Know why you got dumped?
Imagine dating someone for a couple of weeks and believing things were progressing to something serious, then the person up and disappears. There is no explanation, no message, no post-it note, no text message.
Now, most people move on and wonder from time to time what happened. Then there are those who sort of go out of their way to get an answer because they think they deserve to know.
Do you think it is important to know why you got dumped? I think this may be something that women struggle with more than guys. I rarely hear men complain about the disappearing acts of women they are interested in.
Why is it so hard to let someone know they are not the one? If you knew the reason you were dumped, do you think it would be helpful to know?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
accessAtlanta Partner Sites
Sections
Advertise on accessAtlanta.com »
Reach the audience you want by advertising on accessAtlanta.com
Join the Access Atlanta Network »
Advertisers and Publishers, expand your reach by joining the Access Atlanta Network.
Tell us what you think about the site
Visitor Agreement | Privacy Statement | About our ads
© 2013 The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
285 comments Add your comment
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
11:51 am
I’d much rather be on the front end of that….go one and get gone, yeen get nothing from me. I could be wrong but buddy was really not like that. He was cool but I think as it is with most men today, many won’t stick around without intimacy…after some time. We hung out a good minute. So no, I don’t think he was in it solely for that. I just think as men have said here a gazillion times, no sex…they’re out. It was more like that. He didn’t drop off and in presto gone. He started pulling away. Anyway that was eons ago and we’ve since talked (not recently) but pretty cool since then.
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
11:51 am
I had a two pice dark from publix ITL they have good chicken and Ia m a sucka for fried chicken! LOL #dead (no remarks please lol)
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
11:52 am
Awwwww….thanks, Lady!
@Leggs: I think I saw that documentary on Investigation Discovery or the History Channel…
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
11:52 am
piece
ok blb folks
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
11:52 am
Lady – I’m going to pick me up something nice for our outing
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
11:52 am
bbl wow
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
11:53 am
i will be looking for a top C~ with your eyes it will be on it and a nice deal! yay
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
11:53 am
Okaaaay…I gotta get something for the other 10 pounds I’m carrying…gheesh
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
11:53 am
Mmmm, fried chicken. That sounds good! With some potato salad.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
11:55 am
I’m gonna walk for lunch. I’m gonna head up town.
Leggs
March 29th, 2012
12:00 pm
@Lady, did you have any of their sides. I usually pick up the orange glaze for lil leggs, but never had their sides.
BTW, did you guys know you can go to the counter and get a sample of whatever piece of chicken you want? If with children, the adult has to ask for it. It has helped on those days I popped in after work and needed a morsel of something in my belly before heading home to cook.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
12:01 pm
Leggs – My kid wears that out. I’m embarrassed…lol She’ll ask if she can “sample” when she’s had it a gazillion times. She does it when she’s hungy. I walk away…lol
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
12:03 pm
@Leggs: I like it when they are doing a demo of the Apron meals. They give you a sample of the entree and side(s). It’s just enough to tide you over so that you don’t buy out the whole store. LOL ITL’s Life Lesson #331: NEVER go grocery shopping when hungry.
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
12:05 pm
ITL – I always get samples from the Apron meals…I didnt’ like what they served last night.
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
12:06 pm
What was it, Cely?
Leggs
March 29th, 2012
12:10 pm
The best meal I’ve cooked from the Apron Meals is their White Bean Turkey Chili…makes me want to slap myself it’s so damn good!!
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
12:12 pm
ITL – It was scallops, corn, bacon, onions all blended…yuck
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
12:13 pm
I’ve had quite a few favorites….can’t remember. All I know it was pretty good.
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
12:15 pm
I love scallops! I might have to look at the recipe and see if I can tweak it to make it better.
LOL@Leggs. That reminds me of David on QVC – he says, “It’s so good it makes your tongue wanna slap your brains out!” Gets me laughing every time!!
Okay, I’m leaving in search of lunch. Back later, taters.
Leggs
March 29th, 2012
12:19 pm
On Topic – Some people don’t deserve to know why they got dumped. Reflection can usually answer their own questions (lol).
Like Diana Ross’s song “Reflections”
Reflection of the way life used to be
Reflections of
The love you took from ….
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
12:59 pm
Afternoon All,
On Topic- I don’t think anyone DESERVES to know why unless you were in a committed relationship. Sure it probably is the right and decent thing to do if you are dating. I just don’t think a few dates or outings together mean an exit interview is needed. Take it as you dodged a bullet. The person is just not feeling you like that. To me that is part of dating. I don’t think (most) Men do that kind of reflecting. Contrary to popular opinion Women tend to be much more cutthroat at this than Men. A man will pull back or fadeaway but a chick will just get ghost on you in a heartbeat. Most men are use to that and just move along hoping for a return visit. We don’t need closure because rejection has been drilled into us since b4 puberty unless of course our heart is in it then that’s a whole nother topic.
czBrat
March 29th, 2012
1:24 pm
HiYas!
stayed up til 2am; slept til noon; now ready to kick of a long, lovely weekend of checking out itp hoods until i decide where i’m gonna settle down.
Imagine dating someone for a couple of weeks and believing things were progressing to something serious, then the person up and disappears.
i’ve bailed on dudes a couple years in, once things started getting too serious. you know, like one step removed from a runaway bride. but i’ve never pulled a total casper move on someone i’ve spent any kind of time with.
although there was that one guy that i completely avoided after one dinner date. in my defense, i told him up front that i wasn’t interested. he insisted an evening out with him would change my mind. it didn’t.
and i saw no reason to reiterate nor further explain my lack of interest thereafter.
