in public are very different behind closed doors. could it be that the guy who’s a complete ass to the server at the restaurant is a real sweetheart with his girl in private? does this somehow make her feel soooo special that only SHE can bring out the good in him?

lola, i put in a good ten years of trying to “fix” a man that just did not want to be a husband and father (well, he luved the titles but didn’t wanna do the work). no more project dudes for me!!!

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
9:56 am

phone book? what’s that? LOL

disco

April 5th, 2012
9:59 am

lola – you would think that phone books would be becoming obsolete but I get phone books from different phone companies on the regular. I’d fuss and complain but I tell myself that some poor, hapless soul is getting paid to drive around and leave phone books on people’s doorsteps.

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
10:02 am

czBrat
a fixer upper as a friend is entirely different from a fixer upper in an intimate relationship, esp a marriage. That’s why I think people who date jerks generally have low self esteem. And maybe it does make her feel “special”, but to me that’s blantantly manipulative. No thanks.

As for your ex, I had one of those too. He liked the title (husband, father), liked the idea (close family) , liked the photos (all dressed up for Easter!). Didn’t want to do the sometimes dirty (thew up again on sheets I just changed?) sometimes boring (not ANOTHER game of Candy Land) , sometimes tedious (more banal homework sheets) work of raising kids.

I’m with you. Never again. Only fully matured MEN. No boys.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
10:02 am

could it be that the guy who’s a complete ass to the server at the restaurant is a real sweetheart with his girl in private? does this somehow make her feel soooo special that only SHE can bring out the good in him?

He could be, but if I were his girl, I would think the sweet persona was the fake one. I know it’s going to open a can of worms (like it always does), but everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect until they’ve proven otherwise. Then, you just don’t deal with them.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
10:02 am

@Brat

That’s exactly it; the “(s)he’s not that way with me” comment. But like I said, it’s acceptable until it gets turned on you.

What up DM?

@lola

When I say catalyst, I mean being the reason to change – your talking about an exchange (behavior around you for puddy). I’m talking sincere “this is a good (wo)man, I want to be what (s)he needs in life.”

That right thurr ^^ is less abrupt (see gradually getting their isht together unprompted) and more permanent than what you’re speaking on.

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
10:05 am

Dan
“I’m talking sincere “this is a good (wo)man, I want to be what (s)he needs in life.”

Exactly. So that person WANTS to change, and the other person can catalyze that change. The underlying desire has to come from the person who is making the change.

I think we’;re on the same page.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
10:12 am

I agree with many with regard to the desire to ‘nurture/help/assist’ or as lola put it, fixup a nother is always a matter of self-esteem. Some people are just nurturers by nature. And often times, it’s easier to find solutions or see areas of improvment in others than it is to see in ourselves.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2012
10:17 am

Confidence is cool, but not when it abuses other people. That’s the difference between ‘confident’ and ‘jerk’
lola There’s certainly a difference between being confident and being a jerk, but different doesn’t make them mutually exclusive. A person can be confident AND a jerk. I’m saying that I think, for people who date “jerks”, they’re probably drawn to the confidence and not the jerk qualities.

Dan What’s good man? Just working on my end.

lolalee

April 5th, 2012
10:17 am

gotta check out now, happy day to all.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:18 am

Morning All!

Who knows why people date or stay with jerks or any other folks that display anti-social behavior? Only the person in it can answer that.

A lot of times, this is why people break up, looking from the outside in. I know it’s why I’ve broken things off or didn’t want to date certain guys. To the outside world these guys were smart, handsome, successful, etc. But dealing with them one-on-one was impossible. Then people would ask “Girl, why you let that go? You’re gonna end up by yourself being so choosy.” When I would attempt to explain why, they would brush it off & say I could “work with that”. Are you kidding me? Then if I was an idiot and stayed, when things would come to a head, then it was “Well, you knew he was a jerk, you were stupid for staying”.

Everyone has their threshold for what they will tolerate or not. I respect everyone’s right as an adult to make their own decision about what they will and won’t deal with. Allow me mine.

Oh, and I do believe a person can change. They would just have to do it on their own time. That’s all I ever hear dudes complain about – that a woman is trying to “change” them and won’t accept them as they are. Guess what? I will absolutely accept you as you are. I just don’t have to deal with it, but I will recognize that’s how you are! K?

czBrat

April 5th, 2012
10:23 am

i agree, light. YOU would see the fake persona, but the chick that sticks with the jerk either NEEDS to believe he is being one way with her because she’s special to him and another way with others because they’re meaningless; or she is just determined to show him the error of his ways.

and when she’s done fixing him up, he’ll go be a wonderful, well-rounded citizen with some other gal.

slim, i would consider myself a natural nurturer, but i don’t actively go about looking for extra work. i put in my 4-6 hours per month of community service. no need to bring the social work home and let it lounge on my sofa.

New and just lurking around

April 5th, 2012
10:25 am

A lot of girls in my experience just love that jerk type of behavior and dislike the “Nice” guys. guys hate hearing “He is such a nice guy but …” .
IMO, guys have become conditioned to getting positive reactions from a lot of girls when they act like a jerk towards a lot of ladies. the rational becomes “why would i act like a nice guy and lose the girl when i can act like a jerk and become a chick magnet?”

the jerk behavior may not be attractive to the much older ladies or the ladies that have bad experiences with bad boys but a lot of girls between 21-30, just love jerkish behavior.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:30 am

Brat – Amen, I’m just not the “work with him” type. I am very much a nurturer – to kids, the sick, the elderly, or anyone else truly in need. A grown A adult – no. A helpmate to my husband – yes. His crutch? No.

And yeah, seen too many of my friends be that ride-or-die fixerupper work-with-him chick, only for dude to leave them for this chick that didn’t lift a finger to try to “change” him.

czBrat

April 5th, 2012
10:34 am

To the outside world these guys were smart, handsome, successful, etc. But dealing with them one-on-one was impossible. Then people would ask “Girl, why you let that go? You’re gonna end up by yourself being so choosy.”
let the choir sang!!

Oh, and I do believe a person can change. They would just have to do it on their own time.
and for their own reasons. changing who you are just to please someone else is NOT the answer.

a lot of girls between 21-30, just love jerkish behavior.
once again giving thanx that thing 1 is a mini-me. there’s a huge gulf between being mr. nice guy and being a jerk. it’s called being a gentleman, and guys are doing in their 10s, 20s, 30s all the way to 100+. it takes patience and setting a standard to find them, but it’s well worth it.

disco

April 5th, 2012
10:36 am

kimmie / brat – I’m so far from a nurturer it’s not even funny. I was recently given two plants and a friend and I joked as to that being like a death sentence to the plants. in my defense i plan to give it the old college try but I admit that’s probably not worth much. I went to water the plants one day and the poor things sucked the water down so fast I felt guilty.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
10:37 am

cz – Going out to look for it is one thing and that would not be me. No one is perfect and there are always going to be things one can improve on.

Does improvement have to equal CHANGE per say???

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:38 am

New – I think it is actually a difference between a “bad boy” and a jerk, though the two can be intertwined. A lot of bad boys I’ve known can be quite charming. Never dated them because I’ve always liked nerds, but a lot of the rough-around-the-edges guys are not walking around punching everyone in the face! On the other hand, some of the nerdy so-called nice guys that I have encountered have turned out to be complete jerks! So you can’t judge a book by it’s cover. I would get with the so-called nice guy thinking he would not hurt me. Some of these “nice” dudes are completely lacking in social skills. It’s a reason why they strike out and finish last. If they were “truly” nice, they wouldn’t have any trouble getting any woman they wanted. I’ve seen it in action.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
10:40 am

@DM

Working here to, both jobs.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:41 am

disco – You & I are alike on the plant thing!LOL! But I am trying to grow some herbs to cook with this spring, so I’ll keep you posted on my progress!

disco

April 5th, 2012
10:42 am

kimmie – I think a bad boy can at least be sexy even when you know everything about him is just so wrong. with a jerk, even if you thought he was sexy, as soon as you realize he’s a jerk the sex appeal just fizzles out.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:50 am

disco – I totally agree. So many guys just do not understand that sex appeal that alot of bad boys possess. And the stupid ones see the bad boys getting alot of play so they think by going around being a jerk to women is going to get them some of that play. That’s not going to work either, sorry!

