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Dating: Generosity make you uncomfortable?

My friend Joe told me about a woman he met recently who has a little hang up when it comes to accepting kind gestures, compliments, gifts from him. She told him that she is not accustomed to generous men, so when he shows that side to her she gets uncomfortable.

It is sad to think that women aren’t used to a guy pursuing them and treating them with kindness and generosity, but I have met a lot of women like this. It becomes that old self-fulfilling prophecy behavior thinking “If it is too good to be true, it probably is” or does the generosity come with strings?

Have you ever met or dated someone who is put off by generosity? Do you ever feel uncomfortable when someone showers you with romantic gifts?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
12:39 pm

leggs – I don’t think silly is negative either but I have a tendency to rub folks the wrong way even if it’s not my intention. just didn’t want to start nothing accidentally.

You are preaching to the choir! Trust me!!!!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
12:41 pm

“… Imma tell him to yell out, “YOU SANK MY BATTLESHIP!” – AND ALL MY LITTTLE SOLDIERS….

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
12:45 pm

Leggs – That definitely brought the ick factor just then lol I have a male friend that just underwent surgery on his wang…he was told there is a blockage of some sort down there that is preventing him from having kids. I’m sure that has to be scary and very uncomfortable

disco

March 22nd, 2012
12:45 pm

duck, duck, duck, duck, “GOOSE”.

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
12:49 pm

Wh wha who where Who got the goose? Poe me a drank den!

disco

March 22nd, 2012
12:52 pm

slim you funny but why all the “drank” gotta be named after animals. blue bull, red bull, brass monkey, tiger rose etc etc.

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
1:02 pm

disco – Maybe because if you drink enough of it that’s probably how you’ll be acting…your animalistic side comes out….So with that said, which animal would you say you act most like? :p

Exiled!

March 22nd, 2012
1:02 pm

Hey guys,let me say I just went to the doc this morning coz he wanted to rub my indices from the back and he says I came out with flying colors!

No colon stuff detected!

I must give it up to those doc and nurses coz they put me to sleep and I didn’t no Nothing until they said,’wake up!’

Pheeew,for a moment or so when I was laying there,I thought just maybe,my balls will never Rise Up again.

See u tmrw then! -;)

To my enemies: kick in your nutts(or cobwebs)! :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
1:03 pm

@Slim ~ that sounds uncomfortable. Hopefully, he’ll get his marching orders soon and can hit the target area!

Exiled!

March 22nd, 2012
1:04 pm

Rub my insides!

Bluzgirl

March 22nd, 2012
1:06 pm

I have not read anything on here yet. Been crazy busy.

I’m wondering if any of you have a close contact to a pit bull rescue. My friend who died last week has a pit that needs to go to a rescue and not a shelter where he will be put down. Please let me know. Thank you!

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
1:15 pm

Leggs – yeah he said it’s all swollen and painful right now. OUCH!

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
1:25 pm

Mmmm, a nice dress brutha just came into my office with a few inquiries…duly noted lol

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:26 pm

I just order a khaki tan lien dress!!!!! Can’t wait to wear it for my cinco de mayo festivities

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
1:26 pm

“Hey guys,let me say I just went to the doc this morning coz he wanted to rub….” – Doubt he “wanted” to, but this job dictates that he has to (lol). It sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to…Ok, imma stop!

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:29 pm

Afternoon, all.

@Lady – A “lien” dress? Girl, I know you will be lean and mean in your lien dress. :lol:

@Bluz: I think I might know someone. Let me check…

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:34 pm

Ummmm, was it something I said?

Bluzgirl

March 22nd, 2012
1:36 pm

Thanks ITL…I’m just not getting any return emails or calls and the house is in foreclosure and I need to find a home for him. My friend’s wife cannot walk him because he’s so big and she’s very tiny. He pulls her to the ground. It’s just not fair to him…

Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
1:36 pm

It sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to…Ok, imma stop!

Maybe that’s why he had to be put to sleep…Hope he doesn’t feel some kinda way…or need to be held or sumthing. Either way, good news is good news..

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
1:37 pm

Slim's got the fever!

March 22nd, 2012
1:38 pm

sounds like you went to the doctor just because he wanted to

Well you do know who you’re talking to right? Neva know with that dude, just neva know lol I don’t know if it was just me, but I could almost read the excitement in his post about getting prodded in the who-ha

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:40 pm

Lady – Are you still here? Where did you order your dress? I haven’t worn linen for some time.

Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
1:41 pm

Side topic: Anyone catch the reality series (which one right) on VH-1 about celebrity couples in therapy? DMX and his wife was on there and dude is OFF DA CHAINS. He told his wife he NEVER wanted to get married and he gon f@#k all the na na he wants til he dies…and his wife just sat there. This was in front of other couples mind you. I had to change the channel after that…but that bi.otch would have to sleep with one eye open.

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:41 pm

Into the Light ;) need to find some cute tan sandals…..need to look like they came outof Dillards with a Ross price tag! LOL the dress was 50% off love it

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:42 pm

C I will email it to ya sis!

Sassy Me..I'm on one! ;-)

March 22nd, 2012
1:43 pm

I don’t know if it was just me, but I could almost read the excitement in his post about getting prodded in the who-ha

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SLIM….you killin me chica :lol:

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:43 pm

@Bluz: Did you call Atlanta Pit Bull Rescue??

@Lady and Sassy: I love linen. I just wish they would invent a kind that didn’t wrinkle when you sat down; a kind that would always stay so crisp and fresh looking as when you put it on.

@Sassy: Clean to the white meat, okay??? :)

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:45 pm

@Lady – have you seen the new DSW commercial with all the wedges and sandals? I had to rewind and watch again!! :)

@Swiss: Diamonds? Get old?? Not this little red chicken – that’s my birthstone! :)

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:46 pm

but that bi.otch would have to sleep with one eye open.

Sho nuff…I’m one of those you better move the hell on and with the quickness, kind of women. I don’t take to kind to a dude being all out disrespectful and lacking morals and decorum. I just take my little self right on along, to keep from taking him down a few pegs. Best know I shole ain’t scared. I don’t want to spend time or regretting a lifetime of causing harm so I quietly move it along when someone gets close to taking me there.

DMX need should let Andre Rison be his example at best. Everybody don’t take that lying down. He doing that because he can.

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:47 pm

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:47 pm

Sassy told me about DSW!!! I heart wedge shoes! okay going on their site now

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:49 pm

Lady – Never heard of that site but I absolutely LOVE the dress.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
1:50 pm

Naw Slim, he was excited about the doctor not finding anything (lol). Yousa mess!

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:50 pm

And for a dude like DMX I wouldn’t stay…not to watch that clown show BUT if I had no choice and no way out, as quick as he was getting ass, I’d be getting mine…as often if not better :)

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:52 pm

I received two VS coupons for free panties. I’m taking them up on that. I don’t know if they intended to send me two but I cashing in.

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:52 pm

C ;) !!! I am so unconventional!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
1:53 pm

I want to see the dress. I love linen. The one time I will begrundingly accept wrinkles.

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:54 pm

Lady – I think it’s plainly sexy. Not over the top but very nice.

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:55 pm

that is my style honey simple but sexy! I am a plain jane with spunk glad you see and appreciate it sis ;)

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:56 pm

hold tight leggs

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:56 pm

A pair of thong sandals and sitting on some restaurant patio would complete the outfit…lol

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:57 pm

I wanna see it, too!!!

@Swiss: you’re slipping, man. Lady said spunk. :lol: :lol:

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
1:58 pm

It reminds me of the 70s era

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
1:58 pm

@Cely: Hats are back this year, too! Big,oversized ones and one that give a little nod to the 20’s jazz era. I love a linen dress with a pretty hat and sandals.

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
1:59 pm

Into the Light don’t start him lolololol

Celisea

March 22nd, 2012
2:00 pm

ITL – I’m not big on hats but I give a nod to the women that can pull it off. An oversized hat would be cute with that dress….definitely.

I do though wear the oversize hats when going on vacation. Out in the sun too much so it’s apart of my shopping list when I’m picking up vacation items.

kristied

March 22nd, 2012
2:01 pm

I used to feel the same way, that I had to be wary of just what I was going to owe for a man’s generosity and that “nothing is free”. Most of the time men will prove you right! Be careful that you don’t go overboard though. A couple of years ago I met a man who spoiled me rotten and I was so cautious and careful that I was worried more that I should have been. Turns out that this guy is just generally a giver and enjoys spoiling “his princess” as he calls me. And he still does! Not just in material ways but in just simple things like running bubble baths and helping me fold my laundry and such. Don’t miss out on what could be the love of your life because of your fears.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2012
2:01 pm

Nice Dress…looks very comfy, especially on a hot, sweltering day.

Lady~

March 22nd, 2012
2:02 pm

thanks honey cinco is hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Into the Light

March 22nd, 2012
2:03 pm

I still haven’t seen the dress. :(

Speaking of vacation, I need one. Bad. I am going to Phoenix next month for work, though, so that should be nice. Hoping to fit in some vacay stuff while I’m there. Any suggestions???