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Your brain in love?

In a fascinating new book, Dirty Minds: How Our Brain Influences Love, Sex, and Relationships, author Kay Sukel explores the neurobiology of love. I am a science fan so this was right up my alley! I reached out to her and asked, “What happens to our brain when we fall in love?”

(Don’t laugh because when you realize that the stupid things you do and say when you are head over heels in love is rooted in science, it makes you feel better!)

Kayt Sukel: For a long time, we’ve thought of love as an emotion. But it’s got more a lot more staying power than that. Love results in actual physical changes to the brain. An important part of our “reptilian brain,” or the most evolutionarily preserved part of the human brain, helps to facilitate risk and reward processing.

Romantic love makes changes to that circuitry through the increase and decrease of key neurochemicals. That’s why love can make us feel physical sensations like butterflies in the belly or sweaty palms. It’s why love feels so good and compelling. It’s also why we can be both so obsessed with our intended yet so distracted by the rest of the world. And it’s why we often make bad decisions and see our lover in those rose-colored glasses. Love is a powerful, bold and neurally altering thing.

See? Love is neurally-altering! Perhaps this will help us when we are knee-deep in love and need a little insight.

Have you ever experienced this firsthand? Do you think you have worn those rose-colored glasses before? In hindsight, what did you learn about yourself?

Tomorrow, we will continue to dig into how the brain affects sex. Stay tuned!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

190 comments Add your comment

Orlando

March 19th, 2012
5:42 am

We have all experienced this, its part of the life process. I can remeber years ago, in high school, I was obsessed with this girl who attended an all girls high school. I took a giant teddy bear up to the school to impress her, and waited for her after school. She came out with all her friends, but she just laughed at me and asked me how she was going to get that home. So I had to leave with the bear, I was embarrassed, but will never forget how stupid I was for her.

Lily

March 19th, 2012
7:11 am

Diva, is that what’s happening? Rose colored glasses? Some 25 years ago maybe. Science or no, brain dead or not……we shouldn’t justify stupid…lol

Lily

March 19th, 2012
7:27 am

Enter your comments here

Lily

March 19th, 2012
7:32 am

If this supports what happens with love, how do you explain all the icky when it’s love for you and nothing but lies and games for him/her? Is it still a brain thing? Where’s science in that?

Tucak

March 19th, 2012
7:56 am

There are a million studies published on this, dont act like you just woke up from a 100 year old coma please.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
8:02 am

Good Morning MIA!!!!! Happy Money Making Monday!!!1 ;)

hmmmmmm Logic vs. Love~

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
8:06 am

Good morning – Let’s make it a great week Blogsville!

Lily – Um, are you okay dear. Maybe you need to get in an early morning stretch, a nice glass of OJ and come back. lol

Lily

March 19th, 2012
8:12 am

@Slim, I’m fine (lol), just thought I’d toss that out to understand the logic behind games people play. I’ve had my “glassfull” this morning :)

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
8:24 am

Lily – Oh ok, just figured I’d check up on ya lol…as far as understanding the LOGIC behind the games people play, that will be an unsolved mystery unless folks come clean about the reasons. But for the most part, I’d assume it was for several reasons: enjoy game playing, used to lying/games to get what they want, don’t feel they can stand as themselves on truth to talk to females/dudes and the list goes on and on and on.

Angel

March 19th, 2012
8:32 am

Well, I read some articles about the relation between the chemistry of chocolate and love, it speaks about the phenylethylamine (PEA) “love-chemical”. Phenylethylamine releases dopamine in the mesolimbic pleasure-centres which makes you feel happy like you are in love (Forget love– I’d rather fall in chocolate!!! :-p) BUT speaking about Science here and I spent my whole life working with Science specially Chemistry, I don’t like the idea of explaining everything according to Science because this makes our feelings lost their meanings, somethings their beauty lies in their mysterious. Love is a gift to all the livings, Humans, Animals, even Plants and Whatever they try to explain it, it will be the only thing that has a GREAT meaning in all our heart without even we recognize it…

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
8:33 am

I want a male’s perspective on Logic vs. Love…..Cool Shadow where are you?!? LOL or any other Blog Man!

Lily

March 19th, 2012
8:33 am

Yes it does Sim, yes it does and such is life. I have come to understand stay with the positives and KIM :)

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
8:34 am

Angel good post! Love the last parts~

Mr. Unknown

March 19th, 2012
8:37 am

Good Morning,
In hindsight, what did you learn about yourself? Life is about risk. I learned I can’t hold a woman accountable for another womans mistakes. “You will miss 100% of your shots you don’t take” WG. I learned to trust my gut, my spider-senses.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
8:39 am

I agree Mr U……….logical

Mr. Unknown

March 19th, 2012
8:52 am

Love vs Logic. I think people that are aware they are using logic in the matters of love, use this as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from hurt. Those are the same people getting in their own way of a great relationship. Meaning they are over thinking everything!
Love should just flow. Logic is structure. Its good to have a little bit of both though.

Lily

March 19th, 2012
8:55 am

WOW……Orlando, Tucak, Angel, Mr Unknown such insight. Sounds all of you are drinking from the same fountain!

Good day!

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
9:02 am

Those are the same people getting in their own way of a great relationship. Meaning they are over thinking everything!<<<<<<<<<<<<<I so agree sir!!!! I overcame this in more ways than one and glad about….you have to live and take risks and be secure with either outcomes that you made a good solid decision

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
9:03 am

Good morning!

Have you ever experienced this firsthand? I sure hope everyone has at some point in their life. If not at this stage, there’s a hole in their psyche, meaning there’s probably a longing to really experience love and all the stupid and wonderful things it has us doing.

Do you think you have worn those rose-colored glasses before? For Sure, For Sure!

In hindsight, what did you learn about yourself? I’ve learned to not get discombobulated. To listen, observe and to not discard obvious warning signs. Take him for what he says, and not what’s implied. Nothing wrong with speaking up when you don’t agree with something, and the more things are swept under the rug and not dealt with is #1 sign discord will not surface and surface quickly.

Mr. Unknown

March 19th, 2012
9:43 am

Is there a blog meeting that I don’t know about?

Lady~ Yep! My ex was a very Analytical thinker, logic driven person. Drove me nuts!! It wasn’t all bad but she needed an off switch. I found myself saying to her, can’t you just enjoy the moment for once. Why second guess everything trying to find the imperfection or the blemish.

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
9:45 am

Gmorning all.
I’ve learned to be more logical about who I let into the realm of possibility of love. Im not going even develop the possibility with somebody I know doesn’t have what it takes… been there, done that, wiser now.

Im in deep with somebody now, and its beautiful and exciting and mysterious too. Unimaginably great to think about him and smile to myself just at the thought. Always happy to see him, still thrilled to see a text from him, never run out of things to say. But also a little worried we may have different ideas about what our future might look like.

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
9:49 am

Mr. U – I think we’ve sort of been programmed to expect something bad to happen and I’m not sure why that is. Sometimes folks get freaked out when things seem to be going TOO GOOD. Naturally we begin to prepare ourselves for the blow to lessen the sting if something were to happen. It’s a vulnerable place to be when you’re feeling that high up & falling for another person that we have No control over. But that’s part of love, life, dating etc.

Mr. Unknown

March 19th, 2012
9:54 am

Lolalee~ “But also a little worried we may have different ideas about what our future might look like.” Isn’t part of the fun of a great relationship compromise. Unless its a huge difference.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2012
9:57 am

Morning

See? Love is neurally-altering!
As are all emotions. There is some science associated with all behaviors and emotions. Knowing that there is some science involved in our emotions doesn’t detract from the meaning or value of those emotions…at least for me it doesn’t. I’m just working on inventing the chemical concoction that will make everyone love and follow me…then I can ruuuuule the world!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAH (in my evil genius laugh)

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
10:03 am

Dreams – I thought there was already something like that out there. I believe they call it ecstasy. Maybe you just need to tweek it to make the effects last longer. (Of course, this is just what I heard, I don’t personally know about it)

Mr. Unknown

March 19th, 2012
10:06 am

Slim~ Yeah that sucks, because a very observant partner can feel when someone is bracing themselves. Which can then make you paranoid that she or he is going to bolt at the first sign of trouble.

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
10:07 am

Mr. U right you are. Part of the fun is also trying to figure out what the other is thinking/planning/dreaming… but at times that drives me nuts. I think that’s also probably more a ‘woman thing’ to want a roadmap of ‘the future’. Not to say men don’t think about what it might look like, but maybe women think of it sooner??

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:11 am

Mr U I can be that chic sometimes but I am becoming softer and just enjoying the ride……I am finding more its more about trusting yourself and your own judgement vs. the other’s person intentions.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:12 am

LMBAO Slim!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:14 am

Amen I halted this behavior. I can’t live like this lol>>>Why second guess everything trying to find the imperfection or the blemish.

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
10:19 am

Part of the fun is also trying to figure out what the other is thinking/planning/dreaming… but at times that drives me nuts. I think that’s also probably more a ‘woman thing’ to want a roadmap of ‘the future’

Yeah, I’ve gone through this, even as of late, but I got tired of thinking about it…so right now, i’m just enjoying the sunnier days and the ride. All that will be will be…

We(the beau & I) were out looking at furniture and the sales guy we had was an older gentleman who has been married for 40yrs. As we’re walking through the store the guy turns to him and says, “I see you have good taste”. Initially, I think the beau thought he meant his taste in furniture but sales guy turns completely around and points to me and says it again. He was like, i’m sure you know that already and the beau laughs and says, naw I didn’t know. The old guys says, Take it from me an old cat, it’s a feeling and I say you have a good one. :lol: (I’m sure guy was just trying to get on my good side to help his sell but he was entertaining nonetheless) ;-)

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
10:24 am

I’m not sure I’m buying. If this is the case then scientifically we would or SHOULD repeat the same exact steps, process, experience each time we think, believe or are in love. No? I mean if love and the emotions and actions thereof are purely scientific, then not only will I have the butterflies each and every time but there would be no such thing as hindsight because scientifically the process would repeat itself each and every time…right? If it’s scientific then I would have no control over the outcome. The rose colored glasses would be present each and every experience right? How come (yes how come) we aren’t as gullible or susceptibile now as we were then….if it’s scientific? Explain that please. I mean if it’s something going on in the brain then I would have no control whatsoever right?

Think about it…..for the last 40 or so years my brain has ordered my body to function as designed. Unless there’s a mishap, accident, disease, it’s going to continue to function as designed…until I die…right? So if love is scientific how am I able to do differently now than say 20 years ago?

I know I know…I’m just thinking Diva is overthinking this thing.

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
10:24 am

@Slim
any chance your were at Macy’s at Perimeter??

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
10:26 am

Have you ever experienced this firsthand?

Yes I have on both ends…my naturally distrusting part forces me to over analyze at times..heck alot of times and I’m sure it’s costed me some really fun times and have protected me as well so that’s a mixed bag. On the flip side of that, I know I’ve met several people over the course of my years that have pulled me out of my comfort zone and it felt right…like I wasn’t swimming up stream. It’s those times when I don’t have control and I roll with it…and that’s how I know..cause I have no control and I like it.

Do you think you have worn those rose-colored glasses before? In hindsight, what did you learn about yourself?

Yes I wore them for sure in my last relationship…everyone saw it first but ME. Once those rose colored glasses came off things were different and I was looking at him like, “WTF was I thinking?”…but I digress. I learned that I deserved to receive as much as I was giving and to never second guess myself when it comes to love.