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
10:53 am

O/T: On the herbs and cooking thing, you know how you may want to try a new recipe. You check out what’s needed and there is a long list of different spices/herbs seasonings to use…Well, I believe it is Mccormick that has recipes that come with the amount of the different seasonings needed to make that dish. I can’t wait to try one of them out.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
10:57 am

Slim: I’ve seen those. Pretty neat concept; wonder if they’re any good?

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
10:58 am

Slim – I have one of those McCormick kits at home I have not used yet. I used one for a shrimp pasta dish. They are quite convinient and tasty.

There is so much out there that even the inexperienced cook can use to make quick simple meals. Those that whine about not being able to cook anything are not trying or just need to admit they don’t want to. And that’s okay, but who wants to live on fast food? I know I don’t.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
11:08 am

ITL/kimmie – Yeah a friend on mine told me about it so I may trek over to that aisle the next time I go shopping and see what new dish I can experiment with. My palate often craves for something new and I’m sure the beau would appreciate it. Speaking of which, he did a crockpot roast this past Sunday and it was Delish ;-)

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
11:12 am

Slim – Yeah, I gotta change it up sometimes. Hubs & the kids are getting more open to the changes. They would eat the same thing every day if it was up to them. But I can usually gauge what they might like and 90% of the time, I’m right. They go slowly …..LOL

Crockpot roast sounds divine!

disco

April 5th, 2012
11:14 am

ahh. looks like we’ve moved on to our favorite topic of all – FOOD. I don’t generally cook huge full, fledged meals but I must admit I’m itching to go and buy a spiral sliced ham. if I do get around to buying said ham I’d have to cook an entire “holiday meal” around it. i could also go for a good pair of chocolate bunny ears. too bad there are no kiddies in my life that i can jack. sure i could just buy one but it wouldn’t be the same.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
11:19 am

disco – ooooh, a whole feast sounds great about now. This could be our first Blogs Day Dinner. Let us know when to show up hungry and ready to eat! :D

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
11:21 am

disco – I got a spiral sliced from Costco last week. Half the price of a Honeybaked. I’m making things as simple as I can though, with the sides. For some reason, I am itching for some turnip greens! I don’t know why, because I don’t usually go for them, I love collards. Greens are work, but my itch is strong, so Imma have to find some to cook!

Kat

April 5th, 2012
11:25 am

Those little cards with the spices on them are pretty good. They have some for Asian and Indian dishes that are quite tasty. It’s good to experiment with so you aren’t forking over (pun intended) too much $$$ on individual spices before you KNOW you like them in something. Go for the Tikka Masala. Yum!

disco

April 5th, 2012
11:27 am

slim – considering the main reason I don’t cook like that is because no one is around to eat all the food you almost could’ve had me. perhaps if I actually lived in Atlanta and I wasn’t so “funny acting” about folks coming to my house it would be on.

kimmie – not that you said your itch was strong. go on ahead and get them greens girl. I could go for some greens myself.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
11:30 am

disco – Well, cant blame a chick for trying lol

New and just lurking around

April 5th, 2012
11:37 am

The Nice Guy I was talking about in my previous post is not the nerdish social skill lacking fellow you see on TV. I am talking about a regular guy.
Nice Guy Behavior
Caring and attentive (listens to her)
Clean Mouth (no foul words or disrespectful music (at least when with her))
One Girl at a time kind of guy
Gentlemanly behavior (opens the door for her, offer his coat when she is cold, walks her to her car, makes sure she get home safe , calls or text to check up on her and so on)

(usually the nice guys get taken for granted, the girls picks and chooses when she want to call him, strings him along and he is usually the backup plan or she makes plans and cancel last minute because she feels he would understand)

Jerk type Behavior
Indifferent and selfish (does what he wants, only calls when he wants somethin)
Loud and foul mouth (uses curse words and play disrespectful music)
Rude and obnoxious (talks to the girl however he wants or feels like)
Late and changes plans on her
Openly flirts with other girls in her presence (this one is golden because usually the girl starts feeling like she is not as attractive and wants to prove how attractive she is to him)

I have reeled in more girls with the jerk type of behavior (it always amazes me how it seems to work not proud of it though) than when i am Nice or gentlemanly. the funny thing is there are some girls that initially do not want me when i am being nice but the moment i start to act indifferent and insensitive towards them its like i flipped an attraction switch in them.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
11:48 am

New – All I can say is that sounds like you’re dealing with some immature women and you sound immature yourself. Just calling it as I read it in your post, not putting you down.

Anyone that allows themself to be taken for granted and treated disrespectfully is a doormat. Nobody likes or respects a doormat.

Any man that has to stoop to changing himself to be disrespecful is still a boy, not a man. A man never changes his behavior in a negative way to change the behavior of others. You behave like a man and set the standard. Other then follow your lead and behave accordingly. And men that behave like real men attract real women. Boys behaving as such reel in GIRLS, like you refer to in your post, not LADIES.

But this true understanding only comes with real maturity. And some there are some at 40, 50 and beyond that still don’t get it.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
11:49 am

New – How old are you, if you don’t mind answering? (And Welcome!)

GracieL

April 5th, 2012
11:51 am

“Could it be that the guy who’s a complete ass to the server at the restaurant is a real sweetheart with his girl in private?”

Not in earnest. If a person behaves that way toward a server, that is a BIG RED FLAG that he (or she) does not respect other people. Sure, he can turn on the charm in private later — to get what he wants. People who pick and choose those to whom they’ll apply the golden rule do not really follow the golden rule.

disco

April 5th, 2012
11:56 am

kimmie – mm mmm mmmmmm.

gracie – not that you brought up the golden rule. boy that’s a course some folks need a refresher in for real. you see it so much though with folks acting like they think they are better than other folks. servers, gardeners, the guys at the car wash. you see the so-called “professionals” acting like they think they are better than the “staff”. some folks really need to get a grip.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
12:01 pm

disco – My mom used to talk about how we should treat the “staff” with kindness. You never know who you might need in this world and you could find yourself in that position one day, you never know. She was a teacher and would always be kind to the janitor and the cafeteria staff. I wouldn’t be nasty to anyone, but especially someone preparing my food!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
12:07 pm

I heard the revamped version of the golden rule the other day. The facilitator called it the “Platinum Rule” and it’s “Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.” I guess it makes sense, but I still think as long as you treat folks with respect, you’re golden. (pun intended!) :lol:

Slow blog day…..

disco

April 5th, 2012
12:09 pm

ITL – platinum might be pushing it for me. I know too many folks who want and expect you to kiss their behinds and I’ll be darned if I’m going out like that.

very slow day. some folks may have got a jump on their holiday weekend. I’m not one of those folks.

