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Dating: Women more open minded?

While everyone has their preferences about what they are attracted to, it seems as if women are more open minded than men. Even when we have the type that turns our head, a guy with a kind heart and great personality could definitely win us over.

When it comes things such as weight and height, some people stick to the same exact type. Just the other day, I asked my guy friend if he noticed that his last three serious romantic interests could be triplets, he looked at me like I had three heads! He didn’t even notice his pattern.

Maybe it’s just my circle of friends, but a quick mental run through of all the relationships and the women showed more “variety” then the men. In my completely unscientific poll, I can’t help but think this is related to being more open-minded.

Do you think women are open minded when it comes to picking dates, being attracted to all types, etc.?

Guys, have you noticed that you stick to a certain body type, look, or physical prototype when you decide who to pursue?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

Happy Monday!

353 comments Add your comment

Jeff

March 12th, 2012
5:59 am

I like what I like. It’s that simple. But WD is right.

Women are unable to stick to decisions of what is most importamt to them in all areas of life. You can call it open-minded if you like.

Their “list” of what is important is extremely long and is always changing. Sometimes based on whatever episode of Oprah aired last.

Men, on the other hand, have a short list of what is most important, and doesn’t change much throughout our entire life.

Lily

March 12th, 2012
7:03 am

Great spin Jeff……

Yes, women are more open minded. We’re looking for real men, an entire package. Not just sex.

Truth

March 12th, 2012
7:07 am

A lot of women tend to throw themselves at guys who have even a little bit of fame. Also, women are more often than men to leave a current boyfriend or husband for someone with more money (more often so then men would do) Not sure I would quite call this behavior open mindness.

Rollo

March 12th, 2012
7:08 am

“a guy with a kind heart and great personality could definitely win us over.”…..yes, that is true, as long as he has $$$…..and he can’t be “short”…..and he can’t ask for “it” more than once a month….and, and, and….

Tiffany

March 12th, 2012
7:31 am

I’d have to agree with Lily.

We as women want quality, trustworthy, kind hearted, loving personality. One that’s faithful and caring. Naturally it takes different tries for this accomplishment, open-mindedness and being flexible. We don’t tend to get stuck.

marktheshark

March 12th, 2012
7:35 am

Men fake love to get sex; women fake sex to get love. Men “fall in lust” constantly while women prefer to find that 1 ‘right’ man. The caveman mentality cannot be overcome by centuries of time, as men are still hunters while women are usually the gatherers.

Lily

March 12th, 2012
7:45 am

One opinion I have that I believe seemingly makes the difference in how women think compared to men is that most men can probably go a life time never settling down, just being sustained by the physical. Whereas with women, we want something permanent. As a result the pool of dating candidates is significantly higher.

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
7:52 am

Most men can go an entire lifetime without settling down, but unfortunately the way that attitude is viewed by women and potential dates is the following
Guy- Wants to settle down – Loser
Woman- Wants to settle down – Keeper

So why would any guy knowing this want to express it?

Mr. Unknown

March 12th, 2012
8:15 am

Good Morning,
As men we have to be aggressive by nature, So why not go for what you like. Its a numbers game, plain and simple. If I approach three women and two out of the three are married or has a stick up their butt. I’m going to make sure the three I approach are worth my time (physically attractive) right of the bat. So if they look like twins, act like twins so be it. As long as I’m happy with my decision at the end of the day.

Lily

March 12th, 2012
8:16 am

Quiet is Kept......

March 12th, 2012
8:35 am

The notion that women are more open minded is a joke at best…..Guys are much more likely to step outside of our norm than women are when it comes to dating in general but less likely when it comes to serious relationships. A guy will date just about anyone as long as she is hot…If she is tall, or short; black or white, blonde, brunette, or has kinky twist…..If she is hot, then she is dateable…Now I make no promises as to how long it will last, but she will at least get a turn…Now Women……if he is 5′7″ or less…He can damn near hang it up,!!! ( Unless his wallet is thinck enough to make him 6′2″ when he stands on it, in which case he gets to go to the front of the line…..)

Row 125, seat 11B

March 12th, 2012
8:37 am

Hope everybody has their comments in before the regulars come in and tell us to get away from the cool kids table… :)

Jeff

March 12th, 2012
8:44 am

Row, lol. It’s amazing how the topic is always put to the wayside when a certain group gets to work. It looks like they use this as a replacement to instant messaging.

Which makes impossible to actually discuss a topic.

Leggs

March 12th, 2012
8:49 am

Good morning.

“Also, women are more often than men to leave a current boyfriend or husband for someone with more money (more often so then men would do)” – Really. It seems that men are more often to trade their women in for a new model more often than women. Women don’t mind the occasional tune-up, but men want a complete overhaul with brand new shock absorbers.

Anyway, I’ve noticed a pattern I did have in the past, but I am more open-minded going forward. Looks play a factor, always have, but a kind heard and great character can move to the head of the class.

SlimUno

March 12th, 2012
8:49 am

Hope everybody has their comments in before the regulars come in and tell us to get away from the cool kids table

You raaaaaaaaang? And Who in da hell left the gate open? :lol:

SlimUno

March 12th, 2012
9:00 am

Yall really want to start off the morning byt-ching about a dating blog. We don’t run anyone off and as you may or may not know, it is very difficult to stay on one topic Allllll day long. This is a blog but in addition, it is also a community. So if you have something to say then say it. We don’t own this spot so quit tripping about feeling like yall get shoed away…get a back bone.

Amentothat

March 12th, 2012
9:06 am

Kudos to Jeff and Row 125, seat 11b…bwahhahaha

disco

March 12th, 2012
9:07 am

good morning y’all. I’m still a bit tired and thus feeling a bit contrary this morning. having said that, I’ll start off by saying that I don’t think that women are necessarily more open minded than men in general. I think that as far as dating goes men have more options whether they elect to be open minded or narrow minded. when it comes to dating women don’t have nearly as many options as men and so a chick can stay narrow minded if she wants to but she needs to be mindful that pickings are already slim.

slim – you rang? good one.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:11 am

disco – I agree men have more options but I think women are more opened to exploring. I think t!ts and ass are pretty much all that’s needed for me…lol If they can swap that out pretty rotationally, they’re good.

What the hell is wrong with the trolls this morning? Why so bitter and b!tchy? Maybe somebody got shot down this weekend…lol

Happy Monday all you kids at the cool kid’s table…lol Hi La Ri Ous! What a way to start the week!

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:12 am

men men men…not “me” I don’t do t!ts and ass…lol

Mr. Unknown

March 12th, 2012
9:14 am

Do you think women are open minded when it comes to picking dates, being attracted to all types, etc.? Uhh yeah but not really. How do you think a lot of men fall into the friend zone? Those guys are usually the failed attempts of being open minded. Ha! At the end of the day, I think women still have their checklist of the ideal guy. I do give credit for the attempt on their part to date the short fat funny guy but sooner or later that list kicks in.
@Slim quick kicking dirt at people.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:14 am

I’m going for coffee and egg whites…be back later :)

disco

March 12th, 2012
9:14 am

quiet is kept – a guy will date anyone as long as she is hot. that, in itself, is quite narrow minded. so what he’s “diverse” in what he thinks is hot, if he’s limiting himself to so called hot chicks then he’s being narrow minded.

celisea – that’s my point. I don’t know that women are naturally more open to exploring or if women feel they have to be more open to exploring due to the limited options available to them.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:15 am

disco – Gotcha…I’m agreeing with that.

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
9:20 am

Next time you think guys have more options, count the number of guys that go home from the bar alone and then count the number of women. Do that and tell me that men have more options. Men are looking for a warm wet spot, it’s plus if she is hot, which does not make us close minded. All of your auguements seem to be contradictory, get a story and stick with it.

bigguy

March 12th, 2012
9:21 am

*Truth

March 12th, 2012
7:07 am
A lot of women tend to throw themselves at guys who have even a little bit of fame. Also, women are more often than men to leave a current boyfriend or husband for someone with more money (more often so then men would do) Not sure I would quite call this behavior open mindness.

I would call that “open leggedness”

SlimUno

March 12th, 2012
9:21 am

Mr. U – No dirt kicking here…I was just trying to get thru the b!tch storm before it got too bad. Good thing I wore my rain boots ;-)

As far as women being more open-minded, um…not sure if there is any truth to that assumption.

disco

March 12th, 2012
9:26 am

O/T – I was complaining about how slow the month of February was but I’m about ready to complain about how fast the month of march is going. time (or my perception of it) is a mutha.

take it as it comes – ???? I don’t frequent bars so I can’t count the number of guys that go home alone (and if they are at bars to pick up chicks to take home sounds like they need to up their game). what I can do is tell you what I see in my day to day life. let’s say I go to church. my church is mostly women. the men that are in church are usually there with their families. not saying single men aren’t there. just saying they are way outnumbered. let’s say I come to work. work is a joke. a bunch of daggone females. let’s say I go see a play or visit a museum with a friend. it’s usually frequented by couples and single women. I rarely see groups of men hanging out at spots like that. I know my day to day life isn’t representative of everyone’s day to day life but I’m not speaking for everyone.

Into the Light

March 12th, 2012
9:30 am

Happy Manic Monday, all!

Hey, Slim…..cute boots!!! :)

lolalee

March 12th, 2012
9:33 am

Seems like we’re talking about two things here. 1 a casual hookup and 2 relationship material. If its 1, I’m all about physical attraction. But if its 2, I’m all about character, kindness, intelligence. Be nice if he looks good, but as long as he is well groomed he can’t really help what he looks like past a certain point. I currently have a relationship with somebody a. shorter than I, b. with blue eyes and c. with very different politics. Never would have thought it would work, but he’s so kind and thoughtful and, ahhh, skilled.

As to the regulars, y’all do remind me of the ‘cool kids’ from high school who shunned anybody not in your crew. Just saying, you’re not very receptive…

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
9:34 am

Disco, thank you, you have made my point for me, men require “game” to get what they want, women do not. If you are going to churches, museums and work looking for guys, then you are setting yourself up for failure.

Mike P

March 12th, 2012
9:35 am

It has been my experience that women are less open-minded than men when it comes to dating variety, especially in their younger/college years.

Ya’ll women will date the same dude (same height, jock, beach-body type, bad-boy type, got money type, whatever) over and over again until you wake up one day and realize that dude ain’t watcha want or need. TELL me I’m lying!!!

I and all my male friends have always dated girls who were way different than the last. ijs

Good morning!

Row 125, seat 11B

March 12th, 2012
9:38 am

Be careful lolalee…..You will be called a troll and marginalized if you present a different point of view….

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:38 am

Hey lolaee, the troll(s) are talking about casual hookups. We’re talking about relationships. Some things you’re going to have to discount as it relates to “discussions.” Some folks just seems bitter.

“men require ‘game’ to get what they want?”

Huh? Require? Or is it men PLAY games to get what they want.

Into the Light

March 12th, 2012
9:39 am

@lolalee et al: You’re not saying anything others before you (myself included) haven’t said re: inclusion on the blog. What I have found, though, is that you have to a/just jump in. Not everyone will respond to every comment you make and b/have a thick skin, because when they do answer you, it might be a challenge.

Hope this helps…

lolalee

March 12th, 2012
9:40 am

@ Row 125, seat 11B I don’t think its the different point of view, I just think its not being in the clique… which is too bad, given how many people apparently glance at this blog from time to time. More input makes better discussion.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:41 am

True ITL…sometimes just make your comment and keep moving. Not all the time it’s being ignored, sometimes there are several conversations going on and a comment can also get overlooked. I’ve gone back on several occasions and saw a comment directed towards me that I just overlooked.

WELCOME LOLALEE!

William Smith

March 12th, 2012
9:42 am

I’m sixty five years old now, and hope I have learned a few things along the way. I was once ask by a woman what was most important to me? I answered that I would want to have a woman like and respect me for treating her kindly than having sex with her. Many people think that to have that opinion makes you less of a man. However, I say it makes you feel more like a caring human being. I have always fought to maintain that attitude. By the way I have had women of all ages make passes at me. But I still have maintained that attitude. Everybody have a great day!

lolalee

March 12th, 2012
9:44 am

THANKS REGULAR CREW! :)

Amen William Smith. Kindness goes a Verrrrry loooonnnngggg waaaayyyy.

disco

March 12th, 2012
9:45 am

take it – I swear I didn’t want to this early but what the heck. first and foremost you are the one talking about tired A busters posted up in a bar looking for some trick to take home. if you can’t pull a trick then you must be lame. it doesn’t take much. so up your talk game, up your con game, up your money game. do what you gotta do so you don’t have to go home alone. as for me going places looking for guys – that’s where you are wrong. I go places that I want to go because I want to go. I don’t go looking for guys. if I choose to go out looking for guys my game is tight enough that I could pull said guy. if I wanted to post up at a bar and get picked up I could. I wouldn’t be on the blog whining about having to leave the bar and go home by myself.

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
9:45 am

C- I am anything but bitter, but your entire aurguement is both stupid, and entirely one sided, not only that but you ask for help from the rest of the blog to defend yourself. If you want to call me a troll, then go for it, but at least do it in a tactful manor of proving your point. Make a logical point that disporves mine and I will be more than happy to listen, but don’t ask for help from others. Come at me with something that makes sense, I am waiting, but don’t be slinging insults unless you have some backup of your own.

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
9:46 am

btw, I never said that I had trouble with my game.

lolalee

March 12th, 2012
9:48 am

disco and take it
breathe. the day is young.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:49 am

Take it as it comes – Ummmm, I don’t think I’ve even read any of your posts this morning??? What’s your 9:45 all about? Seriously, I pretty much bypass trolls. What’s wrong boo boo???

Imma have to though go with what disco said in her 9:45. Whatever you said her response just make a hell of a lot of sense.

Into the Light

March 12th, 2012
9:51 am

@take: I have an issue with your original statement that women view men who are ready to settle down as losers. What women?!?!? Most of the women I know view a guy’s readiness to settle down as a sign of maturity.

Take it as it comes

March 12th, 2012
9:51 am

Actually I am outta here, I just saw a topic and it caught my eye. I haven’t had to use game in a good long while, I have a great relationship with a wonderful woman, and I am very happy.

Row 125, seat 11B

March 12th, 2012
9:51 am

Evelyn called….She needs her lame azz phrase back…….

Row 125, seat 11B

March 12th, 2012
9:55 am

Into the light…If your 9:51 is the case, then why the hell are wmone always complaining about not being able to find marriage minded men???? Seems to me as though the more of a jerk you are, the more women are ready to deal with to get you to the point of settling down…When a guy is on point, it damn near takes an act of congress for women to notice him.

Celisea

March 12th, 2012
9:55 am

Oh I did read your 9:34….

Sorry boo boo

SlimUno

March 12th, 2012
9:57 am

It doesn’t look like a newbie got booted out of blogsworld but more so you’ve Decided to leave…but tomorrow it’ll be our fault.

We welcome new POV’s, opinions etc…I’m just going to blame this speed bump as a result of the time change. Some of us really needed that hour.