I know it’s early and all but I have a slight O/T : Said ex from the above post “popped up” at my house early Saturday and said he needed my help with something…I haven’t spoken to him in 2 years and he just pops up. Really dude?! He seemed genuinely surprised that I didn’t agree to help him and I told him not to come back to my house cause there’s a new sheriff in town and he don’t play that isht.

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
10:26 am

more susceptible

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
10:35 am

Morning All!

Too early to be trying to think thru science stuff.

Science or not, I am sure the same brain love I had during my teens/early 20’s is not the same I have now. I don’t fall as “hard”, but I’m sure the love is deeper, less fleeting and desperate-feeling. I’m not on that crazy high, ultimately to come crashing down hard. I’m happier and I think better able to deal with whatever life brings. I don’t feel I have to “brace” myself like I used to. Everything I’ve been thru, good and bad, has prepared me.

I’ve also learned to enjoy the moment. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop is no way to live. Gotta let that stuff go. I don’t want to have regrets.

Hey Dreams, what’s shakin?

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
10:35 am

told him not to come back to my house cause there’s a new sheriff in town and he don’t play that isht.

you go Sassy!

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:38 am

Sassy you’re a science geek!!! ;) you go girl!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:39 am

wow @ these dudes Sassy just wow! that idiot called me Saturday and no I didn’t answer….. silence speaks loud.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
10:41 am

Celi I understand your 10:24 and you raise some valid points. I’ve seen shows talking about the chemistry behind love and saw this one couple undergo CAT scans and when each of them were shown pictures of the other different parts of the brain became more active…the parts associated with love and pleasure lit up and certain hormones(endorphines) are released as a result. I’m not disputing what you’ve said…I think there’s validity on both sides of this discussion…

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
10:43 am

lolalee – Nope, I was out by Stonecrest in Lithonia. lol

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
10:45 am

Sassy – LOL…I believe everything about us can be explained scientifically so I there with you on valid points Diva made. That was just way too much definition behind love this early Monday morning…lol I was thinking even with science it’s an emotion that probably shouldn’t be explained or delved into (if that make sense). As the art of it is freeflow and the unforeseen

Nice move with ex…keep up the good work!

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
10:46 am

Okay lola?! I don’t get it…while I was single there were no issues…now I’m with someone and I’ve had two exes “pop up” like it was cool..and it’s not like we just broke up either.

Heey Lady!! You’re right chica, silence can truly speak volumes!!

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
10:47 am

I was probably being a stinker :)

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
10:51 am

I was thinking even with science it’s an emotion that probably shouldn’t be explained

I concur…try as we might emotions are something we can’t always define or explain..no matter how much science is behind it.

Nice move with ex

Thanks…I’m just glad Mr. Bermuda wasn’t there cause it would’ve been a problem.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
10:53 am

Sassy I think the challenge for some is exciting to see if they can prove a point that they can still get you and and do nothing with you…..I ain’t falling for the stupid games not even entertaining it. It matters not to me if I have someone or not there are exes that can’t come back. Their season ended respectfully. Keep it moving gracefully. It takes 2 to tango!

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
11:00 am

Lady I understand that but I’m not stroking any of my exes egos…just as you’ve said “Their season has ended”, and I don’t back track…if you’re my ex you’re that for a reason so lets K.I.M. Hasta luego buddy :lol:

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
11:03 am

The gall of some dudes just blows my mind! SMH at Sassy’s post! To actually show up at someones house, just cause you USED TO date them you think you got it like that?

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
11:04 am

Sassy..be careful with some of these ladies.

They will invite u to a puddy_denying Convention. :lol:

Dude is still feeling u after 2 years…that’s some good memories there,I’m sure. :lol:

On topic:

I think heartbreak,divorce,separation etc and Personal Growth will make one be able to balance emotion and Logic nicely.

Without a heartbreak(reality check) everything is niiiice!!

I have a real nice,educated female cousin that’s in her mid 40s that continuously has boyfriend adventures. Very smart chic but she has failed to lock on just One good guy to marry her. She wants to get married so bad.

But when u hear her talk about a current man,she talks like she is 25. All smitten!

No growth there!

(am I even on topic? No sleep! ) :lol:

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
11:06 am

Hey, I had my ex show up and say we need to move in together!! what he meant was ‘I need some place to stay and cant find somebody to take me in’ HA

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
11:06 am

But when u hear her talk about a current man,she talks like she is 25. All smitten!No growth there!

And you have just validated Diva’s post…lol

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
11:07 am

Sassy – Just like the trees are blowing their pollen or what I like to call tree sea man all over town, I think dudes are in the process of doing the same. Chuck it up to Nature :lol:

So along with the topic, many describe a difference in “puppy love” or young love compared with an older more mature, experience driven love as they get up in age. So do you all think that deep hard love only happens when you’re young, a blank canvas that has not been tainted yet?…so when you get older, it’s less about LOVE persay but more about Partnership, stability, comfort????

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:07 am

Ex you so funny! Sassy is grown hell we all are if folks want to get together so be it I was just saying lol ;)

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
11:10 am

Good memories (I’m not going there with you ;-) ) or not Exiled…that doesn’t give him the right to pop up at my house.

just cause you USED TO date them you think you got it like that?

I’m not sure what his real intent was but we’ll never know…

disco

March 19th, 2012
11:11 am

good morning.

lolalee – loving your translation on “let’s move in together”. good one.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
11:13 am

LOL @ Slim!!

Now I’m hearing that song Nature by James Brown in my head :lol:

disco

March 19th, 2012
11:18 am

I keep thinking of those old commercials with the fried eggs. this is your brain – this is your brain on “love”.

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
11:23 am

disco – I think you were reading my mind, because I was about to type the same as your 11:18! That’s all I’ve been thinking about every time I read the topic!

disco

March 19th, 2012
11:31 am

funny kimmie because I’d been thinking it all morning and was trying to avoid being corny so early. still, it wouldn’t go away so I just put it out there.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
11:35 am

“How come (yes how come) we aren’t as gullible or susceptibile now as we were then….if it’s scientific? Explain that please”

For one, these physiological changes produce what we would commonly refer to as “feelings” which only influence behavior. When you are cognitively aware that something is a bad decision, you can certainly overcome such influence. Also, over time, the type of person who induces these physiological responses in you may change.

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
11:41 am

Swiss – :) I knew you’d come through… I figured you or Dreams

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:42 am

good post swiss!

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:42 am

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
11:45 am

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
11:46 am

Like I stated earlier, I know everything about us can be defined and explained scientifically but matters of the heart shouldn’t be pinpointed….of course IMHO :)

Hey there Lady!

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
11:49 am

@lolalee ~ nice breakdown of “let’s move in together.”

@SassyMe ~ nice breakdown on letting foolish man know if he wants to keep his life to keep stepping.

This topic reminds me Ledise’s new song, Bravo.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
11:50 am

“matters of the heart shouldn’t be pinpointed….of course IMHO”

Why not, C? What’s so bad about seeking knowledge?

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:51 am

This topic reminds me Ledise’s new song, Bravo.<<<<<<<<<<Awesome Song Leggs!

disco

March 19th, 2012
11:52 am

swiss – while the “heart wants what the heart wants” some of us still can’t help but to ask “why”. others don’t worry about the why, they simply “follow their heart”.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:53 am

good point disco

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
11:58 am

disco — Yes, except it’s not actually the heart being followed; it’s the brain, influenced by chemical reactions. ;-)

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
11:59 am

interesting…………

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
12:00 pm

Thanks Leggs…Mr. Bermuda is a good guy but a stunt like that wouldn’t have been tolerated well.

Swiss good post..very well stated…

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
12:01 pm

Swiss – I don’t mean so much in trying to “understand” scientfically what makes us tick. I just think when it comes to matters of the heart and not to sound contradictory it’s not so easily layed out with an explanation. I think that’s the beauty of it. Being in or out, up or down, pulled left or right. Knowing more now than then but by way of experience and instintively. Learning how to let go and go with it. I think pulling science into love takes the beauty out of it.

Too, if while we’re explaining, someone throw something in there (if we must explain) for the busters that muddy the waters…lol Now if someone can help me understand from that perspective I’m all ears. Otherwise, let love and the heart do what it’s going to do. Experience the joys and pains of it all. For a good man, I’m good learning, unfolding, unraveling as I go :)

disco

March 19th, 2012
12:02 pm

swiss – and try telling that to the folks who are following their heart. and another can of worms (forgive me for going here) but there are those that equate “following their heart” with “going with God” in the sense that they consider following the heart to be “stepping out on faith”.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
12:03 pm

i agree C!!!!! that’s life!

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
12:07 pm

Lady :)

Alright folks, see ya!

Willie Dynamite

March 19th, 2012
12:09 pm

Afternoon All,

Interesting perspectives on all sides. I am totally unqualified to make sense of it all.

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
12:13 pm

I really can’t be on topic today. I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer, but my friend and ex boyfried died on Friday. We were together for 3 years and broke up about 4 years ago. We remained good friends. He has been getting sicker and sicker lately, but this was still unexpected. I’m just in shock.

Anyway…I need a little advice…my most recent ex (of only last month) has not checked on me at all. I texted him Friday to tell him what happened and he just texted that he was sorry to hear that. We were together for 2 years and just broke up. I don’t expect him to come running to me, but he knew how much my friend meant to me. Shouldn’t he have at least texted to check on me?!?! This has made me get over him so much faster. The thing is that it’s hard for me to deal with this anger when I’m dealing with such grief. I want to write him and tell him how upset and disappointed I am (as well as ask for some of my things back). ugh!!!

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
12:22 pm

C — Fair enough. For me, I guess understanding how something works and enjoying it are not mutually exclusive. EX: I understand how my boners work, but I still relish each and every one. :lol:

disco — I actually think faith is a good thing (yes, this is still me talking). Of course, the danger is that faith can be easily manipulated. Some things need to be questioned, and often aren’t in the name of “faith.”

disco

March 19th, 2012
12:23 pm

bluzgirl – sorry for your loss. my advice – stop harping on the most recent ex. you’ve put in too much work here lately to even want to run back to him for emotional support. lean on the friends/family that you’ve leaned on to help you during the breakup. the guy is likely doing you a favor by not being supportive right now. you might find yourself caught up again if he appears as the shoulder to cry on (it’s been known to happen). do what you’ve been doing and that’s take care of you. don’t worry about him and whether or not he calls or texts.

disco

March 19th, 2012
12:26 pm

swiss – faith is a great thing. I just know that I’ve heard countless folks say “the Lord put it on my heart” to do such and such. you can’t tell those folks to go against that and make a rational, brain-inspired decision. well, you can tell them but you likely won’t get far. (and by the way I agree with you that some things need to be questioned I just tossed that out there for perspective).

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
12:29 pm

Bluz – I agree with disco…it’s a natural reaction to want to go to what’s familiar to you for support. It sounds to me as if you recent ex checked out emotionally a long time ago (just me looking in from the outside) so please do not put too much stock into his current reaction to your loss, which I’m sorry to hear about. From the things you’ve said, I just don’t think exguy wants the obligation of a relationship even at this time when you’re looking him to lean on. Keep moving forward…and if you haven’t wanted your things back up until this point, you can’t get mad at him because he didn’t behave or react how You hoped he would and want to ask for stuff back now

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
12:31 pm

Thanks Disco…I’m not even really dwelling on whether or not he calls or texts at this point. I just kind of think that if he ever really cared about me, he would be there in some way. I’m just so angry and want to tell him how much of an a hole he is. I’m definitely done with him. I’ve now seen the kind of person he really is.