Enemas for Easter
March 29th, 2012
1:25 pm
I dumped her and said nothing because my wife came back form her 2 week visit to her parents.
Jelly Sandwich Meat
March 29th, 2012
1:34 pm
This happened to me once. Things were going great. We had been going out for about 3 months. Not one disagreement, fight or angst. We had progressed to the intimate stage as well. Suddenly, she would not return calls, e mails or text messages. After a month, I called one more time and her sister answered the phone. Turns out she was assaulted after work and was beaten so badly, she was brain dead. It was a coworker who did it as there were witnesses. I felt so much better it was not because of something I did.
Slim's got the fever!
March 29th, 2012
1:36 pm
I’m so full I could throw up right about now…employee cookout Delish!
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
1:37 pm
Kimmie/Cel – came home late last night and another 3 bags full of new isht. Told Wifey her azz gon havta get on the pole or sumthin. My lil discretionary funds getting assaulted. At least get the ol man some socks or T-shirts.
kimmie
March 29th, 2012
1:41 pm
Willie – LOL!!! Come on, she’s gotta look good for the trip!! See I kinda gets away with it cause I buy the kiddies stuff all the time!LOL!!
kimmie
March 29th, 2012
1:42 pm
Having some yummy veggie pizza from this little organic pizza place around the corner! I don’t feel so guilty eating it!
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
1:43 pm
@kimmie: How did Little Miss like her sandals?!?
kimmie
March 29th, 2012
1:47 pm
Light – Oh my goodness, she lost her mind and loved them like I thought! They really match a sundress she has beautifully! She’s such a little fashionista!! I am creating a monster!!LOL!!
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
1:53 pm
Kimmie- you laffing but I’m like dayum man. The latest catchphrase in my house now is “Daddy look” while holding up something. My dumbazz aint even looking at the outfit. I’m doing the Matrix trying to look at the price-tags swaying. Hahaha
Celisea
March 29th, 2012
1:53 pm
WillieD – LOLOL….indeed a woman after mine own heart. And I might be mistaken but I thought there was a blurb or some sort in the contract that states what’s yours is hers and what’s
yourshers is hersCelisea
March 29th, 2012
1:54 pm
WillieD – I’m doing the Matrix trying to look at the price-tags swaying.
That’s funny….lol
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
2:01 pm
YAY! I’m so glad she liked them. She’s gonna strut!
Strut…do people say that anymore?!??
WillieD – I’m getting ready to go on vacation, too…. Daddy.
kimmie
March 29th, 2012
2:04 pm
The Matrix, now that is funny!!LOL!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2012
2:07 pm
Strut – yep, its still said!
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
2:12 pm
What’s that song? Strut, pout, cut it out….. Sheena Easton?!
Sorry, WillieD. Couldn’t resist.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:15 pm
“Strut, pout, cut it out….”
Oooohhhhh… See, I always thought she was saying, “Strut, pout, put it out…” Then again, I’ve always been a bit of a horn-dog.
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
2:16 pm
Kimmie/Cel- see yall think I’m just making jokes. I swear to God this morn at 6am my 2 almost 3 year old wakes up and starts going thru the bags telling me “Daddy wash your hands don’t mess up my stuff”. The 10 year old likes to poop tags and keep in her purse “just cause” as she says. I’m putting bail money up right now. Whenever I meet the owner of that shop ‘Justice’ I’m gonna punch em right in the mouth.
ITL- Daddy hunh. Alright now, You just looking at the highlights. Its a lotta practice and behind the scenes work sweat and tears b4 you make the team. I give open tryouts every other Tuesday eve. Hahaha
Slim's got the fever!
March 29th, 2012
2:17 pm
Off the off topic – I really have a strong disdain for folks who act like they know every damn thing! You can’t ever ask a question directed at someone nearby without them throwing in their two cent, always jumping in an A & B converstation (yeah I took it there) and doing some much brown nosing you’d think their parents were hound dogs!! WOOOOOOO muthasuckin SAHHHH!
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:18 pm
Oh wait… I was right:
http://www.lyricstime.com/sheena-easton-strut-lyrics.html
Guess Sheena is a freak, too.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:21 pm
Of course, technically, we were both right, put I prefer to focus on the “put it out” part.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:21 pm
*but I prefer…
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2012
2:24 pm
Swiss- my bad man. I didn’t know you were in the building. My comments to ITL was just jokes. No disrespect intended. IJS tho. Hahaha
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:25 pm
Willie D — No worries, man. All’s fair in recruiting.
Into the Light
March 29th, 2012
2:26 pm
You beat me to it, Swiss. Why am I not surprised that you would focus on the put it out???
disco
March 29th, 2012
2:26 pm
ITL – at strut I used to think of some little childhood rhyme “strut miss suzy”.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2012
2:27 pm
ITL — You, however, have been a very naughty girl. Now, come here & bend over my knee…
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
2:28 pm
poppin’ back in
what’s shakin’?!?
Lady~
March 29th, 2012
2:30 pm
Slim me too and to them they don’t know every effin thing but swear out they do an dgonna make sure you know! Its a insecurity to me bc they try too hard! #POW! LOL