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Dating: Act your age!

When you start dating someone new, you probably pay attention to how mature they are. While it is important to know you can have fun with them, you also should know they can handle their business. As in, grown up business: working, taking care of responsibilities, etc.

I meet a lot of single people who say they thought they were dating an adult but it was their “representative” that was the adult. The reality was they behaved like a spoiled child when they didn’t get their way. Or they had the emotional maturity of a teenager.

Have you ever met someone really great but just didn’t act his age? How do you know when you are a dating a man or a boy? How can you tell if she is a woman or a young girl pretending to be a grown up?

Shouldn’t maturity – or lack of- be a real deal breaker in dating? Why do so many of us stick with those immature people then complain about their …immaturity?

Has anyone ever told you that you needed to grow up? Did you take heed and take a look at how you conducted yourself in a relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

282 comments Add your comment

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
11:01 am

Some days I despise all the meetings.

Mike P

March 13th, 2012
11:04 am

Wow… Well I really don’t miss high school at all; thanks for the reminder guys.. great job!!!

Mike P

March 13th, 2012
11:05 am

oops.. sorry for the re-post…

I thought this was a dating blog?

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:06 am

“…etc who would thunk that woman will disrobe and foisted her ugly hips with cracky skin thighs on a stool to take a dump?” Man, you are sick! Everyone would “thunk” it because no matter how many servants you have, they can’t go to the bathroom for you. AND, because of her rich’s I doubt she has crackly skin thighs…..

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
11:06 am

Mike P – Pull my fanga! hehehehehe

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

March 13th, 2012
11:11 am

Mike P.-smell mine!…lol

disco

March 13th, 2012
11:13 am

slim – you crazy for real. jake – you crazy too.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:19 am

@Celisea ~ WOW, the entire floor/department. Anyone sticking around until the 14th? I would be just lik your sister, dust in the wind. Hope she finds something else she likes relatively soon.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:20 am

“…you cannot read the bible through natural eyes….they are just words at that point. It takes the Holy Spirit to reveal and take you below the surface in understanding and digesting and getting the many folds that one passage can reveal or unfold.” – Makes sense to me. I like the way you said this!

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
11:21 am

Jake – Yall dudes kill me with the ’smell my finger’…that is so cavemanlike

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

March 13th, 2012
11:27 am

Slim-it is what it is, back in the day, on the field trips, planetarium, whatever, if you got your finger wet, that is the first thing you did. Sneak up on your buddy and just stick it under his nose while saying the infamous, “smell my finger”, the funny part is, he/you would actually smell it….

BTW, I am proud of my Caveman status, as I termed here before, I am “gentlemanly chauvenistic”

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:27 am

@Mike P ~ come on man. You’ve been on here probably a gazillion of times when this turned into something other than dating topics. Even going back to h.s. days can be fun. We are all adults, but going back down memory lane is freeing your spirit. Hell, we’ve talked about old school candy, old school games, our first time, etc.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:29 am

I see we are now back to “our first time” with “smell my finger…”

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
11:32 am

Jake – Yeah, i’ve heard stories of surprising the homies with the finger actually touching the nose. lol Lemme guess, yall never grow out of it huh? I wonder how your boss would handle you doing that after coming back in from an Afternoon Delight lunch date? :???:

Leggs – Yeah Mike P trying to ack brand new

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

March 13th, 2012
11:36 am

Slim-it touches the nose everytime, not a lot of space there, no one wants random juice to hit there top lip, thats a fight waitin to happen….lol

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

March 13th, 2012
11:37 am

Into the Light

March 13th, 2012
11:37 am

Happy late morning, y’all….

On the topic of gassy folks, tell me how one of my co-workers (who apparently had skunk casserole with extra boiled eggs for breakfast) left one hanging in the elevator right before I got on??? I thought I was going to die!

Button

March 13th, 2012
11:38 am

Act your age……not your shoe size – Prince
Immature men are a complete turn off for me. I’ve met a guy who giggled at everything. He thought everything was funny. It reaked my nerves.

I ask questions to guys about his last relationship and how it ended. Based on his answers it tells me that he is immature esp if he bounces from relationship to relatioship void of forming any lasting real relatioships or respectfully ending a relationship.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:40 am

The elevator is a tricky one. Sometimes I’ve gotten off on an empty floor and waited for another. There was a time when I couldn’t hold it and when the doors opened I had to tell the person standing there that they didn’t want to get in this one…we both laughed and kept it moving…it’s life.

Into the Light

March 13th, 2012
11:55 am

LOL@Leggs. I would have appreciated a heads-up on this one. Too bad I was in the empty elevator and the doors were closing when it hit me. Lawd have mercy, I know whoever it was must feel MUCH better, not keeping that bottled up.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
11:59 am

Hey button. Talking about immaturity, I just remembered a profile pic I saw of a guy. He looked so mean I felt compelled to inquire. I politely, I swear politely, mentioned that he may want to change is picture because he looked so mad. Mind you, this was AFTER he contacted me saying my picture was beautiful and how he loved my smile. Well, after my message his comment back to me was “well, you’re smiling in your picture and you look scary.’ I laughed and told him, the way he handled that exchange instantly told me he still has his childish ways about him. I was beautiful in one breath and scary in the next…gotta love it.

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:00 pm

I have no idea what I want for lunch. I do have a little bit of my tuna salad leftover from last night but i know that isn’t going to sustain me for the rest of the day.

Robert

March 13th, 2012
12:01 pm

“How can you tell if she is a woman or a young girl pretending to be a grown up?”

Robert’s Top 10

1. Takes responsibility for her actions (Does not live “Ghetto Fabulous”)
2. Goes to Work Everyday
3. Has a Car with Insurance
4. Has her own house/apt. (pays the mortgage/rent)
5. Takes care of her kids (no baby daddy drama)
6. Goes to Church (sometimes)
7. Involved in her Community
8. Uses social media sites (facebook, etc.) appropiately
9. Uses Cell phone and other gadgets (PC, tablets, etc.) appropiately
10. Recognizes the difference between a man and a boy

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:03 pm

Leggs – She was packing when she called me…she’s probably long gone by now and I’d venture to say from how she spoke, it’s gonna be a ghost town by end of day. The work has already moved to Wisconsin

Leggs – :) (on the scripture thought)

Button – I kid you not (3rd day/time saying this), I typed “act your age, not your shoe size” but erased. We said that as kids.

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:05 pm

Annnnnd, the crunching resumes….I love chips but I don’t I could eat EVERYDAY for lunch. That’s just me though. This time she’s got a soda too…lol Just heard her opening.

Exiled!

March 13th, 2012
12:12 pm

I just got a check for $56 that I never expected.

If I talk like I won Mega Millions today,please just excuse me.

OBAMA!!!

(that’s what I say when I’m happy) :grin:

Speaking of Muchelle and her man,she send me a family portrait of them in the White House. Just opened the letter this morning as we we bout to walk out with the kids. My son saw me holding it,then said,’what,Daddy,she knows U?’ Kids!

I said ‘Yes’ then went ahead and put it on display in my living room,next to George W. Bush portrait.

:lol:

Dont judge me,I gotta hedge!

Into the Light

March 13th, 2012
12:27 pm

@Slim: I was just saying that today is a good chili day. It would be even better if I didn’t have to go out and get it. :)

@Robert: I hope that’s a minimum requirement list, not a wish list. IJS….

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
12:27 pm

@Celisa ~ is this co-worker overweight??

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:29 pm

Leggs – Not at all. She’s probably about a size 4 with a wide gap that our blog men speak so lovingly of…lol Sorry can’t help but see it.

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
12:33 pm

Oh boy, I can hear their little feet scampering trying to type….

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:35 pm

Robert – How does one use a social networking site Inappropriately?

ITL – I left the office heading to Chick-fil-a for a grilled chicken nugget kids meal but found myself at Zaxby’s. I ended up springing for a kiddie grilled cheese just to supplement my tuna salad. But I think i’m craving some Lemon Pepper wings and a freeze cup lol

Leggs

March 13th, 2012
12:36 pm

@SlimUno ~ your taste buds are all over the place (lol).

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:37 pm

I feel weird whenever I see a young lady that is thick with the infamous “gap”. All i’m thinking is she’s going to be a sitting duck in a room full of wolves.

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:38 pm

Well, I was trying to be nice and not say a word about the birthday gift my team is ordering for my manager. I figured don’t say nothing…just don’t participate. Now they’re talking 75.00 for flowers and the delivery fee divided “by all”….ummm not. You burned me with my bonus and pretty much did nothing about the ballplayer until I had to report and all you could say before then was “girl he’s a black man tryna get his” ummmmm what the hell am I trying to do? No, never. Then too you didn’t announced my service years on the call yesterday where the entire LOB was there but the Market Exec asked for me (3 times…I wasn’t there had to step out) and HE ANNOUNCED and gave congrats??? Naw, you won’t ever get a thing from me. I’m not two-faced like that and I don’t play those games. It will be courteous, cordial and professionalism but not my pocketbook.

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:40 pm

She’s a small framed gal but she’s got a cute little shape. Sometimes folks thin look scraggly. She looks petite but healthy.

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:41 pm

My bonus came from her manager…she wasn’t gonna do jack. Then on your initial meeting with me you tell me I need to play the game? And I’ve been here what 14 years longer than you? Naw, you’ll never get sponsorship for me on anything for you.

Exiled!

March 13th, 2012
12:41 pm

Slim…inappropriately?

By posting pics with Janet Jackson like appendages falling off(over) or having J-Ho like dressing.

U ain’t seen females showing legs upfront and yet it’s supposed to be family friendly? …the things some of uall gloss over simply because it’s a …never mind! Lol

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:42 pm

Leggs – It may be because I hit up Golden Corral this weekend and got spoile with being able to have a little bit o dis and a lil bit o dat. lol I hadn’t been there in forever. I wish I could find me a bombazz chinese buffet

Exiled!

March 13th, 2012
12:43 pm

Cel?

Do u have a gap?

and what is a gap anyway..I never ask the fellas before but now?

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:44 pm

Mmeelloo – What are you chattering about that we’re (I’m assuming women) are glossing over?

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:46 pm

Ex – Why do i picture you browsing fb strictly for those types of pics lol You may have better luck on My space

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:47 pm

MMeello – Nunya

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:48 pm

Mmeello – You asked. I’m reading that as being posed to the blog men.

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:49 pm

Ex – A gap is what you’ll have in the front of your mouff if Queen catches you with your wang in the cookie jar :lol:

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
12:51 pm

And that would turn to be SNAGGAPUSS (say with a lisp)

SlimUno

March 13th, 2012
12:58 pm

Cel – Uh oh, you know you’re asking for it…anytime Ex or Swiss see’s a P followed by a U followed by 2 S’s, spells Troubble (yes, I said it with two b’s) lol That’s like taunting a crackhead with an 8ball

Exiled!

March 13th, 2012
12:58 pm

:lol: @ Slim!

Cel..I really want to know what gap is maybe Leggs will oblige

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
1:02 pm

Slim – LOL Puddycat, Puddy, PussNBoots, P*ssywillow. I’m sure some sort of signal is getting channeled to Swiss. I’m expecting an entrance at anytime now…lol

MMeello – C’mon man, I’m not believing you.

i'm swiss

March 13th, 2012
1:04 pm

Me.lo — A “gap” is what happens when a chick’s thighs are too skinny and/or her pdussy is too big. :lol:

Celisea

March 13th, 2012
1:05 pm