New and just lurking around

April 5th, 2012
12:13 pm

to answer you Slim i am 25,
Kimmie – i am just calling it like i see it or from my experience that why i said girls from 21-30. Maybe its immature or not. I do not go around treating woman like an ass but the moment i realize a girls starts trying to take me for granted i can longer treat her nice. and the point i was trying to make is that, when i stop treating the girl nice and start acting like a jerk towards her she starts telling me she wants me but to me its too late because i can no longer take her seriously.
I was not saying i go acking like a jerk to girls to reel in girl, i was simply starting the reaction i get back from girls when i stop treating them nice. More often than not it seems the same girls want me more. (cant understand it and cant explain it)

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
12:16 pm

Just wow, okie dokie and unbelievable. SMH and so not cute

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
12:23 pm

@disco: I thought the same thing when I first heard it. But then I remembered how some folks get uptight if I say “yes ma’am”, so I guess in some cases it holds true.

I wish I was getting a jump on the holiday, but i’ll be right here holding it down tomorrow. My mom says to me every year, “You don’t get Good Friday off????” and shakes her head. She did it just the other day….

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
12:23 pm

SMH and so not cute

Dang, Cely, so I’m having a bad hair day…sheesh!! :lol: :lol:

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
12:24 pm

ITL – Hey Girlie! I’m sitting here comtemplating if I should spin next week because it’s going to cause “bad hair”…lol

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
12:26 pm

ITL – On the Platinum Rule, we hear it in EVERY seminar, conference or meeting. I’m with you, if God gave the Golden Rule then I ain’t touching it. It is sufficient.

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
12:27 pm

contemplating

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:28 pm

“My gawd, the dead has arisen.” (Gratuitous Color Purple reference)

Hey y’all….(waving)

czBrat

April 5th, 2012
12:31 pm

now that i’m done with the flurry of tenants who run in here on the 5th of the month with $$$ because they don’t want to be evicted ….. :mad:

reeling in more girls with loutish behavior is all fine and dandy. but what type of girl are we talking about? is it really worth driving the numbers up just to say that soooo many chicks go for it? why not stick to being nice and gentlemanly and be content with the one chick that appreciates (and reciprocates) that?

and as for flipping a switch, please be aware that any woman will disregard you if you’re being a doormat (like kimmie said) but give you your due respect when you behave in a respectable manner. maybe you’re missing the very fine line between being boorish and strong.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
12:31 pm

@C – Right on! :)

@SCool – Hey!! How’s the wedding planning going?

disco

April 5th, 2012
12:31 pm

hmmm. I’ve never heard of this platinum rule until today. I do understand folks taking issue with being called ma’am or what have you (I’ve heard countless women say they feel old but they also have to consider some folks were raised to say it) but that’s a simple thing. when you get to folks wanting you to bow down and kiss their feet it’s a whole new ball game. they will simply be getting my basic, run of the mill, dime a dozen version of basic common courtesy and respect. no more, no less.

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:37 pm

My planner is not happy with me. Work is so crazy right now that it takes me two days to return her calls sometimes. I gave her total control of the decor. I only specified the colors and the budget.

We’ve had to change the date twice. I still haven’t done a guest list. M has decided that he wants groomsmen. So, I now have to come up with bridesmaids. (Just two…but still…)

But…at least my venue deposits are made and….I have a dress. (Now, I just need to lose these last 15 pounds that I’ve been lying about for forever…so I can look like I think I should in it.)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
12:39 pm

@Kimmie

After working as a cook, and seeing what I saw (and may have done – I admit no wrongdoing), I say ‘yes sir’ and ‘yes ma’am’ to every person that serves, cooks, or otherwise goes near my food.

Them people is ruthless

SC in da house!

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:41 pm

kimmie – I got your email the other day. It’s just hard to form coherent thoughts that are not work related. By the time I get home, I’m wiped out. My project started the week of the 18th.

My only saving grace was that M was traveling for work for the first ten days of the project when I was working 18 hour days. My friends and family have gotten used to not talking to me. (Insert frown here.)

disco

April 5th, 2012
12:43 pm

dan – and apparently you can’t even trust folks at home. I have a co-worker who told me just as proud as she could that she put “foreign objects” into food she served her ex-husband (good for him) and her son (he’s stuck for life). I told her that playing with folks’ food isn’t cool under any circumstances and her response was that they shouldn’t have made her mad. needless to say I look at the co-workers with pity when they are gobbling down the treats that this chick brings to work.

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:43 pm

Dan – remember how I got in touch with you at the beginning of the year to remind you about the homestead exemption?

How about this….immediately afterwards, I got thrown into gearing up for this project and FORGOT ALL ABOUT doing my own. Friday, I just happened to be looking for something else and came across the paperwork and was able to submit the application AT the deadline.

Yeesh….

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:44 pm

disco – your co-worker needs to be on meds WHILE on lock up.

disco

April 5th, 2012
12:48 pm

SCool – I believe she is on meds but I think she’s just plain nasty. this is the same chick who thinks it’s acceptable to cut her toenails at her desk.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
12:51 pm

Oh dear lawd….. not toenail chick. I can’t believe anyone would even think about eating anything she brings in. ((((shudder)))))

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
12:51 pm

@SC – Thanks again, and wow; them’s the cost for being the boss….which is why I stay in my lane.

Are you finished with the project?

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
12:56 pm

Dan – this is just Day 19 of a three year contract. But as you know, start-ups are chaotic. The expectation is that things will even out in the next six weeks or so. And I should have a new normal within the next three months.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:01 pm

Good afternoon. Been a dosey of a morning.

I do not put up with bad behavior and rude men, one of many reasons why I’ve been slow to date.

@disco ~ been at hospital all morning, but while in waiting room I started “Life On The Color Line.” I flipped page to next chapter at the same time the hospital Chaplin was walking by. She stopped and asked what I was reading because Chapter 5 is titled “Learning How to be N….ers.” Unfortunately, it wasn’t funny, but then again it was. I explained the premise of the book to her and she was very intrigued. So, suffice it to say I’m at the point in the book where the boys just moved to “the other side of the tracks.” I’m enjoying the book and can only imagine the pain/prejudice they are about to experience.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
1:03 pm

Wow. You a good one.

New job, wedding, etc.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
1:04 pm

@Leggs, you (and/or Lil Leggs) aight?

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
1:14 pm

Actually…what I am is a stressed one. (lol)

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:15 pm

@Dan ~ we are fine. Took my ex to have surgery. He couldn’t drive to nor fro, his mama has no license so that’s where I step in. Finished much later than I thought so I saw no reason to go into work. Me need FOOD!

Hey there SexyC!

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
1:16 pm

Jerk??

That’s subjective!

But every man with a backbone needs some jerky qualities.

If u ain’t got some jerk in you But are labelled a ‘Nice’ guy,you probably are and more…the females especially your own,runs you over.

You feel sorry for them when its the woman that displays ultra jerk behavior and he is incapable of handling it.

She can’t do that to a jerk.

Jerks certainly aren’t fair players. But they get the job done.

And more!

Howdee

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
1:18 pm

One woman’s jerk is another woman’s Prince Charming.

cba

April 5th, 2012
1:20 pm

Leggs~ you are very good people……I bet you do things for your ex because of lil leggs.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:23 pm

Leggs – That was mighty nice of you to do for the ex. And you make me want to go pick that book up. I’ve never heard of it

Would yall say DMX is a jerk, azzhole or what?

Blu

April 5th, 2012
1:31 pm

I deal with a jerk by taking their voice away, ignore them like they never existed.

SexyCool

April 5th, 2012
1:34 pm

Leggs is just good people period. And she can cook.

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
1:36 pm

Slim?

What DMX do for u to ask?

Leggs…’from his mama’ ?? He live with mama or he was just there temporarily? And No license?
U did good tho.

What else…let’s see…

Slim…u prego yet?

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:39 pm

@cba – yes, I do. But he has done a lot here at the house when I couldn’t do things or pay someone to do things. We have a great barter system (w/o sex, Ex).

@Slim ~ DMX is all of that and some more! Add selfish to the list as well. Disco told us about the book months ago and ordered right then. Just now cracking the spine. It is a very interesting read. Can you imagine living your life as white young boys with privileges only to be snatched up and taken to live with your father’s side of the family who are black and not so privileged (monetarily that is because they’re very privileged in other areas)? And, it’s a true story.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
1:40 pm

@ Leggs – Yeah, that’s that GNS good stuff.

@SC – Ginseng from a health food store, or buy it, and put it in tea (ginger too). Be mindful to cycle off that stuff; but it’ll keep you going and it’s not bad for you in limited amounts (no more than 2 cups of tea a day though)

@Slim – X is a crack addict; his personality is addicted to that hard white

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:42 pm

@Slim ~ “Life on the Color Line,” by Gregory Howard Williams. I got a hardback copy from Amazon.com for $3.95.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:44 pm

@Dan ~ brain frazzled, been up since 3:45 am. What is GNS?

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
1:44 pm

A great batter system with ur ex..

now that some hustling Leggs! :lol:

and it’s ur ex so whatever u give Up,it’s All good.

As long as u doing it for lil Leggs…

batter?
that’s some grown woman talk Leggs! :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:46 pm

Ex – I asked about DMX because him and his wife are on the Celibrity counseling show and he sort of showed his ass on one of the last episodes. I believe she said he’s fathered 6 kids with other women during their marriage. At one point on the show he jumped up and basically said he was going to continue to eff chicks until his dizzle falls off and that he NEVER wanted to get married.

Dan – Yeah, buddy is on something harder than the green stuff. I guess I’ve never really seen him in a conversational type situation such as the therapy before. Has me sitting there like WOOOOOOOW! I think he has one of those personalities that he is going to do what he wants to do and he’s going to go out doing just that. He’ll probably never ever get clean nor wants to it seems. I just hope he gets some great time in with all of his kids before anything really bad happens

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
1:47 pm

Good Ninja iSht

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 5th, 2012
1:47 pm

Hello All!!

A sistah gets a moment to breathe and pops in!! Hope everyone is doing well!!

So whats going on party people?!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
1:48 pm

Yeah @Slim: X bypassed the alcohol and went straight to crack when he got on…

What’s this about you getting pregnant? What news from the ‘Dec?

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:51 pm

Ex – Why are you in such a hurry for me to get pregnant??

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:57 pm

@Ex ~ what I give up most is gas…take it anyway you like (lol).

@Dan ~ I thought so, only good night isht going on are those words!!

Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways? – I think so, especially if it’s mostly an attitude problem, and not a character problem.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:58 pm

Dan – Don’t fall for the baby rumors…my uterus is free and clear of any fertilized eggs and lil agent man soldiers. I don’t know if that’s Ex’s hint to me to trap Agent man to lock him in or what but it’s not true. He’s thinking about buying another house so baby talk is not on the table.

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:01 pm

Slim…coz I luv to see a slim & small body pushing a baby.

I think that DMX is kinda like Bobby in some way..even Whitney…

can’t take them away from the crack..

Even the jittery type cracky mannerisms are a tell tell of crackdiction!

Whitney had them so does Bobby

DMX too I guess…

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2012
2:02 pm

Just sending a shoutout to all the blog ladies. How are you all doing?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

Hey Dreams how are you!

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

Ex – I guess you should’ve been a OB/GYN Doc then….but for some reason, you’d probably end up losing your med license. A chick would come in just to renew her birth control and you’d have her getting a breast exam before you wrote the Rx :shock:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:07 pm

Hey there DreamsM! I’m tired, but well this afternoon. How you doing?

disco

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

leggs – life on the color line is without a doubt one of my favorite biographies. no pun intended but they did have a “colorful” life. re: your 1:39 re living with their black family. how about the shock of just plain learning that your father was black??? they didn’t even know that much.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Slim ~ DMX and his wife look alike. Guess that’s what happens when you been around someone as long as they have. That woman has put up with a lot of BS throughout their marriage. What’s strange is all the crying she’s doing over something she apparently tolerated. Her love for him is stronger than her love for herself.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Leggs: I think it’s nice that you and the ex are civil enough to barter favors. :)

@Slim: We can have a blog baby shower!! :) I went to a baby shower a couple of weeks ago, and some of the games were crazy! I was like :shock:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:13 pm

@disco ~ and in the instant they found out, the older son no longer saw him as an Italian man, but a high yella mulatto. No doubt, this book is an emotional train wreck. I should be finished reading it tonight or tomorrow the latest.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

ITL – Whoa, whoa, whoa kimo sabe! No blog baby showers here…Speaking of which, I’m in charge of party favors for my bf’s baby shower and i’m not having much luck on ideas. It’s going to be a co-ed shower. Any suggestions folks?

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

@ITL ~ I’m pretty sure that by me taking the “high road” early on in our divorce has helped him to better barter with me. Like Shirley Strawberry always say, “bitterness is not sexy!”

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2012
2:16 pm

“I’m in charge of party favors for my bf’s baby shower and i’m not having much luck on ideas. It’s going to be a co-ed shower. Any suggestions folks?”

Condoms?

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
2:17 pm

I’ve been slammed with calls today but with all the love flowing in here today, no point in trying to speak on topic.

I’ll just say I’m glad Jesus Christ the righteous is the judge of us all and the one to right the wrongs in people’s lives. I don’t worry or fret too much over what people think. Usually you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t…lol It’s always easier to look around at what others can fix. That’s probably jerkdom but hey…shrugs

As someone said, tolerate what you can and what you can move it along.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:20 pm

@Slim ~ you can cut napkins into little diapers. Put a dab of chocolate in one (imitating poop) and who ever gets that diaper gets a prize.

Or, you can do the constant toilet paper game. Have everyone pull whatever length they think will wrap around the mother’s belly. The one close or on point, wins a prize.

Or, you can do safety pins in a bowl of rice game. The one who has the most safety pins in the allotted time wins. The key to this is that safety pins and rice feel the same. Most have more rice than pins. Naturally, they can’t look while they’re digging for the pins. It’s quite funny.

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Leggs.DMX wife is getting the money,staying put and cheating on him

In any case I don’t think he has time to do what it do with the drugs.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Or, you can give each attendee about 3 safety pins to start off with. Pick a word, and throughout the baby shower whoever says that word loses a pin. The one with the most pins wins. So, by this people are listening to other people convo making sure that word is not used. E.g, “baby.” It’s hard not to say that word at a baby shower.

Another game for women is that they can only cross there legs by the ankle. Who ever forgets and cross over the knee loses a safety pin. Just another safety pin game.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

The men will get a kick watching the women legs and telling their mate or gf to “look, she’s has her legs crossed the wrong way (lolol).

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

@Slim: Besides Swiss’s idea, a “goodie” bag comes to mind filled with things like a rubber duckie, pastel candy (tons of this available now, for Easter), maybe a magnetic frame to put a pic of the new baby in, etc….

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:26 pm

Well, Ex, guess there are women who want the money over severe heartache….

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:26 pm

Leggs – Those are some great game ideas but someone else is doing games. I’m trying to come up with the take home favors that could be unisex in nature for the co-ed deal.

swiss – If kids weren’t going to be at the shower, then condoms would be a great idea. lol

disco

April 5th, 2012
2:27 pm

swiss – condoms are ideal. might even find some in pink and blue. earplugs are another good favor to pass around. their sort of gag gifts but it’s all in fun.

leggs – you doing favors or games? since it’s a co-ed shower it might be fun to have a drinking contest. let the guys put some beer in their bottles and have at it. see who is the master of the nipple.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:30 pm

We played a game where there were about 10-12 boxes/bars of candy on the table (the movie theater box, and king size bars, although that’s not necessary). Each candy had a baby- or birth-related word associated with it. First person to guess which candy went with which word won the candy. For example: Lactation = Milky Way; Water Breaking = Starburst; Pre-term Labor = Now and Later, etc, etc…

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:30 pm

ITL – Yeah I was leaning towards a goodie bag idea but struggled with what to put in it. Have a few ideas already and the small frame was one, the blue gum cigars that say “Its a boy!”, some other types of candies (maybe wrapped in the mom and dads name since they will not be revealing the baby name until birth time)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:31 pm

Strip poker

(see what I did there?)

