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Should couples keep secrets?

When you have been together for a really long time, you begin to figure out what needs to be done to keep the peace in realtionships. A married couple once told me that sometimes total honesty has no place in a relationship! Obviously, you don’t want to hide the fact that you have another spouse or anything, but are there some secrets that couples should keep?

I always believed that I would marry my best friend. Someone I could share everything with, but I am starting to wonder if I am being naive. Why should a couple keep things from each other? What does it mean when it becomes a habit? How do you know what needs to be said, shared, or revealed versus what needs to be kept a secret?

Have you ever wished that you actually had less honesty in a relationship? Do you think that a couple that keeps secrets will eventually end up harming the relationship more than helping it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

289 comments Add your comment

Lily

March 16th, 2012
7:09 am

Diva Diva Diva….you are straight shooting this week. I think couples should have discretion between the two of them, I think couples should keep privacy between the two of them. If it’s something potentially dangerous or one of the two knows something that places them in harms way then no…not those sort of secrets. If keeping privacy will build a bond and make relations just that much more stronger and that much more special, absolutely. Nothing means more to me than having a man as a homie, lover, friend!

Lily

March 16th, 2012
7:17 am

There something quite special about a man, even as a friend only, that you can trust and can depend on. Something special knowing you can lean on then with information, or advice, with inner most thoughts and knowing they’ll take it to their grave all because of the bond of friendship.

Shay

March 16th, 2012
7:20 am

Good Opening post Miss Lily!

Lily

March 16th, 2012
7:24 am

Thanks Ms Shay!

Lily

March 16th, 2012
7:26 am

Sorry Shay….is that Miss or Ms?

Good day!

Lily

March 16th, 2012
7:26 am

Sorry Shay….is that Miss or Ms?

Good day!

CoolShadow

March 16th, 2012
7:29 am

Why should a couple keep things from each other?

Because it facilitates the successful execution of a surprise birthday one person may throw in the honor of the other. Everyone won’t be able to handle the truth about everything, so some things are best left unknown (e.g., your intimate encounter number). Also, it’s my belief that you never know everything about a partner about a partner and is frankly, unnecessary.

How do you know what needs to be said, shared, or revealed versus what needs to be kept a secret?

By observation of learning to trust your partner and their ability to know what to should be kept secret; some folks simply can’t hold water.

Have you ever wished that you actually had less honesty in a relationship?

Yes, especially in those situations where personal information was shared in moment where discretion was expected (and perhaps explicitly requested) and said information was either revealed later to others and/or thrown back in my face during an argument or disagreement.

Shay

March 16th, 2012
7:53 am

@Miss Lily- Either

nelson

March 16th, 2012
7:54 am

That is a great question. I really like it. The time for total, absolute, complete honesty is before marriage. Lay it all out there , so there is not even one tiny secret left. If after all is said and they still want to tie the knot, fine. Imagine harboring secrets from the spouse, like you were a hooker. This is stuff that can sink a union.
Well, enough said, “the truth shall set you free”.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:10 am

Happy Fantastic Friday MIA!!!!!

hmmmmm let’s see now…..

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:11 am

Yes Lily I totally agree with your openings sis!!!!!!!!!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:12 am

Also, it’s my belief that you never know everything about a partner about a partner and is frankly, unnecessary. <<<<<<<<<<CS I so agree sir!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:12 am

Cool Shadow awesome post and great logic! Love It~

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
8:16 am

Nah I don’t need or want to know every single thing. I like my privacy at times, I figure she does too. I always let her use her own discretion if she have something she wants to trust me with. I have a few things that’s not relevant to her and I’ll keep them to myself, and she should do the same.

Good Morning:

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:17 am

I had the great opportunity of recently meeting my new boo’s parents and it went very well. His mother and I talked about many things and many family stories were shared. I felted really apart and his father gave insight too of their family and his son. Now do I know everything about him or them of course not somethings are best unsaid or over time will come to light. But I appreciate the respect I was given and laughter that was shared while getting to know all of them. And he doesn’t know every crack about me but has met my family and given the same respect and opportunity to continue to get to know on a deeper level.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
8:20 am

Hey Lady:

Good for you, now y’all can concetrate on each other.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
8:23 am

Mike P

March 16th, 2012
8:55 am

The notion of having a “best friend” in a mate is good in theory. People’s actions; however, say otherwise.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
8:59 am

Good morning!

How do you know what needs to be said, shared, or revealed versus what needs to be kept a secret? If you’re an adult, you’ll know.

No, everything does not need to be shared in a relationship or even a marriage. Honesty and respect prevails, but every tidbit of your life doesn’t need to be shared. If there’s a big issue that would put one in a quandry, then talk it out.

@Lady ~ that is nice that! But sis, “And he doesn’t know every crack about me” = I would hope not at this stage (cracking myself up).

2CPTG

March 16th, 2012
8:59 am

Should couples keep secrets? Depends…..some things are meant to take to the grave!

btw, g’morning.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
9:00 am

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
9:03 am

Good morning everybody and TGIF Wooo hoooo hoooo! ;-)

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
9:19 am

Good to see you 2C. I agree, some things are meant to take to the grave.

disco

March 16th, 2012
9:20 am

good morning. my opinion – don’t EVER put ALL your cards on the table. folks used to say you never let your left hand know what your right hand’s doing.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
9:22 am

I agree to a certain point disco, but when in a marriage, I’ll let my left hand know what my right hand is doing. I just won’t reveal all five fingers on any given hand.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
9:24 am

chuckle leggs some married couples master that concept 9:22

Bill Clinton

March 16th, 2012
9:28 am

Honestly, Weird Diver, if you married your best friend you would be charged with bestiality.. No, Fool…You pick a chick who is most likely to advance your career..Even if she has elephant ankles..Secrets are necessary…Until they are exposed by a liberal press corp….Then you’re still covered…Rebound..Rebound..Rebound….That’s what makes me the bestest President ever…….All my love……Billy

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
9:28 am

Good morning,

Things prior to knowing one another, no…no point in dredging that stuff up. Things during the relationship? Depends with a mostly “yes.” I say depends because you have to know your partner. If that person is a person that can’t or won’t let it go or throws it back when angry, don’t tell. If you have someone that’s more forgiving and can work through without throwing it back up then an “almost” yes, tell it. I want open honestly. I’m thinking more in terms of how I would feel much more betrayed to find something out, as your SO that you didn’t tell more so and over you telling me yourself. And really unless it’s something (deed, act, etc) that you committed or engaged or did solely alone with no others nothing or being involved, you’re taking a huge risk, your secret is not guaranteed safe.

The main ones you think you can trust are the ones to disappoint the most.

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
9:28 am

What’s a marriage with secrets?

disco

March 16th, 2012
9:28 am

agreed leggs but adding all that to the cliché takes away from it. even having said that we can’t front like a lot of married folks don’t have their “just in case” funds/back up plans in place.

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
9:29 am

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
9:33 am

I doubt even Diva tells her CURRENT man,at THAT time ‘everything’!

She’s a WOMAN!

Unless the question is being addressed to the man.

U can’t tell some females,for example,that they’re getting or have gotten fat. Unless u are ready to end the relationship!

So as a man,u just soldier on in unhappyiness,or seek an outlet.

When her thighs have grown so big that she struggles and pants heavily when trying to straddle u upstairs,and she takes No effort to mitigate that labor when u two are attempting luv making,:lol: what a man to do???

Just stay zip! :lol:

Or else,All he’ll breaks loose! :lok:

Keep it a secret people,sometimes!

Good morning!

:lol:

Friday!!!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
9:34 am

agreed C you touched on this topic yesterday!

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
9:52 am

I’ve had some stuff told to me that I really wish I hadn’t heard. Ex had played for the other team for a minute, and I always wondered whether he really belonged there but was afraid to suit up. In the name of “honesty” I heard how unattractive I’d become. My reaction was to dig in, when if it had been approached differently, I would have resonded much more positively.

Discretion about what you share, definitely

Secrets to keep:

The number of lovers you’ve had
Whether your lover is the ‘biggest’ or the ‘best’
Your exit plan cash stash
The crush you have on anybody
Things you’re experienced in that might be too much for your SO to hear
Certain fantasies
If you look at your SO sometimes and think something negative (’getting fat’ “double chin’, etc)

abc

March 16th, 2012
9:55 am

Secrets are, in general, a bad thing. But, it goes back to the universal constant: chicks keep secrets, i.e. and ergo lies of omission, as a normal course of life. They might think it’s for the benefit of whatever, but in fact, it’s not. Don’t commit the acts that you have to lie about. Pretty simple.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
9:55 am

love that list lolalee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
9:58 am

lolalee!

good points!

so ex is now a full bonafied other team member or what?

that lovers number question ,even to a current girlfriend,not wife will get a man a serious and damaging tongue lashing.
Men,don’t go there! :lol:

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
9:59 am

You got it, disco. My child already knows to have a secret stash. Some may think it wrong, but she knows to have one and to never let her mate know where it is.

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
9:59 am

@abc Secrets aren’t only about things you’ve done. But hey, do you really want your woman telling you that you are NOT the best lover she’s had? Or you are NOT the biggest? What would be the point of “honesty” in that situation?

Thanks Lady :)

disco

March 16th, 2012
10:00 am

I think the fact that folks can come up with lists of “approved secrets” just confirms that folks are indeed keeping secrets. the person that says “my significant other and I don’t keep secrets from each other” is either just caught up in the romanticism of it all, is being played the fool or is just plain full of it.

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
10:01 am

I know it’s early but have any of you been to Hilton Head? If so, any recommendations whether it be “adventures, food spots, night life spots etc”??

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:01 am

abc men keep secrets too but you know that ;)

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:01 am

@Exilied I suspect the ex is at spring training and hasn’t decided whether to join up. I think he’ll play on the low indefinitely.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:03 am

good point too lolalee some stuff is just your own business. its neither here or there so why open up a can of worms….we are grown………..

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:06 am

Don’t commit the acts that you have to lie about

I agree here. I guess I don’t understand what building a relationship is all about if you plan to hold back. I don’t think it’s frivolous or silly to be of that mindset….of course that’s just my opinion. Sometimes if the crutch is not there to lean on, folks won’t have no other choice but to work it out.

Again, that’s just me and my little humble opinion

Hey there Lady :)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:07 am

C I am referring to one’s past not current behavior in a relationship. That water under the bridge stuff…….some things just are relevant

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:08 am

meant are not relevant

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:10 am

Slim?

what do u like doing..I’ll tell u if it’s there.

I got a spot there..just finished paying for it actully.

Beaching,water sports(jet skiing etc) golf,bike riding and trails,fishing,beac volleyball,boutique shopping,speciality food shops,country-red neck nite spots,swimming and scuba diving,etc

What’s ur email so I can frward u this newsletter I get often..?

@loalee

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:12 am

@lolalee…so ur ex never gave anything away and u were never suspicious of anything?

What prompted the telling?

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:13 am

I got you lady. Like I said, whatever happened prior, no I’m not telling. What’s the point in that? Going in though, I’m not going do or behave in such a way that I gotta keep it under wraps.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:14 am

Slim I like Frosty Forggy’s there. and Habour (sp) Town @ the pier

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:15 am

exactly C!!!!!! I am not condoning current foolishness.com lol

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
10:20 am

Huh, your Ex played for the other team? He revealed this while dating you? You stayed in the relationship after that revelation??

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
10:20 am

Ex – Ok, it’s coming via Dove Express

Leggs mail call

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:21 am

harbour town hilton head (oh I was right) nice place to be Slim I went to a jazz on the Atlantic event there one Christmas very nice

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
10:22 am

@Lady – thanks for your 10:01. I hate sounding like a broken record (lol).

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:23 am

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
10:24 am

Morning All!!

Exiled, whether or not to tell a spouse that they are gaining weight is not my idea of a “secret”! That’s staring at them in the mirror. The mirror, or those tight clothes, don’t lie.

You have to know your partner. It depends on what the “secret” is. Only you can gauge if it’s important to reveal and if keeping it is going to harm someone in the relationship. A lot of times it really is unnecessary. Or it’s just to make yourself feel good, yet you’ve destoyed your partner. To think any other way is, in my opinion, being very naive.

Yay, the weekend is almost here!!!!

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
10:24 am

Lady – Thanks I’ll look it up…

Ex – I like all those things but you never know as a first time visitor what is actually good or not. Just wanted some personal references if any of you had any. Might be trying to dip out of town next weekend.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
10:27 am

No good can come from keeping secrets, when in a serious relationship and building a new life. Now your past is your past but you should not have to lie about your past. Keeping a secret is no different than being dishonest/lying/omitting…all because you decided to keep a secret when asked a question or whatever. If you do any of the above don’t expect others to be “real” with you.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:29 am

good point purple…..when asked here recently I have been forthcoming and I have asked some serious questions and got the truth and even verified it after meeting his family so you are correct but I am not offering all about my past and he isn’t either…..but I see your point and it is correct!

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:33 am

Exiled, Leggs
I had no idea. He’d had a close family friend growing up that he talked about from time to time, and always with some weirdness in the telling. Then he became friends with a gay neighbor, but started spending way too much time there. I grew suspicious, although he was still taking care of it at home. When they were together it was like you can always tell when people have been lovers — they stand too close, or look to directly at each other. So then I knew. I pressed him on both of those. The family friend one he told me about, but played it like a ‘youthful experiment’ kinda thing. The second one he denied, but I knew. The marriage was already blowing up, so it didn’t really do much other than confirm what I knew by then.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:33 am

Slim..I hope u take Officer with u or replacement..

when u going

disco

March 16th, 2012
10:33 am

purple – that sounds all good in theory. still you leave room for the defense “but you didn’t ask me that specifically”. folks omit things. maybe for good reason, maybe “just because”. perhaps they didn’t intend to omit they just weren’t thinking about such and such. maybe the omission wasn’t that important to them whereas it was hella important to the other person. either way, I stick with my stance that no one is ever going to tell everything. you are lucky if you get told the important things and by important things I mean the things that are important TO YOU.

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:34 am

@ Purple So you really want your woman telling you that you are not the best — or the biggest– she’s had? You want that much honesty??

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:36 am

This is not about squeaky clean and perpetrating a fraud. It’s not that hard to be honest….tell the truth, that’s all you can do. How the other person receives it is on them. That may be harsh but I would bet my next pay check that they’d rather be hurt from the truth than hurt from know you’re a dishonest and keep secrets.

I stand by a solid relationship is built on trust :)

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:37 am

Or u answered that

hh is good for families or if u got a lover..very fresh aired and serene and beautiful…

I hope lil Slim is brewed there and will be fermenting in ur lil pouch by the time u get back :lol:

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:39 am

I don’t think I want relations (physically, mentally, emotionally) with someone comparing me to another. That’s an issue of maturity…IMHO I would hope we’re living in the now and enjoying what’s present.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
10:39 am

lolalee, I know Im not the biggest and as far as best she ever had…she’s and I have never been as intimate with anyone else so we best the both we ever had. A real man knows that stuff doesn’t amount to much at all nor does it matter. And if you care enough about a person you will accept them and their past, if not then that’s not the person for you. And if you have to lie or keep secret your past that really means that you are not even comfortable with yourself.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:39 am

Slim SanDestin is just as nice and romantic too and you can drive great road trip witth a lover or family

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:39 am

and more importantly, do you think you can handle that much honesty?

@ disco. Good points. Some things are important and absolute honesty is required. Many things. But if its something that isn’t important, and it’s hurtful, than why share? I’m interested in the person you are today, and yes, about how you got there, but not every little detail. Those past things that will impact me, yes, I need to know. You have a felony record? I need to know because it affects your ability to get employment, housing, etc etc. You have kids out there I dont know about? Marriages your haven’t disclosed?

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:41 am

I would hope we’re living in the now and enjoying what’s present.<<<<<<<<<<<Love it C!!!! Classic CBT!!!!!!!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:41 am

Lady – We’re gonna have fun at our lady’s luncheon :)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:42 am

lolalee agree with you 10:39

Purple

March 16th, 2012
10:42 am

disco, you are spot on. But the thing is that the truth or secrets will rear it;s sometimes ugly head at somepoint and it’s better for a person to find out from the source itself before someone comes asking you.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:43 am

Indeed C!!!! can’t wait!

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:43 am

@Purple hmmm. think you hit close to home there. Maybe it ultimately was a maturity issue. Like I know I’m not the prettiest woman my man has been with, but so what? We choose each other now.
Guess my ex had a lot of issues, and some of those linger with me now.
THanks

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:46 am

Lady – I just read your email. So I’m not the only one a smart gal…lol

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:46 am

DEAD C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL ;)

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:47 am

Celisea…I agree with u on 10:39 altho sometimes u mentally go back to that pounding that chic (guy)may have given u in the past..

Queen always talks about a road trip we took once back when we were dating and we didn’t come outta the hotel room All weekend long..Friday nite check in,satrday till Sunday afternoon when we left,,breakfast,lunch(if any) and dinner was room service. Some heavy knocking of the head board and Leggs splashing and ‘God daamn it’ exclamation points in that room ALl weekend Long.

Now,it could be any other man or woman on ur mind even when u already married. At least in bouts Not Always! :lol:

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:48 am

Uncle Ex is a fool but you and Queen hold on and make it do what it do sir!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:49 am

We are going to Tennessee soon and I can’t wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
10:49 am

That’s unfortunate, lolalee, that his issues are lingering with you. I don’t think many truly analyze the ramifications of their actions and the affects it has on their loved ones.

@disco ~ I believe in honesty in my relationship, but the past is the past and although I will share somethings, I’m not going to share it all and I suspect he’ll do the same. Like Purple/Celisea and others have said, a relationship is built on trust, but I do not for one minute believe couples tell each other everything.

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
10:49 am

Ex – Why are you trying to push a crumthumper on me? Can’t folks just hump for enjoyment anymore? lol

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:51 am

Exiled so if you with your current person doing the do, is it wrong to be thinking about somebody else you were with in the past?
Anyway , if you think too much about that past person, you might end up saying the wrong name and THAT would really be bad. really bad.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:52 am

do not for one minute believe couples tell each other everything.<<<<<<<<<<<Amen Leggs!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:52 am

MMeelloo – And TO BE HONEST, I’ve been intimate with a man knowing no two persons are the same. That wasn’t important and who’s worrying about that AT THAT POINT anyway? LOL I’m digging this man and we’re jiving and IT’S ALL GOOD…in that moment. Like I said maturity and keeping good with what’s in the here and now.

Honestly, I know there’s someone much much prettier than me, more freaky than me, more money than me….but I’m not intimidated by any of that. If a man is with you, obviously he’s with you for you. If he’s not sweating the prettier, freakier, finer then why should you?

Purple

March 16th, 2012
10:52 am

lolalee, during this thing called marriage I have learned all sorts of new stuff about myself. I was told some things by the wife that really rubbed me the wrong way (not going into details here) but I actually thought to myself who in the hell did I marry. But then again I got happy that she was even comfortable enough to share it with me without fear of being judged. So I got over the stuff after a few days of struggling internally. But I guess it is a blessing to be totally open. I.E. no fear of sharing something you are not to proud of(you can talk about anything), no voicemail phone lock codes, sharing email and facebook passwords etc is a nice place to be. But I am sure some stuff is better yet unsaid. LOL

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:53 am

Leggs I’m working through, bit by bit. Purple just said it in a way that made me feel it. I’m good, but it was a lot of stuff for a very long time, so it takes a while to sort out.

Sassy Me..Juicy Fruit ;-)

March 16th, 2012
10:55 am

I grew suspicious, although he was still taking care of it at home.

:shock:

What?!?!?! You mean you suspected your man of pinch hittin for the other team and yu were still intimate with him??.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:56 am

so agree bc I do not play this hide and seek game >no voicemail phone lock codes, sharing email and facebook passwords etc is a nice place to be.

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
10:56 am

@Purple I’m totally with the password share, phone is open, etc. Got no issue with that, and if he does, then he’s not the right one for me.

So did the stuff your wife shared help you? Was she on point and it made you think about it, or just off the mark? Sometimes some of that stuff is better received if it presented the right way and at the right time…

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
10:57 am

Leggs – I agree with you. I don’t think you should go in telling the past and really pulling back the covers but I think you should walk in honesty during the relationship…that’s what I’m talking about. Someting comes up, tell the truth. You’re asked a question, tell the truth. We are all consenting adults and make conscious decisions. So what you made a bad decision, as none of us are perfect and no relationship is….still tell the truth. I get there won’t be perfections hell, sometimes folks stray but I also get you ain’t getting beyond that by lying, still lying and hiding things.
That’s all I’m saying. If I strayed….well

disco

March 16th, 2012
10:58 am

purple – I agree. I’d much rather hear it from the source than hear it on the streets. I just think that folks are being really naïve if they truly expect full disclosure on all points. maybe it’s possible but i’m not buying into that theory.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
10:58 am

I feel one can be an open book and secure with their past and forthcoming and still be true to their partner if they so chose not to tell everything………..growth and maturity with balance it all out I feel

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
10:59 am

lolalee?

yes,if u are doing it u can’t be thinking about domebody else..otherwise it means u aren’t enjoying it!

I will excuse a thought only in moments of just lazying around,not even as a serious thought!

Make the most of the current relationship and work on it so it can be the best u want it to be.

U can’t worry nor waste thoughts on lost past stuff!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:00 am

disco that is what my boo told me…he said I am telling you these things so you want get a brick up side your head when it told to you by someone else….he has a chatty family but its been very congruent and I am pleased with the outcomes

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:02 am

meant will balance it all out

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:02 am

“…it is a blessing to be totally open. I.E. no fear of sharing something you are not to proud of(you can talk about anything), no voicemail phone lock codes, sharing email and facebook passwords etc is a nice place to be. But I am sure some stuff is better yet unsaid. LOL” = That’s all I’m saying.

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
11:03 am

Growth and maturity will balance it all out.

Well put Lady! :)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:05 am

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:05 am

So lemme ask u this ladies?

U are with ur boo,up and about town..and u bump into an ex boo of urs…hie hie u exchange pleasantries..nothing more..

But u bumped uglies with dude,king term altho ur guy don’t know or had heard bout this guy..

U tell him and do Full Disclosure at this point?!

@ u too Kimmie?

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:07 am

Long term

@u too Celisea 11:05?

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:09 am

hmmmm what are you asking Ex?!? sorry not understanding

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
11:11 am

Mmeello – To make sure I’m understanding are you asking if me and my SO ran into an old lover would I tell him? No..it’s the past. Are you asking would me and past dude hook up and then I tell him? I’m not going to hook up with him.

Oh, and for me. A liar is a liar is a liar. If that’s been my experience with you that’s what you’ll always be. Make your mouth say anything, convince others otherwise…I know what I know.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:11 am

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:12 am

alrighty story time

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:13 am

Exiled – I know how I would handle it, cause it’s happened before. Said hello and kept it moving, and after we walked away casually told him that was an ex of mine. Had no bearing at all on the now with my husband. There was and is no reason to be jealous or anything. While his wife has passed away, his oldest daughter’s mom is still alive and lives in the ATL. I have 2 exes that live here. We both had a past, we’re mature about such matters.

lolalee

March 16th, 2012
11:16 am

@kimmie you friendly with his daughter’s mom?

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:16 am

Exiled – Stuff like that is just so not worth worrying about, unless there’s some tipping around going on, which there is not. Stuff like that is not what would take our marriage down. It makes me tired just thinking about it. We’re just so busy with our lives and the kids. I do feel sorry for folks that have not gotten past messiness like that.

Shrugs

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:18 am

Tuesday past me and my boo went to a birthday party and one of my former’s were there. I haven’t seen this guy in a year and a half. Apparently he was staring bc when I looked up there he was smiling in my face. The boo is sitting right next to me and everyone is chatting drinking and eating….ok dormer dude finds his way to me and we converse a bit while my boo is chatting with the others. so the 1st question out the former’s dude mouth is “is that your boyfriend” I replied yes. moving forward and after the convo ended and folks came back for cake former dude makes his way to new dude to say well Lena didn’t introduce us but I am blank and they chatted briefly. SO I am looking like old dude have you lost your effin mind bc #1 if he was there with someone why in th heezzy would I feel the need to introduce myself to his new boo. very awkward but old dude made it his business to put it out there we use to deal….very tacky and insecure if you ask me but new dude is very tall and after standing up to old dude the drift was made that he is not up for his foolishness respectfully.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:18 am

lolalee – Never met her. His daughter is grown, engaged and has 2 kids of her own. No need to even deal with her.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
11:20 am

lolalee the stuff she shared made me question somethings and made me second guess something but that was my own pride/insecurities even popping up but I quelled that and fell back on what I knew of the big picture so I guess it helped.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:22 am

old dude texts me the next day and I (haven’t and won’t) replied back…..he now will get my azz to kiss! lol

later that night me and new one discussed it laughed about it and moved on……

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:22 am

Cash 4 yesterday 9417. I played 9418….drats, drats, freaking drats!

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:24 am

@Ex ~ I would exchange pleasantries/introduction. That’s where it would stop. No need to then say “btw, we did some mean dancing between the sheets back in the day.” Who the heck does that. So, Ex. NOPE!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:25 am

leggs straight foolishness lol

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:26 am

Lady?

meeting an ex lover while u are with current…and current does not know about the past lover

thnx Cel..no,not asking bout hooking up with ex

Thanx Kimmie

just asking about the principle of Full Disclosure..that’s all

me I wouldn’t tell..proly I won’t even acknowledge the chic unless Queen already knows about her or I have told her..thankfully she never ran in same circles as my exes

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:28 am

why was it important to know or why did old ex feel the need to introduce himself to him hell he ain’t even my ex husband…..he just wanted some and lost out! I haven’t seen him in over a year didn’t even know he knew the bday girl

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
11:28 am

Mmeelloo – In your scenario, full disclosure wouldn’t really apply because it’s a past relationship, right? That’s sort of like telling how many lovers you’ve had. None of that is important with a new mate. Staying the course in doing the right thing I would think is all that mattered at that point.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:30 am

Leegs I am coherent funny honey! ;)

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:31 am

@Lady ~ tacky on former flame’s part. It was your place to introduce them if you wanted to. That dude apparently thinks he had/has some form of clout and he wants it known. Sounds like he got shot down with the quickness.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:32 am

Lady?

If I were ur new dude,I wld have gave him an almost pull by the collar or some closer…

foolishness I tell u..

He shld have left it at the grin :grin: fromacross the floor

that’s it! Lol

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:33 am

LOL Ex!

He is a Morehouse Man and some of them just think they got it like that! #dead

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:34 am

Oooh, we have a new blogger?…Where is Leegs post (lolol)?

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:34 am

Exiled – If it’s someone I’ve dated or he’s dated when we were grown, it’s assumed you did the do. No need to explain anything. I don’t keep in contact with ANY past lovers, no calls or random texts from any of them ever, so nothing to explain. He has the baby mama, but after that he was married for 11 years. I just don’t see ex-lovers being an issue with us.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:36 am

Celisea..past lovers,whether 100 or 500 are non existent in a new relationship

They don’t count.

So unless we have kids together..for all intends and purposes,they don’t exist.

I would not acknowledge her

Good thing in my favor, I have a game face :lol:

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:36 am

LEGGS! LOL #dead!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:37 am

good post Ex 11:36

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:38 am

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
11:38 am

Mmeello – I agree, ex lovers are a thing of the past. Yes, be courteous speak…..or not but K.I.M.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:40 am

Lady – Hey there with the Morehouse Men! My hubs is one, so is his dad & brother, so are both my younger brothers!

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:41 am

Lady?

now an ex’s grin to u is telling,especially to a current boo..

Most dudes know that? It almost equals a woman’s look when she has blown ur mike!

Remember the Monica Lewinsky look on Bill

so either way,if ur current dude saw the ex’s grin at U he was going to ask u coz dudes understand that lingo coz we do it to our exes …especially if the uglies were off tha meter!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:41 am

Kimmie I have dated them and the ones I have dealt with feel entitled ….just my opinion

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
11:42 am

The only time i’ve come across an ex while out with a current was in a quick passing. The guy at the time (now ex) and I were leaving the movies laughing about it on the way out, and the ex was with his new interest going INTO the movies. We both looked up at each other and sort of shockingly smiled at each other but kept on walking. We didn’t stop to acknowledge that we knew each other or anything like that. I did say to the guy I was with that, hey that was so and so. (He had known of him but if he didn’t, I wouldn’t have said anything at all)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:42 am

understandable ex but still I would think most adults have tact but whatever I handled and it didn’t cause rift with new boo

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:44 am

so again age isn’t a measure of maturity either……old dude should just know better

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:46 am

Lady – Just kidding, I’ve heard the same about Harvard men, Hampton men, Howard men ….

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:47 am

yeah I co-sign hampton and howard I can’t even mustard those…..

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:47 am

I can stand famu but they are there as well

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:48 am

‘Remember the Monica Lewinsky look on Bill” ~ I sure do. That look spoke volumes!

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:50 am

@Lady ~ you do understand that seeing you with someone, even after a year, made you more desirable in his eyes. He wanted new dude to know or sense he had a romantic connection to you. Silly Rabbit!!!!

Him, not you.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
11:51 am

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:51 am

Lady honestly if it were me we wld have had a serious confrontation

Font come to me introducing urself as my wife’s ex

In less official setting he wld get a btdown!

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
11:53 am

Don’t not font

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
11:53 am

How you handle such situations is a sign of maturity on everyone’s part. It’s silly for an ex dude to be staring the lady down, especially if she’s with someone else or like in Lady’s situation, coming up to the new dude or giving the new dude that “look” Exiled spoke of. Wack, immature dude stuff. Some women get their ego stroked by the silliness as well.

Grow the H— up!

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
11:56 am

O/T ~ I heard on the radio this morning that there’s a bumper sticker out that reads:

“Don’t Renege Another 4 years!” – WOW..what a play on words.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
12:01 pm

What does that sticker mean Leggs?

Bluzgirl

March 16th, 2012
12:02 pm

Haven’t read through everything yet…I feel that there should be no need to have secrets if you are in a long term relationship. The relationship should be built on trust. I don’t mean that you should tell each other every single detail of your day, but if you’ve done something that you feel should be a secret, I think it’s best to just fess up.

My recent ex kept a few secrets to me, from small to big. It ended up really hurting us because he stunk at communicating. It all comes out in the end, so you might as well go ahead and fess up when it happens. I try my best to be open and honest. Sometimes, I may say too much about things I’ve done in the past. I’m learning what to keep to myself.

disco

March 16th, 2012
12:13 pm

leggs – i’ve seen it. really says “re-nig”

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
12:26 pm

so sad Leggs just ugly! I don’t recall the utter disrespect for Bush like Obama has gotten and trust I dislike baby bush!

cba

March 16th, 2012
12:27 pm

You’re right disco, it does say “re-nig”. A friend sent it to me this morning.
The HATE is about to go off the charts.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
12:33 pm

Or is that right?

that’s hate speech isn’t it!?

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:01 pm

you use that word in spades or jive talking boy I tell ya election 2012 will be raw!

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
1:10 pm

Afternoon All,
On Topic – Everyone has some secrets. I would like to think the things that matter to the relationship and the Family’s well being are not one of them. With that being said I don’t want full disclosure because most of it is neither here nor there.
I will for the sake of discussion call foul on the play to a few of you for having a Secret stash. If you are spouting about honesty and all that in one sentence but encouraging a stash in the next then thats BS. My take is that if you Married the right one you wouldn’t need to have a “SECRET” stash. My Real dudes won’t trip on you having your own money. I would however trip if she felt the need to have a secret stash.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:13 pm

Oh snap, it really spells it out like that, disco? SHAMEFUL.

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
1:13 pm

Slim – re; Hilton Head. Food – You have to try Roastfish and Cornbread. Excellent excellent Seafood restaurant. Also try the Sea Shack. They are both kind hole in the wallish but great. Stay away from the touristy type places by talking to real locals.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:14 pm

Or is that right?

that’s hate speech isn’t it!?

Now, that’s sad and funny at the same time to ask.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:15 pm

Oh well, WillieD. Guess you have to trip.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:16 pm

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:17 pm

And, WillieD, my stance on the secret stash really rests on being in a relationship. By that, you are still single. Have a stash, even if you’re living together, you’re still single. If you should marry, and you marry the right one, commingling of the funds is fine by me.

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
1:22 pm

Leggs – I was hoping you would clarify. That was flying in the face of everything i thought I knew about you. Ok, all is right with you and me. Thought I was gonna have to come see you bout some thangs. hahaha

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:24 pm

the perks of married life ;)

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:30 pm

Funny, WillieD!

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
1:32 pm

WD – Your suggestions have been duly noted. Thanks for the heads up ;-)

I came across this deal where you can stay at a resort for only $100/night but you have to go to one of those timeshare presentations…I’ve done that before in the past but I really am not feeling like dealing with the harassment for 90 minutes on why I don’t want to purchase :lol:

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:35 pm

@SlimUno ~ the facilities are beautiful (done it 2x) but the sales people are a pain in the arse and refuses to take “not interested” as an answer. Getting out of there w all your sensibilities is quite a challenge.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:35 pm

LOL Slim I have done that in Vegas….I just pretend I am a millionaire and sit through and get the freebies

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:35 pm

leggs listen, get the stuff, and cut it short and leave lol don’t feed into the sales rep

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:37 pm

Am I the only one that get excited when buying stuff like new glasses? Am I a geek for that? LOL I don’t know if it’s been a year but I’m ready for new glasses. I’m going back to square frames.

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
1:37 pm

Leggs – heyal in my house it wouldn’t even have to be Secret. All I see is a bunch of receipts. She is the CFO and i don’t get involved unless something is outta wack.

Slim – That is the longest 90 minutes and usually it is around 2-2.5 hrs.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:39 pm

C I wanted to ask yall am I the only one who still shop @ Fingerhut?!? LOL these past two days and their spring sales on their beb comforters are on it! LOL yeah I got a Fingerhut card #dead LOL

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:39 pm

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:40 pm

Lady – I haven’t bought something from Fingerhut in eons. I think I was still living at home. Any good stuff?

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:41 pm

yeah they have revamped

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:41 pm

just got 6 down feather pillows for 40 bucks! winning!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:42 pm

Lady – Cool….I’ll check out the website. I don’t do too much online purchasing. I’m a chicken to have my stuff out there for one and two, I love the feel of walking in a mall…lol Or store

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:43 pm

C I hate shopping in stores love online shopping between ebay and fingerhut here lately I need to go sit down…..

I really need to become a conservative spender and stick to my Quicken payout and save

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:45 pm

Lady – Nothing like putting on something cool and a pair of flip flops :) and hitting the mall

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
1:46 pm

This must seriously be a Woman thing. Everytime the weather changes I start seeing bags of new isht in the house. SMH.

Cel – You are not a geek, The Wifey and baby girl both wear glasses. I guess according to my plan they can get new glasses every year. They treat that day like X-mas shopping by going to 3-4 different places.

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
1:47 pm

I’ve done it for a trip to Orlando as well as for some giveaways in the Bahamas. It’s almost like they get mad at you because they already know you are just there for the free incentives. It almost becomes an interrogation on why you do not want to buy. I’d really hate to have that job.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:47 pm

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:47 pm

spring bedding is essential!

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:48 pm

C you can have it I would rather put in flip flops and hit a patio for margaritas lol

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:49 pm

meant put on

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
1:50 pm

@Lady ~ you have to listen to their sales pitch, then you can get out of there.

Exactly SlimUno, Exactly!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:50 pm

WillieD – Whew…so it’s not just me :) Glasses are so not what they use to be. I can see it now. I’m going all out. The last couple of years my employer change insurance so I paid out of pocket. Well guess what, they are now in network and I don’t have to pay…well the majoritiy I won’t have to pay. I’m going sexy frames, transition…all of it… :)

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
1:51 pm

Lady – LOL…I hear you :)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
1:51 pm

Leggs I have the art down to a pact! I know when to exit with or without the freebies lol

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:01 pm

After seeing OWN’s ratings soar following an interview with Bobbi Kristina Brown along with Whitney Houston’s brother and sister-in-law, and their own boost from landing a Dionne Warwick interview, ABC News is trying to secure the second biggest get: A conversation with Bobby Brown.

abc

March 16th, 2012
2:04 pm

I don’t ask questions I don’t want the answers to, lola, but she’s told me I’m the best anyway. And if I wasn’t, so what? It’s not as if it’s the MOST important thing in the world to us.

Lady, I submit that men don’t lie and keep secrets much. Sure, there’s Bernie Madoff and high profile stuff like that, but most men don’t want to bother with keeping up with what’s a secret and what’s a lie. In fact, most men just plain suck at lying due to lack of method and practice.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:05 pm

I hear ya abc!!!!!! It’s a man’s world ~James Brown ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:08 pm

Hey Slim1 tell them you make a small yearly salary and they will be glad to see you walk out the door. It worked in Vegas and since they had me in the office they had to give the promotion. LOL…..they wont interrogate you any longer if they know you fall out their annual requirements.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
2:08 pm

abc is preaching, LOL

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:10 pm

LOL BF!!!!!!!!!!!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:11 pm

I’m offended that abc won’t reply to any of us that piggyback his posts but came back for lolalee and Lady…lol

I don’t know why he believes women are the masters at lying and deception when men have it in their dna…oh maybe because we’re better at it. Just don’t do it as often as men or have lying oozing from our pores…lol

Maybe that’s why he won’t respond…. :)

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:13 pm

It’s set…eye appointment Monday…new glasses by next Monday :) I already know what I want :) I’m excited

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:13 pm

I’m hitting the treadmill in 45 minutes. I’m feeling porkly :(

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:17 pm

Save yourself time and frustration, I’ve been to some where they almost lock you in the building trying to get you to buy something. That’s when you to have say to them I got two broken hands and can’t sign nothing…….LOL

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:18 pm

LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now we know men lie and keep secrets that is not even an argument who is better @ it is another blog day! ha!

disco

March 16th, 2012
2:21 pm

willie d – re the secret stash. leggs clarified her position but I know countless married women who keep a little something put up that hubbies don’t know about. I think (some) mothers teach their daughters to do this.

lady – shut up!!! you get a fingerhut catalog??? some of us were recently talking about all the good fingerhut finds but hadn’t heard anything about it in a while.

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
2:23 pm

Hey Slim1 tell them you make a small yearly salary and they will be glad to see you walk out the door

BF – Well, they must have gotten hip to that excuse because you have to meet the salary requirement prior to signing up.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
2:23 pm

To MLBs ~ no disrespect to you abc, but your statement made me wonder. How many of you men believe your woman when she says “you’re the best shes ever had?”

Lady, I submit that men don’t lie and keep secrets much – Comedy all day everyday.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:23 pm

yep but I order and shop online the magazines go in the trash but they come they have gret 20 to 25 percent off deals and I am redoing my bedroom. just recently brought a new bed

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:26 pm

leggs you stoopid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL too funny!

For Real

March 16th, 2012
2:27 pm

Keeping Secrets:

Dude: Baby boy I am soooo proud that you graduated from high school.

Son: Thanks Dad.

Chick: Me too son..

Son: Thanks Mom…

Drunk Aunt: You know that ain’t yo real daddy!!!

Chick spills a pot of hot collards in Drunk Aunt’s lap.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:29 pm

SCREAMS! LOL you know that kind of stuff happens for real!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:30 pm

LOL……@For Real

“that ain’t yo real daddy!!!

LOL

disco

March 16th, 2012
2:30 pm

for real – funny but true sometimes. one of my cousins has a daughter who is a teenager. there’s the guy that is the actual father that the girl looks just like and the guy who has played daddy since she was born. a time or two I’ve caught myself when I was about to say “girl you look just like your father”. always have to pull it back in.

For Real

March 16th, 2012
2:30 pm

I’m with you abc cause I don’t lie and no it not for some nobel or moral reason either, I’m just too dayum lazy to try and keep up with a lie. My motto is “What’s worst thing you can do to me? Leave?”

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
2:30 pm

@SlimUno ~ yes ma’am on the salary requirement. Because I do a lot of business with Hilton Hotels (so they say), I just received a call for a tour of one of their facilites in Las Vegas, Myrtle Beach or Orlando. When the questions got to the “salary” requirement, I was immediately told that “due to my response, I do not qualify to be asked any further questions.” No doubt they heard me laughing before they hung up!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:31 pm

Momma’s baby papa’s maybe

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
2:31 pm

ABC is about as consistent with the Women lying as you can get. We all know Women are better are it but Men get the bad rap because we get caught up in it waayyy more than Women.

For Real

March 16th, 2012
2:31 pm

Disco has come out of the closet. She just admitted she is the drunk Auntie of her family.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:33 pm

alrighty men don’t lie or keep secretes or ask questions they don’t want to know. now where did the word cheating come from all women right and the grey areas bc everything isn’t black and white go figure….it was Eve’s fault I forgot!

whew lawd its Friday LOL ;)

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:34 pm

yall are too much!!!!!!!! LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:36 pm

Leggs……LOL Me and some others played a hand in bringin the salary requirement up front.

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
2:37 pm

HiYas!

is the room still on topic? until recently i would have said it’s not good to keep secrets in a committed relationship. my views now lean more toward “we don’t have to share EVERYTHING”.

i see comments about vacation sales pitching. are we talking about timeshare? let it be known i was in timeshare sales for several years, but i was one of the nicer gals. or so i’d like to think. LOL

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
2:39 pm

Brat – vacation update. Came down to Panama and the Dominican. The Dominican won out.

cba

March 16th, 2012
2:40 pm

Two of my married female friends informed me about “the secret stash”. Does my wife have one?? She’s female, so she probably does. You stash and I’ll……………

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:41 pm

CZ I always wanted to know do the advertisers get upset that a sales person didn’t make a sale or meet a qouta. Do they pull out and go to another venue?

disco

March 16th, 2012
2:42 pm

drunk auntie? I suppose technically it could fit since I have one niece and one nephew and I does like my drink. still there’s nothing drunk about mine I just have a big mouth – I’ll put my cousin on front street with a “who you think you fooling” but I won’t throw her child under the bus like that.

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:43 pm

lol cba!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SlimUno

March 16th, 2012
2:44 pm

BF – So yall were going to go in there like some drug dealers and throw the salary requirement on the table, sit back and say, “Impress me…GO!” lol I bet it would be like a bleeding fish in a lake of sharks.

WD – In the talks of the beau and I trying to figure out where we wanted to go, when he got to Dominican Rep, he was like, oh nawwww I ain’t taking you with me there. :???:

Lady~

March 16th, 2012
2:45 pm

I am looking forward to a great weekend! a few surprises are in store! ;) Enjoy your weekend good people!

Be Easy! Peace! ;)

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
2:45 pm

Celisea – You are so not a geek about the glasses, but if you are, I am guilty as well! A month ago I got 2 new pairs and a HOT new prescription pair of sunglasses! You can’t tell me nothing! :cool:

Willie – It is the season – I’ve bought 4 new pairs of sandals already, a few new outfits and a purse! Hey, I just got my bonus & yeah I shared some of that bonus with hubs who ordered the new Ipad with his cut!

i'm swiss

March 16th, 2012
2:47 pm

The tricky thing is that the best liars are those who actually convince themselves that their lies are the truth. So there is no need for them to keep track of their story vs. reality because to them, their story is reality.

For Real

March 16th, 2012
2:47 pm

WD: Naw that ain’t the reason men get caught up. It is phyiscally impossible for a man to withstand irrational responses for more than 1 hours and women know this. That why after bombarding dude with this for an hour she hit him with this piece of logic and well reasoned thought

Chick: Look, I love you and you love me..

Dude: Yes, yes

Chick: Here let’s just get it out in the open and then we can move with our lives.

Dude: Naw see it ain’t like… Wait you sayin if I tell you what you want hear we can move on?

Chick: Yes.

Dude: For real? Don’t be playin now.

Chick: I’m not playing baby come on. It’s getting late and we both got to go to work in the morning.

Dude: Okay, okay… It was me that peed on the seat.

Chick: I KNEW IT! YOU NASTY MITTY-FICKY!!!

Dude: Alright now, let just gone and get in bed and get some sleep.

Chick: SLEEP! SLEEP!!! NAW JONDARRIUS, WE STAYIN UP AND WE GON FIND OUT WHAT ELSE YOU BEEN LYING TO ME ABOUT.

Classic case of torture. This is the technique the CIA use when waterboarding doesn’t work.

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

Kimmie – Glad it’s not just me. I get excited about this kind of stuff. I don’t think I’ll do prescription sunglass but rather transitions. I love sunglasses but I need my glasses almost all the time now so I’m going to try the two in one and see how that goes. My sister keeps a pair of prescription sunglasses. Hotdang!

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

awwww, willie, you stink!!!! :lol: but have a great time just the same.

bf, nope. resorts are quick to turn over underperforming sales people, so they’re never really impacted by low numbers. and even the better sales people only have to close like 1 in 10 to do well. when you have a sales force of 100-200 strong on the floor 7 days a week at every resort, that 1 in 10 makes you millions.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

March 16th, 2012
2:53 pm

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
2:53 pm

SLEEP! SLEEP!!! NAW JONDARRIUS, WE STAYIN UP AND WE GON FIND OUT WHAT ELSE YOU BEEN LYING TO ME ABOUT.

Cracking up over here….WTH do you come up with these names?

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
2:53 pm

amen! @ swiss 2:47. and that takes considerable skill.

for real, we’ll stop doing that stuff when ya’ll stop falling for it. :grin:

For Real

March 16th, 2012
2:54 pm

Slim: I can’t do those timeshare pitches. I got up and walked out and paid the difference on the price they gave me and told them if anyone of approach me again I will fart in their general direction. Thne I let a quick out just so they know I ain’t playing. My wife at the time was pissed at me.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
2:55 pm

The transitions make sense for you then. I am near-sighted, so I mostly use mine for driving. Since I work on a computer, I don’t even pull them out at work.

But I get excited about anything new – a new vacuum cleaner would excite me!LOL!!

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:55 pm

Or aim right

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
2:57 pm

JONDARRIUS!!LOL!!

The wild part is I bet that’s really someones name!

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
2:57 pm

always say “no. thank you.” at the end of the resort tour. if you really like the product, find it on the resale market for like 90% less.

and careful with telling them you don’t qualify just to get out of taking the tour, cuz a vindictive sales person will turn you in to ‘fulfillment’ and have them deny your gifts AND charge you the market value of your stay. that is all.

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
2:57 pm

Kimmie – I was thinking along those lines. I don’t even put them up. Most times if not in use their on my head. No point in going in and out of my eyeglass case.

Yes yes, buying anything new excites me. I think it’s in the DNA…lol

No timeshares here. Give me a nice plush hotel :)

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
2:58 pm

Slim – Your Dude is one Smart man. dayum I gots to do better.

4 Real – you are one funny dude. I guess thats why on that show the Closer is a Chick.

Brat – It was real close and I just had to give Panama the thumbs down. No rhyme or reason just wanted DR to get off my list.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:02 pm

@kimmie ~ I love my Transitions and like you, I can’t wear my glasses while at my desk. I can’t even read with my glasses on.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
3:05 pm

Thank goodness for flex health accounts. Those specs cost a grip!

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
3:10 pm

blog monster must be aggitated today.

i'm swiss

March 16th, 2012
3:10 pm

Brat — I don’t know if I’d call that skill so much as being pathological.

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
3:11 pm

anywho, willie, don’t let me guilt trip you. every year i scratch panama off the must-do list in favor of someplace i haven’t been 100 times already. this year … cabo!!!!!

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:13 pm

Willie, I am heading to Puerto Rico next month for a poker tournament. I will try not to lose the farm LOL

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:17 pm

Things that women say that are a setup:

“We need to talk”

“Are you awake?”

“Tell me the truth I won’t get mad”

“He’s just a friend”

“Where’s your credit card”

“Did so and so pay you your money back?”

“Let’s go to th mall”

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
3:22 pm

things men ask that are a setup:

“are you awake?”
“are you tired?”
“are you ‘unavailable’?”
“are you busy?”
“do you know her?”
“do you miss me?”

“have you seen my credit card?”

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
3:24 pm

Brat – you should love Cabo it is beautiful.

Purp – not the farm man, maybe a few cows but not the whole farm.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:24 pm

Canal ZOone you forgot
“Let me just put the tip in”

“Sure, I will tell you before I…”

“I’m working late, I will be right home after work”

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:25 pm

Willie, no not the farm you have to send certified funds 60 days before you arrive. LOL

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:26 pm

“Let me just put the tip in”

“Sure, I will tell you before I…”

Even as a teenager, I thought this to be one of the dumbest and boldest lie a boy could say.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
3:26 pm

There is a man that works in my dept that is deaf. He leads the most exciting life. His wife is an interpreter and they have a 5 yr old daughter. They have gone mountain climbing in S American, his wife surprised him with a trip to Paris for their anniversary and they just got back from a tour all over Spain! He’s a really nice person and a great worker. Such an inspiration for living life to the fullest!

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
3:28 pm

Kimmie – I think the deaf part has something to do with it. He gets the best of everything without having to hear all that in the background. I kid I kid.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:29 pm

Leggs, it doesn’t need to work everytime…just sometimes…Keep the lie ALive!

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:29 pm

kimmie and his marriage will last forever because he is blessed to be deaf!

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:32 pm

It didn’t work any time with me.

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:32 pm

Well, Leggs we all have established that women lie and will keep secrets so I am sure if it did you would not admit to it. LOL

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
3:33 pm

“i just wanna hold you”
“can i come with you?”
“why don’t you let me take care of that for you?”

i’m sooooo looking forward to cabo, willie!
sadly, i am becoming what is known as a “mala hija”, but i try to make up for it by getting other people to visit panama in my stead. :wink:

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
3:33 pm

Purp – she will take it to her grave.

kimmie

March 16th, 2012
3:34 pm

You all are a trip!!

He sent me the link to the pics from the Spain trip. I swear I have seen some of these places on The Amazing Race. They are simply gorgeous! The architecture, etc – I would not have wanted to leave!!

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
3:39 pm

Deaf and blind

As truthful as Stevie Wonder’s wife!

:lol:

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:42 pm

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:48 pm

@Purple…good one, but if it had happened, I wouldn’t be ashamed to admit it. I was a handful even back then. Silly nonsense like that coming out of a boy’s mouth only stopped me in my tracks. Yes sir….gullible for d…. I never was (lol).

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:49 pm

Shet it up, WillieD! I thought you just said a while back that you thought you knew me…then act like it (lol).

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:49 pm

Leggs I can’t believe you 100% sorry.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:51 pm

That’s cool, PR! You remind of my gf who can’t believe a woman can sleep in the same bed with a guy and not have sex…

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:52 pm

Um Leggs your 3:51 why else would a woman sleep in the bed with a man if not to have sex. What man allows that?

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
3:53 pm

Leggs- cause she’s fell for the “Just the Tip” line plenty plenty times.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
3:56 pm

Never gullible for D

but just happy to throw a verse on it?

@Leggs?

:lol:

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:56 pm

A drunken man, a tired man who lives too far away, it happens….

And PR, your post makes it seems like she slept in HIS bed. How about he slept in HER bed and behaved!

Purple

March 16th, 2012
3:58 pm

Leggs, why are you even trying to explain? Only one bedroom no guest room or caough right? If something did happen she didnt remember right?

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
3:58 pm

I’m only explaining because no other convo is going on….just idle chatter.

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
4:00 pm

Leggs – any dates planned for the weekend?

Purple

March 16th, 2012
4:12 pm

Tell me this ladies do you believe everything your gf tells you?

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
4:14 pm

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
4:20 pm

Leggs – good for you, have fun. New or repeat?

abc

March 16th, 2012
4:21 pm

Now Celisea, I don’t ignore anyone on purpose, I just have to go work! Pesky job, they expect that, course, they pay me for it.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
4:23 pm

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
4:25 pm

abc – Gotcha….I believe you :)

Celisea

March 16th, 2012
4:26 pm

While it may not seem like it….I’m work and blog :)

Willie Dynamite

March 16th, 2012
4:29 pm

Leggs – awesome.

Nite All, time to get out here in this weather.

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
4:31 pm

So guys any of u that are a sure bet at humping tonite,satrday or Sunday!?

And u phoine ladies,u got clean pink/white/black knickers to change into lined up in ur drawers already?

:lol:

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
4:36 pm

Repeat??!

it gotta be good!

Legs ain’t easy to please!! :lol:

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
4:36 pm

Had to laugh, Ex. Had to laugh.

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
4:40 pm

Tell me this ladies do you believe everything your gf tells you?
two in particular. yes, sir, i do.

every last caucasoid that works for this company took time off to start their drunken binges early. and since i’m the only darky on payroll, i’ve been running the plantation all by my lil self since yesterday. time for me to lock up and take my tired azz home.

have a safe and wonderful weekend, all. :grin:

ciao!

czBrat

March 16th, 2012
4:41 pm

Repeat.
woohoo!!!! :wink:

Exiled!

March 16th, 2012
4:41 pm

Lol

I’m gone

Have fun Leggs,wanted to run by Echelon tonite but not sure wll see got class

Good weekend folks

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
4:43 pm

Ciao czB…enjoy the weekend.

Leggs

March 16th, 2012
5:01 pm