Is charity sex a bad idea?
One of our readers wants the MIA Blog community to offer some suggestions on her latest dating misadventure. She was set up with a guy last year but she did not feel attracted to him at all. He was a “nice guy” but just didn’t really do it for her.
She kept his number and at some point they “hooked up”, which is to say, she basically offered him charity sex. It was sort of like “some sex is better than no sex” kind of situation for her but he was really into it.
She wants to know, should she let him know that he is a “seat filler” until someone she really likes shows up? Do men generally not care if they are being used as the bench warmer until the All Star shows up?
Is it a bad idea to hook up with someone you are not attracted to because you felt bad for them?
Here is my question: Is it possible to start a real relationship after you have had charity sex?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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365 comments Add your comment
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2012
4:03 pm
Ya’ll ain’t right! LOL
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:03 pm
My auntie died of cervix cancer(some like that) last week
MHSRIP
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:06 pm
Alright so we talkin bout bald puddycats…not a fan, you can give it a low fade but, don’t expect me to tangle with that stubble and cut my nose….lol
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:06 pm
Not scared to admit it, I get mine done bi-weekly and once a month, I get a facial as well…….
Ummmm, why hide to say it???
disco
March 1st, 2012
4:07 pm
and ex made me think of drew Barrymore in 50 first dates when adam sandler faked electrocution while fiddling with the car battery and she said my grandfather died that way.
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:07 pm
Mmeelloo – I give a side eye that wants to have the girlie (as in little) girl feel.
Purple
March 1st, 2012
4:10 pm
Aren’t most bald headed women lesbo?
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:10 pm
Kimmie – The old Krogers is RA GA DY
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:13 pm
Cel…not the same coz….have u ever felt a shaved man’s beard?
U feel stubble and u feel stubble on ur puna too,never mind the smooth shave..
How do I spell the sound of a kiss Celisea?
Just wanted to demonstrate how nice it feels when licking urs..
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:14 pm
Purp?
I don’t care if Rachel Maddow invites me,I won’t pass..she to pretty to pass
I wld hit that!
How bout u?
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:15 pm
Now seriously, the bald or very short cut on some ladies is very sexy.
Quiet is kept....
March 1st, 2012
4:18 pm
Wait …everyone here post under a moniker….I am quite sure that parents are not out here naming their kids “Sweet Peeda Jeeda” or “Disco” or bluzgirl for that matter…..
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:20 pm
@Mello
Damn man I don’t I woulda told that.
Leggs
March 1st, 2012
4:21 pm
The old Krogers is RA GA DY – No Kroger is more RA GA DY than the one on Candler Road. So glad I never have to go in there.
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:22 pm
Rachel Maddow ??????
Purple
March 1st, 2012
4:22 pm
Ex, I would not waste a hall pass on Rachel Maddow.
Jake, I am talking about bald no hair at all on her head
Leggs
March 1st, 2012
4:23 pm
@Quiet ~ you know the point is although these are not our slave names, we don’t change our monikers when we want to get a point across. These are our adopted names and we’re stuck with them.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:23 pm
I’ll have you know that Sweet Peeda Jeeda is on my birth certificate sir!…lol
Leggs
March 1st, 2012
4:24 pm
Peace out, gotta go to class…
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:25 pm
Leggs – Please don’t respond to the crackheads/loonies
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:25 pm
Fion and Purp sleeping on Maddow..
she got tricks that woman..
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:26 pm
Purp…oh, my bad…but yea short hair is cool, but every chick who gets the notion should not go and do it!
Purple
March 1st, 2012
4:26 pm
<<<——- never had a slave name Leggs
kimmie - the original :)
March 1st, 2012
4:26 pm
You guys must excuse Exiled, his taste in some women is, shall I say, interesting. Like he would drink Diane Sawyer’s bathwater if he could.
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:27 pm
All Krogers are ragged I be honest
even if it’s in a good neighborhood they ocerstack stuff
Publix
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:27 pm
Publix
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:28 pm
Where is my girl Suchita(sp) from Fox 5, that is one pretty woman…
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:29 pm
Kimmie…that’s money love
gold digging
but jokes aside Diane is pretty,old but pretty!
Ofcourse I don’t mind being slaved by Pink!
kimmie - the original :)
March 1st, 2012
4:30 pm
Exiled – The new one I referred to is trying to be like the fancier Publix stores in some areas. In fact, it’s almost a cross between Publix and Whole Foods.
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:30 pm
She smells of garlic
kimmie - the original :)
March 1st, 2012
4:31 pm
I can’t stand Ingles. Everyone I’ve been in is raggedy.
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:32 pm
Kimmie – The next time I’m up that way I’m gonna peek in. I don’t go that far up SCobb often.
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:32 pm
Ingles?
Kimmie,girl dont even go there!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:33 pm
I like Garlic…
Quiet is kept....
March 1st, 2012
4:38 pm
Leggs, I am not a regular poster here. I read you guys alot (I use to read alot more often) But have never commented. the topic seemed fun and I could relate so I jumped right in…. I did not realize I was still in high school and had attempted to sit at the table with the cool kids…….
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:40 pm
@Mello
Just say no. Please my brother put the pipe down. Diane Sawyer????
Lawd, what is this World coming to???
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
March 1st, 2012
4:40 pm
“I did not realize I was still in high school and had attempted to sit at the table with the cool kids”…….
Quiet…lol….don’t let Leggs run you off
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:42 pm
Fion?
Would yu say no to Opprah?
who is better,facially?
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:45 pm
@Mello
I’m not gonna hate. The only thang a Old Woman can do for me is tell me where I can find a young.
…..Pissst Mello,BTW OL’ women give you worms.
Quiet is kept....
March 1st, 2012
4:47 pm
Saw Shelia E the other night on Unsung…She is 55 but I promise I would rabbbit dance with here for free!!!!
Not So Quiet
March 1st, 2012
4:48 pm
@Fion, didn’t you mention being over 50? I think Diane and Oprah falls into your age bracker or younger.
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:48 pm
@Mello
See, you wrong for that. You know without her makeup Oprah has to
sneek up on herself to get a look.
disco
March 1st, 2012
4:50 pm
O/T – I was all hyped up to go see chuck brown tomorrow only to just find out it’s cancelled. that’s what I get for wanting to step out.
Celisea
March 1st, 2012
4:51 pm
I was about to ask if anybody had weekend plans. I’m ready!!!
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:52 pm
Nah Fion..young ones got no skill!
Willie Dynamite
March 1st, 2012
4:53 pm
Good eve,
whats going on folks. Jokey time I see.
Fion
March 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
@ Quite
You and Exiled need to team up and hit Johnny’s Hideway.
Ya’ll would be right at home with all that Old divorced Buckhead money in there.
Exiled!
March 1st, 2012
4:58 pm
So u think the arrangement tween Opprah abd Steadman is legit
@Fion?
Fion
March 1st, 2012
5:01 pm
@Mello
True story, few years back I had this chick jacked up in the buck. She was 45 i think. She kept hollin’ “put my legs down I’ve got a cramp”.
Pissed me off.
Fion
March 1st, 2012
5:03 pm
I don’t know, but if half the sh^t we hear out here is true he is well taken care of.