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Marriage: What do men look for in a wife?

Lately I have been seeing the question, “Do you think you are wife material?” popping up everywhere. I hear it at church, on dates, and even at a bar! So apparently, single women should know the answer to this. Well, I don’t know, so I have no perfect answer.

Every guy seeks out different traits that they believe they want in a wife. I don’t know if they always get every single thing they want. I have noticed the men that I know who are happily married ended up with someone who had most, if not all the traits they were seeking.

For the men who actually want to marry one day, what are you looking for?

Ladies who want to marry, do you believe you have the traits of a “wife”? If so, how do you show this to the men that you date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

179 comments Add your comment

OneWhoKnows

March 7th, 2012
6:57 am

like Newt we want an OPEN marriage to enjoy life’s pleasures …

mr. c

March 7th, 2012
7:16 am

A woman with little baggage, and dama, someone who knows God and her purpose in walking with him, a praying lady, and someone who will have my back and keep me forcus where I will always have hers, she do not have to have alot of money but wants to build a future, and know how to combine and share to get there. Sorry no wigs, weaves, or tats. only a real and classic lady.

nelson

March 7th, 2012
7:39 am

That is a great question. I really like it. I could not give an answer to this question. The freedom that comes from being unfettered by marriage is hard to describe. Every day is absolutely out of sight. A few hours at the gym, swimming and feelin wonderful, how could I improve on that? And ofcourse, the AJC to let others know how it is, is the cherry on top of the hot fudge sunday.
Well enough of that, the sun is out,nice and warm another glorious happening.

Jaded Guy

March 7th, 2012
8:22 am

WHAT DO MEN WANT IN A WIFE?

- Faithfulness

- Honesty (CONSISTENT Honesty)

- NOT a Gold Digger

- Kindness

- Trustworthiness

- Friendship

- Intercerebral, Stimulating Conversation

- Mutual Religious Faith and Social Values

- NO Cheating (Either Side)

- Mutual Respect

- Takes Her Marriage Vows Seriously

- Someone Who Understands What “Forsaking All Other Mens” Means in Marriage Vows

- Treats You Like PARTNER, Not Her “Property” or Subordinate

- Last, but Not Least: Puts Out for Her Man in the Bedroom…

…and the Living Room…

….and in Our Private Back Yard…

….and in the Back of Our Car…

…on the Kitchen Table….

….

Jaded Guy

March 7th, 2012
8:23 am

Did I mention FAITHFULNESS ?

Peter

March 7th, 2012
8:24 am

I don’t want a wife unless there is an expiration date on the marriage license. Been there done that…Women don’t get it.

Hugh

March 7th, 2012
8:36 am

A woman that stays the way AFTER the ceremony as she was BEFORE the ceremony. Sad to say, that will not happen. Every day women marry men hoping they’ll change. Every day men marry women hoping they WON’T change. Both will be disappointed.

Leggs

March 7th, 2012
8:40 am

Good morning.

Not sure if one can get EVERY thing on their marriage list met, but with perhaps one or two left off, one can come damn near close.

David

March 7th, 2012
8:41 am

Women today are so angry it seems. They label it as “liberated” and “standing up for themselves”. They don’t seem to understand that it’s a two way street. They are so wonderful while we date, then turn into a prison warden after the ring is on the finger. You hear them say “I’m just not gonna put up with any crap!” Well, guess what, men don’t want to put up with your crap, either. What happened to the woman I met and dated? Did you become possessed by the demon of Pit Bull?

Rich

March 7th, 2012
8:42 am

A guy is looking around an indian reservation. He sees a male indian and asks him if he his married. He says yes. He then asks him what his wife indian name is. He responds: 5 horses. He then asks him what that name means. He says: nag, nag, nag, nag, nag.

Leggs

March 7th, 2012
8:43 am

A woman that stays the way AFTER the ceremony as she was BEFORE the ceremony. Sad to say, that will not happen. – It’s call aging. The key is simply to “maintain” a healty diet and lifestyle and one can remain close their wedding weight.

Lily

March 7th, 2012
8:45 am

Really Diva? This is just another topic to list all the things women don’t do right, can’t get right, et cetera!

Just another day in blogsville

David

March 7th, 2012
8:51 am

Leggs, the topic isn’t about weight. It’s about habits, mannerisms and behavior…or at least that’s the way I’m reading it.

Rick

March 7th, 2012
8:52 am

Face it people, it doesn’t matter how warm, affectionate, forgiving and compatable a woman is when you date, that ain’t the same person you’ll have after the wedding. It could be a law, I don’t know……

disco

March 7th, 2012
8:53 am

good morning. here’s to hoping we change topics sooner rather than later. unless someone brings a fresh perspective to this one I think we’ve been over it enough.

Lily

March 7th, 2012
9:08 am

An observation during my short time reading here. I have not seen any habitual violaters from the ladies that blog pretty regularly ragging and dragging on men nor swearing off the male species when yet I’m sure there’s more healed recovered hearts than told.

Yet there’s seemingly a daily tirade of broken, bruised, battered men all because what happens to women several times in a life time, happened to happen to them. By golly it’s bash bash bash on all women. Not a good look guys. Maybe some of you need closure perhaps?

I think a bit of resilience and getting over it are in order.

Purple

March 7th, 2012
9:22 am

Lily, back up your 9:08 with proof. Also you seem a little jilted yourself by not even discussing the topic the way it is mean to be addressed.

200MPHBUSA

March 7th, 2012
9:38 am

Dont ask for much all I need is one with a car and to get off their lazy a$$ and get a job.

RealisticResponse

March 7th, 2012
9:45 am

1. Must be a praying warrior for your significant other…God fearing woman….THIS IS NON-NEGOTIABLE….men need your prayers more than your nagging and criticism..NOTHING SHOWS A MAN YOU CARE ABOUT HIM MORE THAN THIS….TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!!!!! This also can go both ways…but the article is geared from a certain perspective…

2. Be the person you’d like to marry: Don’t be the type of woman that always wants to be heard but never listens herself. Point here is communication is more about listening than talking. This is HIGHLY important because contrary to a lot of women and what they THINK they know about men…MEN do know how to communicate…but often times his woman doesn’t know how to listen…

3. Don’t start what you can’t finish…THIS GOES BOTH WAYS…don’t be a typical wife and stop giving out the goods once you get that wedding cake because the end result will be a typical husband who no longer gives you flowers and romance on the regular….this one is self explanatory…but I can’t tell you how many couples call it quits because they literally forget about each other…

4. When you become a mother don’t forget how to be a lover….remember…the BEST thing parents can do for their children is show them how to love one another by keeping your relationship first.

I have a few more points…but my connections is currently sporadic…I”ll come back with more shortly….LOL
5.

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
9:46 am

Morning All!

I’m probably going to lurk on this, cause I really don’t have anything to add. I obviously had what my husband was looking for. I know he had all I wanted. All I can say to anyone is just be realistic and don’t ask more of the other person than what you are willing to bring to the table yourself. I brought what I had and either he could deal with it or not.

Purple, Lily is right. You know us regular blog ladies don’t bash men nearly as much as we get bashed on here. It’s some bitter, bitter men out here in blogsville. Nothing they are offering is of value. And I don’t know about the other ladies, but I don’t take advice from men on how to be a woman, or a wife.

You good people have a great day!

Lily

March 7th, 2012
9:51 am

RealisticResponse

March 7th, 2012
9:58 am

apologize for the incorrect grammar earlier…but I’ll continue

5. A woman that knows how to have balance….the same way women don’t like guys who spend too much time with his boys or his mama…guys don’t like a women who can’t see to find their way away from Facebook and her girlfriends. Also, contrary to what a lot of women think…MEN can handle and deal with a financially strong and “INDEPENDENT” woman…but if it comes with “DIVATUDE”….real men will pass….trust me…a real man’s ego is not threatened by a woman’s success…but her attitude about her success can determine the altitude of a successful relationship on whether it grows or dies and withers….Successful women are very attractive….a lot of their attitudes about it keeps them single!!!!…. Balance is the key here!!!!

6. BE YOURSELF….real men want to know the real you…not whoever you’re trying to portray your are at the moment…Time out for games….real women don’t play games….real men don’t play games

7. Piggybacking off some of the earlier responses….. NO GOLDIGGERS,

8. HONESTY, FINANCIAL SAVVY, Family oriented

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:01 am

kimmie, what raegular blog male bashes women on here? Also, we do have our fair share of women on here in which the mindset is “the man is always up to something or has ill will planned” etc etc. It’s just amazing to me that one of the seldom times that the blog topic is really catered to men instead of women it starts off this way. LOL!

Hmmmmm...............

March 7th, 2012
10:05 am

RealisticResponse – Sounds like your world and your reality. BTW, hope you aren’t single. Maybe your reality is why you still are. Hmmmmm

disco

March 7th, 2012
10:06 am

purple – are you picking? are you being contrary? I can’t imagine you are turning into one of them because I had/have so much respect for you man. even staying true to topic most of the guys who commented quickly went from what they wanted to what they didn’t want. translation – they started right in whining.

Exiled!

March 7th, 2012
10:09 am

Its a Good Day!

well,for me at least!

Lily? Why are u pouting? Answer the question,seeing that you are divorced.

What do you want in a man.?

don’t be scared,the men have to know!

Same as u Disco,and Leggs..well maybe Leggs don’t want marriage,don’t know.

If you just want a snatcher,what type of snatcher u need then.

Ok. I got my woman she aaaight

She fertile

She can cook

She a hard worker

She nag but I can handle it

She respects me(even tho she learning what that means as we plod on)

She luvs God

She luvs,well,respects my parents!(very important with Me this!)

She consults me on most things before going forward(most times,she learning!)

She now knows that to me(us),family means All my same lady name folks as well as cousins,nephs,aunties and dem..we some huge Fam

She cooks!

She stands by me

She know I am a Lion..Lion will never be a deer!

When we hold hands,the luv making is as exciting even if we not laying

She knows,she understands that I am the Man of that House Period!

RealisticResponse

March 7th, 2012
10:09 am

@ Hmmmmmmm……..

Actually I”m married and have been for 10 years now…my wife and I are counselors for couples that are married and soon-to-be….just curious…what makes you think my responses are not realistic?!?

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:12 am

Purple, even the regular dudes almost never say much positive about women! It’s not mean, hateful bashing, but it just seems nothing women do is ever right! It’s okay, a lot of times it’s playful banter, but it’s there all the time. And I’m not saying some of the women don’t have the attitude most men are up to something. A lot of the time, you all play right into that and confirm it though!LOL!! That’s just my opinion on it, that’s the way I see things up in here!LOL!!

As for the topic, all these dudes are doing is bashing! Why can’t it be centered on what you guys are looking for? Looks like all you guys are doing is emphasizing what you DON’T want! It’s okay, like you said, it’s catered to the men today, but do you really think it’s gonna be receptive to it’s intended audience, women that really want to know what guys are looking for? I think not.

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:14 am

disco – THANK YOU!! I’m not the only one that sees what’s going on in here!!LOL!!!

Celisea

March 7th, 2012
10:17 am

I’m staying in the shadows on this and not taking any side but I’ll say I think both Kimmie and disco (and Lily) held the mirror up right nicely this morning. Take a look gentlemen. Hopefully the discussion can move forward and flow as intended. I’m sure there’s some great insightful food for thought from some of the blog men :)

Have a good day!

Mike P

March 7th, 2012
10:24 am

I don’t understand why this such a strong anti-male, anti-masculine sentiment on this blog and in this country for that matter
.
Whenever a woman have a grievance about her experience with the men in her life; she given every opportunity to (1)vent, (2)question the men on here (in most cases with hostility), then blame men for ALL her problems.

But whenever a man comes on here with his, he is met with disrespect, name calling, condensing comments, or our comments are dismissed and ignored.

I don’t get it, what’s the point coming on here if we can’t have adult conversations about our desires and dating life experiences in a respectful manner?

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:26 am

I rest my case! :lol:

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:28 am

You girls are always complining and want it your way without ever listening to the man and today is just another example of that. You need some cats bon bon and girlie movies.

disco

March 7th, 2012
10:34 am

hmmm. I’ll have to consult a farmer’s almanac or an astrology book or something. perhaps there was some kind of cosmic occurrence last night that caused all of the menfolk to wake up castrated this morning. did everyone check their sacs today?

Exiled!

March 7th, 2012
10:36 am

Ladies who want to marry do u believe u have the traits to be a ‘ wife’?

that wasn’t my question

It’s Diva’s, one of ur own

And u here just whining!

Mike P

March 7th, 2012
10:36 am

—disco: March 7th, 2012 10:34 am –”hmmm. I’ll have to consult a farmer’s almanac or an astrology book or something. perhaps there was some kind of cosmic occurrence last night that caused all of the menfolk to wake up castrated this morning. did everyone check their sacs today?”

I REST MY CASE!!!

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:40 am

It’s not fair! wah wah wahhhhh

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:42 am

Mike P

March 7th, 2012
10:43 am

You all already know what men want (in his wife). You all just don’t want to accept what was said here a million times before… but for all the new viewers to this blog, I suggest you re-read Exiled!’s 10:09 am post… His comments pretty much sums it up.

disco

March 7th, 2012
10:44 am

mike p – you might want to add a bit more to your closing arguments because you have yet to make a case. I’m not venting. I have nothing to vent about. at least nothing man related. I could vent about my co-worker walking around barefoot but that’s neither here nor there. I’m also not questioning the men on here re their hostility. I accept their hostility. I just don’t have to take it quietly. and, finally, I certainly don’t blame any blog folks for any problems I might have.

purple – funny.

really y’all. we don’t need an all out war but as has been said time and time again “don’t start none, won’t be none”.

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:44 am

Thank you kimmie, you know me :)

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:48 am

What do men look for? there is no clear answer but we know when we find it and we take appropriate actions because of it. Hidden message if he is not acting right, he doesn’t see any value in you…but does that really need to be said?

Purple

March 7th, 2012
10:49 am

Easy to see why some are single though…..oh I forgot it’s because you want to be. LOL yep I am going to get it started today one way or another! LOL

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:53 am

Mike P – You just seem like you are mad at the world when you come on here. Geesh, man, get a puppy or something!

kimmie - the original :)

March 7th, 2012
10:57 am

Mr_NYC

March 7th, 2012
10:57 am

LOL ha ha there is a banner ad at the top of my page — for a law firm advertising their services, Divorce Is Tough and So Are We
Guess I better stay out of the marriage topic for now

Quiet is Kept......

March 7th, 2012
10:57 am

Hmmmm…..Gonna stand with the fellas on this one! Number one thing I want in a wife is someone that knows that sometimes, its ok to just listen…..Don’t get defensive, don’t feel the need to prove us wrong, just listen……..

Purple

March 7th, 2012
11:08 am

I’m here for the woman bashing. When does it start?

disco

March 7th, 2012
11:14 am

Oh sookie sookie now. purple is smelling himself this morning. any woman in particular you want to bash or are you out to bash women in general?

Purple

March 7th, 2012
11:15 am

disco, all women. I am here for all of the women…except for the fat ones.