I met a lot of men who respond to my “Are you truly single?” question with “I’m headed for divorce” or basically divorced, or my all time favorite “sleeping in separate rooms” – all responses that still qualify as married. Married as in NOT single.
I can understand why someone would be anxious to move on and find a new love, but is it better to wait for the official divorce papers before you actively pursue something serious?
I have a friend who did not wait to get serious with her “pending divorce” boyfriend. She moved in with him, redecorated his house, and pretty much replaced wife #1. It wasn’t long before she was being handed a summons to appear in court. She was tagged as the homewrecker who prevented any reconciliation.
I am sure if she had to do it all over again, she would have kept things friendly until her romantic interest was officially divorce. Do you have a problem seeing someone who is recently separated?
My friend Henry said that if someone is not divorced, it is highly likely that they are still having sex with their soon to be ex. For this reason, he does not pursue women until after the divorce is final. I wonder how many divorcees find their way back to their exes bedrooms post divorce?!
What do you think? Ok to date without divorce papers?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog