Dating: Generosity make you uncomfortable?
My friend Joe told me about a woman he met recently who has a little hang up when it comes to accepting kind gestures, compliments, gifts from him. She told him that she is not accustomed to generous men, so when he shows that side to her she gets uncomfortable.
It is sad to think that women aren’t used to a guy pursuing them and treating them with kindness and generosity, but I have met a lot of women like this. It becomes that old self-fulfilling prophecy behavior thinking “If it is too good to be true, it probably is” or does the generosity come with strings?
Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity? Do you ever feel uncomfortable when someone showers you with romantic gifts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lily
March 22nd, 2012
7:20 am
Diva I believe there are men that are sincere in their efforts and intents. I do. I also believe my daddy when he said “baby ain’t nothing free” He did not mean every generous effort was laced with strings attached….some yes but not all. However tis true….nothing is free. There is a price tag somewhere at some point. I believe my daddy and yes I’ve experienced exactly what daddy said.
I dated a guy once that only knew how to shower. No commitment…just how he was. I know it was how he expressed it. Actually a pretty decent guy. But a guy where nothing had been sealed nor made official. In my naievity I would always tell him money spent was on him. As time moved along he came to “expect” a relationship because that had been his history of how he moved into one. Well as you can guess after a couple years of “generosity” and my continued stance of not interested, he became not only offended but biligerent.
In essence my daddy knew best and what he told me is exactly how things came to pass. Just have to be careful that if he’s not a husband doing husbandly duties, there could be problems further down the road.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
7:56 am
Good Morning Good People! Lily great assessment!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:03 am
hmmm reading this makes me think of using your common sense and institution and not accepting everything all the time………..
Lily
March 22nd, 2012
8:05 am
Hello Lady!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:15 am
Hi there!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:24 am
Lilly you play that fool role once an learn for the most part……you just can’t be nice and generous to every person you meet. Man or woman…….use discretion
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
8:41 am
@Lady, it’s not normal either, I don’t think to get showered with gifts out of nowhere. I can see birthdays, special occasions and surprises here and there but all the time with no rhyme or reason makes me uneasy. As I stated, this guy was a great guy and we talked below the surface on where I was in not wanting a real relationship with him. He always claimed he understood but eventually his true colors surfaced and he was angry in the end.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
8:41 am
Where’s my first post? It was here….
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:46 am
See C use you common sense. All the time gifts is trying to fill a void to me. Something is lacking somewhere and trying to compensate with flattery. I had this older guy a while back use this tactic and being young and dumb I fell for it and instead of banking that money I wasted it. but trust he lacked in other areas and it was a void to me bc I truly didn’t care for him just liked the money. sad but true you live and learn and I don’t play this game no more bc no one wins. hurting folks is not the business.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
8:49 am
Me either. I don’t mind nice gestures after we’ve established something but for me…can’t say for all…it sends a red flag when someone out of nowhere does way too much too soon. Don’t get me wrong, I like nice but really who does the GOLD DIGGER thing these days? Especially being older??? Frankly a man ain’t got enough for me to latch on to him solely for benefits. I’ll walk my own walk. Have my own struggles or whatever but I ain’t leaning on someone solely for benefits…lol I don’t like anybody that much.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
8:50 am
And really Lady, maybe it’s my upbringing but I just can’t see a man doing too much too soon without some level of expectation. IMO he may not even think so at the time nor state such but I just believe eventually he’ll expect one to come on with it.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:52 am
free does not equate to good for you…….here lately within the last 2 years I have master this and I have been stop going out to eat with dues I knew I wasn’t feeling….yeah did that for a second but its such a waste of time and money when I know I wasn’t going to call back. I got comfy with me and handled my personal void.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:53 am
I feel ya C!!!!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:53 am
meant with dudes
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
8:56 am
Good morning,
I’m struggling a bit today so I’ll lurk for now or at least until my coffee kicks in.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
8:57 am
Frankly a man ain’t got enough for me to latch on to him solely for benefits. <<<<Love that! When you value your worth this is effortlessly! So true!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
9:06 am
good morning all.
lily – amen to your very first post re “ain’t nothing free”.
slim – I’m struggling too. co-worker told me I looked tired on the way in. generally I believe that comment means you look jacked up but today I took it at face value. even as I sit here I feel like shutting it down.
out of curiosity – where might all these gift showering, wallet leading men be hanging out at? are there any obvious signs or characteristics to look for to help me spot them?
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
9:10 am
Good morning!!!
“It becomes that old self-fulfilling prophecy behavior thinking, if it is too good to be true, it probably is” – I don’t necessarily believe in self-fulling prophecies. Meaning, if you want to turn anything around you have the ability to do so. That’s like saying you’re a product of your environment…not true! Anyway, sometimes it’s good, it’s meant for you, ride it out.
“does the generosity come with strings? – In some cases, sure. What you need to do is assess when and to what degree this man is being generous with you. Too quick out the gate is not a good thing if you’re leading with your wallet. Now, there are many levels of generosity and not all involves $$. Nonetheless, one needs to be carefu on what they accept and need to understand why they accepted the tangible and/or non-tangible gift.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
9:11 am
Re pu ta tion….this is what got my initial post eaten by the blog monster
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
9:13 am
disco – I don’t know if it’s the cloudy weather or what but everyone in my office is feeling the same way…tired, dragging, not too enthused about being out of the bed.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:14 am
Good post Leggs I agree! Awareness is key especially self awareness! As long as you know and cool with it do you……both true intentions will eventually surface though. Believe that!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
9:15 am
Lady I don’t know why some believe hard working, struggling, single parents, taking care of the elderly won’t have enough self pride and good with leaning on someone’s wallet.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:18 am
Don’t start C!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL too funny!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
9:22 am
As far as receiving gifts, I’m always pretty appreciative whenever someone does something for me as a genuine gesture. Like Leggs said, if you’re coming out of the gate with giving me things, then I’d question his motive. I don’t ever want to feel like the gift is setting me up to be obligated to you in some form or fashion, in his mind anyway. Don’t come back later throwing it back in my face because when you give, it should be because that’s something you WANTED to do, not because you’re prepping me for some hidden motive down the road.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
9:24 am
Lady –
Slim – I agree
mark
March 22nd, 2012
9:26 am
now i believe in treating a woman well when we are out on a date. but to just give random gifts to a lady if it;s not a holiday or her birthday i dont do that.
1. Because im cheap
2. i dont feel a man should have to give if he doesnt have any history with that woman. I.E. my wife.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:28 am
Slim I really believe the saying nothing is free. Even down to conversing. Both parties or at least one is trying to see if some type of investment is worth it to move forward. Sure being nice doesn’t cost a thing but some will remind you of what they did. That guy I met this past Falcons season we went out two times and as we chatted on the phone he always asked so when you taking me out I took you here blah, blah, blah. I really believe he has been taken advantage of bc he choose to lead with his wallet but I was like why are you playing tic for tac with me reminding me that you took me out. I made sure I returned the favor treated him and never called his simple azz back. I say if you are uncomfortable spending money on folks don’t do it. period. It is nothing wrong with paying separately.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:28 am
lol interesting
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
9:30 am
Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity?
no
Do you ever feel uncomfortable when someone showers you with romantic gifts?
no
leggs’ post reminds me of the love language issue. a dude can overflow in generosity in material things, not realizing that “things” are not my love language. i’m still grateful, but perhaps not as impressed as he would expect me to be. that’s because “things” don’t impress me; actions do. and the very same can happen the other way around.
so it begs the question: what do you expect in return for your generosity?
i’ve always felt that if generosity is simply your true nature, your only expectation is that the other person be pleased.
HiYas
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
9:31 am
Depends on the gesture and time in the relationship. If you have a history and stable it’s fine. If it’s in the intitial I guess it is ok while trying to impress but don’t start anything you can’t keep up. On the otherside of the coin I was one who was not used to a woman doing stuff for me. It was strange buying me clothes, shoes, watches etc and it was not a birthday or holiday. Just was not used to that or a woman setting up a date night o taking my card when I tried to pay the bill only to replace it with her own. In those situations I thought “something must be up”. But there is a difference in a generous act and going overboard. I guess operate in your comfort level. Now with women I would randomly send flowers or if I were out and about and saw something that I thought would look good on my current interest at the time I would get it etc. I have met woman who were so independent that they had a problem with it but once you show that there was no obligations in recieving the gifts things lightened up. A persons income is a factor too, what may seem extravagant to some is not even a drop in the bucket to others.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
9:32 am
we are talking men showering women with gifts and the reasons behind it. I’m sure we’d all agree women do the same. some women shower men with gifts and give them money and some just put themselves out trying to be overly available and do every little thing for that man. now I’m not talking about their man (boyfriend/husband). I’m talking about that man they are still in the process of trying to get. fact is some folks are out their trying to buy friends and affection.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
9:34 am
2. i dont feel a man should have to give if he doesnt have any history with that woman. I.E. my wife.
So, are you saying you wouldn’t bestow a gift upon your gf of, say one year? If that’s your take, I have no issue with it, just wondering if you’re truly saying no one gets a gift if she isn’t your wife?
mark
March 22nd, 2012
9:36 am
Leggs i said a woman i have some history with either a long term girlfriend or my wife.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:38 am
I can’t recall ever trying to buy a man or a friend….naw don’t play that game but my sister does so I have seen it……I ask too many questions to even go there
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
9:40 am
I don’t think you should buy gifts for a woman unless you are really serious about her.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
9:41 am
lady – truth be told I see women doing it far more than I see men doing it. daggone shame I tell you. back in the day you used to hear about the “kept woman”. shoot the “kept man” is making a come up. just last night a friend of mine was talking about her daughter and son-in-law. daughter, in a nutshell, is carrying SIL.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
9:43 am
disco – I’d ask you the same…where are you seeing these women? The women in my circle don’t play that…lol Ut uh
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:44 am
disco that madness drives me damn crazy. Must admit my sis has gotten better but she was stuck on stoopid. Low self-esteem is a product of this behavior and its sad to watch a love one be used but only that person can stop their behavior. how many times can one be kicked and still be there financially for another breathing adult. hell no I don’t play it.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:45 am
C they are out there sadly hell men and women are victims and abusers….back to human behavior it happens across the board……
Robert
March 22nd, 2012
9:47 am
“Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity? ”
I have dated women who have not experienced how a gentleman treats a lady and really do not know what to think or feel. For example simple jestures such as opening and closing the car door or holding the door open while she enters and exits a room. Men learn “manners” by watching other men (fathers, uncles, etc.). I have a greater appreciation for my father because of how he treated my mother. She could do no wrong in his eyes. Today women want men to give them tangible gifts (money, etc.) to show their generosity rather than treat them with kindness and respect. Men who grow-up without any male influence do not know the difference between treating a woman with kindness and respect. They think giving tangibles gifts is a sign of their generosity. You can not teach a boy how to be a man.
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
9:47 am
disco, a man who accepts gifts and is “kept” by a woman is really suspect. Maybe they were momma’s boys growing up?
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
9:52 am
I was just talking to an old neighbor of mine last night and he was telling me about some of his experiences in dating chicks. He said he gets freaked out or either guarded when chicks he dates seems too eager to go from dating to relationship status…of course trying to impress by buying him things was part of the deal. He said it makes them give the chicks the side-wye whilst trying to figure out what their motive is.
Even my current beau has asked me what my angle is or why “I am so good to him” before and it took me off guard..especially since I’ve never really had my genuiness (if that’s even a word) questioned. I recall a time where he seemed to be stressed or down about something and I went out and got him a smiley face balloon and wrote a silly poem that I attached to the string of the balloon just to cheer him up…I think that threw him off a little. That wasn’t me trying to impress him, or shower him with some extravagant gift…it was me simply showing concern & care for his mental well-being. I heard not too long ago that people often do what they need. So I would definitely appreciate a gesture as small as that because of the THOUGHT behind it. So maybe there is some truth to that statement
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
9:54 am
@Lady ~ there was a guy at a bar I used to frequent. We seemed to have caught each other’s eye. I soon realized he was at other places I went to after work. If I was by myself we would sit together. I think he bought me a few drinks, I in kind paid for a round or two as time went by. Fast forward to a year after meeting him. This mo fo had the nerve to say, “well, we seem to be in the same places often, don’t you think it’s time we take this to another level and sleep together?”
Boy, I had to laugh just to have my mouth doing something and not cuzz his lame, uncouth arse out!. So, I simply told him he was a foolish idiot, finished my drank and left. Haven’t seen him since, and this man was Fine!!!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
9:56 am
Leggs the maturity level on some older brothers are so suspect!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
9:57 am
C – one, a neighbor of mine, consistently puts her money on the line. the most recent guy she met at a party and within a week was buying him clothes. it progressed to her paying his phone bill and paying for him to go golfing and buying him flat screen tvs and on and on. it went on for a couple of years. to add insult to injury he was whooping her A to boot. countless times I told her how foolish she was. same chick gave the man before this man $1000 and come to find out that was money she’d been saving for her child to go back to school shopping. needless to say, kid didn’t have new school clothes.
another chick (friend of a friend) let a guy move into her house with her. he didn’t contribute to costs, just lived there for free and if that wasn’t enough he told her what all she needed to do to her house (floors, countertops etc). she did all that and she paid for all of that. she carried that man for a few years, even cosigned for his car) and then he upped and married someone else. she was darned near suicidal.
third chick, close friend of mine, works a low wage job and doesn’t have money to spare. she just recently gave a guy $100 (not a lot in general but more than she could spare) with the understanding he’d pay it back the following week before her rent was due. guess whose rent was late?
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
9:59 am
@mark ~ no, you didn’t say “either” “or”. You only gave the example of having history, i.e, your wife. I though it implied, just asking.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
10:02 am
now here’s the double standard – I’ll admit every time I hear of a woman doing too much for a man I’ll talk about her and call her out. when I hear of a woman reaping the benefits of a man that’s doing too much I’ll high five her, tell her to get hers and just be careful in the process.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:03 am
yeah such as life it is a double standard that makes the woman looks silly as hell……Its a man’s wold! ha!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
10:06 am
disco – DANG! That’s a whole lot of reverse Caking going on with your friends!!! You think I could get one of them to sponsor me?
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
10:07 am
I can’t recall ever trying to buy a man or a friend
if i can afford to “buy” him, he must not want much. and what does that say about me? hmmm???
slim, if a dude hasn’t been treated right in past relationships it might take him a minute to realize that a truly good, kind, decent woman wants nothing from him other than respect and pleasant company. once they realize that, they’ll want to tie you up and keep you to themselves forever.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:11 am
too funny!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:16 am
czBrat what do you mean sis >>>if i can afford to “buy” him, he must not want much. and what does that say about me? hmmm???
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:18 am
Oh I think I get it……….hurt people hurt people and users use people but I am neither so again I don’t buy women or men.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
10:18 am
Lady – I took her statement to mean that maybe she doesn’t have much $$ to be out ‘buying’ some dude. I could be wrong though but I know I don’t have it like that.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
10:19 am
slim – that first chick, the neighbor chick, I won’t lie – I thought about pimping her out myself.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
10:20 am
@disco ~ those are thirsty, lonely women.
Mike P
March 22nd, 2012
10:21 am
Man receives the greatest pleasure from the bestow of his possessions, gifts, his world, and of himself to his family (including his woman).
It is perfectly normal for a man to shower a woman he’s interested with gifts, to entice the woman; it is in his very nature to be a provider, protector, and pro-creator. remove any of these from the man, and he becomes less than his actualized potential. Why would you be with a man who is less than himself?
Trouble is women know this and SOME women intentionally exploit this, and then want to call the guy a loser or whatever… I say, point that finger inward.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:22 am
Slim if I had money like that I ain’t buying friendship or a relationship period….it an’t worth it bc its not real in my world…it is fulfilling a void ….grown folks trying to compensate is amusing
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
10:22 am
nah, lady, just cracking wise on the ability to “buy” anybody. like disco’s friend, i ain’t got it to splurge so if i can afford you, you must be pretty cheap.
and if you’re cheap, i’m suddenly wondering how the he!! i ended up being your type.
yeah, what slim said.
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
10:25 am
…and SOME women …
thank you for being so considerate, mike.
n
March 22nd, 2012
10:26 am
That is a great question. I really like it. I am a naturally generous person. Giving is a way of saying, I like you, you are appreciated. As you my guess or surmise, I have not gathered a significant sum for myself but I enjoy my life. I remember a girl, a little hard pressed for money, I was very kind and generous and I think she appreciated it.Then a relative died and left her ooooodles of money, 5 or 6 million. do you know what happened?
Do you want to know what happened? You do? Well, I’ll tell you, she phased me out and another fello in. She tried to soften the blow, by saying “I could still be part of the action”, the 3 of us, but I lost interest. Now isn’t that a sad story?
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
10:26 am
cool beans~
Button
March 22nd, 2012
10:26 am
Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity? I’ve met a lot of women like this. They are so used to being dogged out that when a decent guy does come around they don’t know how to act and run the poor guy off!
Do you ever feel uncomfortable when someone showers you with romantic gifts? NO! I would feel the exact opposite, I would feel uncomfortable if he didn’t shower me with romantic gifts. Who doesn’t like/love a nice romantic guy?
disco
March 22nd, 2012
10:27 am
leggs – beyond thirsty and lonely. guess I was just raised different. I can give a guy the goods but he can’t have my money.
brat – you funny.
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
10:28 am
Mike P, do you think a man should be that way with every woman? Even a woman he is interested in? I mean we work hard so bestowing to something that is not a sure thing is dangerous.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
10:30 am
morning.
So Im a little in this situation now with my man. He’s generous, pays when we go out, sometimes sends flowers, etc. I don’t question his motive becuase I think it comes from the right place… But. What I have a hard time with is reciprocating because he has A LOT more money than I do, so no way I can even come close for gifts. I’ve tried to do creative things like cooking for him and dropping it off at his house (which he likes), or goofy little gifts. But still, I feel cheap. So how can I accept his generosity when I can’t reciprocate? I feel guilty.
Button
March 22nd, 2012
10:31 am
If I’m with a guy and he doesn’t compliment me or show any kind of romantic gestures then I have to question his attraction towards me.
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
10:32 am
lolalee, why do you feel obligated to gift him back at the same level? It’s the thought not the $
Button
March 22nd, 2012
10:34 am
lolalee are you looking at it from a competitive prespective? If so, then you’re going to feel anxious and then resentment will kick in.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
10:34 am
lolalee – thoughtful carries a lot of weight with the “real” men. like these men say on here all the time, for them it’s mostly about appreciation. they don’t really want or need much other than the occasional little tokens.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
10:38 am
Purple Yes, you are right, but it seems so out of wack. Like if we exchange holday gifts and your budget is $500 but mine is $50. We both understand that, but still… it just makes me look cheap. I’m not, I just don’t have that same level of resources. Thus, I’ll cook or any other little thing I can think of. Maybe its that ‘language of love’ kind of thing, too?? Gifts are not really how I receive love, but maybe that’s a way he shows his…??
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
10:39 am
So how can I accept his generosity when I can’t reciprocate? I feel guilty.
lola, dare i say if he is your man, he should not make you feel guilty for not giving at his level. if you’re guilting yourself, please stop!
we all give the best we can. for some it’s cash flow, for some it’s knowledge, for others time … you get what i’m trying to say. if you’re giving from the heart, that’s all that matters. don’t measure yourself by any other meter.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
10:40 am
@lolalee ~ I remember once dating a guy who had much more than I had. I felt a little inadequate in that my $$ didn’t stretch as far as his could. What I quickly realized is the things that I was doing meant more to him than any gift I could have bought. You’re doing fine and believe you me, it will be your own mental state that will sabotage things for you. Going forward, know you’re doing all you can out of love, respect and appreciation, and it’s the absolute best you can presently do. With that front and center, your gifts will be even more appreciate because now you’ll be extending them with a tad bit more confidence.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
10:41 am
dico I do make really sure he never thinks I feel entitled to anything. I do very much appreciate his genrosity in terms of paying for dinner at places I couln’t go to, or tickets to something or other. Every once in a while I’ll pick it up, but I have to plan ahead to do that, where he doesn’t really have to. Maybe also some of my ex baggage since he was a cheapazz man who thought I should carry him.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
10:44 am
L:eggs and cz Thank you. I definitely don’t want to mess this up. He is a good man, and he loves me.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
10:49 am
lolalee – That’s how it is in my current relationship where he has wayyy more $$ than I have. One Christmas he ended up buying me a netbook and a printer of which I was soooo grateful for and I have to say I felt a bit sad that I could not go out and spend a few hundred dollars on him. It really is the pressure i’ve put on myself because I’ve somehow programmed myself to think the only way to show gratitude is to be able to blow an equal amount of cash on a gift just as big. We’ve discussed this and he said that he has no issue with it at all. He was like, sometimes he pays, sometimes I pay and he’s cool with that. And I totally have had to be more creative with things too. For one of his bday’s I didn’t have a lot of misc cash but I went and got some reasonably priced decorations and decorated his house in bday garb, blew up lot’s a balloons that I placed everywhere and bought his favorite dessert. He was surprised and appreciative. Oh yeah, I sung happy birthday on a voice note and sent it to him as well. (I had to get realllll vulnerable on that one because although I can carry a tune, I’m not Whitney Houston)
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
10:50 am
I don’t know if I am speaking for all men/ But what impresses me is a card every know and then, my favorite meals, tools, tickets to a movie that I want to see and not the normal girly movie I am dragged to. Taking the garbage to the main road on a day that work has me behind in the morning etc. We are not hard to please and very cheap LOL
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
10:50 am
lolalee — Remember, a world-rocking BJ won’t cost you anything, but to him it’s priceless.
Kat
March 22nd, 2012
10:56 am
I agree with czBrat. I think generosity and being a gentlemen need to be traits men posses in a relationship, although there is a limit to everything. Excursive gifts/generosity can sometimes cause uneasiness for the other person, whether they are use to it or not. This can be due to the fact that the other person thinks that they can’t equally keep up with their partners gifts/generosity or possibly even smothered.
I have had my fair share of dating and short term relationships. In all of those relationships I did not find guys giving gifts or being extra nice or even gentlemen to get something more from me. Some woman have allowed men to lose these qualities by degrading themselves and making us appear less worthy of these gifts. I have had the experience that men will try to get something more even without even trying to wine and dine you. If you don’t put out they move on the someone that will.
However I do believe their are still amazing men out there that care. Now there is no perfect person, but there are people that posses qualities that you want in a person. If you think something is “perfect” than you have not been around or in it long enough. The guy I am currently with has been more than I ever asked for. He is a perfect gentlemen, has left me small occasional gifts(random email/text, a flower etc) and has never once tried to get something more. This is perhaps we are both on the same page about how we want our physical relationship to stay until we are married.
Woman when you find the one you should be with you wont complain or cringe about how he treats you. He will do it for you because he loves you and you will gladly accept it because you love him.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
10:57 am
Slim can I copy your birthday idea? It’s soon and that would be perfect.
Yes, Swiss, I can follow with your idea…
Purple , need to keep that in mind. He is a basic dude at heart.
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
10:57 am
no prob, lola. my situtation is not that different from yours. s/o treats me to wonderful overseas vacations every birthday and great events, restaurants and getaways all year long. he does this because HE enjoys it and feels blessed to have me to share it with.
i take him out of town for a weekend on his birthdays and nab groupon deals for us every now & then. so what? i also give him rub downs even when i’m tired, spend hours listening and talking to him about everything and nothing, lotion his feet after his shower, rub his head while we veg on the couch, and gave him a key to my place. i’ve shown him a level of trust (and trustworthy) that he’s never known. he couldn’t care less about the cash value of anything i do for him.
and swiss speaks truth too.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
10:57 am
And here comes Comedy Central
swiss you are a mess….But let me ask you a question. What if ‘world-rocking BJ’s’ a normal thing? How can you top that really? (not saying I give those but just asking generally) 
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
10:59 am
C’mon, now, Slim, I thought you had already mastered this. How do you top one world-rocking BJ? With another world-rocking BJ.
We’re not complicated creatures. 
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:01 am
@czB ~ does he have a brother? I want to date, vacation, and wine and dine (on both our dimes)!!!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
11:01 am
swiss – see my 10:27 – I’ll give the goods but I’m not parting with my money. that’s not to say that I don’t give gifts (and nice, thoughtful gifts at that) or pay for meals or what have you but I’ll never allow myself to put more money into a man than he’s putting into me. again I’ll chalk it up to my home training.
lola – how about popping out of a cake? or just plain being the cake. okay, never mind. to early for all that.
Purple
March 22nd, 2012
11:02 am
Slim, worl rocking BJ’s never get old.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:02 am
Maybe it’s time for a PSA for the ladies:
You don’t have to be that creative. I don’t care how many times you’ve emptied your man’s ballz, you will never hear him say, “Aw, maaaaaan, not sex AGAIN!”
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
11:04 am
Morning All!
Nice discussion we are having today!
Lolalee – He sounds like a keeper. I’ve been where you are. It’s easy to say “don’t feel bad, do what you can”, but you gotta push thru it. He’s obviously happy with what you bring to the table or he wouldn’t be seeing you. You show your appreciation the best way you can, in the way that you do. Enjoy the thought behind his generosity to you. You both are very blessed!
I was raised with the “nothing is free” mentality and, other than bday or holiday gifts, was not allowed to accept gifts from guys. My parents didn’t want any dudes expecting anything from me in return. When I grew older, it was a little harder to accept more and not read anything into a guy’s generosity because I was so programmed. I didn’t want any guy to think I wanted anything extra or was trying to be a golddigger because I had my own. All I couldn’t get on my own, I just didn’t have, or if truly in need my family would step in. I finally relaxed a little and realized I was going a little overboard with it. Nice guys would be trying to do nice things, and I was making them feel bad by not wanting to accept anything.