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:32 pm

@Slim ~ sorry, you did say party favors, not games. My mistake.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

see who is the master of the nipple

disco – 5, 4, 3, 2…… (you have these fellas in here salivating already :lol:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

I like master of the nipple. I can only imagine the laughs.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:34 pm

@Slim: Cute ideas! I’ve also seen small jars of honey with “custom” labels printed that say, “Sweet as Can Bee” with the shower date and Baby Smith. Cute, easy, and inexpensive.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:35 pm

SCool – If you are still around, I do understand. Just give a sister a shout out when you can! Tell M I said hey.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:36 pm

Oooh, one more Slim and then I’ll quit (yes, I promise guys!). You can put a bag of microwave popcorn in each one with a little label that says, “Jasmine is about to POP!” :)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:37 pm

Is it boughie that I don’t fly standby?

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:39 pm

Leggs – Any news yet?

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

Leggs – It’s all good. I’m going to pass those ideas on to the person doing the games. It’s a collective effort so it doesn’t fall all on one person. ;-) Thanks!

Dan – What’s the big deal with standby? You hate the idea of getting knocked and knocked and knocked for a seat then maybe for a whole other flight or what? Or does it just seem like a cheap unpredictable way to travel?

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

Dan – I wouldn’t think so, sounds to me you just like having set reservations. Unless you work for an airline, like I have in the past, where it was always standby, but then it was free too! You just didn’t try to get on a flight you knew was full.

If having definite plans is boughie, the I am too!

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim..so ur bf has a baby shower for another girl he got prego?

Or u talking bout ur BFF

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

I’m going out of town tomorrow and my wife booked the ticket. I called when they said “the seat will be assigned…” and asked if I was flying standby.

She said “you sound offended….ole boughie DAN”

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:55 pm

Ex – My best friend…not my boyfriend

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

swiss – condoms are ideal. might even find some in pink and blue. earplugs are another good favor to pass around. their sort of gag gifts but it’s all in fun.

@disco: I’ve did event planning as a side gig for awhile, and I always wanted to have a Cinco de Mayo party where the pinata was filled with adult goodies!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

I’ve did?!?!? Lawd have mercy on me and my typos…..

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

Dan – Sounds like you have a reservation but not the actual seat assignment. We flew on Air Tran to DC back in December and they charged extra for advanced seat assignments. Since I mostly fly Delta, I was not used to that.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

@kimmie ~ still no news!

@Slim ~ cool.

disco

April 5th, 2012
3:03 pm

ITL – you have time to make that happen. get enough tequila in folks and that might turn into one heck of a party.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

@disco: That’s what I’m afraid of. Tequila, blindfolds, and a swinging stick…. Drunk people with bats are scary!! :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

Ok, the sleepy monster is slowing starting to have an effect on me. It doesn’t help that it’s starting to get all dark, cloudy and windy now either.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:12 pm

I know what you mean, Slim. I had to go get a glass of tea!

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

“Tequila, blindfolds, and a swinging stick…”

ITL — Sounds like our last date, boo… :lol:

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:16 pm

Dang, Swiss…I just choked on my tea! You crack me up!! :) :lol:

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:16 pm

Leggs – You all might have to go to the websites to check your status. That’s crazy or else I’m just going crazy!! I went on one and they said they mailed out all the decisions last Friday!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:19 pm

@kimmie & Leggs: HUH??

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
3:19 pm

WOW…ok I’ll do that.

Sleep monster is resting on my eyelids.

PEACE!

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
3:20 pm

@ITL ~ we’re talking about college admissions.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:21 pm

QUESTION: Is anyone watching Celebrity Apprentice?!? I was watching the previews, and could have sworn I saw Arsenio crying!!!

(I thought of you, disco!) :)

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
3:23 pm

ITL – swiss beat me to it…I automatically thought bats swinging = swinging Richards + tequila and blindfolds = One helluva party :lol:

I just choked on my tea!

One of the bats didn’t fall in your tea did it? :o op: (to the corner I go)

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
3:28 pm

ITL – I have seen tidbits of the show but I have not come across Arsenio crying yet. Woooow! Someone must have done his “woo woo woo fist pump” wrong

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:32 pm

LOL@Slim. You are on a roll this afternoon!!! :)

disco

April 5th, 2012
3:33 pm

y’all crack jokes about my aversion to tears all y’all want. I asked people to start paying attention to how often they see images of chicks crying on tv. turns out they cry on movies, in commercials, during sporting events, when they are happy, when they are sad, when they are scared. they cry when they are in trouble and they cry in an attempt to keep from getting in trouble. it’s just tear overload. I can’t take it. I said I’m going to use my aversion to tears to get out of jury duty. just going to have to tell the judge/attorneys that I’m automatically going to doubt whoever gets on the stand and starts crying. all that crying just isn’t necessary.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:35 pm

disco

April 5th, 2012
3:39 pm

kimmie – it’s all smiles but I mean it. I can’t stand when a person cries when recounting an incident. it just seems contrived. I’ve had much bad stuff happen in my life but nothing that makes me cry just to think or talk about it. I’d be sitting in the jury box trying to keep from rolling my eyes.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:46 pm

@disco: I wasn’t cracking jokes, well, not really. Until you mentioned it, I’ve never really noticed how many folks are on TV crying all the time.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:47 pm

disco – Actually, you’re not the first person I’ve heard convey those sentiments about crying. I’m about in the middle on it.

disco

April 5th, 2012
3:49 pm

ITL – not necessarily you and not necessarily today but the jokes get cracked re how I can’t tolerate crying. it’s all good and I’m surely not offended when it does happen because I really can’t stand unnecessary crying (and in my opinion so much of it is unnecessary).

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:50 pm

I can deal with it when it’s truly a sad situation like your child died or something. But like the other night I was watching Biggest Loser. Someone was talking about how far they’ve come since they started the show and next thing you know they are crying. And it’s every week. I’m like, come on! I hate to be heartless, but it’s really gotten old now.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
3:56 pm

“There’s no crying in BASEBALL!!!” (Tom Hanks in League of Their Own) :D

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:57 pm

@Kimmie: That’s why I don’t watch Extreme Makeover – those folks start bawling and next thing you know, my tender-hearted self is crying, too! :lol:

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:59 pm

Light – Yeah, I stopped watching that and now that we are talking about it, for that very reason. The sappy hollering all the time!!!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
4:17 pm

I know, right?!?! Too much for me.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
4:28 pm

30 more minutes!!!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
4:34 pm

And I am counting down, Slim. This has been a long-arse day! :)

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
4:39 pm

ITL – I was already trying to plan dinner & a Red Box movie since before lunch today, if that tells ya something lol

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
4:41 pm

It’s the perfect night for dinner in and a Red Box/On Demand movie. Anything worth seeing???

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
4:47 pm

ITL – To be honest, not really. I’m still scrounging…I actually rented “The Sitter” from a blockbuster kiosk last week and it was actually entertaining. I guess it just depends on your taste in movies. I might get some jerk chicken & oxtails for tonight. ;-)

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
4:53 pm

Mmmmm, that sounds good. On Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives the other night they were profiling a Jamaican place. Their oxtails looked SO GOOD! :)

Maybe I’ll get The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo…haven’t seen that yet.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
4:56 pm

On an unrelated note, I see Charles Manson is up for parole….

