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Tell your mate to lose weight?

Do you know what it’s like to be so caught up in a new romance that you sort of let things fall to the wayside? You get super comfortable being part of a couple and you don’t spend as much time primping, grooming, or uh…exercising.

That’s right a new couple is likely to pack on a few pounds being in love. It is usually something that gets rectified after a couple of weeks, but what happens when weeks turn in to months? Do you tell your partner that they have let themselves go too much?

It is a tough position to be in! You would not want to be the insensitive jerk that dumped someone you really liked over a couple of pounds. I know a lot of people who have a real fear of being in a relationship with someone who let themselves go. Does it mean we are too shallow?

How do you bring up the topic of extra pounds? What can you do if you don’t feel sexually attracted to them because of the weight gain?

Has this situation ever happened to you? What advice can you give for someone facing this relationship dilemma?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

368 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
4:47 pm

Here here Bluzgirl :) I say good riddance to bad rubbish!

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
4:48 pm

Sometimes those you desire the most just ain’t good for you.

Leggs

February 29th, 2012
4:49 pm

Sounds pretty, Celisea!

Bluzgirl

February 29th, 2012
4:51 pm

@Leggs…that’s right! I’ve been doing a lot of healthy reading and getting better…still have rough times, but it’s getting a tad bit easier eacy day.

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
4:51 pm

Leggs – You know I’m a “curler” girl. I don’t do heat too much. Big hair as my kid says. Not big as in Al Bundy’s (or whatever his name) wife. Just volume.

Last night, after the client dinner, I felt sooo guilty but my kid was expecting me to once again “buy” food. Not this time. I said, no ma’am you might want to find something in the fridge. Fix something. She was NOT a happy camper….lol

Leggs – I had two drinks. Of course light and nothing heavy but mmm mmm good :)

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
4:52 pm

Go Bluz, go Bluz, go Bluz :)

I think Randyt was the one that said he HATES hair curlers…lol

Bluzgirl

February 29th, 2012
4:53 pm

I see ya’ll are talking about hair for the moment! :-) I’m going to color my hair tomorrow night and surprise people. What is it about a breakup that makes you want to do drastic things to your hair? LOL

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
4:54 pm

Bluz – You aren’t going red or blue or purple are you???

czBrat

February 29th, 2012
4:56 pm

What is it about a breakup that makes you want to do drastic things to your hair?
new beginnings.

ciao!

Leggs

February 29th, 2012
4:57 pm

I didn’t expect anything beyond 2 drinks.

Bluzgirl

February 29th, 2012
4:59 pm

I’m doing blue/black…so dark that you really don’t see the blue, but it has the highlights. It will be the darkest that I’ve ever done…I usually stay with medium/dark brown, sometimes red, but I’ve never gone black. I just want something different and I don’t want to cut it all off!

Bluzgirl

February 29th, 2012
5:00 pm

I gotta run…will check when I get home to see if anyone is still on! Hopefully, tomorrow, I’ll have some time to chat!

Bluzgirl

February 29th, 2012
5:00 pm

I hate when work interferes with socializing! LOL! See ya

Leggs

February 29th, 2012
5:00 pm

Bluzgirl is a white woman, right???

disco

February 29th, 2012
5:02 pm

I need a new hair color too. currently it’s tobacco which is reddish-brown. I’m wondering how different a brownish-red would be or if I should venture into highlight territory instead of full head color.

Exiled!

February 29th, 2012
5:02 pm

Which hair Bluz?

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
5:18 pm

Go for it disco.

Bluz – Blue/black sounds gothic

Celisea

February 29th, 2012
5:29 pm

Night folks!