I wouldn’t say I was not used to a guy treating me well, but I was forever waiting for the other shoe to drop. A defense mechanism for me, not low self-esteem. I learned to relax a bit and trust my judgement.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
11:06 am
lolalee – Don’t consider it stealing…have at it but make sure you get some birthday confetti (Dollar Store
)…I’m not sure if there is a favorite picture of you two together but one thing I did for Vday was took a picture of us down to Walmart and had a calendar made with it on there. They give you different options of what you can use the picture for if you didn’t want to do a calendar. You can do a picnic or something with different foods/fruits he likes…but send him an evite just for him inviting him to a eve with you but make it nice and exciting, you don’t even have to tell him where you’re going. I think some guys like the surprise element too.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:06 am
Maybe I could put this in terms the ladies can better relate to:
Ladies, would you ever get tired of your man giving you diamonds? There you go.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:09 am
Or for you SAT analogy buffs:
BJs : men ::
diamonds : women
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
11:11 am
Correction
BJs : men::
earmuffilectomies : Slim
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
11:11 am
i was raised on “use what you got to get what you want” and the “keep an ace in the hole” (which i’ve shared on this blog before), so i’m just gonna smdh and smile at my mama’s good intentions. and leave it at that.
leggs, no available brothers, but i’m constantly screening his friends.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:14 am
Mike P
March 22nd, 2012
11:16 am
@Purple: no, not every woman. Just HIS woman or the woman he’s actually pursuing with sincere, serious, family-making intentions. NOT b ooty call women… booty call women are only paid in reciprocal sexual activities.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
11:17 am
so the birthday plan is decorate his house (he’ll appreciate the effort), cook him dinner (he likes my cooking) then a world rockin (priceless)
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:19 am
lolalee — And I’m quite sure you’ll have one very happy b-day boy on your hands after executing that plan.
lolalee
March 22nd, 2012
11:21 am
Thanks all. I feel better. (as will he, swiss!)
Out for day, work calls.
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
11:23 am
truthfully, lola, they are just that easy to please. have fun!!
and yes, swiss. i would get tired of diamonds.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:24 am
Good job, czB!
That what this blog does on most days, make people who are down feel better (that is if they come correct). For those feeling down and whining about and doing the same thing day in and day out, this blog will shoot you to the moon with no return aircraft.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:27 am
Well ain’t this a mutha…..
Here I am, having spent my whole morning helping other dudes get un-provoked BJs from their women. What am I, the Make a Wish Foundation?
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
11:29 am
lolalee – And i’m sure Leggs can back me up when I say, throw some CFMPs on and your best birthday suit and have a grand ole time
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:31 am
You damn skippy, Slim! Go for it lolalee…ppsssttt, don’t forget the lotion and/or Vaseline.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
11:33 am
brat – your mother gave pretty good advice. I’m not knocking it.
swiss / brat – diamonds might get old but I’d for daggone sure keep taking them. momma didn’t raise no fools.
czBrat
March 22nd, 2012
11:37 am
oh but yes. i’d get tired of em, but i’ll take em. excellent exchange currency in times of need.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:37 am
“diamonds might get old but I’d for daggone sure keep taking them. momma didn’t raise no fools.”
disco. Yup. And replace “diamonds” with “BJs” and “momma” with “dear old dad” and you’ve got my sentiments, exactly.
Mike P
March 22nd, 2012
11:39 am
@Purple: I agree with your 10:50am post!
I just want to make this statement to everybody… A real Man doesn’t need nor want money from the woman; men are to provide and women supports! and to this applies… Stop tripping on men for being generous and stop hating on women who supports and follows her man; as she is opened to receive.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
11:42 am
Mike that dude I speak of with my sis did not reciprocate but I get your point and agree with real men and women
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
11:43 am
don’t forget the lotion and/or Vaseline.
well aaaaalright…
On topic: Growing up my mommy me taught not to depend on a man…and this is while my parents were married. She instilled independence and self sufficience to my brothers, sister and I and that’s gotten me a long way BUT that also made it hard for me to accept gifts and other forms of generosity from men. Before, I’d have to be VERY down on my luck or finances to accept help from guys b/c usually they wantd something in return. Admittedly, there have been some that have helped just because and didn’t want anything and they showed me a different side of things. Now I’m a little better…a little, but I’m a work in progress..
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
11:46 am
men are to provide and women supports!
Reminds me of what beau said once, “he buys the meat, and I cook the meat” unless of course he’s throwing it on the grill. Slim doesnt do fire ut uh
disco
March 22nd, 2012
11:46 am
mike – I’m all for the woman providing emotional support, spiritual support etc. I am not for the woman financially supporting the man and likely never will be. not saying I have a problem with a woman helping contribute to finances but financially supporting is a whole ‘nother something.
swiss – I get it and I’d say you fellas are getting the short end of the stick on the deal but since I’m on the long end of the stick I’ll let it ride.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:48 am
disco — You just stay on the long end of the stick, and we’ll be too happy to care.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:49 am
Oh, and don’t forget the ballz, they need attention, too.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
11:50 am
and I’m waiting on the “ride” joke or did you miss that one.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:51 am
And, queue the “swiss only has 1 nut” joke in 5… 4… 3… 2…
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
11:51 am
Leggs – Good looking out on the vaseline/baby oil gel
swiss – I think Ex is starting to rub off on you a little bit…Even I didn’t see that coming Long end of the stick lol
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:53 am
disco — That comment had more available openings that Lawrence Fishburne’s daughter.
I just had to pick a target & run with it.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:53 am
@disco ~ swiss’ take on your ride stance was expected.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:55 am
@swiss ~ I told you a while back, that I was done joking. I’ve kept my word (and some days it wasn’t easy). Sometimes it just fell in my lap, but I walked away with uttering a word.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:55 am
Slim — Never, ever use the phrase “rub off” and Me.lo in the same sentence. Ever.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:55 am
Slim ~ how did you NOT see that coming…it’s was right there with Neon Lights, chica!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
11:56 am
and drumroll (re fishburne’s daughter).
leggs – I know. like he said, that one was chock full of openings…. I expected it though because I am fond of saying “I don’t do the short end of the stick” and it always gets a rise (yeah yeah yeah) out of the fellas.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:56 am
withOUT uttering a word…
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
11:56 am
“Sometimes it just fell in my lap, but I walked away with uttering a word.”
Leggs — Well, you could at least have the courtesy to hand it back to me. I mean I’ve only got one left, dayum!
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:56 am
5, 4, 3, 2….
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
11:57 am
There you go….
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:00 pm
@swiss ~ to be honest, I thought you would play with the words in both sentences. (1) it fell in my lap and (2) not uttering a word. Thought you might say that one ball prevented me from uttering anything…you’re slippping my man, you’re slipping (LOLOL).
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:00 pm
Sorry, it actually was just one sentence!
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
12:01 pm
Ha ha, those old tired Ain’t(Saints) can’t win fair! That’s what they get!!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:01 pm
leggs – and you are tripping. sound like you are just having a good old giggly time today. that’s what’s up. sometimes silly is the only way to go. (not that I’m calling you silly but hopefully you know what I mean).
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:02 pm
“you’re slippping my man, you’re slipping”
Leggs — It’s all that d@mn Vaseline you rubbed on your mini-donk, chica. Not that I’m complaining…..
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
12:03 pm
queue the “swiss only has 1 nut” joke in 5… 4… 3… 2…
Is uni-nut a word?…no seriously is it?…
Imma google it and see…
Mike P
March 22nd, 2012
12:05 pm
@disco: I don’t think you get what I’m saying… the man provides… the woman supports.
The man is suppose to provide for you; food, shelter, security, etc…, because the world is so organized, in most cases this means MONEY; the woman is suppose to support him in his duty to GOD, Family, and his Nation.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:07 pm
mike – I do get it. that’s my point too. that a lot of women have taken on the role of financial supporter and a lot of men are perfectly okay with being financially supported.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:12 pm
Sassy — I prefer “uni-baller.” Or “army of one.”
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
12:13 pm
a lot of women have taken on the role of financial supporter and a lot of men are perfectly okay with being financially supported.
Ain’t that some fragga nackle bull… It’s even worse when children are involved b/c this cycle could be perpetuated when it needs to stop.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
12:14 pm
Uni-baller AKA army of one….duly noted
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:14 pm
@disco ~ calling me silly is not a negative. Well, usually not. I like being silly, I love to laugh and act a fool. It’s all good. I also look forward to how swiss’ puts his spin on words. Now, he’s the silly one, him and Slim. Wait, did I just throw her under the bus??
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:17 pm
“you’re slippping my man, you’re slipping”
Leggs — It’s all that d@mn Vaseline you rubbed on
Got dayum, that was a good one. Didn’t see that one coming.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:17 pm
“Wait, did I just throw her under the bus?”
Yes you did, Leggs, and me, too. But that’s okay. I gave Slim an earmuffilectomy while we were down there & now we’re both in a good mood.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:20 pm
I just thought on a flip to generosity. any of y’all know any folks that have no shame and will just ask for any old thing? I have a family member (an aunt) who will ask anyone for anything. she’ll ask the kids for their lunch money and will take it if they give it to her. I went to school with a girl who just walked around every day asking folks for their change or some of their chips or an extra pencil or whatever. we teased her relentlessly for all that begging but she didn’t care one bit.
leggs – I don’t think silly is negative either but I have a tendency to rub folks the wrong way even if it’s not my intention. just didn’t want to start nothing accidentally.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:20 pm
“Didn’t see that one coming.”
I’m gonna let that one go, out of mercy. But just know what I could have done with this…
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:21 pm
Leggs – I knew I was going to get reprimanded for using “rub off” and Ex in the same sentence. I just figured I’d keep him on his toes in more ways than UNI hehehehe
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:25 pm
Well played, Slim. Well played.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:26 pm
swiss – Thanks you sir, May I please have another?
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:28 pm
Well played, Slim. Well played
I feel like we’re all playing some weird Battleship or Words with Friends game right now. Next time I give out one of those frequent world class BJ’s, Imma tell him to yell out, “YOU SANK MY BATTLESHIP!”
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:29 pm
and he’ll be hollering yahtzee
slim might say “UNO”
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:30 pm
Dang, this is just a little too close to home
http://www.ajc.com/news/man-with-knife-tries-1394728.html
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:33 pm
meant swiss might say uno but I suppose slim could also say uno. after all uno means you are this close to winning (or not) depending on who screams first.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
12:35 pm
As long as nobody screams, “BULLSH!T!!!” it’s all good.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:39 pm
leggs – I don’t think silly is negative either but I have a tendency to rub folks the wrong way even if it’s not my intention. just didn’t want to start nothing accidentally.
You are preaching to the choir! Trust me!!!!
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
12:41 pm
“… Imma tell him to yell out, “YOU SANK MY BATTLESHIP!” – AND ALL MY LITTTLE SOLDIERS….
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:45 pm
Leggs – That definitely brought the ick factor just then lol I have a male friend that just underwent surgery on his wang…he was told there is a blockage of some sort down there that is preventing him from having kids. I’m sure that has to be scary and very uncomfortable
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:45 pm
duck, duck, duck, duck, “GOOSE”.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
12:49 pm
Wh wha who where Who got the goose? Poe me a drank den!
disco
March 22nd, 2012
12:52 pm
slim you funny but why all the “drank” gotta be named after animals. blue bull, red bull, brass monkey, tiger rose etc etc.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
1:02 pm
disco – Maybe because if you drink enough of it that’s probably how you’ll be acting…your animalistic side comes out….So with that said, which animal would you say you act most like? :p
Exiled!
March 22nd, 2012
1:02 pm
Hey guys,let me say I just went to the doc this morning coz he wanted to rub my indices from the back and he says I came out with flying colors!
No colon stuff detected!
I must give it up to those doc and nurses coz they put me to sleep and I didn’t no Nothing until they said,’wake up!’
Pheeew,for a moment or so when I was laying there,I thought just maybe,my balls will never Rise Up again.
See u tmrw then! -;)
To my enemies: kick in your nutts(or cobwebs)!
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
1:03 pm
@Slim ~ that sounds uncomfortable. Hopefully, he’ll get his marching orders soon and can hit the target area!
Exiled!
March 22nd, 2012
1:04 pm
Rub my insides!
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
1:06 pm
I have not read anything on here yet. Been crazy busy.
I’m wondering if any of you have a close contact to a pit bull rescue. My friend who died last week has a pit that needs to go to a rescue and not a shelter where he will be put down. Please let me know. Thank you!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
1:15 pm
Leggs – yeah he said it’s all swollen and painful right now. OUCH!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
1:25 pm
Mmmm, a nice dress brutha just came into my office with a few inquiries…duly noted lol
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:26 pm
I just order a khaki tan lien dress!!!!! Can’t wait to wear it for my cinco de mayo festivities
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
1:26 pm
“Hey guys,let me say I just went to the doc this morning coz he wanted to rub….” – Doubt he “wanted” to, but this job dictates that he has to (lol). It sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to…Ok, imma stop!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:29 pm
Afternoon, all.
@Lady – A “lien” dress? Girl, I know you will be lean and mean in your lien dress.
@Bluz: I think I might know someone. Let me check…
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:34 pm
Ummmm, was it something I said?
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
1:36 pm
Thanks ITL…I’m just not getting any return emails or calls and the house is in foreclosure and I need to find a home for him. My friend’s wife cannot walk him because he’s so big and she’s very tiny. He pulls her to the ground. It’s just not fair to him…
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
1:36 pm
It sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to…Ok, imma stop!
Maybe that’s why he had to be put to sleep…Hope he doesn’t feel some kinda way…or need to be held or sumthing. Either way, good news is good news..
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
1:37 pm
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
1:38 pm
sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to
Well you do know who you’re talking to right? Neva know with that dude, just neva know lol I don’t know if it was just me, but I could almost read the excitement in his post about getting prodded in the who-ha
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:40 pm
Lady – Are you still here? Where did you order your dress? I haven’t worn linen for some time.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
1:41 pm
Side topic: Anyone catch the reality series (which one right) on VH-1 about celebrity couples in therapy? DMX and his wife was on there and dude is OFF DA CHAINS. He told his wife he NEVER wanted to get married and he gon f@#k all the na na he wants til he dies…and his wife just sat there. This was in front of other couples mind you. I had to change the channel after that…but that bi.otch would have to sleep with one eye open.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:41 pm
Into the Light
need to find some cute tan sandals…..need to look like they came outof Dillards with a Ross price tag! LOL the dress was 50% off love it
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:42 pm
C I will email it to ya sis!
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
1:43 pm
I don’t know if it was just me, but I could almost read the excitement in his post about getting prodded in the who-ha
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SLIM….you killin me chica
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:43 pm
@Bluz: Did you call Atlanta Pit Bull Rescue??
@Lady and Sassy: I love linen. I just wish they would invent a kind that didn’t wrinkle when you sat down; a kind that would always stay so crisp and fresh looking as when you put it on.
@Sassy: Clean to the white meat, okay???
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:45 pm
@Lady – have you seen the new DSW commercial with all the wedges and sandals? I had to rewind and watch again!!
@Swiss: Diamonds? Get old?? Not this little red chicken – that’s my birthstone!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:46 pm
but that bi.otch would have to sleep with one eye open.
Sho nuff…I’m one of those you better move the hell on and with the quickness, kind of women. I don’t take to kind to a dude being all out disrespectful and lacking morals and decorum. I just take my little self right on along, to keep from taking him down a few pegs. Best know I shole ain’t scared. I don’t want to spend time or regretting a lifetime of causing harm so I quietly move it along when someone gets close to taking me there.
DMX need should let Andre Rison be his example at best. Everybody don’t take that lying down. He doing that because he can.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:47 pm
Okay Lady
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:47 pm
Sassy told me about DSW!!! I heart wedge shoes! okay going on their site now
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:49 pm
Lady – Never heard of that site but I absolutely LOVE the dress.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
1:50 pm
Naw Slim, he was excited about the doctor not finding anything (lol). Yousa mess!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:50 pm
And for a dude like DMX I wouldn’t stay…not to watch that clown show BUT if I had no choice and no way out, as quick as he was getting ass, I’d be getting mine…as often if not better
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:52 pm
I received two VS coupons for free panties. I’m taking them up on that. I don’t know if they intended to send me two but I cashing in.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:52 pm
C
!!! I am so unconventional!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
1:53 pm
I want to see the dress. I love linen. The one time I will begrundingly accept wrinkles.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:54 pm
Lady – I think it’s plainly sexy. Not over the top but very nice.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:55 pm
that is my style honey simple but sexy! I am a plain jane with spunk glad you see and appreciate it sis
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:56 pm
hold tight leggs
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:56 pm
A pair of thong sandals and sitting on some restaurant patio would complete the outfit…lol
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:57 pm
I wanna see it, too!!!
@Swiss: you’re slipping, man. Lady said spunk.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
1:58 pm
It reminds me of the 70s era
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
1:58 pm
@Cely: Hats are back this year, too! Big,oversized ones and one that give a little nod to the 20’s jazz era. I love a linen dress with a pretty hat and sandals.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
1:59 pm
Into the Light don’t start him lolololol
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:00 pm
ITL – I’m not big on hats but I give a nod to the women that can pull it off. An oversized hat would be cute with that dress….definitely.
I do though wear the oversize hats when going on vacation. Out in the sun too much so it’s apart of my shopping list when I’m picking up vacation items.
kristied
March 22nd, 2012
2:01 pm
I used to feel the same way, that I had to be wary of just what I was going to owe for a man’s generosity and that “nothing is free”. Most of the time men will prove you right! Be careful that you don’t go overboard though. A couple of years ago I met a man who spoiled me rotten and I was so cautious and careful that I was worried more that I should have been. Turns out that this guy is just generally a giver and enjoys spoiling “his princess” as he calls me. And he still does! Not just in material ways but in just simple things like running bubble baths and helping me fold my laundry and such. Don’t miss out on what could be the love of your life because of your fears.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
2:01 pm
Nice Dress…looks very comfy, especially on a hot, sweltering day.
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:02 pm
thanks honey cinco is hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:03 pm
I still haven’t seen the dress.
Speaking of vacation, I need one. Bad. I am going to Phoenix next month for work, though, so that should be nice. Hoping to fit in some vacay stuff while I’m there. Any suggestions???
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:04 pm
ITL – I don’t have your email addy. Maybe Leggs can forward to you?
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:05 pm
ITL – I know NOTHING about Pheonix
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:07 pm
i love hats and wore a hat last cinco de mayo with another type dress leggs that pic is on fb
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:07 pm
ITL whats your email honey
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:08 pm
intothelight25@yahoo.com
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:10 pm
@Cel: The grand canyon is on the list, because I’ve never seen it. But I was thinking maybe Sedona, too. I don’t know anything about Phoenix either. It does, however, have the distinct advantage of being the hella way from here.
Exiled!
March 22nd, 2012
2:10 pm
Slim…u got jokes right!?
I get back to u when I’m feeling better
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
2:10 pm
I’d bet DMX’s wife may look like a fool now, but she’s biding her time. I sure hope she is. I’d be damn if I let a man make a fool out of me like that, especially in front of people. She’s biding her time…she has to be. If not, he knows he can walk over her and she’s not going anywhere.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
2:11 pm
Sassy – I had started watching that show and saw the part where the lady was telling DMX that was a substance free facility but he ended up drinking his Henny out of the bottle anyway. I got sidetracked and missed the rest of the show. So he really said that to his wife???? WOW! He definitely looks like he’s been on something…he couldn’t beleive he was not going to be able to smoke his herb while there. They must really need the $$ for him to agree to do that show. I feel bad for wifey because it doesn’t sound like this is going to put her in a good light either by taking his behavior
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:12 pm
ITL – It does, however, have the distinct advantage of being the hella way from here
Sho nuff
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:15 pm
i didn’t watch DMX but the fb and twitter reviews went hard on him a crackhead maybe wow
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:15 pm
ITL I sent it
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:18 pm
Ooooh, that is SO CUTE!! I’d like to have a dress like that, but 55″ long is too long for me unless I want it to have a train. LOL
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
2:18 pm
Poor thing about DMX. He never, ever felt he was worthy of the accolades bestowed upon him nor the talent God has given him. He has done everything in his power to destory it. He’s still standing, but man he’s doind a bang up job!!!!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:18 pm
LMBAO! I like long honey I am short
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:19 pm
ITL my breast and butt will bring it up lol I had to go there but I have always done the long dress thing they fit me well or I well them well
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:20 pm
LOL@Lady. I’m 5′3″, but some kinda way those maxi dresses always seem to drag the ground on me. You’d think the girls would hold them up, but no such luck.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:21 pm
Look at that, Lady….great minds think alike….
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:21 pm
They have an article on essence.com about DMX’s wife entitled “When Ride or Die Is Just Sad”.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
2:23 pm
Ex – Awww c’mon now. Did doc dig out your senes of humor while they were in there? hehehehehe Alright, alright I’ll leave you alone for now. Glad you have a clean bootay…ahem, I mean bill of health
Re DMX: I’m surprised she’s stayed married to him this long.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:23 pm
I most do maxi….love maxi dresses of any sort
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:24 pm
I LOVE maxi sundresses! I have a cute paisley one with bell sleeves that will be a nice transition from winter/spring to summer! It’s so bohemian chic, which I love!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:25 pm
C and ITL
classic classy ladies! 
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
2:25 pm
I have that article at home, kimmie, and haven’t even broken the spine yet.
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
2:26 pm
not article, magazine.
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:26 pm
Slim – How long have they been married?
DMX has always been psycho. I don’t see how any woman could even kick it with him, much less marry him!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:27 pm
Kimmie – that sounds so cute!! I love the boho look. Especially when I can find some cute vintage jewelry to wear with it.
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
2:27 pm
@ITL…I was given an email to someone there, but not yet heard back…
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:32 pm
ITL – It is really cool! It’s a Lucky Brand, which I love but normally can’t afford, but I caught it on sale for more than half off.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:35 pm
Did you get some cute shoes to go with, Kimmie?? I just checked out Zappos, and they have some wedge sandals that are TOO CUTE!!
@Bluz: Keep the faith. Pits, unfortunately, get a bad rap but some of the sweetest dogs I’ve ever met have been pits. Just like people, it’s all in how they’re raised.
Is this a boy or girl? How old?
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:35 pm
Sort of to the side of sundress..I ordered my new glasses and the dude that put the order in picked those above any others. I think though they are men frames
They are super sexy but how bad is that???
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:35 pm
I think so because I pulled them up online
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:37 pm
If they look good on you, and you rock them Cely, I wouldn’t worry about what they are.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
2:38 pm
I’m 5′3″, but some kinda way those maxi dresses always seem to drag the ground on me.
Me,too..chile I have yet to wear one for that same reason…plus why hide these gorgeous legs?!
Did doc dig out your senes of humor while they were in there? hehehehehe
I cain’t breave….air…must get air Slim I’ve said it before..gurl you on a roll like sh!t paper…
I don’t see how any woman could even kick it with him, much less marry him!
Kimmie I read that article,too and thought it was very,very sad. She setting a hell-a-bad example for her children..the boys and the daughter.
Slim they’ve been together since they were children…over 25+ years. DMX said you knew from the first time I brought you home I was f@#$ing other chicks…and proceeded to tell her which ones…
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:39 pm
ITL – That’s what I was thinking. Had I not pulled them up, I would not have known
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
2:39 pm
ITL…he’s a boy named Radley. I think he’s about 5 or 6. He’s cute as can be. I just worry because he is a protector and I don’t know how he will be around other people. He’s never been around children. He is ok around cats and dogs. If I didn’t have three cats and if my back yard was totally fenced in, I would foster him. I’m just praying that someone will help me. He has several animals that I’m trying to find homes for…
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:40 pm
I don’t advocate ho-ing but if I had a dude that I was just absolutely stuck with, no way and…NO WAY OUT…and he ho’d on me, I’d do the same. Don’t judge me
I would
a reasonable person
March 22nd, 2012
2:41 pm
A romantic gift must be at the right moment
or the ‘relationship’ can become unromantic real fast.
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:42 pm
Light – Yeah, I got a few pairs that will look cute with it. The problem will be narrowing down which!
Celisea – The glasses sound cool! I love cool, edgy glasses, nothing too girly.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
2:43 pm
kimmie – I’m actually not sure how long they’ve been married
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:43 pm
Thanks Kimmie – I’m hoping so. I tried on about 10 pairs and each time we came back to that one. Too, I tried to get something that would look well with transition lenses
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:47 pm
@Kimmie: That’s the kind of problem I like!!
@Bluz: I’ll keep it in mind. I’m so happy you’re looking for a home for him, instead of taking him to a kill-shelter. Atlanta Pet Rescue is another great org. Have you tried them?
@Cely: You say that, but from other stuff you’ve said on here, I just couldn’t picture you doing it. Seems like it would go against your integrity. Now you, me, Sassy and disco burying him in the backyard??? No problem seeing that. LOL
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
2:49 pm
There is nothing about DMX that is attractive to me. Even his money doesn’t make him attractive. Most of it is going to dope, rehab & child support. On top of that he’s a mean idiot. I can see the attraction SOME women have to a bad boy if he’s at least charming & smooth with it. He’s an absolute A-hole to me.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:51 pm
ITL – It would…yes, it would but if I had a dude brazen and all out disrespectful…my first step is to leave. If though I can’t and he’s determined to be all out respectful, that’s something I’d have fine for me.
More than likely though, I ain’t gonna be a hostage. I’m out of there. Dudes like him can only kiss my ass eternally.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:53 pm
Something I’d have for me. Yes it would be wrong but I’ll be daggone if I sit there and you’re brazenly getting as much ass as you can get. Then too, you wouldn’t dust me once. It would always be headache, stomach ache, Aunt Flow…something. I’d love another.
IF IF IF, I couldn’t get out. But I don’t see that.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
2:55 pm
y’all gone make me lose my mind up in here…
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
2:56 pm
I don’t think nothing about him is appealing. He’s a hardcore looking thug.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:56 pm
I still think it would be more fun to bury him in the backyard.
I kid, I kid….
Where is Swiss? He’s probably the only other blogger who knows the words to, “I Used to Love Her, but I Had to Kill Her” by GnR
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
2:57 pm
Dayum disco. Thanks for that! I just spit coffee on my monitor!! LMAO!!!
Lady~
March 22nd, 2012
2:59 pm
bye gang! peace
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:00 pm
ITL – Now you, me, Sassy and disco burying him in the backyard??? No problem seeing that
This would be the other option…lol My intergrity or him…what’s it gonna be?
disco
March 22nd, 2012
3:00 pm
say what you will about dmx but I was feeling that song. somebody was working his last nerve. y’all gone make me – go all out, lose my mind, act a fool, lose my cool – up in here. no wonder he said they were gone be staring at the roof of the church.
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
3:00 pm
ITL…right now, I’m trying pit rescues first. If not successful, I’ll branch out. I have a few feelers out. There is no way I could take him to a kill shelter. I love animals too much and my friend would haunt me if I did!!!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:00 pm
Bye Lady!!!
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
3:01 pm
disco – That’s the only thing I like about him – that song!LOL!!!
Some red-eyed thug? No thank you!!!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
3:03 pm
He’s a hardcore looking thug
Well, she’s a bit on the rough side as far as looks go too…but ain’t da one to gossip so you ain’t heard that from me
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:04 pm
I don’t think I’ve seen his wife. Really I wouldn’t expect no less for him. Although….. money makes the oddest couples.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
3:08 pm
kimmie – I did like ruff ryder’s anthem too.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:09 pm
Now you, me, Sassy and disco burying him in the backyard??? No problem seeing that
COSIGN!!!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:13 pm
I think last week we dismembered a dude for peeing on us. Now you know all out ho-ing calls for shovels and holes…lol
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
3:15 pm
Celisea – Go on essence.com and click on that article I mentioned. They have a pic of the lovely couple!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:18 pm
Kimmie – Yeah, she’s not “over the top” and “suited” for him in the looks department.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
3:19 pm
ITL — “and I can still hear her complain…”
Now, ain’t that a b!tch?
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:22 pm
She could’ve kept that interview to herself. After looking at the way he treated her last night….a muh fugga woulda got cut…woosaaaaah….woooosaaaaaah!!!!!!
She claims she takes her wedding vows VERY seriously but geeze…what else has to happen before she gets a clue?!?!?
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
3:22 pm
My fav DMX song is “Slippin”
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:29 pm
Slim I like that collabo he had with Dru Hill…What y’all really want from a ni##a…he’s got some other joints I like but the man is disturbed. His Behind the Music episode is SAD…he talks about how his mom beat him til she was tired, being so hungry one time he drank perfume.. He definitely didn’t have an ideal childhood…alot of us didn’t but we weren’t abused like nasty dogs either. He’s got unresolved issues.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
3:30 pm
sassy – I didn’t see dmx behind the scenes but I did watch whodini on unsung the other day. I enjoyed it. forgot about the song “funky beat” until they played it on the show.
Row 125, seat 11B
March 22nd, 2012
3:32 pm
Bluzgirl, take the dog to PAWS Atlanta…They are a no kill facility and will keep him until he passes or is adopted…..
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
3:32 pm
LOL@Swiss. Literally, I think, because the song was written for his dog, n’est pas?
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
3:33 pm
@Sassy, Celisea, and disco: What kinda shoes do we wear for grave digging?!?!?!?!?!
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:34 pm
I typed a long post…dern it.
On my cousin that went back to her philandering, abusive (mentally and physically) husband. Up and divorced and married another on her, took her daughter (the son wouldn’t go). When they were in school and she’d just like, would do things like withdrawn them and change schools without her knowing. She never knew how to fight back. All she would do is cry. Now that the daughter is 19 and well known for ho-ing. Have contracted something that keeps her in the hospital, he tugged at her to come back because he couldn’t do a thing with her. And like the dummy she’s always been, she fell for it.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:37 pm
ITL – Graveyard stompers…lol
And what I didn’t like about it, the daughter went with him, the son grew up and got married and she sold her home to move in with her grandmother that raised her. Cause her mama was never nowhere to be found. She saved her money and paid none of the bills for the last two months and up and left. Didn’t sit down like a woman and tell granny she was moving. Just disappeared. Now all I can say is buddy must be packing something grand because during the time of her leaning on us (other cousins) while going through….cause all she EVA did was cry, he did everything to and on her…shy of sh!tting and spitting.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:37 pm
What kinda shoes do we wear for grave digging?!?!?!?!?!
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
3:38 pm
@Row 125 ~ I’m a volunteer at P.A.W.S and didn’t even think of them.
I feel sorry anybody in a marriage and only one person takes the vows seriously. I now see why we have that show S N A P P E D cuz I would snapped on his a$$ along time ago. Not really, I would have walked away a long time ago.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
3:40 pm
ITL — Oh, the dog… Of course, it’s about the dog. Yeeeeeeeeah, that’s the ticket.
kimmie
March 22nd, 2012
3:41 pm
I’m sorry about your effed up childhood, but it’s not anybody’s obligation to suffer for it, not your wife or girlfriend, not your kids. Get the help you need so you can be a functioning member of society.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:41 pm
Not only was he abusive, she suffered a menta breakdown some years ago and to this day she will not tell what caused. All we know is it was something between them. All I can guess is that she caught him with another man. I talking broken, wearing pampers, institutionalized. I would be typing all day if I told it all. It was THAT grandmother who wasn’t so aged that went to her rescue and took her in until she was on the mend.
I saw her this morning with that little wench of a daughter. I was polite, waved and kept going.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:41 pm
Now all I can say is buddy must be packing something grand
That is suuuch a naive, rookie move…pros know how to handle a good hammer..
disco
March 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
leggs – snapped is just a good title. you ever notice most of those chicks were cold blooded and calculating? they were plotting, scheming, planning and premeditating the mess out of their crimes. then when they get their plan together it was like they said to themselves “the next time he does it” I’m going to get him.
kimmie – ditto. and wifey needs to quit whining (about whatever y’all are talking about because I haven’t seen/read anything). she knew who she was marrying. dmx doesn’t seem the type to put on a good boy front. my guess is he was ignorant right out the gate and for what it’s worth – I respect that.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
Leggs I would’ve walked away…AFTER I’ve snapped. I don’t know the magnitude of said snapping but there would’ve been some type convo about how I felt or something before I bounced.
I saw her this morning with that little wench of a daughter. I was polite, waved and kept going
Good for you Celi..
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
Sassy – Sho nuff. After all that crap, you can’t lay down well enough for me to lay there 2 seconds.
The sad thing was, when she left him she was a size 4. She was “not allowed” any bigger. WTH!!! I wonder what he’s gonna do. She’s a pumpkin right now. Bet he have her in the gym. Oh, and hair couldn’t get messed up either. She was not allowed to go nappy.
I’m not exaggerating. Buddy had her out there. I guess so, he snatched her back. Big Dummy
Bluzgirl
March 22nd, 2012
3:44 pm
@Leggs…can you get me someone to talk to about the dog or should I just bring him there? My email is bluzgirl79@gmail.com
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:46 pm
Alright, I gotta hit the gym
Been doing that here of late (again) and feeling good. I just hate my hair was permed Saturday. I had to ride with my windows down and air dry on the way home.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
3:52 pm
Swiss: The dog thing is an urban legend?? Hunh. Learn something new everyday.
Grave stompers! LOL
Good suggestion, Row!!
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
3:53 pm
Have a good workout Celi…I don’t get my hair relaxed ’til next week so you already know what I’m dealing with…try to picture a sista on the treadmill runnin all cute. Just enough to break a lil sweat but not enough to get dripping wet.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
3:56 pm
ITL — Actually, I don’t know. It could be about a dog, I just prefer to think not.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
3:56 pm
Thanks Sassy…It don’t take much for me to breakout in a sweat. It takes me a good 20/30 minutes to cool down. Usually it doesn’t hit me until I’m done…that’s when the sweating really start.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
3:57 pm
Aw, c’mon, Sassy. Nothing wrong with getting dripping wet.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
3:59 pm
Cel – I just permed my hair last weekend and dreaded going to the gym just for that fact. Sometimes I want to just shave it all off and be done with it.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
Uni-baller, seeing that you are married to a sister I thought you’d know how it works with our hair. That being said, no I don’t mind getting dripping wet…for a good cause
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
okay didn’t mean to bold the whole thing
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:01 pm
I feel you Slilm..it’s times like that where I wish I had braids or dreadlocks…
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
4:02 pm
Slim – Don’t you just hate it. It’s like a waste of money. I had to bump my hair with the flat iron. I’m about to pin it up and just go. I’ll wash it Saturday to give it a fresh look. But danggit that’s money down the drain.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:02 pm
okay and didn’t mean to jack up your moniker Slim
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
4:04 pm
The thing that helps me through it is I can plug my ear phones and watch t.v….lol
If I’m not distracted, I won’t make it through. Alright…45 minutes on the treadmill.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
4:07 pm
Uniballer Isn’t that a pen???
@Sassy: I think Swissy was predicting rain south of the border….
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
4:08 pm
Sassy — Yeah, I know how it works w/ the hair.
Although, Mrs. Swiss doesn’t really spend much on her hair. Does her own perms at home when necessary (which I usually pick up for her & get plenty of funny looks) & just goes w/ me to Great Clips for a cheap trim every now & then.
disco
March 22nd, 2012
4:11 pm
sassy – since I’ve been natural with the hair I’ve tried hard not to turn into one of those folks that is always trying to convert other folks but it’s times like this that make it difficult.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
4:16 pm
okay and didn’t mean to jack up your moniker Slim
Sassy – Sounds like you’ve been hitting happy hour a little early lol
Cel – I’ve gone back to perming my own hair because that was adding up. If I need a good trim, I’ll hit the salon up. Matter of fact, I recently got some layers cut in it right before Valentines.
swiss – I would probably have a question mark on my forehead if I saw you picking up some perm in the beauty store lol
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:19 pm
Swissy was predicting rain south of the border….
ITL I know he was…that’s why I said I wouldn’t mind doing it for a “good cause”
(which I usually pick up for her & get plenty of funny looks)
I’m sure you to Swiss…
Disco I don’t know if I could go natural if I weren’t wearing locks. I ain’t mad atcha though…
The closest I’ve come to seeing myself with a natural is unbraiding my hair after 3 months and washing it before the next set of braids (back when I rocked braids). Everytime I’d look in the mirror and be like
So I know I ain’t ready..
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:21 pm
Slim when I leave here I’ll be hitting up a happy hour trust me. Mr. Bermuda’s feeling better (meds done kicked in) so umm err ahh….
Leggs
March 22nd, 2012
4:31 pm
PEACE!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
4:32 pm
Sassy – Glad to hear he’s feeling better…the beau is still on his antibiotic so he hasn’t been drinking this week. I have no problem drinking alone but it really isn’t as much fun as it could be if we were both throwing them back
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
4:32 pm
@Sassy: Uh-oh…this dance ain’t for errbody….only the sexy people…. so get out there and dance, dance I said….:lol:
Of all the songs to get stuck in my head….
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
4:36 pm
Slim — Remember, whenever you drank, you are not alone. Somewhere I am with you, getting my drank on, too.
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:38 pm
I have no problem drinking alone but it really isn’t as much fun as it could be if we were both throwing them back
I know right?! He’s not drinking either cause he can’t..but I’ll have a cocktail for us both and then give him …..I ain’t even gotta finish that one. Truth be told..he’s all giddy n sh!t cause he knows what’s up.
Aight blog familia…hold it down ’til tomorrow. Ciao!!
Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)
March 22nd, 2012
4:39 pm
ITL I’ll be dancing alright!!
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
4:42 pm
swiss – Well get ready because I will have me some drank when I get home from the gym.
Did yall hear that R Kelly is supposed to come out with some more Trapped in the Closet video’s…as if he didn’t kill us softly with the first 200 stories
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
4:46 pm
Alright, Sassy – remember to stay hydrated and stretch before hand.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
4:47 pm
Swiss, I decided today that I’m a girl you…minus the atheism.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
4:49 pm
ITL –Glad to hear you’ve finally realized that you love pdu$$y.
Slim's got the fever!
March 22nd, 2012
4:54 pm
Glad to hear you’ve finally realized that you love pdu$$y
Oh man! ITL, you look like a person who just walked into a big ass spider web
swiss you’re so wrong but I don’t want you to be right because you keep me laughing.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:01 pm
ITL — You know I kid because I love…
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:01 pm
@Swiss: What do you mean “finally”???? Did I ever indicate that I did not love it?!?!?!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:02 pm
Bwah ha….just kidding….
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:03 pm
ITL — You know I kid because I love…
Ah, Swiss….if only weren’t married. And an atheist. And pale. (*sigh*)
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:04 pm
Well, technically, I’m not an atheist. I’m agnostic. Can’t help you with the married or pale issues, though…
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:06 pm
By the way, ITL, your 5:01 gave me a little tingle down under. IJS… (I mean that as a compliment, BTW)
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
5:08 pm
ITL – You only cross over? As in chocolatte? Not crossing over as in cooter
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:08 pm
You and every other man!!
For some reason, men like the girl on girl WAY more than we will ever love the man to man.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:10 pm
Celisea, aren’t you supposed to be on the treadmill!?!?!? LOL
Not exclusive to crossing over. My PREFERRED man is tan with dark hair and really, really blue or really deep brown eyes. Think Jason Momoa.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
5:11 pm
Good treadmill walk and the fan is now going to cool off a bit…I’m heading home…night folks
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
5:12 pm
ITL – Gotcha.
I did and I’m sweating bullets. I got on at 4:10 ish…I just have to run downstairs
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:12 pm
By “pale” I meant lily white. I was teasing Swiss, since I have no way of knowing if he’s tan or not. I could man watch all day in Miami, though…something about those Cuban men with the soulful brown eyes…. If only they were a little taller.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:13 pm
Hey, I’ve got the blue eyes and dark-ish hair. As for the tan…. uh, does red count?
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:15 pm
Maybe you could get a spray tan, Swiss. But then you might look like an oompa loompa.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:16 pm
<—– blue eyes, too!! See, I told you I was a girl you, minus the agnostic (non)beliefs and the puddy.
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
5:16 pm
If Swiss wasn’t married, I too think y’all might would hit it off
Celisea
March 22nd, 2012
5:17 pm
Bye y’all gotta run…be good kids now
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:17 pm
Actually, I can tan a bit, but I’d have to be in the sun in small doses pretty much every day. I actually am somewhat tan — in the areas not covered by my tennis gear.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:20 pm
Bye, Cely. See you tomorrow!!
So, basically what you’re saying Swiss, is that you have a farmer’s tan? You might want to consider semi-nude tennis. I’m pretty sure it’s not addressed in the ALTA handbook.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:24 pm
Ugh. Brain got ahead of my fingers, but you know what I meant, Swiss. Just looking for a way for you to even up the tan lines….
Gotta finish up a review and then I’m outta here. To quote the HGs:
It can be as lonely at the top as at the bottom of that corporate tree
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:25 pm
ITL — Pretty much, yeah. Well, I do at least wear the sleeveless shirts, but that really isn’t any better. Especially when you factor in the wristband marks.
BTW… are we the only ones still here?
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:28 pm
I think so….
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:29 pm
No comment on the Hoodoo Gurus??
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:32 pm
Oh, sorry, I missed that reference. Guess I am slipping.
You know, since nobody else is here, we should totally prank the blog. Like pretend to have a blog affair or something just to see who buys it.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:33 pm
That would be hilarious!!!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:34 pm
But you know we are never, truly alone. Someone is always lurking….
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:35 pm
Then again, I could see that taking a turn for the worse, and ending with Mrs. Swiss beating the sh!t out of me thinking it was real. On second thought….
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:38 pm
Zooks! No joke is worth taking a beating (physically, emotionally, or mentally)….
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:38 pm
Does Mrs. Swiss come on the blog??? (nervously waving to Mrs. Swiss from the corner, just in case…)
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
5:43 pm
Nah, I don’t think so. But I do tell her about the craziness here, so who knows? But not to worry, that was just a joke. She’s wouldn’t go all Mrs. Lionel Richie on me. Plus, she would know it was a joke — since you’re white and all.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:53 pm
LOL. You had me scared for a minute….
Just kidding. You know I’m from East Bumblefrench, so I can fight if I have to. (just hope I never have to!)
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
5:56 pm
Sooo, Swissy….inquiring minds wanna know….. have you ever had a blog crush on any of the WLB?
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
6:02 pm
You mean, aside from you, boo?
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
6:02 pm
That’s Ek-Zachery what I meant!!!
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
6:05 pm
Slim was right – the blog would not be nearly as entertaining without you here!
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
6:08 pm
I gots love for all the WLB ladies, but no crushes.
BTW, I don’t know who this Zachery dude is, but if he doesn’t stay away from my blog boo, I might have to cut him.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
6:10 pm
Ooooh, I love it when you’re jealous… The fire in your eyes…the way your lip curls…. so sexy, Swiss.
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
6:11 pm
Don’t make me spank you. Wait. No, check that. Make me spank you.
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
6:14 pm
LOL. What did you say? I was talking to Zachery on the phone and couldn’t quite hear you….. (giggling, “Oh, Zachery, you say the funniest things….”)
i'm swiss
March 22nd, 2012
6:20 pm
Okay, I see how it is… Goodnight, you naughty little blog tease, you…
Into the Light
March 22nd, 2012
6:21 pm
Goodnight to you, Swiss.