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
12:33 pm

I was going to wait at least another month to reach out to him to ask for my things back (including money that he promised me), but I kind of just want to be done now.

disco

March 19th, 2012
12:36 pm

bluz – now I have to ask… he was living with you and you were holding his things until he made arrangements. aside from the money, how is it that he wound up with your things? not being funny, I really don’t understand. still, to agree with slim – whatever those things are you might want to prepare yourself to chalk them up to the game and let it go. if he hasn’t returned the stuff voluntarily by now you will only look like a pesty little bugaboo who is trying to hold on if you keep asking for stuff now.

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
12:42 pm

disco – I agree with you again…In some cases, not all, the wait to exchange goods or whatever can be a subconscious way to hold onto a tie between the parties involved in the break up…almost as if, it’s not over as long as that last order of business has been completed. Unless a person is holding onto the only keys to their car or has their birth certificate/passport etc then all that other stuff is just misc bs. No offense.

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
12:44 pm

It’s only a couple things that he has…two drills that were given to me for Christmas (he’s using them at work and promised to buy new ones so that I can have mine). He also has my jumper cables that my dad bought me and he forgot to leave them when he moved his stuff out. He only promised a little money and I’m not really counting on that. It’s not like this stuff is extremely important, but I need them and do not have the money to go buy new ones. He’s working now and should have already bought new drills. The reason he hasn’t brought them back is that he knew I needed at least 60 days to not be in contact with him.

I guess I really want to reach out because I’m angry about him not even caring. I’m realizing that he must have checked out a long time ago. I’m just so furious about it. Maybe I just need something to lash out at right now because of my loss. You know…I can’t really talk to anyone about this right now.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
12:45 pm

Bluz — This is going to sound harsh, but I don’t mean to be — You are the poster child for today’s topic. Everyone else on earth can see that you just need to move on — so much so that’s it’s borderline infuriating listening to your stories. (Sorry, that sounded harsh, but it’s true). All those feelings you have, they’re just the byproduct of chemical reactions in your brain. Think about this logically. He’s your ex. He doesn’t want to be your shoulder to cry on, and you don’t need to keep reaching out to him. Just move on.

disco

March 19th, 2012
12:48 pm

swiss – would you happen to know the antidote for the chemical reactions? have we discussed that yet? can someone go buy a bottle of “get right” or something.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
12:49 pm

disco — From my own — ahem — experiments, weed usually helps. :lol:

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
12:50 pm

Swiss…I know. I have been trying to move on. I never expected him to come running back, but a simple text asking how I’m doing would be nice. I just can’t believe how cold he can be. I mean…this is really going to help me to move on. I never wanted to hate him and hoped we could be friends way down the line, but I can never see that happening now. I only reached out that one time on Friday to tell him about the death of my friend. It just hurts to realize that I invested so much in that relationship and now I know where I really stand…

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
12:51 pm

Swiss I wonder when I start practicing counseling sessions could I be that candid…… ;)

cba

March 19th, 2012
12:57 pm

Swiss, since I have a daughter and I know Bg is someone daughter, I’ll keep my comments.
But if I did comment, it would be your 12:45. I don’t have migranes but I feel one coming on.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
12:58 pm

Bluz — I get it, I do. But there’s a key difference between men & women: most men don’t want to be friends with their exes. Guys have other guy friends. Friendship, typically, is not what we want from women. Intimacy is what we want from women (not just physical, but emotional intimacy as well), and you can’t have that with a woman that is supposedly just your friend.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
12:59 pm

He doesn’t want to be your shoulder to cry on, and you don’t need to keep reaching out to him. Just move on.

Needed repeating….Bluzgirl it’s not going to happen over night but you’ve got to let him go…emotionally. Liken it to a grieving phase of sorts b/c you’re mourning the relationship…but also realize that this too shall pass. His nonresponse should be an indicator to you…maybe he’s just a mean azz and doesn’t care enough about you to call/text or maybe he’s done what you should be doing…moving on. It’s hard baby gurl but hitting your head against the same wall will hurt more…I’m jus sayin….

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
1:02 pm

The reason he hasn’t brought them back is that he knew I needed at least 60 days to not be in contact with him

Bluz – Not to beat you up while you’re down but your point of venting right now is because he didn’t give you the ‘caring’ reaction you hoped or felt you deserved yet you say he knows he was not supposed to contact you because you needed the space. :???:

but a simple text asking how I’m doing would be nice

Swiss is right about your situation tying in with the topic…you’re really just searching for that fix…recovering drug addicts still crave the feeling the drug used to give them. Your endorphins are sort of depleted at the moment so when you reached out to him, that was like a crackhead hanging out with folks they used to use with in hopes they get ‘just one mo hit’ of the good good. So had he given you the overly concerned reaction do you feel it would give you a false sense that things could be rekindled?? You even said yourself that “now you know where you stand” but you guys are broken up so surely you knew where you stood all the times he didn’t take heed to your needs as far as communicating with you when he was on the road or whatever, right? Maybe your rose colored glasses are clearing up and you’re just now seeing it perhaps

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
1:07 pm

I know. I don’t even really need to be thinking about this because I’m mourning the loss of my friend. I’ve been there for my friend’s wife all weekend (we are good friends also). I’m going through so many emotions of losing him. Maybe this anger towards recent ex is a way of me handling this other loss. I don’t know how to grieve about this death. I’ve never had a death so close to me where I am involved in helping with the house and planning a memorial here (he will be buried in New Orleans). My head hasn’t been able to process this loss.

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
1:15 pm

“….my most recent ex (of only last month) has not checked on me at all. I texted him Friday to tell him what happened and he just texted that he was sorry to hear that.” – WHAT??? Am I reading this right in that “he hasn’t checked on me.” Are you kidding, Bluz??? That man does not have to check on you, and for you to be over there pissed that he hasn’t blows me away. He extended his condolences out of respect for the relationship you two HAD. He’s your ex, not your first cousin, sister or brother. Sorry to say, but once a man cuts his losses (sorry lack of a better phrase), he’s done. You should do the same thing. Don’t look to that man to massage your heart in any way.

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
1:18 pm

@Bluz ~ I apologize, I was so surprised by that sentence that I completely forgot why you even typed that sentence.

So sorry you lost one of your dear friends. Remember all the good and remember some of the things about life you learned from him. My condolences…

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
1:18 pm

Sorry to say, but once a man cuts his losses (sorry lack of a better phrase), he’s done. <<<<truth.com

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
1:21 pm

Bluzgirl…..relate..relax…release

..inhale…exhale and now say it with me……relate..relax…release
Close your eyes and repeat this. Your grieving several things at once and don’t know how to process it all. Take some time,seen?!

I lost my grandmother late January and another close family member six weeks to the day she passed so I understand…but you won’t be any good to your friend if you, yourself aren’t 100% (or as close as you can get given the circumstances)

Bluzgirl

March 19th, 2012
1:28 pm

Thank you Sassy…it is a lot to deal with at once. When I’m around my friend’s wife, I can be strong and we can share stories and laugh and cry. I’m sitting here at work like a zombie. I just don’t know how to deal with all the grief.

Willie Dynamite

March 19th, 2012
1:37 pm

Anyone do anything fun or exciting over the weekend? It was beautiful outside and felt good to get out and about.

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
1:38 pm

Now that I’ve read everyone’s comments, swiss, I wholeheartedly agree with your 12:45!

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
1:41 pm

WD – I did go see 21 Jump Street and it turned out to be much more funny than I originally anticipated. How about yourself, what did you get into over the weekend?

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
1:42 pm

Willie my weekend was good… I avoided unwanted drama and did some stuff around the house. Washed the car (in vain cause pollen’s errrwhere), grilled out with my brother n sister-in-law and watched alot of basketball.

Willie Dynamite

March 19th, 2012
1:45 pm

Slim – Hung out with my lil one because the pollen kept the Wifey and oldest ones in the house. We actually had milk shake date at Stonecrest. Did you get your ice cream?

Sassy – Good for you, we grilled a lil bit as well but I didn’t watch any B-ball.

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
1:48 pm

“I just don’t know how to deal with all the grief.” – In time you will find a way, and I believe you will. However, if you keep even the tiniest of a corner of your heart grieving because your ex didn’t reach out and comfort you, you’re doing yourself a huge disservice. Girl, stand up and pinch yourself. Also, if you ex should contact you, please don’t chastise him for not coming to your aid/showing concern for your welfare quicker. It’s no longer his place to do any of that.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
1:49 pm

Wille D — Won 2 tennis matches in straight sets. In my singles match yesterday, I was down 0-5 in the second set, then reeled off 7 straight games to win it in straight sets. :D My last service game at 6-5: Ace wide, forehand winner up the line, ace middle, forehand winner cross court. Boooyah! :lol:

Also, got to watch fellow DAWG, John Isner, knock off Novak Djokovic to reach his first Masters 1000 final & crack the top 10 for the first time. (And then lose to Federer the next day, but hey, good run anyway). :lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 19th, 2012
1:51 pm

Swiss – down 0-5 and reeled off 7 straight games. Dayum did your opponent twist an ankle or did you have tonya harding mistakenly bump into him during a break?

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
1:52 pm

Willie D — Nah, I just extracted my head from my arse & stopped making unforced errors.

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
1:55 pm

Bluzgirl – I’m extremely sorry for your loss. I’ve been where you are, and not to negate the friendship you had, but I lost my youngest brother and then a year later my dad had a stroke. My most recent ex at that time didn’t check on me, nor did I expect him to. AND, the guy I was seeing at the time dad had the stroke decided to check out on me as well. He dropped me off at the hospital and left to go hang out with his buddies. That’s the last time I saw him!

It could be also, Bluz, that your recent ex didn’t really understand or accept your friendship with the ex that passed. He could have even been jealous of your friendship. Sounds ugly, but some people are that way.

Let being there for your friend & his wife drown out any thoughts of him. And as for your stuff, chalk it up to a loss. He could stick them jumper cables and all up where the sun don’t shine if it were me!

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
1:56 pm

WD – Actually, I didn’t get any ice cream over the weekend. I was over by Stonecrest though and ended up hitting the new seafood joint up, Marlin & Ray’s I believe is what it’s called. Have you ever tried that spot? The food was pretty seasoned and tasty. I was too full for ice cream afterwards

disco

March 19th, 2012
2:09 pm

sassy – got my car washed Friday and was feeling so good leaving the car wash. I didn’t even care that it rained Friday night and Saturday because my car was just that dirty. still, I must say, I was feeling some kind of way today when I saw the layer of green film on my car.

I watched a foreign film called tsotsi over the weekend. it was pretty good (even considering I had to read subtitles).

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:10 pm

Bluz,how old are u?

(going for the fatty meat today(Bluz’s posts) too tired to keep Up!–lawdie,did I just say a coded phrase? :lol: )

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:11 pm

Tsotsi means thief,Disco

Shona word …

u feel me Disco? :lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 19th, 2012
2:13 pm

Slim – You are banned from even mentioning Ice Cream this week. I haven’t tried Marlin and Rays yet. The Wifey usually tries new places out with her gf’s for lunch or happy hour. I’ll let her give me the 411 before I try it. I hate being disappointed and spending $$ at the same time.

disco

March 19th, 2012
2:15 pm

ex – I was actually thinking it meant thug or something but thief is fitting since the movie started with a robbery/murder on a train and the main storyline revolved around a carjacking. it took place in Johannesburg.

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:17 pm

some folk need to learn that probably 2 in a 100,000 people can really be “friends” after they break up. Prolly has to do with the brain chemistry, or having seen somebody make that certain face,.or sound. Just sayin’

let it go Bluz, you ex isn’t your emotional support now.

Robert

March 19th, 2012
2:20 pm

@Lady – “I want a male’s perspective on Logic vs. Love…..”

A man’s brain works differently from a woman’s brain when it comes to “logic -vs-love. For example young men have no experience (20-35) are still trying to figure out what to do and are reacting on what they see, hear and touch (TV,internet, etc.). Older men (35-55) have children and grandchildren with little or no emotional attachment or feelings (love). All men need physical stimulation – (logic – breasts, buttocks, legs, hair, eyes, etc.) in order to be attracted to a woman and develop over-time an emotional attachment (love). Men need to feel the passion from a woman in order to fuel their desire. Women have emotional attachments by design and it is logical for women to be mother’s and caregivers. “Know These Things Abidith In Me – Faith, Hope & Charity – The Greatest ofTthese Things is Charity (Love)”

Science can not ignore these facts.

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

Bluzgirl – Somehow I have a feeling even if the 2 of you were still together he wouldn’t be there for you anyway. Like someone said earlier, he “checked out” of you guy’s relationship a long time ago.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

Thug is actually better,come to think of it.

go ahead Disco!

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
2:22 pm

@kimmie, Bluz herself said that.

disco

March 19th, 2012
2:23 pm

Ex – context clues my brother.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:24 pm

Bluz actions are why some dudes have ‘thriving’ rotations.

What a man to dude? :lol:

she still wants emotional support even tho they broke up…

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:24 pm

Thanks Robert!!!!!

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

Older men (35-55) have children and grandchildren with little or no emotional attachment or feelings (love).

wow Robert, what planet are you from??

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

WD – I don’t get an ice cream pass? I didn’t think shrimp & talapia would be a good mix to be followed up with ice cream. The spot isn’t that expensive and they do have happy hour daily at the bar $1 drafts, $4/$5 cocktails

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
2:26 pm

Leggs – Girl, the lower a dude sunk, the easier it was for me to get over him! I couldn’t be influence back in any way. When others on the outside looking in would question why we broke up or I let him go, I’d just give them the facts!

disco

March 19th, 2012
2:30 pm

kimmie – your post reads like it should have said “gurrrlll” instead of just girl.

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:31 pm

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:32 pm

lolalee good point I am not trying to breakdown his POV though lol

kimmie

March 19th, 2012
2:34 pm

disco – Guurrlll is what I should have typed, cause that’s how I felt!!LOL

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

I was feeling some kind of way today when I saw the layer of green film on my car.

Me, too disco…not even an hour after I washed my car it had pollen on it…it’s that time of year so it is what it is…

Older men (35-55) have children and grandchildren with little or no emotional attachment or feelings (love).

Robert..umm..yeah okay… Please don’t tell me that all men between 35-55 with chirren and grandchirren aren’t emotionally attached…and don’t/can’t love? Please expound…

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

Sassy amen. I know plenty of men who love very deeply.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

So Ladies?

a lot of uall..

When u holla and scream when in the cut,is that Emotion

Or it’s Logic…

coz some of uall enjoy this thang or feel it on another level altogether..

I tell ya..

and I have had some dudes talk gibberish too..I mean real heavy stuff

Emotion or Logic?

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:40 pm

hmmmmmmmmm 9 times out of ten it ain’t love but I digress Ex lol you funny dude

disco

March 19th, 2012
2:42 pm

lady – not only is it not love but it is very much contrived, intended to play into the man’s emotions. let’s face it, the fellas generally get more out of that screaming and hollering than we do. that’s why they still trying to ask questions instead of focusing on the task at hand. they need verbal “validation”.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
2:43 pm

Logic= dayum dude is working it=this d!@# is soooo good

Emotion=verbalizing said logic

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
2:43 pm

I have had some dudes talk gibberish too

Ex – Care to elaborate on that statement and is this why you often express interest in the feelings of other wangs? :lol: jkbnr

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
2:45 pm

the fellas generally get more out of that screaming and hollering than we do…. they need verbal “validation”.

Shhh disco…You ain’t s’posed to tell!!!!! :lol:

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:46 pm

@Sassy
Hysterical!

@disco
some truth to that… men need the feedback — and the ego boost.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
2:46 pm

Slim I was gonna go there,too, when I read that but I was gonna let it go…

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:46 pm

@Slim
I was wondering the same thing

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:47 pm

Sassy ~ enquiring minds want to know…

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:47 pm

But if u can’t validate it then we ain’t in this together Disco…I got be given assurance or license to go harder,for our mutual enjoyment..

So those soft whispers..go harder daddy,I’m feeling u daddy gives us both energy and license to do our thang..

but the hollering can spook someone if not forewarned.

I mean,some females are just Loud! :lol:

cba

March 19th, 2012
2:48 pm

Hmmm….Hemy was 48, I don’t know what you call it, but he had something.
And now, he’s about to get his feelings hurt.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:48 pm

meant Heard! @Slim

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:49 pm

can’t do the ‘daddy’ talk. just too creepy

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
2:50 pm

Sassy – He never holds back on us so I figured, why not at least ask :evil:

So ladies, are yall making noises because it’s that good or just to stroke his ego?

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:50 pm

disco lol I am remaining objective sis but great post honey! ;)

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:50 pm

cba great point on that man Hemy! another perfect example!

