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Dating: How do you ask for space?

It is common and perfectly normal to want to spend every waking moment with someone you are crazy about. A new romance means things are hot and heavy, right? What happens when you are ready to slip into a routine with more balance, but your partner is stuck on hot and heavy?

How do you ask someone to give you a little space without totally derailing the “budding” relationship that is still growing? If you want a little less together time, does that necessarily mean you aren’t into the person anymore?

My friend told me he was down with the whole “see each other every weekend plan” in the beginning, but his lady is clinging to that pattern tighter than he is. He still really likes her, but wondered if he pulls away a bit, would she consider that a red flag he isn’t interested.

Obviously he has to be honest with her, but I am curious if others have been in this situation. What did you do or say when you wanted space but not spaaaaaacce?

Happy Tuesday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

280 comments Add your comment

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:26 pm

Heeeeeey, Swiss!!!

Eric

March 27th, 2012
4:28 pm

I think Lady and Leggs need a little time away from the blog. Red flag…when they attempt to dominate this conversation, you can bet you won’t get a word in edge-wise on a date.

Really Doe

March 27th, 2012
4:30 pm

All woman and a regular I just do not approve of pammy’s or her “man” actions.

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:30 pm

How was your weekend, ITL? Do anything naughty? :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:33 pm

I had a wonderful weekend, Swiss….. Did I do anything naughty? Let’s put it this way: I had to make an emergency run to the chiropractor yesterday…. ;) I kid, I kid. I was rearranging furniture, not REARRANGING furniture. LOL

Leggs

March 27th, 2012
4:33 pm

@pammy ~ don’t be scared, answer my 4:06.

Leggs

March 27th, 2012
4:35 pm

@Eric ~ I really try not to dominate anything. I answer posts that come my way and give my opinion on others. That’s why I’m here. If it looks that way to you, take off your glasses. Some days some posters post more than others. And since this isn’t a verbal exchange, remmeber all you have to do is type and your post will go through.

Peace! Time to go!

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:36 pm

ITL — Rearranging furniture, eh? Well, you know, I am an e-z boy. Wanna come rearrange me? :lol:

Celisea

March 27th, 2012
4:37 pm

Alright nah, and on that note (of the ez boy) I’m out.

Night folks

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:40 pm

You know I do, Swiss…. ;) I’ll bring the furniture oil, to make sure you’re well, um, polished. :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:40 pm

Night, Cely.

Slim's got the fever!

March 27th, 2012
4:41 pm

Eric – Just like getting into a cold pool, you just have to jump in sometimes. ;-)

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:42 pm

Eric – Just like getting into a cold pool, you just have to jump in sometimes

Only no shrinkage. :lol:

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:43 pm

You beat me to it, ITL:lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:45 pm

Swissykins, how many times must I tell you?!?!? I am a girl YOU! ;)

Slim's got the fever!

March 27th, 2012
4:45 pm

ITL – :shock: :lol: I’ll never look at dusting & polishing furniture the same way again :oops:

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:47 pm

“I am a girl YOU!”

ITL — So, what you’re saying is that if we were to have relations, it would technically only be masturbating… :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:49 pm

LOL@Slim! :lol:

@Swiss: You are correct. ;) I think it also makes us somewhat narcissistic, but who cares?!?!? So long as you don’t go peering into any ponds, you should be fine. :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:50 pm

And yes, there is an “r” in “peering”

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:51 pm

ITL — Thanks for the clarification. For a second there, I though you were wanting me to go all “R. Kelly” on you. :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:53 pm

Not unless you’re ready to die, Swiss. And you know my blog girls will help me hide the body. :)

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
4:55 pm

So, you’re saying you’d f___ me to death? ;-) :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

March 27th, 2012
4:58 pm

Wow, on that note I think i’ll leave you two, the Pledge and Feather duster alone. Yall’s have a guud ‘un now

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
4:59 pm

Swiss, if you weren’t married I just might be willing to try. ;)

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
5:00 pm

Aw, Slim….don’t leave. You know we’re just playin’.

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
5:02 pm

I feel like Andy Kaufman. :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

March 27th, 2012
5:05 pm

Off to the gym so Gooood night

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
5:06 pm

LOL@Swiss. “Here I come to save the day!!!!” :lol:

Into the Light

March 27th, 2012
5:10 pm

Good night, Slim.

Au revoir, Swiss….

i'm swiss

March 27th, 2012
5:10 pm

I was thinking more along the lines of the “Inter-Gender Wrestling Champion of the World.” Or in this case, the “Intra-Blog Pdu$$y Hound of the Year” :lol: