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Dating: Generosity make you uncomfortable?

My friend Joe told me about a woman he met recently who has a little hang up when it comes to accepting kind gestures, compliments, gifts from him. She told him that she is not accustomed to generous men, so when he shows that side to her she gets uncomfortable.

It is sad to think that women aren’t used to a guy pursuing them and treating them with kindness and generosity, but I have met a lot of women like this. It becomes that old self-fulfilling prophecy behavior thinking “If it is too good to be true, it probably is” or does the generosity come with strings?

Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity? Do you ever feel uncomfortable when someone showers you with romantic gifts?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
4:21 pm

Slim when I leave here I’ll be hitting up a happy hour trust me. Mr. Bermuda’s feeling better (meds done kicked in) so umm err ahh….

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
4:31 pm

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
4:32 pm

Sassy – Glad to hear he’s feeling better…the beau is still on his antibiotic so he hasn’t been drinking this week. I have no problem drinking alone but it really isn’t as much fun as it could be if we were both throwing them back

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
4:32 pm

@Sassy: Uh-oh…this dance ain’t for errbody….only the sexy people…. so get out there and dance, dance I said….:lol:

Of all the songs to get stuck in my head….

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
4:36 pm

Slim — Remember, whenever you drank, you are not alone. Somewhere I am with you, getting my drank on, too. :lol:

Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
4:38 pm

I have no problem drinking alone but it really isn’t as much fun as it could be if we were both throwing them back

I know right?! He’s not drinking either cause he can’t..but I’ll have a cocktail for us both and then give him …..I ain’t even gotta finish that one. Truth be told..he’s all giddy n sh!t cause he knows what’s up. ;-)

Aight blog familia…hold it down ’til tomorrow. Ciao!!

Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
4:39 pm

ITL I’ll be dancing alright!!

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
4:42 pm

swiss – Well get ready because I will have me some drank when I get home from the gym. ;-)

Did yall hear that R Kelly is supposed to come out with some more Trapped in the Closet video’s…as if he didn’t kill us softly with the first 200 stories :roll:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
4:46 pm

Alright, Sassy – remember to stay hydrated and stretch before hand. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
4:47 pm

Swiss, I decided today that I’m a girl you…minus the atheism. ;)

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
4:49 pm

ITL –Glad to hear you’ve finally realized that you love pdu$$y. ;-) :lol:

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
4:54 pm

Glad to hear you’ve finally realized that you love pdu$$y
Oh man! ITL, you look like a person who just walked into a big ass spider web :lol:

swiss you’re so wrong but I don’t want you to be right because you keep me laughing.

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:01 pm

ITL — You know I kid because I love… ;-)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:01 pm

@Swiss: What do you mean “finally”???? Did I ever indicate that I did not love it?!?!?! ;)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:02 pm

Bwah ha….just kidding…. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:03 pm

ITL — You know I kid because I love…

Ah, Swiss….if only weren’t married. And an atheist. And pale. (*sigh*) :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:04 pm

Well, technically, I’m not an atheist. I’m agnostic. Can’t help you with the married or pale issues, though… :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:06 pm

By the way, ITL, your 5:01 gave me a little tingle down under. IJS… (I mean that as a compliment, BTW) :lol:

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
5:08 pm

ITL – You only cross over? As in chocolatte? Not crossing over as in cooter

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:08 pm

You and every other man!! :) For some reason, men like the girl on girl WAY more than we will ever love the man to man.

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:10 pm

Celisea, aren’t you supposed to be on the treadmill!?!?!? LOL

Not exclusive to crossing over. My PREFERRED man is tan with dark hair and really, really blue or really deep brown eyes. Think Jason Momoa.

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
5:11 pm

Good treadmill walk and the fan is now going to cool off a bit…I’m heading home…night folks

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
5:12 pm

ITL – Gotcha.

I did and I’m sweating bullets. I got on at 4:10 ish…I just have to run downstairs

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:12 pm

By “pale” I meant lily white. I was teasing Swiss, since I have no way of knowing if he’s tan or not. I could man watch all day in Miami, though…something about those Cuban men with the soulful brown eyes…. If only they were a little taller.

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:13 pm

Hey, I’ve got the blue eyes and dark-ish hair. As for the tan…. uh, does red count? :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:15 pm

Maybe you could get a spray tan, Swiss. But then you might look like an oompa loompa.
:lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:16 pm

<—– blue eyes, too!! See, I told you I was a girl you, minus the agnostic (non)beliefs and the puddy.

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
5:16 pm

If Swiss wasn’t married, I too think y’all might would hit it off :)

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
5:17 pm

Bye y’all gotta run…be good kids now

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:17 pm

Actually, I can tan a bit, but I’d have to be in the sun in small doses pretty much every day. I actually am somewhat tan — in the areas not covered by my tennis gear. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:20 pm

Bye, Cely. See you tomorrow!! :)

So, basically what you’re saying Swiss, is that you have a farmer’s tan? You might want to consider semi-nude tennis. I’m pretty sure it’s not addressed in the ALTA handbook.

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:24 pm

Ugh. Brain got ahead of my fingers, but you know what I meant, Swiss. Just looking for a way for you to even up the tan lines…. :)

Gotta finish up a review and then I’m outta here. To quote the HGs:
It can be as lonely at the top as at the bottom of that corporate tree

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:25 pm

ITL — Pretty much, yeah. Well, I do at least wear the sleeveless shirts, but that really isn’t any better. Especially when you factor in the wristband marks. :shock: :lol:

BTW… are we the only ones still here?

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:28 pm

I think so….

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:29 pm

No comment on the Hoodoo Gurus??

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:32 pm

Oh, sorry, I missed that reference. Guess I am slipping.

You know, since nobody else is here, we should totally prank the blog. Like pretend to have a blog affair or something just to see who buys it. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:33 pm

That would be hilarious!!! :) :)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:34 pm

But you know we are never, truly alone. Someone is always lurking….

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:35 pm

Then again, I could see that taking a turn for the worse, and ending with Mrs. Swiss beating the sh!t out of me thinking it was real. On second thought…. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:38 pm

Zooks! No joke is worth taking a beating (physically, emotionally, or mentally)…. ;)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:38 pm

Does Mrs. Swiss come on the blog??? (nervously waving to Mrs. Swiss from the corner, just in case…)

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
5:43 pm

Nah, I don’t think so. But I do tell her about the craziness here, so who knows? But not to worry, that was just a joke. She’s wouldn’t go all Mrs. Lionel Richie on me. Plus, she would know it was a joke — since you’re white and all. ;-) :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:53 pm

LOL. You had me scared for a minute…. :lol:

Just kidding. You know I’m from East Bumblefrench, so I can fight if I have to. (just hope I never have to!)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
5:56 pm

Sooo, Swissy….inquiring minds wanna know….. have you ever had a blog crush on any of the WLB?

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
6:02 pm

You mean, aside from you, boo? ;-) :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
6:02 pm

That’s Ek-Zachery what I meant!!! ;)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
6:05 pm

Slim was right – the blog would not be nearly as entertaining without you here! :)

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
6:08 pm

I gots love for all the WLB ladies, but no crushes.

BTW, I don’t know who this Zachery dude is, but if he doesn’t stay away from my blog boo, I might have to cut him. :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
6:10 pm

Ooooh, I love it when you’re jealous… The fire in your eyes…the way your lip curls…. so sexy, Swiss. ;) :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2012
6:11 pm

Don’t make me spank you. Wait. No, check that. Make me spank you. :lol: