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Are you dating a jerk?

I never understood why so many single people put up with bad behavior or rudeness when it came to dating. If these things rear their heads in dating, imagine what being in a relationship with the person will be like?

It happens a lot, sadly, and I wonder if there is some reason for it. If you notice such things as quick tempers, rude to servers, tardiness, and other jerk behavior, why give the person second and third dates?

Why are we so drawn to jerks? I know that no one is perfect, but it seems that many of us endure certain things longer then we should and then wonder why we end up dating a jerk.

How do you know when you are dating a jerk or if someone just has a few bad days? Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:12 am

Naw, don’t do it, ITL. Look at the those young punks who sprayed painted their school and a school vehicle all because it’s a traditional senior PRANK. Valedictorian of his class now facing a felony and may not even graduate with his class. Like my child’s essay says “All Actions Have Consequences” (lol)…it’s not worth what the MLBs will come back and do to us….put that can of paint down! :lol:

Let’s find something else to do that’s fun and less destructive.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:13 am

:lol: :lol: :lol: @Slim…good one!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:21 am

And we can hang some Super Huge granny panties from the ceiling too. I think they’ll like that. ;-)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:29 am

Yeah, it could be their ceiling fan.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:31 am

Okay, Leggs. I guess you’re right…..

Can we put itching powder in their jocks?!?!? :evil: I kid, I kid….

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:36 am

How about we make hammocks out of them. The boys will think we turned this place into a mini vacay type spot. We can even throw in some massage tables but what they won’t know is the people that will be massaging them will be retired wrestlers. :lol:

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
11:38 am

HA! Good one, Slim. :)

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:44 am

So what are you ladies going to get into this weekend?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Naw, we don’t want to inflict that kind of pain on them, especially swiss…that dude is too cool…let’s leave that part alone!

Going to cook a nice dinner for Sunday, chill for the most part. Have a convo with Jesus (just him and I).

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
11:57 am

Leggs – Sounds good, what’s on the menu?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:01 pm

Baked Ham, navy beans and rice, yams, mac n cheese, collards, sour cream pound cake. I know the navy beans are weird, but I’ve been wanting some.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:01 pm

I finally have some time to actually look at the blog and it’s not a new topic! Waaahhhh! LOL! I think this is the first time in a week that I’ve even been able to check in!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:02 pm

@Leggs…can I come over? That menu sounds delicious!!!! I think we’re just doing burgers at my parent’s house. Since mom had cancer and had a kidney removed last summer, we just keep it easy for holiday meals.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:05 pm

Sure bluz. You have my email?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

Well, come get a plate for Mama!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

Blu – Howdy Bluz, what’s been up with ya? Have you been feeling much better these days, more up beat?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:08 pm

Just kidding Leggs…it does sound yummy, though!

Slim…I’m a little up and down. Still kind of dealing with the break up and then the death of a close friend a few weeks ago. It’s just been a lot, but I’m keeping busy and trying to stay more up beat. It comes and goes…Thanks for asking!

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:10 pm

Did you ever find a home for the doggie?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:15 pm

Unfortunately, my friend’s wife ended up having animal control get him. He bit a good friend of mine pretty bad and I contacted so many rescues who said they would not take a human aggressive dog and that the best thing would be to have him put down because he may not be able to be rehabbed. Such a sad situation, but I think he’s running around in Heaven with daddy now.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:15 pm

Okay…snuck downstairs for a sammy and now I’m good to work through lunch.

(waving) Hey Bluz! I was thinking about you the other day and wondering if the puppy had found a forever home.

@Leggs: I’m going to my mama’s for Easter dinner, but if I wasn’t I’d be trying to wrangle an invitation to Casa Leggs! That sounds GOOD!! We’re having ham and brocolli casserole and I’m not sure what else. My daddy was hinting for a banana pudding, but we’ll see…..

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:18 pm

Hey ITL!!! I thought about you the other day also…we had a memorial gathering for my friend at Northside Tavern on Sunday. I should have told you about it to see if you could have come so I could meet you!

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:19 pm

@Bluz: I would’ve come! I haven’t been to NT in forever!!! Meant to ask you the other day if you know Lola…

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
12:20 pm

Bluz – Well, at least they are being reunited up in the skies. It’s just one of those bitter sweet moments of life.

ITL – Seems like folks have been talking about banana pudding all week at work. I’m not into the stuff nor anything banana flavored….yet I eat bananas. Go figure lol Now Peach Cobbler is a whole nother story :D

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
12:22 pm

Oh yes…I know Lola! She is awesome!!! Next Saturday (14th), I’ll be there for a benefit show that I helped plan for the Sean Costello Memorial Fund for Bipolar Research. Did you ever see Sean play there?

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
12:27 pm

@Bluz ~ I know you’re kidding. Everyone kids on here when we get to “getting a plate” part.

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
12:31 pm

My daddy LOVES it, Slim, but I only make it on special occassions. :) I might make him one, we’ll see how tomorrow goes….. I think my mama is making a peach cobbler for my birthday dinner. YUM! :lol:

I heart Lola, Bluz. I might come down for the show, just depends on how next weekend goes. I know we’re going to the Braves game Friday night, but not sure what other birthday festivities might be on tap.

czBrat

April 6th, 2012
12:55 pm

hello ladies,

just thought i’d pop in to break up a busy day of errands and house hunting. is there an unofficial topic?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:05 pm

cz – It’s Freelance Friday so if you have something for us, please share.

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
1:10 pm

Hey there czB! Zooming in on any potential prospects???

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

I’ve got a dating question. I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut. We have emailed and texted several times, but have yet to talk on the phone. He is really sweet over text, email, and Facebook. He is a very, very busy man (finally met one with a good job with a PhD). I’m not going to call him because I want him to call me. How do I get it across to him that I would actually like to have a phone conversation before he comes back to Atlanta to visit? I haven’t been in the dating world in a while. He does seem very interested electronically!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

I’ve got a dating question. I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut. We have emailed and texted several times, but have yet to talk on the phone. He is really sweet over text, email, and Facebook. He is a very, very busy man (finally met one with a good job with a PhD). I’m not going to call him because I want him to call me. How do I get it across to him that I would actually like to have a phone conversation before he comes back to Atlanta to visit? I haven’t been in the dating world in a while. He does seem very interested electronically!

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

Oops…sorry it posted twice…

Into the Light

April 6th, 2012
1:24 pm

Hey czB!! Happy Good Friday.

Bluz, I can’t imagine a man who would consider coming to Atlanta WITHOUT calling first. I would hope in addition to intelligence he has a healthy dose of manners and common decency. Remember: don’t set the bar too low….. IJS….

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:28 pm

ITL – Yeah, you don’t want to get into the habit or set the foundation to rely soley on virtual communication.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
1:32 pm

2points each for Slim and ITL for solid advice….What up Ladies, do I have ya’ll all to myself today?

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:33 pm

I came across this posed question: Who would be more apt to cheat, an independent woman or a needy woman??? What do yall think?

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

He has family and friends here in Atlanta. He was going to try to come this weekend, but other things came up and then the flight was too expensive. He wants to get back down here soon to see his friends, as well as hang out with me face to face. He’s such a cutie and has a wonderful British accent…I want to hear that voice! I’m not pushing it, though, because I’m not ready to get too involved with anyone. I’m trying to go with the flow…

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:39 pm

Jake – You do for as long as we are still up in this camp. Did you notice the new hammocks we got for the fellas. :D

Take It From Me

April 6th, 2012
1:44 pm

BluzG, never accept less than what you’re worth. Take it from me, manners and common decency are exactly right. If you’re not worth a phone call and f2f visit, then neither is he.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
1:46 pm

Yea I noticed them, but that is our locker room, how ya’ll get in…and somebody been fugging, its condoms all over the place…lol

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:49 pm

Blu – I would find it really hard to want to meet a guy I hadn’t even talked on the phone with. How is it that out of emailing, texting, fb’ing that you all have NEVER spoken or no one has mentioned a PHONE CALL yet? Weird…if you can fb, then obviously you can talk. At least with a phone convo, your hands can be free (surely he has a bluetooth)

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2012
1:53 pm

Jake — Sorry about the mess, bro. I would have cleaned up, but the ladies put my azz to sleep… :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
1:56 pm

Jake – The hammocks are compliments of the WLB but I don’t know anything about fugging going on. Did yall leave Ex in here last night unattended?

I met this guy shortly after my breakup through a mutual friend. He lives in Connecticut

Blu – So did you all ever meet face to face or someone just gave you his info thinking yall might be a good match?? Explain how you ‘met this guy thru a mutual friend’???

disco

April 6th, 2012
2:01 pm

hey y’all. what’s going on? i’m about to have some talks with some neighbors re their dogs. i am not an animal person, have never had a pet and yet there is dog do in my yard. wtf? i do not play this mess. the neighborhood is pet friendly and there are dog stations throughout. folks are just lazy but will be dealt with. AND a childhood friend phoned this morning to announce that she, her hubby and her daughter are in town. hubs wanted to inform me ahead of time. she wanted to surprise me. i don’t get it. whew…. thanks for being a sounding board guys.

disco

April 6th, 2012
2:02 pm

leggs – i would have cracked up if i’d heard the no crying lecture

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 6th, 2012
2:02 pm

Okay, it was Swiss, next time clean up brother, nobody wants to mistakely put there hand in that stuff….thanks for the hammocks ladies, they are real comfy.

Slim's got the fever!

April 6th, 2012
2:06 pm

Jake – No problem, the crotch….cough cough, oops, I meant the pillow part is extra padded for your comfort. ;-)

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Bluz ~ I don’t understand how a person can carry on a convo weeks in, months out soley on text, FB and IM. Not that you two are necessarily forging a relationship, but why start out strictly through virtual communication? If you accept that as THE only means of communication, that’s what you will get going forward. Listen, anyone can say anything via text, FB, even IM…doesn’t make it true! Be careful, this is not how grown folk get to know each other.

@disco – you would have stared at the TV in :shock: Then you would have been :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

April 6th, 2012
2:12 pm

If they have an encore, try to catch it and stay with it up until the bathroom scene (about 15 mins in). Priceless since since it’s a pet peeve of yours.

Bluzgirl

April 6th, 2012
2:19 pm

We met in person while he was in town visiting his family and our mutual friend. Our friend thought we would make a good match. I think we kind of do, but hard to tell through just email and text. In the last email I sent him, I mentioned that he could call me anytime. It is a bit weird. I’d like to see how it is face to face when he comes back to town. Like I said…I’m really not pushing because I’m not ready for much, but it would be nice if he called. How do I call him out on that and tell him that I’d like to actually talk to him on the phone sometime without sounding pushy?