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Should you juggle dates?

One of the perks of being single and unattached is having the freedom to mix and mingle, meet new potential marches. When you are lucky enough to find not one but two really cool people, should you juggle them?

Is it bad dating ethics to see more than one person until you are sure about how you feel about each of them?

A guy friends has a problem when he is seeing one woman while she is still juggling a couple of suitors. He feels as if she is obligated to let him know if he is not the only one in the picture. He admits that it would change his efforts – and it could result in him losing interest.

When do you juggle dates and when do you decide it’s time to let one go? Do you think it is good to tell when they are one of many people jockeying for your time?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lady~

April 4th, 2012
3:13 pm

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

April 4th, 2012
3:13 pm

Ex…you stoopid, I’m allowed to go to the playground all by myself now….sometimes….lol

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
3:14 pm

sitting across from a hottie

@Cel..desist the temptation to ‘friendly’ mars(moon) him..(or is it Venus)

:lol:

(let’s do a prayer together in case u breathing heavy)

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:21 pm

Leggs – Yep…clothes in the car :)

Leggs – Grab yourself a jolt cola…you are sleepy my dear

MMeello – No breathing hard here. Just like having seeing my incentive. I’m such a stinker sometimes…I love to tap his drum…sometimes…DON’T JUDGE ME! One day I came in and he’d been gone for 3 days at a conference. When he saw me he said “there she is and I in reply said “Heeeey there you” That’s all it took….he lit up like a Christmas tree :)

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
3:25 pm

Oh gosh, Celisea is visualizing tap on a drum (lol)…

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
3:26 pm

Cel?

so u receptive or open to it if he makes a move?

but u got your pride intact and won’t initiate a drink outing,even during work hours!?

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:31 pm

MMeelloo – I said we work together and I like to tap his drum….EVERY NOW AND AGAIN…not everyday, no rendevous in his office none of the sort. No, no initiating a drink nowhere. No more than the harmless flirting that happens on the blog occasionally. We’ve had lunch together a couple of times and done a few client events but nothing more to tell. Sorry nothing to tell :)

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
3:31 pm

@Jake: Don’t worry – I’ll be checking permission slips at the door; I promise not to tell if you forge the signature on yours. :)

Alright then, Ms. Drummer Girl…. :lol:

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:32 pm

I just like that fact that he’s moved by black women :)

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
3:32 pm

I good long sip of a coke will do, except I don’t drink Coke. Wait, we’re in the south. You probably mean any type of sugary soda (lol). Well, gave up my Fanta Orange so all I have is this nice juicy orange…

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:33 pm

ITL – I almost broke out the lyrics to the Little Drummer Boy…lol I kid I kid Just trying bring some life up in here….folks are sleeping or I should say maybe it’s not their day to blog or too busy or working

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:34 pm

Leggs – Actually I meant jolt cola…too bad you don’t drink. That will get you going…lol

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
3:35 pm

Cel..

’sorry nothing to tell’

I am glad u realize sometimes you disappoint me by your ‘wasting’ of that sexualfabulolicity u got!
:lol:

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
3:36 pm

I just like that fact that he’s moved by black women

Speaking of black women and men who love them, where the hockey sticks is Swiss?!?!?

@Cely: Um, you know the first line is “Come, they told me pa rum pa pum pum….” IJS…. :lol:

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
3:39 pm

@Leggs: Not just sugary drinks.

Me: You want a coke?
BFF: Yep
Me: What kind?
BFF: diet Coke.
Me: K. :)

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:40 pm

Mmeelloo – Nothing extraordinarily sexually fabulous here…trust me I’m just a regular Jane…lol That was funny though. I tell ya, almost once a day someone says something here that makes me burst out laughing….seriously Love it

In all seriousness, I only work with men and really from the stuffy ones to the lily white ones to the one that think their Jesus incarnate, you have to have a little fun with it some days. This one have spent his career working with black women so he LOVES ‘em….I just love the fact that he appreciates and holds (at least) with the highest regard, is respectful and acknowledges my knowledge and expertise AND takes my advice and recommendations on most issues. Why would I not give him a litte “something”….of course harmless, limited, friendly banter is probably more how I should peg it. Somebody will no doubt toss this in my face is I quote a bible verse next week. LOLOLOLOL You know how folks do

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:41 pm

“at least me” is what I was writing

ITL – LOLOL…okaaaay

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:42 pm

“if” not is…sorry

Lady~

April 4th, 2012
3:43 pm

C is everyday people~ ;)

ITL you are a riot!

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
3:47 pm

LOL@C and Lady. Thanks, y’all. :)

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
3:47 pm

Cel?

so tell me something here Cel?

do u ever bite At All..no pun there

what moves and slays your mountain?

u just seem so incorruptible..at least that’s how I read u..

U don’t admit Nothing!

that reminds me of Ared’s blog admission of her attempt at getting it from the guy she met at the bar…in the car, if I’m not mistaken..but withdrew when no condom was handy!

It was refreshing candor! :lol:

I wish u Cel wld equal that! :lol:

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
3:48 pm

Slim's got the fever!

April 4th, 2012
3:53 pm

Ex – I take a womens vitamin daily so not falling for that take on ‘is my vitamin away’.

Leggs – I may do it again today but the battery in my phone is dead, dead, dead. Kind of hard to stay motivated without at least some banging jams in my ear

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
3:54 pm

I definitely understand, Slim. I didn’t run today simply because I didn’t want to run alone and I had no music….poor excuse, but that’s my story.

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
3:58 pm

Thanks Lady….you get it

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:01 pm

MMeelloo – Nothing perfect here…trust me there. Is it because I don’t rattle on and on with every detail of every date/encounter of my life or weekend happenings first thing Monday morning or the morning after?

Here’s what I’ve noticed….NONE OF THE MEN here, outside of trolls EVER tell of their encounters. They may join in the festivities of enjoying what the ladies put out but they NEVER TELL….not even you. You may say you’re “full” but that’s about it. I always smirk to myself when I see folks moving around talking about it but sort of egging it on without actually engaging. Too, it’s just not couth for grown women to dish everything…detail by detial. I’m not dishing.

I’ll make a deal with you. If we can get a day of just the men giving up details on their encounter(s), I’ll do it too. So far, they all sit back and watch…and that’s all. Not that I feel they need to, don’t get me wrong but why should I if you all won’t/can’t? Honestly it’s just not couth to put it out there. Nothing wrong with a bit of fun but real life real time is really private and should be kept that way.

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:07 pm

Oh Lord, we’re already moving at a snail’s pace…I didn’t shut it down did I?

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:13 pm

And the person that invited me to spin class is trying to back out….

Lady~

April 4th, 2012
4:13 pm

lol c with those bewitched powers~ twinkle, twinkle ;)

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
4:14 pm

{{crickets, crickets and more crickets}}….

Lady~

April 4th, 2012
4:15 pm

c that makes you normal~ it happens

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:15 pm

Lady – Folks are funny

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:15 pm

Lady – Thanks…cause I swear folks think I think I’m perfect….FAAAAAAAR from it…I’m just not tawdry and loose…lol

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:18 pm

Meelloo – I will say if it’s getting just outright nasty, plenty will join in and come out of the woodworks but that’s for having fun with us and seeing how far it will go. I’m talking telling us Monday morning about their love making session or getting laid by some random chick.

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
4:19 pm

Cel..at least I can smile a lil Cel

(debauchery luvs company)

:lol:

Lady~

April 4th, 2012
4:19 pm

i think i just had a hot flash its hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :(

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:20 pm

Mmeello – And there you have it :)

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
4:22 pm

Debauchery loves company! HA!!

I wouldn’t mind a little debauchery to pass the time…. ;) Maybe when I’m in Phoenix….

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:24 pm

MMeello – You’re alright with me. At least you ask what you want to know. Even it’s it’s nunya…lol

ITL – Careful now girlie. You know you’ll have to report back right? I wanna know. Only in Vegas does what happens there stays there. Anywhere else you’re required to dish…

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
4:27 pm

Huh…I’m cracking up, Celisea. Your 4:24 overrides your 4:01. I get it, you want to hear other people’s stories, you just want add to it (lol)…got it!

Into the Light

April 4th, 2012
4:28 pm

C- Trust me… I hope there is a story to tell! ;) Maybe not one full of debauchery, but a little well-intentioned, naughtiness might be just the ticket! :)

kimmie

April 4th, 2012
4:29 pm

Celisea – You hit it dead on the nose. Folks love to lay back in the cut and watch others let it all hang out. Then they sit back & judge. Most of us are too old for that play-by-play mess anyway, it’s very uncouth, like you said.

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:33 pm

ITL – Yum

Leggs – (Sigh)…you’re reading too closely behind me. I don’t care one way or the other if someone post whatever it is they do. But is someone ASKS ME FOR ONE, and I NEVER HEAR FROM THEM or others that egg it on, I’m naturally going to wonder why I gotta dish but you don’t. See you following to close. I didn’t ask for a story and I’m neither here nor there is one is posted. I just know for me, what I do is my business. It’s not to be blasted on a blog.

i'm swiss

April 4th, 2012
4:33 pm

kimmie — You can tell me all about it. I won’t judge. :D

ITL — When are we you going to be in Phoenix?

Oh, and afternoon, blogville!

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
4:34 pm

Sorry, didn’t think I was reading too closely. Cool…..

Exiled!

April 4th, 2012
4:34 pm

Kiimmie so u endorsing Cee’s 4:01 paragraph 1??

as it pertains to U..?

All I wanna know at this point! :lol:

Lady~

April 4th, 2012
4:35 pm

wow its margarita time! time to cool off! 0_o #whew

Leggs

April 4th, 2012
4:36 pm

I read it as you blasting those who sit in the cut and not tell their stories…not necessarily someone asking YOU your story.

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:36 pm

THANK YOU KIMMIE…you get it. Most days the topic, I thought was to give opinions and thoughts…not plaster every detail, real time event of your life. You are right. All folks are going to is judge. That’s why Mmelloo has an image of me in his head…sexualfabulocity I believe is how he pegged. Why? I’ve not given him anything for concluding that about me. It’s what he read in what’s not spoken. Still he could be wrong but it’s what he’s deduced or want to believe or hope someone can tell

Celisea

April 4th, 2012
4:38 pm

Why am I a retard and using is for if??? LOL