Tell your mate to lose weight?
Do you know what it’s like to be so caught up in a new romance that you sort of let things fall to the wayside? You get super comfortable being part of a couple and you don’t spend as much time primping, grooming, or uh…exercising.
That’s right a new couple is likely to pack on a few pounds being in love. It is usually something that gets rectified after a couple of weeks, but what happens when weeks turn in to months? Do you tell your partner that they have let themselves go too much?
It is a tough position to be in! You would not want to be the insensitive jerk that dumped someone you really liked over a couple of pounds. I know a lot of people who have a real fear of being in a relationship with someone who let themselves go. Does it mean we are too shallow?
How do you bring up the topic of extra pounds? What can you do if you don’t feel sexually attracted to them because of the weight gain?
Has this situation ever happened to you? What advice can you give for someone facing this relationship dilemma?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:04 pm
I really never had major issues with PMSing just glad to be birth control free…although they work when used right the thought of being free is welcoming!
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:05 pm
Yes, this blog is getting punked…just another day though. See, when we do the “ahhhs and ohhhhs and you go girls” it just pumps folks to go on and on and on and next thing you know we’ve left the land of the living and gone on over into Hokeyville
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:05 pm
Ex:
I think it comes on TV Land not sure.
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
2:05 pm
I am very much a lady thank you! You can’t help who you fall in love with! At the time I was in love… I overlooked a lot of things because I didn’t want to seem too snobby but, this guy was beneath my normal dating standards. My friends told me to give him a chance and I did and it didn’t work out. This is 100% real I cannot make this up.
Fion
February 29th, 2012
2:05 pm
@lady
lol !!!! now that is funny. Good one.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:06 pm
I over paid my bills by $200 by being a fast azz! I want my $200 back dammit! any of all have an excel expense monthly bill report
swiss help me lol
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:06 pm
LOL Fion!
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:06 pm
I stopped reading while I was eating.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:07 pm
dead C!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:09 pm
Lady – You know? I’d say around page 2, the music from the Twilight Zone queued (sp).
Purple
February 29th, 2012
2:11 pm
Fion, buona sera!
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:11 pm
Y’all remember that day Fred (or whatever his name) was on. Yeah after 10 pages of advice and empathy, buddy flipped the script and broke out with herpes….mmm hmmm…I remember
It’s odd too how folks “stumble” here for advice and then poof…gone. Where is Fred by the way?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:12 pm
Cely……..LOL
500lbs and uncut got the best of me, if he had that done he could lose around 10lbs there.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:12 pm
it did!!!!!! but once or twice a month a funny blogger keep us going throughout the day!
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:13 pm
yep fred was amusing
Fion
February 29th, 2012
2:13 pm
Thanks Purp. My ride is here, I’m gone this time.
~Buona sera~
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:14 pm
Lady – True. I’m okay on something keeping it going but don’t just make stuff up just to carry a conversation…lol
Blackfoote – This is going to read mean but c’moooon, 500 pounds of him and a couple hundred pounds of her having sex? Naaaah, I don’t think that’s possible. Not penetration anyway. Maybe some handwacking/jobs or lickety lick..not sure about that though.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:14 pm
Ex:
Talk about healthy women now I like a thick cut gal, and some of them are as sexy as their smaller counter parts.
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
2:14 pm
Birf control free?
Aren’t u just 30 some?
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:14 pm
Fion – You don’t have a car? I kid I kid
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:15 pm
33 in august and had the IUD foir 5 years prior and can’t take pills any more I am done sir!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:15 pm
LOL……@Cely
What the?
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:16 pm
condoms
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:16 pm
tubes tied Ex but you know this !!!! lol
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:17 pm
no one uses an expense report?!?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:18 pm
Lady:
What you trying to say?
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:19 pm
Blackfoote – Don’t sound surprised…lol You know it ain’t hardly possible. I’m not trying to conjure up images either.
Let’s talk about something else.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:19 pm
about what BF?!?
disco
February 29th, 2012
2:20 pm
third wheel – I beg to differ. you can help who you fall in love with. just my opinion though. a lot of people feel the way you do.
celisea – fred? the grade A chump?
O/T – bright side – I won tickets to go see a play that I was planning on going to see anyway. down side – show is tonight. I’ll say this is one of those moments when I don’t like being single. a built-in date would be nice.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:20 pm
Oh I see in your 2:16.
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
2:21 pm
disco – That would be him
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
2:21 pm
So Lady, with New guy,are u on the 3 month rule or he got served already?
Or it’s countdown?
(funny,dude doesnt know he on the Clock but Meelo,being Lady’s favorite maternal Uncle is about to get told)
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:23 pm
countdown uncle too damn funny! you silly Ex!
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
2:23 pm
@Celisea you are correct! That is all that was… a woman gets bored. That is why I will never date another unhealthy man! I guess I will be single for a long time…
kimmie - the original :)
February 29th, 2012
2:24 pm
She’s been on here on and off for a few years. I remember her talking about dude being overweight. I don’t think she’s joking.
Dirty, sweaty clothes are what makes old gyms and guy’s dorms have that old sweaty smell. A very close friend has a daughter whose baby daddy had that smell. He was very slim and bathed regular, but put the same funky clothes back on.
It’s a lot of folks out there with poor personal hygiene habits. I couldn’t deal with it.
Honey Child
February 29th, 2012
2:26 pm
The goal is to have a smooth menopause……
I feel you on this Ms. Lady~
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:28 pm
yes ma’am and 10 to 15 years preparation will pay off after years of birth control……
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:29 pm
although the pre- stuff is real……….
czBrat
February 29th, 2012
2:30 pm
back from lunch to find we’re all up in lady’s lady bizness. O_O
leggs, i’ve done that. pizzed me the funk off too!! set up auto bill pay twice for the same bill. i did rather enjoy the extra breathing room the following month though. but still, there should be alarms and flashing lights or something going off on the computer when you do that stuff. you know, warn a sistah! lol.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:30 pm
LOL!
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:31 pm
czBrat that was me over paying a damn bill i wanna scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:32 pm
almost makes me wanna go buy a scrtach off
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:32 pm
scratch off that is
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
2:34 pm
So menopause is painful?
How Lady?
and we men don’t get All that preparation u talking about..Explain
For dudes it’s all bout gitting it up….natural or with Viagra..
None painful there coz the destination is there!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:36 pm
I’ve done it too CZ, paid a phone bill on line twice. Phone company says sorry we’ll credit it to your next bill Thank You.
kimmie - the original :)
February 29th, 2012
2:36 pm
Can we PLEASE talk about something else, Lady & Exiled!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
2:37 pm
LOL……..@Kimmie
Purple
February 29th, 2012
2:37 pm
ThirdWheel, what are your stats?
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:38 pm
it is physically painful, psychologically, and just a combination of changes……the BC negates normal flow….a period is natural and need but different BC negates the natural process and it can long term be harmful…….so now that I am menstruating normally every month it will help release those toxins currently in in the past…. my cycle is still adjusting since June….with the IUD I had few cycles in a 5 year period for the moment it is great long term not so much. I knew I didn’t want any more kids so I was fine with tying my tubes
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:38 pm
LOL Ok Kimmie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!