I love the idea that sex is between the ears, more than anything. A lot of people don’t realize this and have a lot of misconceptions about sex, sex drive and their libidos. (Not to mention that sex can start before you even touch each other, but I digress)
I asked the author of Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex, and Relationships, Kayt Sukel: (who was featured in a piece on ABC’s Nightline last night) “How does the brain impact sexual satisfaction or dissatisfaction?”
Anyone who is really distracted by the day’s events knows that over-thinking about the wrong things can really mess with your libido. But what they might not know is that some people are able to reach orgasm using *only* their brain. By using top-down control, they can actually “think off.”
It’s even possible that we all have this ability but never learned how to harness it. Given that the brain has this kind of power, imagine if we could use it for good instead of evil!
Scientists are currently using neuroimaging and other techniques to understand just what happens as you
build up to orgasm, have an orgasm and recover from orgasm. By understanding just how and why the brain can affect sex, they hope to one day understand how you can make your brain work for you and enhance the experience.
Thank goodness for science! This reminds me that some of us have so much to learn but are too embarrassed, proud, or selfish to figure out what our partners want/need.
Do you think that our sex lives can improve if we understand more about how our brain works in the process?
How do you talk about your libido with your partner?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog