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Would you still be interested?

I was told by a guy friend that if women ever wanted to figure out when to take a guy seriously, ask themselves one question: If there was no sex involved, would they still be interested in you?

When a guy decides to pursue someone, he often has more than one reason to continue the pursuit. Sex is not always the top reason he is staying interested. Some women believe that that is the only reason some men stick around but I am not sure if that is the case.

If you are seeing someone now, would you still be interested if you were just friends?

What keeps you interested in someone? When do you lose interest?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

128 comments Add your comment

kimmie

April 2nd, 2012
3:00 pm

I’m not putting him down at all, in fact I commended him for being a gentleman. But what he initially proposed was just unrealistic.

Selena

April 2nd, 2012
3:01 pm

@Leggs- Yep your right…I just hope my ability to spot the bad ones kick in sooner than later. But I heard whatchu said, LISTEN.

kimmie

April 2nd, 2012
3:05 pm

Reio – Glad you are doing better!

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
3:12 pm

@kimmie – Thanks. I was hoping someone on here would remember me.
Thanks again.

Selena

April 2nd, 2012
3:12 pm

Reio and Leggs…Thanks, maybe I need a dating coach. :)

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
3:16 pm

Selens – You just need to be willing to open the back door. Put up with NO foolishness. You’re too good for that. You play with toys and board games, not peoples hearts. Just sayin.

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
3:23 pm

@Reio ~ we all remember you. I too am glad you’re doing better and hope to see more of you. Didn’t mean to treat you like a stepchild and not acknowledge your return .

GOOD TO SEE YOU!!! :wink:

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
3:25 pm

@Selena ~ you are your life coach. Pay attention, stop dismissing things, and stop taking what they say at face value. If they can’t back up their words, they’re not into you the way you may be into them. Value yourself first, act like you value yourself, and then in turn a valued man will also make his presence known to you. Some time may go by, but it will happen (lol).

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
3:31 pm

Leggs – That’s nice of you and I appreciate the kind words. Sounds like Selena needs to learn that there are more uses for the back door than she realizes. I taught my daughters the same thing.

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
3:35 pm

@Reio ~ back door, father talking about this daughters = not good on this particular blog (lol). I see you’ve been gone for some time. :lol: :lol:

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
3:39 pm

Selena – Yea, there are all kinds of lousy, stinking, filthy, unclean, low-down, dirty disease carrying, good for nothing, worthless, two-legged pigs walking around. when they reveal themselves (and they will), tell them to hit the road and don’t look back. It’s easiear for some to do than others, but you have to look out for YOU. Ok?

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
3:43 pm

Leggs – Yes, I see what you mean. Of course, that was years ago when they were much younger. There was no connotation with that phrase then. Hehehe..

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
3:52 pm

I hear you, Reio. I had not doubt. Just words now have different meanings attached to them.

Nice post at 3:39.

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
4:03 pm

Leggs – Yes, I know. And I suppose it’s been a while. It seemed to have worked for both of my girls. Over the years there have been a number of BFs, but only one that I know of, caused me to wonder about him. The rest have been fairly decent. Thank God. Their latest ones are pretty good fellows. For what it’s worth.

Slim's got the fever!

April 2nd, 2012
4:04 pm

Leggs – I was waiting for swiss or ex to jump out of the bushes on that note :lol:

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
4:11 pm

@Slim ~ I tried (lol).

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
4:12 pm

Anybody have any smelling salt??

Reio

April 2nd, 2012
4:16 pm

Leggs – Smelling salt? I don’t get it.

Celisea

April 2nd, 2012
4:24 pm

Reio – Smelling salt is old school. To wake folks up or bring folks back…

If I’m not mistake, folks falling out in chuuch would get the smelling sauce….lol

Celisea

April 2nd, 2012
4:25 pm

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
4:26 pm

@Reio ~ Ex and Swiss had to have fainted somewhere in Blogsville for either of them not to strike (lol).

Robert

April 2nd, 2012
4:27 pm

“If there was no sex involved, would they still be interested in you?”

I often ask myself that question. Sometimes I feel like a “sex toy” and I wonder if I was un-employed, with no house, car or money in the bank would she still be interested in me for me only. My female friends tell me good sex (passion & desire) is hard to find and will settle for lust instead of love. We play mind games and convince ourselfs that we do not need sex as a centerpiece for our relationship. We hope our partner is mature enough to understand that you are taking the “high road” and need more time to decide whether or not you want a sexual relationship sooner or later, in this relationship.

Celisea

April 2nd, 2012
4:31 pm

Sometimes I feel like a “sex toy” and I wonder if I was un-employed, with no house, car or money in the bank would she still be interested in me for me only.

Dang Robert, you got it like that???

Celisea

April 2nd, 2012
4:32 pm

Alight…I think my day is about done. I have been fighting sleep allllll day. I was up and out early and gone all day yesterday. I didn’t climb in bed until late. I’z tired today. I’m getting in the bed early tonight :)

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
4:34 pm

“…convince ourselfs that we do not need sex as a centerpiece for our relationship. We hope our partner is mature enough to understand that you are taking the “high road” and need more time to decide whether – No matter how mature the partner is, if you’re in a relationship isn’t it a given sex will occur. If not, then simply say you are in a business relationship.

Slim's got the fever!

April 2nd, 2012
4:40 pm

Wow, another university school shooting, 5 dead. smh!

Robert

April 2nd, 2012
4:44 pm

@Leggs – For me it is not about the “sex”. It’s about my feelings (passion & desire). I love intimacy (kissing, hugging, etc.). I can not have a sexual relationship with a woman who I have no feelings regardless of how long we have known each other or dating. I have turned down more casual sex/lust than most men get in their lifetime.

Leggs

April 2nd, 2012
4:56 pm

@Robert ~ you are only saying the same thing many women here have said. We can’t sex you up if we don’t have feelings. Can’t get intimate with another simply because they are near you. The feelings have to be there.

On the other side of the coin, there are women who simply want to get their rocks off and you get to stepping.