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Are you dating a jerk?

I never understood why so many single people put up with bad behavior or rudeness when it came to dating. If these things rear their heads in dating, imagine what being in a relationship with the person will be like?

It happens a lot, sadly, and I wonder if there is some reason for it. If you notice such things as quick tempers, rude to servers, tardiness, and other jerk behavior, why give the person second and third dates?

Why are we so drawn to jerks? I know that no one is perfect, but it seems that many of us endure certain things longer then we should and then wonder why we end up dating a jerk.

How do you know when you are dating a jerk or if someone just has a few bad days? Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

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Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:51 pm

Ex – Why are you in such a hurry for me to get pregnant??

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
1:57 pm

@Ex ~ what I give up most is gas…take it anyway you like (lol).

@Dan ~ I thought so, only good night isht going on are those words!!

Is it possible to get a jerk to change their ways? – I think so, especially if it’s mostly an attitude problem, and not a character problem.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
1:58 pm

Dan – Don’t fall for the baby rumors…my uterus is free and clear of any fertilized eggs and lil agent man soldiers. I don’t know if that’s Ex’s hint to me to trap Agent man to lock him in or what but it’s not true. He’s thinking about buying another house so baby talk is not on the table.

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:01 pm

Slim…coz I luv to see a slim & small body pushing a baby.

I think that DMX is kinda like Bobby in some way..even Whitney…

can’t take them away from the crack..

Even the jittery type cracky mannerisms are a tell tell of crackdiction!

Whitney had them so does Bobby

DMX too I guess…

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2012
2:02 pm

Just sending a shoutout to all the blog ladies. How are you all doing?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

Hey Dreams how are you!

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:06 pm

Ex – I guess you should’ve been a OB/GYN Doc then….but for some reason, you’d probably end up losing your med license. A chick would come in just to renew her birth control and you’d have her getting a breast exam before you wrote the Rx :shock:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:07 pm

Hey there DreamsM! I’m tired, but well this afternoon. How you doing?

disco

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

leggs – life on the color line is without a doubt one of my favorite biographies. no pun intended but they did have a “colorful” life. re: your 1:39 re living with their black family. how about the shock of just plain learning that your father was black??? they didn’t even know that much.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Slim ~ DMX and his wife look alike. Guess that’s what happens when you been around someone as long as they have. That woman has put up with a lot of BS throughout their marriage. What’s strange is all the crying she’s doing over something she apparently tolerated. Her love for him is stronger than her love for herself.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:10 pm

@Leggs: I think it’s nice that you and the ex are civil enough to barter favors. :)

@Slim: We can have a blog baby shower!! :) I went to a baby shower a couple of weeks ago, and some of the games were crazy! I was like :shock:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:13 pm

@disco ~ and in the instant they found out, the older son no longer saw him as an Italian man, but a high yella mulatto. No doubt, this book is an emotional train wreck. I should be finished reading it tonight or tomorrow the latest.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

ITL – Whoa, whoa, whoa kimo sabe! No blog baby showers here…Speaking of which, I’m in charge of party favors for my bf’s baby shower and i’m not having much luck on ideas. It’s going to be a co-ed shower. Any suggestions folks?

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:15 pm

@ITL ~ I’m pretty sure that by me taking the “high road” early on in our divorce has helped him to better barter with me. Like Shirley Strawberry always say, “bitterness is not sexy!”

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2012
2:16 pm

“I’m in charge of party favors for my bf’s baby shower and i’m not having much luck on ideas. It’s going to be a co-ed shower. Any suggestions folks?”

Condoms?

Celisea

April 5th, 2012
2:17 pm

I’ve been slammed with calls today but with all the love flowing in here today, no point in trying to speak on topic.

I’ll just say I’m glad Jesus Christ the righteous is the judge of us all and the one to right the wrongs in people’s lives. I don’t worry or fret too much over what people think. Usually you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t…lol It’s always easier to look around at what others can fix. That’s probably jerkdom but hey…shrugs

As someone said, tolerate what you can and what you can move it along.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:20 pm

@Slim ~ you can cut napkins into little diapers. Put a dab of chocolate in one (imitating poop) and who ever gets that diaper gets a prize.

Or, you can do the constant toilet paper game. Have everyone pull whatever length they think will wrap around the mother’s belly. The one close or on point, wins a prize.

Or, you can do safety pins in a bowl of rice game. The one who has the most safety pins in the allotted time wins. The key to this is that safety pins and rice feel the same. Most have more rice than pins. Naturally, they can’t look while they’re digging for the pins. It’s quite funny.

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Leggs.DMX wife is getting the money,staying put and cheating on him

In any case I don’t think he has time to do what it do with the drugs.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

Or, you can give each attendee about 3 safety pins to start off with. Pick a word, and throughout the baby shower whoever says that word loses a pin. The one with the most pins wins. So, by this people are listening to other people convo making sure that word is not used. E.g, “baby.” It’s hard not to say that word at a baby shower.

Another game for women is that they can only cross there legs by the ankle. Who ever forgets and cross over the knee loses a safety pin. Just another safety pin game.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

The men will get a kick watching the women legs and telling their mate or gf to “look, she’s has her legs crossed the wrong way (lolol).

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

@Slim: Besides Swiss’s idea, a “goodie” bag comes to mind filled with things like a rubber duckie, pastel candy (tons of this available now, for Easter), maybe a magnetic frame to put a pic of the new baby in, etc….

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:26 pm

Well, Ex, guess there are women who want the money over severe heartache….

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:26 pm

Leggs – Those are some great game ideas but someone else is doing games. I’m trying to come up with the take home favors that could be unisex in nature for the co-ed deal.

swiss – If kids weren’t going to be at the shower, then condoms would be a great idea. lol

disco

April 5th, 2012
2:27 pm

swiss – condoms are ideal. might even find some in pink and blue. earplugs are another good favor to pass around. their sort of gag gifts but it’s all in fun.

leggs – you doing favors or games? since it’s a co-ed shower it might be fun to have a drinking contest. let the guys put some beer in their bottles and have at it. see who is the master of the nipple.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:30 pm

We played a game where there were about 10-12 boxes/bars of candy on the table (the movie theater box, and king size bars, although that’s not necessary). Each candy had a baby- or birth-related word associated with it. First person to guess which candy went with which word won the candy. For example: Lactation = Milky Way; Water Breaking = Starburst; Pre-term Labor = Now and Later, etc, etc…

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:30 pm

ITL – Yeah I was leaning towards a goodie bag idea but struggled with what to put in it. Have a few ideas already and the small frame was one, the blue gum cigars that say “Its a boy!”, some other types of candies (maybe wrapped in the mom and dads name since they will not be revealing the baby name until birth time)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:31 pm

Strip poker

(see what I did there?)

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:32 pm

@Slim ~ sorry, you did say party favors, not games. My mistake.

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

see who is the master of the nipple

disco – 5, 4, 3, 2…… (you have these fellas in here salivating already :lol:

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

I like master of the nipple. I can only imagine the laughs.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:34 pm

@Slim: Cute ideas! I’ve also seen small jars of honey with “custom” labels printed that say, “Sweet as Can Bee” with the shower date and Baby Smith. Cute, easy, and inexpensive.

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:35 pm

SCool – If you are still around, I do understand. Just give a sister a shout out when you can! Tell M I said hey.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:36 pm

Oooh, one more Slim and then I’ll quit (yes, I promise guys!). You can put a bag of microwave popcorn in each one with a little label that says, “Jasmine is about to POP!” :)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:37 pm

Is it boughie that I don’t fly standby?

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:39 pm

Leggs – Any news yet?

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

Leggs – It’s all good. I’m going to pass those ideas on to the person doing the games. It’s a collective effort so it doesn’t fall all on one person. ;-) Thanks!

Dan – What’s the big deal with standby? You hate the idea of getting knocked and knocked and knocked for a seat then maybe for a whole other flight or what? Or does it just seem like a cheap unpredictable way to travel?

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

Dan – I wouldn’t think so, sounds to me you just like having set reservations. Unless you work for an airline, like I have in the past, where it was always standby, but then it was free too! You just didn’t try to get on a flight you knew was full.

If having definite plans is boughie, the I am too!

Exiled!

April 5th, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim..so ur bf has a baby shower for another girl he got prego?

Or u talking bout ur BFF

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

April 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

I’m going out of town tomorrow and my wife booked the ticket. I called when they said “the seat will be assigned…” and asked if I was flying standby.

She said “you sound offended….ole boughie DAN”

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
2:55 pm

Ex – My best friend…not my boyfriend

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

swiss – condoms are ideal. might even find some in pink and blue. earplugs are another good favor to pass around. their sort of gag gifts but it’s all in fun.

@disco: I’ve did event planning as a side gig for awhile, and I always wanted to have a Cinco de Mayo party where the pinata was filled with adult goodies!

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
2:56 pm

I’ve did?!?!? Lawd have mercy on me and my typos…..

kimmie

April 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

Dan – Sounds like you have a reservation but not the actual seat assignment. We flew on Air Tran to DC back in December and they charged extra for advanced seat assignments. Since I mostly fly Delta, I was not used to that.

Leggs

April 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

@kimmie ~ still no news!

@Slim ~ cool.

disco

April 5th, 2012
3:03 pm

ITL – you have time to make that happen. get enough tequila in folks and that might turn into one heck of a party.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

@disco: That’s what I’m afraid of. Tequila, blindfolds, and a swinging stick…. Drunk people with bats are scary!! :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

April 5th, 2012
3:11 pm

Ok, the sleepy monster is slowing starting to have an effect on me. It doesn’t help that it’s starting to get all dark, cloudy and windy now either.

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:12 pm

I know what you mean, Slim. I had to go get a glass of tea!

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

“Tequila, blindfolds, and a swinging stick…”

ITL — Sounds like our last date, boo… :lol:

Into the Light

April 5th, 2012
3:16 pm

Dang, Swiss…I just choked on my tea! You crack me up!! :) :lol: