Tell your mate to lose weight?
Do you know what it’s like to be so caught up in a new romance that you sort of let things fall to the wayside? You get super comfortable being part of a couple and you don’t spend as much time primping, grooming, or uh…exercising.
That’s right a new couple is likely to pack on a few pounds being in love. It is usually something that gets rectified after a couple of weeks, but what happens when weeks turn in to months? Do you tell your partner that they have let themselves go too much?
It is a tough position to be in! You would not want to be the insensitive jerk that dumped someone you really liked over a couple of pounds. I know a lot of people who have a real fear of being in a relationship with someone who let themselves go. Does it mean we are too shallow?
How do you bring up the topic of extra pounds? What can you do if you don’t feel sexually attracted to them because of the weight gain?
Has this situation ever happened to you? What advice can you give for someone facing this relationship dilemma?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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PaulDoe
February 29th, 2012
12:29 pm
I’ve been in situations where an overweight woman would complain that she is overweight and ask me what she should do to lose weight, while at the same time eating 2 slices of white bread. If I tell her that she needs to cut down on white bread and eat whole wheat bread instead, she cries and calls me insenstive jerk! But SHE herself asked me how she should lose weight.
Someone explain that to me…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
12:31 pm
Leggs I know, folks always say I don’t look like I weigh that much. It is a high number at one time I was approaching 300, but it could never be seen because of my hieght.
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
12:33 pm
@Exiled… He baths but does it count that he will take a bath and put on the same funky clothes?? His lives in the front of the house and it smells like bad swamp A$$. Even the dog gets upset at the smell sometimes. He has no hygine habits and his bathroom looks like a gas station swamp. He is a nasty indviual who works in the food industry….
@Leggs thank you for the encourging words! I am friends with his ex wife and she told me she felt the same way once she kicked him out the house. So I assume the feeling will go away in a while. She is happily remarried…
czBrat
February 29th, 2012
12:34 pm
need a topic change? how bout i luv the smell of new shoes fresh out the box
gonna have to check the website for a smaller size though, coz these bad boys just ain’t gonna get it. *sigh*
Leggs
February 29th, 2012
12:37 pm
“If I tell her that she needs to cut down on white bread and eat whole wheat bread instead, she cries and calls me insenstive jerk!” – You’re pulling our leg, right?
@ThirdW ~ wow, bad swamp a$$ says alot. Along with physical difficulties, do you not think he has some mental problems as well. No man that size and stink that bad can truly believe they can get, let alone keep a woman. How much did he weigh when you two got together?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
12:39 pm
Third Wheel, that’s a WOW scenario you have on your hands.
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
12:42 pm
@Leggs yes he has some mental issues but, he doesn’t want to get help for them. I think he is either BiPolar or suffers from depression somewhat. He thinks he is the cat’s meow though. He goes on these dating websites and create fake profiles to get these girls roped in. When we first started dating I think he was 400lbs but he is like 6′1. He is the first overweight person that I have ever dated so I wanted to give him a chance. Plus I met him when I was in high school and he was super hot back then so I figured life had gotten in the way for him because of his divorce so I didn’t want to shoot him down. Now I wish I had…
PaulDoe
February 29th, 2012
12:43 pm
@Leggs: No, I’m serious!!!!
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
12:43 pm
@Blackfoote Thanks I know! I dread going home everyday and seeing his windowless car sitting in the driveway… I would rather spend the night in the ghetto than go home to him but I have no choice until I find another place to live.
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
12:46 pm
Third wheel! 12:33
I unload a voluminous wad of saliva on hearing u say that!
i'm swiss
February 29th, 2012
12:48 pm
What’s up, blog peeps?
On topic: Happily for me, Mrs. Swiss is a fitness freak. As for me, I hate the gym as much as anybody, but I do stay active with tennis, jogging, etc. And, even though it bores me to tears, I try to fit in some workouts at home — push-ups, sit-ups, light weights, etc. — in our little exercise room at home. Since Mrs. Swiss hates a lot of my white-boy music, I use that as an opportunity to blast some of the stuff I wouldn’t listen to with her while I’m at it.
Oh, and cooking at home can make a huge difference as well. Restaurant food is terrible for you, for the most part. And actually, we prefer the taste of our own cooking, anyway. Plus it can be fun & it save a ton of money, to boot. As a matter of fact, not to brag or anything, but you won’t find a better grilled salmon anywhere on this planet on on my deck. Just sayin’…
i'm swiss
February 29th, 2012
1:08 pm
GOT D@MN, I’m glad I finished lunch before coming back and reading ThirdWheel’s post.
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
1:10 pm
GOT D@MN, I’m glad I finished lunch before coming back and reading ThirdWheel’s post.
No lie, I have not ready any of her posts since the initial post. I might be wrong but I’ll say it anyway, I had the feeling I would get grossed out reading from the different responses (i.e. Leggs, Mmeello)…lol I don’t mean any harm but I skipped over them. I haven’t eaten yet.