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:51 pm

Slim ~ a little of both, but mostly because its goooooooood :)

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:52 pm

what lolalee said

Lady~

March 19th, 2012
2:53 pm

alrighty good people! a great productive Monday! Until tomorrow ~peace! ;)

lolalee

March 19th, 2012
2:54 pm

following Lady out the door… gotta do some WORK now.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
2:56 pm

@lolalee,so ur decibels go up a notch?

wld u be able to hold it if say mom in law and dad were in the bedroom across from urs or u one of those that insist,’nah! U can’t put up here,get a room’ :lol:

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
3:01 pm

Ladies, how do you feel about the men being vocal? Ever had a dude that totally caught you off guard to how his “Dismantle” is when he gets to the top of the mountain? LOLOLOL (holler out, shake uncontrollably, make weird noises, collapses with no muscle control etc)

disco

March 19th, 2012
3:08 pm

slim – been there and it is all I can do not to bust out laughing.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
3:12 pm

yall making noises because it’s that good or just to stroke his ego?

cosign with lola n Lady…

how do you feel about the men being vocal?

I got skillz so that’s going to be a given…yeah I said it…WHAT?!?!

(holler out, shake uncontrollably, make weird noises, collapses with no muscle control etc)

If it’s all theatric n extra then yeah I might chuckle to myself..don’t want to bruise any egos cause them things are muy fragile…

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
3:14 pm

muy fragile HOLLERS :lol: That’s when you put your face over their shoulder and bite your tongue to keep from laughing out loud.

Exiled!

March 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

Slim..when I was 14/15 my younger brother and I overhead our parents going at it..

My dad is a Big fella but it was surprising hearing daddy do the vocals so loudly. No vocals from mum..

It is in keeping with his character tho coz he is a blabbermouth…but daamn man.

A brother got show some level headedness! :lol:

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
3:19 pm

That’s when you put your face over their shoulder and bite your tongue to keep from laughing out loud.

:lol: :mrgreen:

And we’re not even gonna talk about the faces they make…

disco

March 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

sassy – you made me think of old girl in sprung with joe torry. “I said adina”

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
3:28 pm

:lol: @ disco…what a day…and we’re still kinda on topic…

My, where has the time gone ?….

disco

March 19th, 2012
3:33 pm

forget the time… where have the people gone?

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
3:36 pm

Shyyd disco who knows…it gets like that here sometimes

disco

March 19th, 2012
3:49 pm

well in that case – a long afternoon is about to get even longer. sucks to be me.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
3:54 pm

Alright, MIA peeps… It’s 80 degrees outside. Time for a fresh Texas Margarita to enjoy while I grill up some meat!

Party rockers in the houuuuuuuuuuuuuuse toniiiiiiiiiight

Everybody just have a good tiiiiiiiiime

:lol:

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
3:55 pm

I’ve got a paper to read soooo…

Have fun Swiss!!

disco

March 19th, 2012
3:58 pm

sassy – paper or no paper, you are bored too.

swiss – hope you have enough meat and margaritas for everyone (head counts only 3 since everyone else jumped ship)

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
4:02 pm

I went for a short walk outside and came back in feeling like my mouth is dirty. Too much dayum pollen out there for me. I just hope this last hour goes by faster than the last 3 did.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
4:08 pm

Yes I am disco but this is short lived…I’ll be in the lab doing double duty for quite a while so I’m going to take this day as slowly as it’s coming..almost time to go anyway.

I feel like doing something I shouldn’t just for the heck of it.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
4:14 pm

disco — I don’t know about the margaritas, but I’ve always got enough meat to go around… :lol:

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
4:16 pm

swiss – And Mrs swiss has a stingy but large appetite that I’m sure she isn’t into sharing. lol Margaritas do sound nice right about now though

disco

March 19th, 2012
4:18 pm

slim – guess swiss was in kindergarten the day they discussed sharing. margaritas sound okay but a plate sounds better.

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
4:28 pm

disco – Well, I suppose it isn’t really good to drink on an empty stomach, so pass me a weenie :lol:

Hmmmm.....

March 19th, 2012
4:31 pm

Did I read the word “prolly” or did someone mean probably? Please tell me that was a man posing as a woman. Please?

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
4:31 pm

so pass me a weenie

I don’t know why I burst into laughter EVERYtime you post that word Slim…

weenie…weenie..weenie

disco

March 19th, 2012
4:33 pm

a weenie? child I said a plate. complete with a hunk of meat, a piece of bread, some baked beans, potato salad, macaroni and cheese, and a deviled egg.

SlimUno

March 19th, 2012
4:39 pm

disco – Chile you making me HUNGRY.

sassy – :lol:

disco

March 19th, 2012
4:44 pm

I’m not even hungry but if I had a plate you still wouldn’t be able to tell me nothing. I’d wrap my plate in aluminum foil and just wait patiently until I got hungry.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
4:50 pm

I’d wrap my plate in aluminum foil

You know we wiiiill fix a plate if we don’t do anything else. :lol:

What is it about us and fixin plates anyway?…y’all know what I mean so don’t act..

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 19th, 2012
4:51 pm

Alright y’all I’m out…Mr Bermuda’s not feeling well and I’m going on nurse duty (leave it alone Swiss ;-) ). Read y’all tomorrow.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2012
4:51 pm

No weenies on the grill (only raw). I do have NY strip w/ my special home made chimichurri, and grilled zucchini, carrots & corn. Mmmmm mmm. Oh, and for an appetizer: My good friend Jack Daniels (margaritas were too much work for just me — those can wait for when the Mrs gets home).

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
4:52 pm

I’d add this for you Ex. A man making a woman scream is an added measure assuring the both of them. He hit “the” spot and she wants him to know and she liked the fact that he hit “the” spot.

Leggs

March 19th, 2012
4:57 pm

Or, it just hurts…

Celisea

March 19th, 2012
5:43 pm

It was empty in here today. Don’t look like I missed too much :)