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
8:49 am

Happy Friday Folks!!

Looks like it’s going to be a bootlegg blogging kind of day.

Hello?
Hello?
Hello?

Anybody in herrrrrrr?

disco

April 6th, 2012
9:03 am

hey slim. you working or at home bored? i’m at home bored. making a list for a home depot run later.

Sassy Me...Beaming!! ;-)

April 6th, 2012
9:21 am

MARCO!?!?!?

We bootleg bloggin today Slim n disco?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
9:22 am

disco – Morning chica! I’m at work…we only get the main holidays here but I do get off at 3 today. Woo hoo hooo! Going to head to Bama to see my peeps

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
9:24 am

Sassy – Whatchu beaming bout and can I get some too? ;-)

Sassy Me...Beaming!! ;-)

April 6th, 2012
9:27 am

Whatchu beaming bout

In honor of the late great Whitney…the song You give good love sums it up!! :lol:

Sassy Me...Beaming!! ;-)

April 6th, 2012
9:30 am

Okay y’all gotta go do some work… just in case I cough, cough, don’t feel well later :oops:

I feel a Harry Houdini coming on…

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
9:42 am

Morning…dagnabit, I put a bigger hole in my holey jeans climbing through this crawl space.

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
9:42 am

Sassy – Well, in that case, I’ll let you have that one so beam on sistah. And I think you may be contagious cough cough

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
10:04 am

Leggs – That’s quite okay since no one is around to see it. I just hope it isn’t a hole in the back of your pants. Did you catch up on some much needed sleep last night?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
10:11 am

@Slim ~ I sure did. Got under the covers as soon as the new show Scandal went off and slept like a newborn baby who finally sleeps through the night. Any of you seen it? Shonda Rhimes has another hit on her hands. This is a must see show.

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
10:12 am

I have not even heard of that show honestly…what kind of show is it? Do tell (I don’t feel like I’ve much tv lately at all)

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
10:17 am

I don’t feel like I’ve WATCHED much tv lately

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
10:25 am

It’s a show about an investigative team led by Kerry Washington. They are not a law firm, and they don’t work legally with law enforcement. They are a crisis management team of experts in their own right. They run a tight ship and make problems “go away” for their clients. She leads with her “gut feeling” which is never wrong. She’s shoots straight from the hip, no nonsense, strong woman with a soft side. Excellent cast!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
10:42 am

Kerry Washington huh? Sounds like it may be a good show to try to get into. Seems like reality tv is taking over everything else. However, I wonder if this show you speak of will be like a House where you sort of know whats going to happen every episode just with different characters

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
10:45 am

Dang! I scraped my arm climbing over the fence. :( But I did find an earring. This belong to any of you ladies?

Bootleg blogging! I’m feeling GANGSTA! :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
10:49 am

ITL – That’s probably my navel ring. I’ve seemed to have lost it. THanks though you GANGSTA GIRL!!! :lol: Maybe we should tag the place, bring graffiti back

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
10:49 am

@Slim ~ there was a scene where the new girl was in the bathroom crying. One of the guys went in and told her there’s no crying on this team. Never let Olivia (the woman in charge) see her crying, ever. No one cries. She responds with who tells another not to cry? I shouted “DISCO” and fell out laughing…sorry disco, no offense. While he was reciting his lines I just put you in that role knowing you could deliver those lines probably more convincinly than he had.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
10:51 am

(shaking up my can of paint): Where do you wanna start, Slim?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:00 am

ITL – Let’s start with the MLB locker room :evil:

Leggs – :lol: We aren’t going to let her live that down

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:02 am

Come on now, this is our home away from home, we can’t spray paint. However, we can toilet paper the place…it is Spring Break.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:04 am

@Slim: Bet!! :evil:

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:06 am

@Leggs: Aw, c’mon. Just a little tag?!?!? :oops:

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:11 am

Well, I guess I can settle for TP’ing the place instead of tagging it. I’m going to hang some condoms filled with lube in their lockers though :lol:

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:12 am

Naw, don’t do it, ITL. Look at the those young punks who sprayed painted their school and a school vehicle all because it’s a traditional senior PRANK. Valedictorian of his class now facing a felony and may not even graduate with his class. Like my child’s essay says “All Actions Have Consequences” (lol)…it’s not worth what the MLBs will come back and do to us….put that can of paint down! :lol:

Let’s find something else to do that’s fun and less destructive.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:13 am

:lol: :lol: :lol: @Slim…good one!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:21 am

And we can hang some Super Huge granny panties from the ceiling too. I think they’ll like that. ;-)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:29 am

Yeah, it could be their ceiling fan.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:31 am

Okay, Leggs. I guess you’re right…..

Can we put itching powder in their jocks?!?!? :evil: I kid, I kid….

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:36 am

How about we make hammocks out of them. The boys will think we turned this place into a mini vacay type spot. We can even throw in some massage tables but what they won’t know is the people that will be massaging them will be retired wrestlers. :lol:

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:38 am

HA! Good one, Slim. :)

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:44 am

So what are you ladies going to get into this weekend?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Naw, we don’t want to inflict that kind of pain on them, especially swiss…that dude is too cool…let’s leave that part alone!

Going to cook a nice dinner for Sunday, chill for the most part. Have a convo with Jesus (just him and I).

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:57 am

Leggs – Sounds good, what’s on the menu?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:01 pm

Baked Ham, navy beans and rice, yams, mac n cheese, collards, sour cream pound cake. I know the navy beans are weird, but I’ve been wanting some.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:01 pm

I finally have some time to actually look at the blog and it’s not a new topic! Waaahhhh! LOL! I think this is the first time in a week that I’ve even been able to check in!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:02 pm

@Leggs…can I come over? That menu sounds delicious!!!! I think we’re just doing burgers at my parent’s house. Since mom had cancer and had a kidney removed last summer, we just keep it easy for holiday meals.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:05 pm

Sure bluz. You have my email?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

Well, come get a plate for Mama!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

Blu – Howdy Bluz, what’s been up with ya? Have you been feeling much better these days, more up beat?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:08 pm

Just kidding Leggs…it does sound yummy, though!

Slim…I’m a little up and down. Still kind of dealing with the break up and then the death of a close friend a few weeks ago. It’s just been a lot, but I’m keeping busy and trying to stay more up beat. It comes and goes…Thanks for asking!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:10 pm

Did you ever find a home for the doggie?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:15 pm

Unfortunately, my friend’s wife ended up having animal control get him. He bit a good friend of mine pretty bad and I contacted so many rescues who said they would not take a human aggressive dog and that the best thing would be to have him put down because he may not be able to be rehabbed. Such a sad situation, but I think he’s running around in Heaven with daddy now.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:15 pm

Okay…snuck downstairs for a sammy and now I’m good to work through lunch.

(waving) Hey Bluz! I was thinking about you the other day and wondering if the puppy had found a forever home.

@Leggs: I’m going to my mama’s for Easter dinner, but if I wasn’t I’d be trying to wrangle an invitation to Casa Leggs! That sounds GOOD!! We’re having ham and brocolli casserole and I’m not sure what else. My daddy was hinting for a banana pudding, but we’ll see…..

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:18 pm

Hey ITL!!! I thought about you the other day also…we had a memorial gathering for my friend at Northside Tavern on Sunday. I should have told you about it to see if you could have come so I could meet you!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:19 pm

@Bluz: I would’ve come! I haven’t been to NT in forever!!! Meant to ask you the other day if you know Lola…

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:20 pm

Bluz – Well, at least they are being reunited up in the skies. It’s just one of those bitter sweet moments of life.

