Know why you got dumped?
Imagine dating someone for a couple of weeks and believing things were progressing to something serious, then the person up and disappears. There is no explanation, no message, no post-it note, no text message.
Now, most people move on and wonder from time to time what happened. Then there are those who sort of go out of their way to get an answer because they think they deserve to know.
Do you think it is important to know why you got dumped? I think this may be something that women struggle with more than guys. I rarely hear men complain about the disappearing acts of women they are interested in.
Why is it so hard to let someone know they are not the one? If you knew the reason you were dumped, do you think it would be helpful to know?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
4:57 pm
Cba – that was/is your wife. You did what you were suppose to do and I’m sure you were not looking for any red cents in return. This dude don’t even have a contract to read the fine print. He doesn’t see a future with her so IMO heyal nawww.
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:02 pm
So, Willie D….about my allowance…..
Cely, your ex-neighbor…ugh. Men like that are disgusting.
Where did Swissykins go???
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:06 pm
ITL – Girl, he was a mess too. He was always clean too. All shiny and nowhere to go but the barbershop. Too when we coupled, she had to pay the tab….NOT!!! Oh, and don’t let me leave out weedhead. Both he and my kid’s dad would light one and talk sh__
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:09 pm
No respect for a man who mooches off a woman. YUCK!
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:09 pm
I will say though, I underestimated her. I was at their place one evening and naturally phone would ring off the hook for him…other chicks and I use to look at her like “what, you ain’t gonna do nothing”….and this time he handed her the phone. Well a couple of days later we took and ride and she was on her way out…out of that set up. Found another dude. I can’t say it was right but I surely won’t say it was wrong. She moved out and got her own place. I went to see her a couple of years after she moved out and she was doing just so so so much better….AND STILL DATING THE DUDE THAT CALLED THAT DAY
Last I heard they were engaged
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:09 pm
Was the kid his?
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
5:10 pm
ITL – next Tuesday 8:25am sharp. Set aside a few hours and we’ll discuss your allowance. Bring some references(minimum 2 notarized), 1 pack unscented baby wipes, red lip gloss, 1 knee pad and a ball of yarn (don’t ask). I’m sure by 10:25am we can come to an agreement.
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:10 pm
Awwww, I’m glad she had a happy ending. And glad she saw Buster Brown for what he was – not Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:11 pm
Girl no. She was from Florida as well as the kid’s dad. She use to get child support from kid’s dad but it wasn’t much. Still, he mooched and never carried his end.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:11 pm
LOL…exactly….LOL
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
5:11 pm
ITL — I’m still here. You know me, sometimes I like to just hang back and watch for a while.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:12 pm
Baby wipes?? That sounds scary
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:12 pm
LMAO@Willie D. I’m glad most of my colleagues are gone for the day, because I laughed out loud (very loud) when I read your response.
Question: Is the crash helmet optional, or will I need it?
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:13 pm
But Swissy….I miss you when you’re gone….
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:14 pm
ITL – I LOL’d at your crash helmet…that was funny
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:15 pm
ITL – We’re suppose to do lunch again in May. You should come along
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
5:15 pm
Cel- that was trifling but good that it ended with her in a better situation. Dude was just sorry but she enabled it. Glad she finally came into the light.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:17 pm
WillieD – She was too good for him. I was truly surprised seeing her after a couple of years had passed and she was still with the new guy. I liked him (for her)
She left him to worry about getting rent paid…lol Then the place she moved to was so much nicer. Yep, a good ending. Matter of fact, we connected on LinkedIn a year or so ago.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:18 pm
Okay…Swiss and ITL have both gone missing…
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
5:18 pm
ITL- no crash helmet needed. What do you take me for?
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:19 pm
Y’all are wild with y’all auditions…lol
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
5:19 pm
“finally came into the light”
Funny, I didn’t think it took her all that long…
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:26 pm
We had breakfast for dinner last night. I refused to buy something and I walked into Publix and really didn’t want to cook…too much. So I said to myself…”Self, there a loaf of raisin bread, bacon and grits at home” Soooooo, I bought eggs and a soda and headed out. Now I’m back with the same dilemna. I’m trying to not eat out so much but ummm, it’s leaning that way right about now.
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
5:31 pm
Cel – pick up a Rotisserie chicken and some kinda veggies and call it a day. Somewhat healthy without going the FF route.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:41 pm
WillieD – That sounds pretty interesting. I just might. It’s been a minute since I bought a rotisserie chicken…not bad.
Okay folks, I’m outta here. Oh, I was typing a post and our Market Exec walked up to talk to me….great….couldn’t scramble to pull the screen down because then I’d look guilty. Soooo, he was looking at the blog while we talked…great…lol No it’s cool. He’s cool.
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:43 pm
Hey y’all, I’m back. Why do folks come in my office and wanna have a discussion at 5:15?
Cely – that would be fun. My office is in the Cumberland/Galleria area, so if y’all do Vinings, I’m super close.
Easy, Swiss, easy. Coming into the light. LOL and SMH….
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
5:44 pm
Damn, C, you should have said so. I’d have thrown out a “hot & wet mangrove swamp” reference for your coworker’s amusement.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
5:47 pm
ITL — Of course, it could just be that time flies when you’re having fun…
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:51 pm
Or, that you are so good at what you do, Swiss…..
WD: No crash helmet? So I won’t be needing the swing/harness with the ceiling fan attachment??
I kid, I kid….
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
5:52 pm
Well, that’s a given.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
5:52 pm
Okay…shoot me I’m still working…wrapping up though.
ITL – Okay…got you added
Swiss – Ummm, you’re tryna get me fired…lol
Night for real…unplugging laptop
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:52 pm
Thumbs up on the rotisserie chicken, Cely. I use the leftovers to make chicken quesadillas, chicken salad, chicken soup, whatever I’m in the mood for….
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
5:53 pm
Night, Cely!
Into the Light, Esquire
March 29th, 2012
6:08 pm
Night, Swissy. Night, Willie D.
See y’all tomorrow.
Albert
March 30th, 2012
12:44 pm
I hate being dumped without knowing why. It leads to all sorts of wild imaginings, especially if you’re disabled and in a chair, like me. A woman will never, ever tell you that she can’t handle your disability. It’s considered too cruel, and I’m not sure I disagree. But I do hate getting dumped and never finding out why.