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
1:10 pm
haven’t
czBrat
February 29th, 2012
1:11 pm
allow me to add a little something the topic(s). while you’re at it, don’t forget to exercise your mind. do puzzles and games daily that require you to figure things out. keep that major organ finely tuned.
and as far as eating out; here’s my fb post today “after a month of no fast food, no takeout and no pizza deliveries, on this, the last day of february, i transferred an extra $150 into my savings account! (and treated myself to a new pair of shoes *cough*) HOORAY FOR DISCIPLINE!!!”
moderation is good for both your health and fiscal balance.
Celisea
February 29th, 2012
1:12 pm
Ugggh, y’all are about to convince me to go back and turn the stove on. I just HATE cooking…ugh
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
1:19 pm
Sorry! I didn’t mean to gross people out I was just being honest…
i'm swiss
February 29th, 2012
1:24 pm
It’s okay, Third, honesty is good.
Um, so, I have a question, but I’m not sure if I really want to know the answer… Were you all, er, having relations?
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:29 pm
poppin’ back in what is shakin’?!?
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
1:30 pm
@I’m Swiss… Not really… it was diffcult for him to perform because he would either get a charlie horse or not last long.We always just did “high school stuff”. Trust me that gets boring after a while. I think I stayed with him for as long as I did because it felt good to feel loved and needed but, soon those feelings fade when other stuff is not right.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:30 pm
go czBrat!!!!!
Fion
February 29th, 2012
1:33 pm
Well, and there you have it. Check please.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:33 pm
lol
Honey Child
February 29th, 2012
1:35 pm
it smells like bad swamp A$$
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
1:37 pm
U just hope and pray that,(Please Jesus) Third Wheel ain’t one of those white girl oral aficionados?!
Otherwise,ohhh please Jesus!
(or black girl) either way!
Fion
February 29th, 2012
1:39 pm
Enter your comments here
Honey Child
February 29th, 2012
1:39 pm
damn
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:41 pm
Honey Child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:41 pm
Wheel, lady good to know you’re high tailing it out that situation. No sane person need to endure that. 500lbs. Whoa!
Fion
February 29th, 2012
1:43 pm
Censorship is a musclefusser ain’t !!!
I’ll just ride into town and buy Celisea a new stove and Bobby Flay cookbook.
~bella Serna~
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
1:43 pm
If u wanna see nasty houses and people here in these USA,just watch ‘Cops’ on satrday bites on fox..
Could never ever imagine how some folk live!
Just Daamn Foul Nasty!
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
1:44 pm
nights on fox
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:44 pm
Ex while in college watching cops and eating chines food was a saturday date night ritual!!!!! lol Cops is a mess!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:44 pm
A swamp ass, if it’s smells anything like a locker room I have notion what you mean.
ThirdWheel
February 29th, 2012
1:44 pm
Sorry Exiled… I am a black one… and sad to say that the smell was not tolerable at times and I just couldn’t perform. Plus it was an uncut wang so it just made it worse… That should be against the law by the way. Every man should be cut…. @Blackfoote Thanks!! He broke my bed three times. I am now sleeping on my bed with Home Depot plywood on the bottom of it….LOL
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
1:46 pm
Uncut Wang!?
500 pound nasty azz man!
Holy ghoblish ughhhhh..Throwing Up!
breathing he he he !
Ghaly!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:48 pm
Ex:
Hoarding has Cops beat by a long shot. The young couple in Lilburn had their kids taken away from them because it was too foul for the kids to live in. How can you live like that?
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:49 pm
& the plot thickens! 0_o
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:50 pm
BF I have yet to watch any of those shows…..I just hear the stories!
i'm swiss
February 29th, 2012
1:50 pm
Why do I feel like we’re being punked?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:51 pm
Oh shi, he broke the bed. Damn I didn’t figure that in the equation.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
1:52 pm
me too swiss wow
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:53 pm
Lady:
I’ve seen some of the commercials and little snippets and it is deplorable how some people are living.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
February 29th, 2012
1:56 pm
STOP! 500lbs and uncut, mercy for you Wheel.
i'm swiss
February 29th, 2012
1:58 pm
Are you sure it’s foreskin? Maybe it’s just extra crotch fat.
Exiled!
February 29th, 2012
1:58 pm
What time and day does it come on?
@Blackfoote?
Yea I feel punked kinda as well
That can’t be real altho to be honest,I’ve seen nasty fat people in Walmart and looking at their physical appearances,I wouldnt ask to use their bathrooms if I was really pressed.
(now I love a clean fat chic smelling nice if she clean and sexy! Those chics can get real h0rny as daamn it!)
Purple
February 29th, 2012
1:59 pm
LOL@my blog sisters it’s okay that you aren’t running, it’s okay
ThirdWheel, you aren’t to lady like are you?
Fion
February 29th, 2012
2:00 pm
Subject Change::
Let me spin the wheel. I’ll take ladies Periods for $400 Alex over this BS right here.
Lady~
February 29th, 2012
2:04 pm
Well Fion since I ‘ve tied my tubes and not using any more hormonal birth control I am having healthy regular periods……The goal is to have a smooth menopause……
Fion
February 29th, 2012
2:04 pm
Aye, Purp.Glad you’re here. my Italian is rusty. have a good evening is Bella Senra or bella sere????