ITL – Seems like folks have been talking about banana pudding all week at work. I’m not into the stuff nor anything banana flavored….yet I eat bananas. Go figure lol Now Peach Cobbler is a whole nother story :D

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:22 pm

Oh yes…I know Lola! She is awesome!!! Next Saturday (14th), I’ll be there for a benefit show that I helped plan for the Sean Costello Memorial Fund for Bipolar Research. Did you ever see Sean play there?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:27 pm

@Bluz ~ I know you’re kidding. Everyone kids on here when we get to “getting a plate” part.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:31 pm

My daddy LOVES it, Slim, but I only make it on special occassions. :) I might make him one, we’ll see how tomorrow goes….. I think my mama is making a peach cobbler for my birthday dinner. YUM! :lol:

I heart Lola, Bluz. I might come down for the show, just depends on how next weekend goes. I know we’re going to the Braves game Friday night, but not sure what other birthday festivities might be on tap.

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
12:55 pm

hello ladies,

just thought i’d pop in to break up a busy day of errands and house hunting. is there an unofficial topic?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:05 pm

cz – It’s Freelance Friday so if you have something for us, please share.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
1:10 pm

Hey there czB! Zooming in on any potential prospects???

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

I’ve got a dating question. I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut. We have emailed and texted several times, but have yet to talk on the phone. He is really sweet over text, email, and Facebook. He is a very, very busy man (finally met one with a good job with a PhD). I’m not going to call him because I want him to call me. How do I get it across to him that I would actually like to have a phone conversation before he comes back to Atlanta to visit? I haven’t been in the dating world in a while. He does seem very interested electronically!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

I’ve got a dating question. I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut. We have emailed and texted several times, but have yet to talk on the phone. He is really sweet over text, email, and Facebook. He is a very, very busy man (finally met one with a good job with a PhD). I’m not going to call him because I want him to call me. How do I get it across to him that I would actually like to have a phone conversation before he comes back to Atlanta to visit? I haven’t been in the dating world in a while. He does seem very interested electronically!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

Oops…sorry it posted twice…

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
1:24 pm

Hey czB!! Happy Good Friday.

Bluz, I can’t imagine a man who would consider coming to Atlanta WITHOUT calling first. I would hope in addition to intelligence he has a healthy dose of manners and common decency. Remember: don’t set the bar too low….. IJS….

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:28 pm

ITL – Yeah, you don’t want to get into the habit or set the foundation to rely soley on virtual communication.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
1:32 pm

2points each for Slim and ITL for solid advice….What up Ladies, do I have ya’ll all to myself today?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:33 pm

I came across this posed question: Who would be more apt to cheat, an independent woman or a needy woman??? What do yall think?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

He has family and friends here in Atlanta. He was going to try to come this weekend, but other things came up and then the flight was too expensive. He wants to get back down here soon to see his friends, as well as hang out with me face to face. He’s such a cutie and has a wonderful British accent…I want to hear that voice! I’m not pushing it, though, because I’m not ready to get too involved with anyone. I’m trying to go with the flow…

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:39 pm

Jake – You do for as long as we are still up in this camp. Did you notice the new hammocks we got for the fellas. :D

Take It From Me

April 6th, 2012
1:44 pm

BluzG, never accept less than what you’re worth. Take it from me, manners and common decency are exactly right. If you’re not worth a phone call and f2f visit, then neither is he.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
1:46 pm

Yea I noticed them, but that is our locker room, how ya’ll get in…and somebody been fugging, its condoms all over the place…lol

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:49 pm

Blu – I would find it really hard to want to meet a guy I hadn’t even talked on the phone with. How is it that out of emailing, texting, fb’ing that you all have NEVER spoken or no one has mentioned a PHONE CALL yet? Weird…if you can fb, then obviously you can talk. At least with a phone convo, your hands can be free (surely he has a bluetooth)

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
1:53 pm

Jake — Sorry about the mess, bro. I would have cleaned up, but the ladies put my azz to sleep… :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:56 pm

Jake – The hammocks are compliments of the WLB but I don’t know anything about fugging going on. Did yall leave Ex in here last night unattended?

I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut

Blu – So did you all ever meet face to face or someone just gave you his info thinking yall might be a good match?? Explain how you ‘met this guy thru a mutual friend’???

disco

April 6th, 2012
2:01 pm

hey y’all. what’s going on? i’m about to have some talks with some neighbors re their dogs. i am not an animal person, have never had a pet and yet there is dog do in my yard. wtf? i do not play this mess. the neighborhood is pet friendly and there are dog stations throughout. folks are just lazy but will be dealt with. AND a childhood friend phoned this morning to announce that she, her hubby and her daughter are in town. hubs wanted to inform me ahead of time. she wanted to surprise me. i don’t get it. whew…. thanks for being a sounding board guys.

disco

April 6th, 2012
2:02 pm

leggs – i would have cracked up if i’d heard the no crying lecture

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
2:02 pm

Okay, it was Swiss, next time clean up brother, nobody wants to mistakely put there hand in that stuff….thanks for the hammocks ladies, they are real comfy.

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
2:06 pm

Jake – No problem, the crotch….cough cough, oops, I meant the pillow part is extra padded for your comfort. ;-)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Bluz ~ I don’t understand how a person can carry on a convo weeks in, months out soley on text, FB and IM. Not that you two are necessarily forging a relationship, but why start out strictly through virtual communication? If you accept that as THE only means of communication, that’s what you will get going forward. Listen, anyone can say anything via text, FB, even IM…doesn’t make it true! Be careful, this is not how grown folk get to know each other.

@disco – you would have stared at the TV in :shock: Then you would have been :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:12 pm

If they have an encore, try to catch it and stay with it up until the bathroom scene (about 15 mins in). Priceless since since it’s a pet peeve of yours.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
2:19 pm

We met in person while he was in town visiting his family and our mutual friend. Our friend thought we would make a good match. I think we kind of do, but hard to tell through just email and text. In the last email I sent him, I mentioned that he could call me anytime. It is a bit weird. I’d like to see how it is face to face when he comes back to town. Like I said…I’m really not pushing because I’m not ready for much, but it would be nice if he called. How do I call him out on that and tell him that I’d like to actually talk to him on the phone sometime without sounding pushy?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
2:24 pm

Basically keep it real…hey I noticed that it has been our way to text, email, fb but I would really like to have a good old fashion phone convo or something to that effect.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
2:25 pm

Bluz: If asking for what you want (and what common decency dictates he should do) makes you pushy, then so be it. And again I say, I know you feel damaged, but don’t let that dictate where you set the bar going forward.

@Swiss and Jake: Y’all are too funny!! :)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:26 pm

How do I call him out on that and tell him that I’d like to actually talk to him on the phone sometime without sounding pushy?

You already told him Bluz when you told him he can call any time he like. He heard you.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:28 pm

Whatever your reasoning for not wanting to call him first, put it aside and see if you actually have a telephone conversation or if for some strange reason he rushes off the phone. How many text messages do you guys exchange in a day?

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
2:29 pm

Bluz: I hope you understand that I don’t mean “damaged” as an insult. I meant you’ve been through a lot emotionally lately, and it’s easy to second guess yourself and your actions when you’re in that place. :)

Exiled!

April 6th, 2012
2:30 pm

Howdee folks!

Bluz?

I think in ur next life u gon be chicken feed! :lol:

Coz u always have something to feed the masses with.

Sorry,the Jesus,feed the folks with five fish role is taken already! :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
2:31 pm

Yall be good and Happy Easter…i’m out!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
2:33 pm

Lucky you, Slim!! :) Have a good one, and a safe trip to Bama.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
2:33 pm

I know what you mean by “damaged.” It’s the truth! Maybe I’m afraid to call him first and he doesn’t answer or doesn’t call me back. We don’t text every day. He’s been really busy at work and I’ve had a lot going on, which he knows. We have only emailed a few times and text every few days or so. He did already call me “honey” on FB. That’s more than what my ex did! LOL

I may be leaning on you guys while I start out on this dating thing! My last few relationships where with people I already knew and was friends with, so I haven’t really been “out there” much. It’s a little scary. I’m not quite ready yet, but will be soon, I think.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
2:34 pm

Happy Easter Slim!!!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
2:38 pm

Bluz: Have you ever heard the expression “We teach people how to treat us”? Keep that in mind going forward. You spend more time with you than anyone else ever will – so make sure you fall in love with you (again!) before considering letting anyone else in. Know what you bring to the table and what you have to offer. I’d bet it’s good stuff. :)

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
2:39 pm

Okay, I’ve gotta finish up a project. My boss said I can leave, but I have too much work to do. Now that stinks! :(

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:43 pm

Happy Easter, Slim!

@Bluz ~ don’t want to burst your bubble, but let’s keep it real. Him calling you honey probably doesn’t mean much. It’s a “sweet nothing.” An empty form of endearment. Sounds good, just saying don’t put too much stock into the word at this juncture.

I ask all that re texting because I’ve exchanged numbers with someone and that’s all he does. He’s 57 and I’m not having it. I called him and informed him that texting is good for some things, but let’s have an old fashioned telephone conversation. Still no phone call, but he’s hell bent on texting. I no longer respond.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:44 pm

” We teach people how to treat us” – That’s it right there! Thats gospel!!!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
3:02 pm

Leggs…I know it may not mean anything by him calling me honey, but it’s a nice ego boost right now!

We’ll see what happens. When we text over the weekend, I’ll mention something about talking on the phone sometime. I want to hear that cute British accent he has!!! Then again, it might make me melt because it is so sexy! LOL

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
3:07 pm

Then that’s a wonderful thing, Bluz. Ego boosting comes in all forms. Take that which works for you.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
3:10 pm

I’ve kind of needed the ego boost lately after all I’ve gone through. Even if it turns to nothing, at least it’s making me feel good right now. If nothing else, I’ve got a new friend!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
3:12 pm

Please…he’s hot!!!! It’s nice to have a hot, intelligent man interested in me!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
3:15 pm

Plus…not please!

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
3:17 pm

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
3:29 pm

sorry ladies. was overcome with a serious hankering for monster nachos and a cold beer, so i had to make a run to publix. now catching back up.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
3:32 pm

All you lovely women, have a wonderful weekend…You guys are sweet, beautiful, talented women with wonderful spirits…you are who you are by his grace and mercy, and no one can change that. When you step outside this evening, do me this favor, look up and thank The Almighty for making you, uniquely you….Happy Easter!!!!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
3:34 pm

Ooooh, czB! That sounds SO GOOD!!! :)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
3:35 pm

Thank you, Jake. I will do just that. Nice post!

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
3:39 pm

I think in ur next life u gon be chicken feed!
oh my goodness. what the he!!? guess i’m gonna have to read back further.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
3:54 pm

What a lovely post, Jake. Thank you for taking the time to share that with us. :)

Happy Easter. He is risen indeed!

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
3:56 pm

light, just popped open my second miller and refilled the toppings on my nachos. good friday indeed!

bluz, if you’re not quite ready for a relationship then don’t ask him to call you. ask him if it’s ok for you to call him. at least that way you control the pace (to some degree) and don’t feel beholden to his whim.

where’d everybody go?

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
3:58 pm

cz: Slice up some more jalapenos and chill an extra beer – I’m on the way!! :)

SWISS????

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:01 pm

Unfortunately, I’m still here.

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

You rang, ITL?

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:09 pm

Hey! i was missing you! ;)

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

penos sliced and four brews still chillin. i’m taking a break from shoveling when i finish this round, so you’re good to go.

leggs, this man is woefully lacking in single friends. but you are not forgotten. how’d the second date go? i know it’s been a while. has there already been a third? fourth?

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

Wait, what?!?!? Second dates? Leggs, are you holding out on me??? ;)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:19 pm

Thanks, czB. Keep on your ps and qs.

That wasn’t the second date when asked if it was a “repeat.” Things are going well. Going slow, but things are nice.

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
4:20 pm

If it makes you feel any better, ITL, I’m eating your pdu$$y in spirit. :lol:

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
4:20 pm

cz…that’s not a bad idea. I’m open to something down the line…just not quite yet. We’re in the “getting to know each other” phase. There may be a part of me that is afraid that if we start talking on the phone, that I may become too attached. I don’t want a rebound!!! That’s not fair to either one of is. I’ll see what the weekend brings…Thanks all!!!

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:25 pm

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
4:26 pm

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Bluz, repeat after me: 1….2….3….. (now deep breath in aaaaaannnnnd exhale)…..

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

awwww. happiness! luv to read that “things are nice”. that’s a great way to put it.

no worries, girl. i think it’s very important to keep things at a pace, distance and frequency that YOU’RE comfortable with if you’re just coming out of a difficult relationship. if you leave it all up to the dude, and he doesn’t respond the way you would like, you’re likely to start second guessing yourself your worth, your prospects, etc. you really don’t need that right now.
sorry, i don’t know your back story so the advice is kinda generic, but it’s meant with much luv all the same.

** now suffering that uncomfortable “overfull” feeling. yuk! putting the rest of the nachos and fixins aside for ITL.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:33 pm

ITL gets the nachos after they’ve become a little wilted (lol).

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
4:34 pm

1…2…3…BREATHE!!! LOL!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:35 pm

Thanks, cz!!

@Mean Girl Leggs: I don’t mind the wilted ones (well, nachos) as long as they’re not TOO soggy.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:36 pm

Good job, Bluz! Feel better? :)

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
4:37 pm

I’m a little ticked off right now…I work until five, but we close the doors at 4. Usually, on a holiday weekend, my boss will tell us to leave at 4. She hasn’t said a word about leaving early. Not like she has to, but it just irks me a little!

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:37 pm

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:39 pm

@Bluz ~ mine just came out of his office saying “well I think we are JUST ABOUT done here. I know his tricks. I didn’t say a word! I remember years ago asking if I could leave early the day before Thanksgiving. You only have to give me a smart answer one time. I never walked back into his den ever since!

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
4:40 pm

Have a great weekend, everybody!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
4:40 pm

Yes…feel better!

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:41 pm

You too,, swiss

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

nope. not wilted. nachos are bagged and fixins are in separate bowls.

leggs, your relationship with your boss makes me howl!

ciao, swiss!!

why to i feel like hitting the starlight for some ‘hunger games’ tonight?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:46 pm

Now, that’s the way to do it, czB. Separation. My style.

My boss is a mess. It’s a control issue, and I’m not giving in. I know my hours,so I quietly sit here not giving him an inkling that my butt wants to go home.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
4:47 pm

WOW, he just said “you can abandon ship.”

Have a great weekend everyone!

Happy Easter!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:49 pm

Bye, Swissykins!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
4:49 pm

Happy Easter!!! I got 10 minutes left and I’m out of here. Have a good one. Hopefully, I’ll have more time to check in next week!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
4:50 pm

Bye, Leggs! Have a happy Easter!

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
4:52 pm

i kinda waste pto by taking off the day before a holiday weekend because our boss lady usually cuts us loose early anyway, but i don’t care. i rather have the entire day and a longer weekend.

well, time to get on with the rest of my day.

wishing all a blessed holy weekend. take a moment to be thankful for the sacrifice that gave us all a chance at forgiveness and a hope of eternal paradise.

ciao!